Healthy Hair and There: Inexpensive All Natural Hair & Body Products You Probably Already Have

Is it just me or doesnt it seem like every other day there’s a new “it” ingredient for natural hair? Every time I turn around there’s some super ingredient that’s going to grow your hair, thicken it, or add super duper shine and moisture! It’s no wonder many Curlies find it difficult to navigate what to do and what not to do. But what if I told you, you already have all the super ingredients you need and probably use them everyday?

Have you ever heard of the term “Kitchen Beautician”? Well, this post is going to give new meaning the word! The products are literally from your kitchen! To top it off, if you love a great deal, you know the kind of deal that your money is so well spent that the dollars wink at you when you pass them off, than you’ll thank me later. There’s nothing better than things that double and triple your money! We have so many amazing deals right in the kitchen! Here are five items that are beneficial to your body inside and out, from head to toe, while stretching those coins!

  • Water- The Real Youth Elixir 

We can’t talk about water enough! It is truly a gift from God! Water is the only element in the world that is crucial to your well being. Besides helping your body perform to the best of its capability, drinking water promotes hair growth and glowing skin. Water is also the best moisturizer for dry hair, skin, and lips ( here is a recipe for DIY lip scrub just for you, as an added bonus!). And also usually the main ingredient in your favorite product or meal! Some people use rose water, rice water or alkaline water. All that that aside. Regular water works the best! In fact it’s one of our pillars for healthy hair.

  • Oils- What A Blessing 

As you know we are big oil lovers here (click her for : blessed oil). Oils are the NEXT best thing to a moisturizer ! You can use oils to lubricant your hair and also to seal in the goodness from other products and or lock the water onto your hair and skin. Using oils to cook with (i.e olive, coconut, and almond oils) are the best way to cut the fats. Use your favorite oil instead of butter and/or vegetable oils. Also don’t forget to rub yourself down from head to toe with your favorite oil(s)! ( click here for : our five favorite oils)

  • Honey-Oh Honey Baby 

Heaven’s nectar! Honey is a natural humectant and draws in the moisture in the air to your hair when you use a honey mask (click her for : honey b natural hair mask). Honey is also a natural sweetener and you can replace your sugars with honey (even syrup and jelly too!) Honey also soothes your sore throat and boosts your immune system when down.

Here’s two added bonuses – a teaspoon a day of honey from your local farmers market will help you out during allergy season. And drinking warm water with honey and lemon in the morning on an empty stomach relaxes your stomach before a meal and promotes weight loss since it is a natural diuretic! Just be mindful of how cold it is outside. If the temps are below freezing, it’s recommended to avoid humectants during this time. 

  • Avocado-The Fruit of the Century!

Studies has shown the avocado is loaded with essential vitamins and loaded in healthy fats, making this fruit the new must have for the healthy community. Using avocado as a hair masks eliminates excessive dryness and repairs damage done to the scalp. Avocado is great for a facial mask rejuvenating the youth and glow. Aloe- The Miracle  Healing Plant

Last but certainly not least. Aloe is also very hydrating and boosts immunity. Drinking Aloe Vera Juice is a great natural way to detox! And it also promotes hair growth! ( Click here for : Aloe Honey Oil Prepoo). Aloe is excellent for the skin. Use aloe to soothe sun burns, acne, and dry skin. An added bonus is using aloe to make a DIY hair gel to lay those edges down without alcohol. Be sure to check your ingredients when buying aloe based products, some products contain little to no aloe. (click here:: for information about aloe product fraud.)

I always hear Curlies complaining about the ingredients in the products they buy, but in the same breath, you dare not use DIY products. That part I just don’t get. But the truth is, the only way to be absolutely sure the products you are using are all natural is…if you use them in their natural state! And as you can see it’s easy to stretch your dollar! What natural products do you use as a 2 in 1? Do you have a favorite DIY or kitchen beautician recipe? Let us know in the comments!

How to Style A Plus Size Pencil Skirt: Mixed Up In Prints

Well, this is supposed to be my Thanksgiving Holiday look. However, I’m just not sure how long this belt is going to stay on, once the food starts going in! But I love this look with the belt because it just pulls it together. I must admit, I’m kind of feeling belts lately. They emphasize the waist, and define a line where the eye should focus. Especially when wearing mixed prints the belt gives a clear focus so the look doesn’t get too busy!

My top is a super comfortable soft knit top from Modcloth. It has a kind of vintage style which I seem to be drawn to. I always end up gravitating to the old classic silhouettes. This look is no exception. The pencil skirt is also a classic silhouette. It looks great on most body shapes. I have a larger mid section, but not quite an apple shape. I’m also very hippie. The pencil skirt is designed to be wider at the top and narrow towards the bottom which compliments my shape nicely.

This stripped skirt it’s also a soft knit. A little heavier than the top but it’s still very comfortable. Both pieces are cute and comfortable. The skirt had an elastic waistband  so it will be comfortable sitting, standing, and with a full bell. 😋 the skirt is a wide stripe, which I love because the black and white is balanced very well. Neither is too overwhelming. I went with a medium size polka dot because the stripe is a bold print and I didn’t want them competing.

I kept all of my accessories solid and simple. The coat is an updated classic trench with a waterfall front. The earrings are a dangling pom. Classic Black knee boots ( my favorite fall/ winter accessories ), But the bag is anything but classic. It’s a very trendy triangle box bag, in a bold red paten leather. Even with all that going on, I added a purse charm to make it just to my liking!

Now this may or may not be my Thanksgiving look, but it will be a part of my holiday season go to looks. The silhouette compliments everything in just the right places, and the patterns make it a funky stand out for any fun or formal event.

I know I’m breaking a fashion rule or 10 here. Like big girls don’t wear patterns, don’t wear horizontal stripes, don’t mix patterns, if you are short don’t wear your skirt too long. I could probably go on for days, but really I don’t follow any of those rules! If it makes me feel good and I look good in it, I’m wearing it!

COAT Similar   SKIRT Similar PURSE Similar CHARM Similar   (Top) (boots)

But that’s me, I can’t see allowing rules that don’t make sense to me, dictate how I dress. Do you believe in the “fashion rules”? Or are you a rule breaker like me? Drop me a line in the comments and let me know how you feel about the “fashion rules”. Do you think they are out dated or what? Also what are you rocking this holiday season? Last but surely not least I just want to thank all of you who support me. Giving thanks for you!

The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly: The Good Hair Post

Can we talk about good hair and bad hair ? What is good hair anyway? What is bad hair? I know some of you all will read that and answer “no hair is bad”! So, if there is no such thing as bad or ugly hair, why do we say “so and so” has pretty hair? What are we comparing this pretty hair too?

Most people of color refer to thinner hair with loose curls and/or waves to be considered pretty or good hair. Majority of the time, this statement is considered a compliment. But is it really?

All hair texture is different, but when we say that a certain curly has beautiful hair, what are we saying about that the next curly girl with a tighter curl pattern and/or coarser hair? Can she not have pretty hair? Are we underhandedly insulting our sista?

I’ve heard it all, and most women have a love hate relationship with their hair. Its either too kinky, too thin, too thick, too curly, too straight, too flat, too big, etc.
Yet, we always work it out and end up with a hand full of compliments.

Our community tends to segregate hair textures with certain curls being the “best” and other curls feeling isolated. When are we going to realize we are all in this together. The natural hair community is just as segregated as all the rest. We want to accept one form of natural hair, as if you can’t accept it all.

This journey back to loving our natural hair is not an easy one for a lot of us. It starts with self acceptance. It may seem easy on social media or for your favorite blogger, but the hardest battle is fighting yourself. You almost have to go back retrain your thoughts on everything you have learned when it came to hair care. Most of us were never taught to care for our hair. Even worse we don’t know how to love our hair. If your experience was anything like mine, your hair was always someone’s “problem issue”. What are we going to do with her hair? Who’s going to do her hair? Or if you wash it,I’ll do it? ….it was always a struggle so of course I adopted by that same struggle narrative.

I’ve said before, it wasn’t until I was faced with the prospect of loosing my hair, due to a chronic illness, that I began to fall in love with my hair like never before! I learned to listen to her in all her beautiful mane- nificent glory!

I’ll admit it before the world, I love my hair! I love hair period. I’m a hair person! Always have been! I literally see a persons hair before I see them. *don’t judge me* it could be worst. *smiles*

So, when you see that sista girl rocking her fro as you stare with a tinge of hair envy, pay her a compliment because you recognize her struggle. Recognize her efforts!

This natural hair movement is so huge, that it makes everyone uncomfortable, including yourself. You still struggle with taming your hair, for fear that you will stand out in corporate America, or even get kicked out of school for looking “unkept”. You have to learn to roll and twist your hair just good enough so that you can still please the eyes of others. As a natural you are not allowed to have a bad hair day, as if you ever had 100% perfect hair days before returning back to your natural state.

What’s funnier, the people who surround you tend to be more nervous about your natural hair journey than you are. This hair movement is scary, yet exciting, but still surprising, because everyday you never know what you will end up with (lol). Sometimes we set expectations too high and some days it’s overly frustrating. We all need the support of our hair community.

No one thinks of the struggle when you transition or chop your hair off. You amaze yourself when you realize you have no idea, how to take care of your own hair the way it is without any chemicals or heat. I know it isn’t easy for any woman to maintain the perfect hair, so we praise a good protective style, but in the end you still need to know how to maintain healthy hair. Our minds have been so conditioned with pretty hair vs ugly hair, that we fail to see the beauty in all our natural hair. Your natural curls may not match my natural curls, and my curls may not match the straight hair of the model on the latest magazine, but having hair, that we are able to grow without too much struggle is beautiful itself.

I’m sure we all have heard “natural hair isn’t for everyone”, but when you think about it, how is your hair that God gave you not for you, because it isn’t what the world may consider beautiful?

So, again next time you see someone with that “pretty hair”, that hair that she struggled to comb, failed to moisturize the night before, woke up frustrated and hoping she could tame it enough to be accepted, just know she might not see pretty hair, I know it’s beautiful and she should too.

. Let’s do away with this ugly hair stereotype. Let go of these turns like good and bad hair! What ever your hair texture what ever your hair type, what ever your hair style, love it, rock it, and make it your own! And as the old kitchen beauticians you to say after they got finished lacing you with the piff ” more hair” !

What do you consider good hair? Does length, texture, or density come into the equation? Let us know what you consider “Good Hair” ?

Slightly Guilt Free, Guilty Chocolate Chip Cookies: A Spin On The Perfect Chocolate Chip Cookies!

Okay, let’s be honest, we only post our best selves on social media, but that is not truly all that what makes me who I am. So, that’s my intro before I admit that I fell off again with my fitness and health, but this time I truly felt no guilt. It got bad, I mean real bad. In my quest to satisfy this defying sweet tooth, I found the perfect chocolate chip cookie recipe! They were gooey, chocolate-ly, and super soft. Have you noticed how much I loved these cookies, yet?

One day I woke up and said, okay, enough is enough. I went out and purchased all of this healthy food and started back exercising, but I still had everything to make my good ole chocolate chip cookies. Now, if you’ve been following me you know that I don’t believe in depriving myself the foods that I enjoy, but I do believe in cutting back and hitting those calories with a hard punch of exercise. This isn’t the best method, but it works for me.

A week into being fit phatty again, the kids say “Mommy, we love your chocolate cookies, can you please make some?” How can I deny those cute faces? How can I also make those perfect cookies and not indulge. (Ok, I know it’s possible to make the cookies and not eat them, but I want some gooey cookies too!) I decided we will eat cookies tomorrow on cheat day.  If I am going to cheat myself and divert from my diet, I was going to do it with a little less guilt. How, you ask? With ground flax seed! Now, I won’t lie, I was very nervous that I was going to ruin the cookies, but I did it anyway. And you know what? No one noticed! 

Realistically, this does not make the cookie healthy, but it makes me feel less guilty! I do not recommend them as a healthy alternative, but it’s a nice cheat day snack. These cookies are small and delicious, and are about 120 calories per tablespoon. Which means you can burn off four of those cookies with about 25 minutes of using the kettlebell 🙂

This recipe is so simple, I asked myself why did I waste money buying processed cookie dough, when I could just make it from scratch!. It’s about 10 minutes for prep time, 9-12 minutes to cook, and 10 minutes to cool. I cook my cookies for only 9 minutes because I like them really soft, but if you prefer a crispier cookie, cook your cookies for 11 to 12 minutes.

Ingredients:

2 cups of all purpose flour

1 cup of dark brown sugar (packed)

1 cup of white sugar

1/2 tsp of baking soda

1/2 tsp of salt

3/4 cup of melted butter

1 tbs of vanilla extract

1 tbs of ground flaxseed

1 egg

1 egg yolk

2 cups of semi sweet chocolate chip cookies

 

Instructions:

  1. Preheat your oven to 325 degrees
  2. In a small bowl, sift together your flour, baking soda, and salt. Place mixture to the side
  3. In a medium bowl, cream together the melted butter, brown sugar, and white sugar. Stir vigorously until it is well blended.
  4. Beat in the egg, egg yolk, and vanilla extract.
  5. Add the sifted ingredients and ground flaxseed, mixing it well with the wet ingredients.
  6. Add the chocolate chips
  7. Grease your cookie sheet and place 1 tbs of cookie dough on the cookie sheet, leaving about 1 to 2 inches of room to allow the cookies room to spread.
  8. Cook cookies for 9 to 10 minutes (cook an additional 2 to 3 minutes if you want crispier cookies)
  9. Allow cookies to cool.
  10. ENJOY

This recipe makes about 3 dozen cookies. You can always store the cookie dough in the refrigerator for just a couple of days, if you’re not going to use it soon, go ahead and freeze it!

As stated before this is not a healthy alternative, but it comes with a little less guilt! Flaxseed has many benefits and I’m going to add it to a few more things! Shhhhhh, don’t tell my family!

If you try this recipe, let us know!! And if you think your recipe is healthier or better, let us know!

Until next time, catch you later!

  • The Fit Phatty

 

Picture Me Through The Blush Of Rose Gold

In just a few short hours I’ll be 44 years old. Somehow through God’s grace, I am an independent, confident, productive, wife, mother and grandmother. Yes, this still trips me out, because I know for sure most of it was not intentional on my part. I wish I had the foresight to have planned my life. I give those of you with those 5 and 10 year plans mad props. It took me a long time to have faith in my decision making ability, so I would have never trusted that I knew what I wanted. Even as a little girl, I spent a lot of time alone because I was always on punishment for one thing or another. Being chastised for everything made me fearful of making choices on my own. I actually use to tell myself that I wasn’t capable of making good choices. Not an easy road to be on.

This belief lead to me, just letting life happen to me instead of planning my steps. I was mostly reactive to what ever situations or choices others chose for me. Sometimes I had a good reaction, sometimes it was down right disastrous. I’m a very emotional being by nature, so a lot of my reaction were pure emotion. And if you know like I know, this was not going to turn out well. I had my first son as a teenager, and my second son in my early twenties. I had a decent job, but it just wasn’t going to take care of three of us. By the time I had my second son, I knew I had to make  changes in my life. It started with my deciding that I was know longer going to be held back by the negative Nellys in my head. I started writing down goals and figuring out how to work towards them. A few years ago I ran across an old journal, I had to laugh when I read the goals. All I wanted was to have a car, a job, and my own place. The funny thing is, those goals seem so low, but I don’t remember being excited or even acknowledging when I reached them. Somehow, I made myself believe those goals were nothing. To some they may not be, but for me obviously it was something I needed to focus on attaining. So at that very moment, I allowed myself to be proud. Even though it was 20 years later! I let go of thinking my accomplishments are nothing. I deserve to celebrate me.

I may have said this before, but by growing up without my mom in my life, I was determined to be the mom I didn’t have. Thank God He blessed me with the ability to be a good provider for my boys. I use to wonder if I was doing a good job, then one day I looked up and not only was I taking care of my 2, but I was also taking care of my little sister and brother, and many of my younger cousins from time to time.

In the role as caregiver, I began to put myself last again . Always thinking if I didn’t do it, it wouldn’t get done. After many years of sacrificing myself for the greater good of the rest of the people around me, kind of made me sad. As I look back at my thirties, I realize I spent the entire decade depressed. Mainly because I wasn’t doing anything to feed my soul. Everything was for someone else. Part of my believed that I had to keep holding all the weight or everything would fall apart and I would be the blame. I can remember my husband telling me, that everyone else can afford to be happy because I’m holding all their misery. Lol, thank God for him. He was so right. I let go of being responsible for everyone but me. I deserve to be first. It’s ok to be a little selfish sometimes.

When I turned Forty I promised myself that I was going to take better care of me. I know it might seem a little late in the game, but you know what they say: better late than never. Today I am a mother of three, a wife, and a grandmother. It’s not easy to let old habits go, but everyday I seek God for guidance and direction. As I keep moving forward on this road to self love and acceptance, there are highs and lows. But just like that old saying says, I’m looking at life through ” rose-tinted glasses”. I chose to see the good in my life. I love the institution of love and believe love is the answer. Today I believe I am not only capable of making good decisions, but I’m equipped to teach others how to as well. Today I believe that I am the master of my own destiny. Today I believe that I am worthy to be celebrated. Today I believe that I am too important not to be a priority. Today I am seeking my golden life. As I approach my forty fourth year I believe all things are possible and are working together for my good!

Outfit dets: Satin Bomber ( Charlotte Russe) Blush Denim ( Lane Bryant)

Plus Size Fall Fashion Favorites : Graphic Tee & Moto Jacket

Well peeps, it’s finally here! The Fall as we call it, my favorite season. I am a crispy air, colored leaf and hot beverage loving soul. Not to mention it’s my birthday season! One of my favorite things about fall is all the cute fall fashions that we have the pleasure of downing. Some of my favorite pieces of fall fashion are a great pair of jeans, a graphic t and a bomb jacket.

 

Every year for the last few years everyone talks about Moto jackets. I must have 3 or 4 but I always have the same issue, the arms are too tight. So when I ordered this Waterfall Moto Jacket ( it’s sold out but here is a similar Moto ) from Rebdolls, the first thing I checked was the fit on the arms. To my surprise, there is a knit panel under the arm that runs back of the arm which is perfect of you have larger arms. The Micro suede or fuax suede as they call it, makes it look kind of like a blazer to me. It’s definitely Boss Girl Chic. It’s an Office to After Hour piece.

This graphic tee is one that I’ve had in my closet for a few years, but it is really soft and hits me at just the right length to cover my stomach. I picked it up at Forever 21. I don’t often shop there because most of the items I get seem to run small.

Now my favorite piece of this simple fall look is the dark denim. BTW I love when I hear the trend spotters say things like denim is in this season. Lol, when has denim not been in? IDK, I’ve always been a jeans and T-shirt girl. But back to these jeans, they are RWN by Rawan. I’ve never heard of them before I received them in my Curvycon swag bag. They will run you a pretty penny at $78. They are about the same quality as the Torrid jeans, which I’ve said in the past are my most favorite plus size jeans. I have to admit, I find myself reaching for these instead of my Torrid skinnies. They have the perfect amount of stretch, and they are all day comfortable.

The dark wash allows me to get away with wearing them in the office for a not so impromptu casual Thursday. In fact replace the graphic T with a white button up and that’s it. Casual Thursday on deck! I topped the look off with a laced ballet flat. This season shoes are pointed toe again. These are from Asos.com.  I love that they carry wide width shoes. Now even if you are a little weary about being shoes online, you can rest easy because they carry wide and so chances are they will fit perfect.

 

If you’ve read all the way to the bottom, don’t mind my face! I just noticed it looks like I’m aggravated, but I’m not. Anyway what are some of your favs this Fall? Hit me in the comments and let me know.

Product Review : The Mane Choice Heavenly Halo aka Hair Bae

“Say Halo Hydration” is their slogan and boy do I have to agree! I must admit I have been being very lazy with my hair lately. I have been wearing a wig for about 3 weeks, so my hair was thirsty! I went to the Circle of Sisters a few weeks back, I made sure to make my was over to The Mane Choice booth, they had some great sales going. I don’t remember the exact percentage off but I was able to get 4 products for $38. That’s about $25 off retail price. Well worth the money.

First off, it has an amazing smell. It’s kind of a floral fruity mix if that makes sense. I asked my husband what does he my hair smell like and he said candy :D. I’ll just say it smells very sweet and yummy. I’ll be reviewing the shampoo, the rinse conditioner, and the softening milk. The line has a pre-poo, a mask, and an oil serum, but I didn’t purchase them.

 

Say Halo Hydration

Shampoo-  I started off as usual applying the shampoo to my sectioned and detangled hair. The shampoo is very hydrating, it cleansed all the build up off the hair with out stripping it. I love sudsy bubbles and this lathers great. The test for me was when I was able to run my fingers through my hair with just the shampoo in it. It has so much slip that you can actually comb the shampoo through your hair! Need I say it rinses clean and you can feel the softness immediately!  For more on wash day basics click here. The rinse out conditioner is the perfect mate.

 

Rinse Out Conditioner -By the time I got finished playing in the shampoo, my hair was no longer in the sections I used to wash my hair. Somehow I knew this wouldn’t be a problem. I just split it down the middle and applied the rinse out conditioner to the two sections. The conditioner is very thick and of course it has great slip! I just ran it through my hair and let it sit for about 2-3 minutes per side and rinsed it out. Then I wrapped my hair in  my t shirt rag as usual. If your are still using a towel to dry your hair stop right now and click this link!

 

Softening Milk- After allowing my hair to dry a little in the t shirt, I proceeded with my normal routine using the L.O.C. As I said I didn’t buy the serum, so I just used a mix of some of my favorite oils. The softening milk is a essentially the Leave In. As a self professed Leave In Lover I’m always on the look out for products that make my daily styling easier. This is the only product that I didn’t have a rave over. It was just okay. I wore my hair in a flat twist style. It was soft and hydrated but it was a little too soft. I’m used to taking my flat twists out and having some definition, but I did not have any. It was more like a fluffy fro.

The label reads Herbal Hair Tonic & Soy Milk. My hair responds well to hair milks so I was sure this would work just fine. I’ve only ever used The Mane choice once and that was their straight hair serum. Some of the signature ingredients are Umutanga Oil, (made from a root native to Rwanda) which is know for it’s anti-aging properties. Palmarosa Oil (made from an Indian grass), its benefits are similar to more commonly know Tea Tree Oil, or Lemongrass such as antibacterial, antiviral, but it has a lighter rosy scent.  The Yashtimandhu Root (an Indian Licorice) it has anti inflammatory, and anti allergy uses. Yucca Root which is high in vitamins a, b, and c it’s also frequently used in natural shampoos to help make suds. Burdock Root Oil, ( A Eurasian herb from the Sunflower family) it’s now to promote hair growth and has antioxidant properties.

Now that we’ve gotten all that straight, I must say one of the best things is that it’s available at your local Target! I love when good products are also so accessible. So even though I didn’t get the serum and the pre poo, I will being heading over there and adding them to my stash! Have you tried anything from The Mane Choice? Which one is your favorite? We’d love to hear what your favorites are right now? Who’s your hair bae? For more wash day tips click here.

 

 

Finally Fall Fashion : Daytime Sequins, Slouchy Boots, And Camo!

Yes, it’s finally starting to feel like Fall! So you know what that means, the best of the best in fashion! Only Fall allows us to rock our cutest wears layered upon layer. This Fall one of the things your going to see is daytime sequins. Who knew you could rock a sequin dress with almost knee boots 😜 and an Army coat? Well me of course! It’s the ultimate pretty tomboy.

You will see these glitter bombs of sequins on everything, from jeans to sweaters, and yes even on a camouflage dress!

In the spirit of too much is never enough, I went ahead and styled the sequined dress from Ashley Stewart, with some slouch boots, and an Army coat which I got from Lane Bryant. I picked the Steve Madden Camo tote up over the summer on one of my Thrifty Treasure Hunts from Plato’s Closet.

 

The slouch boots and the Army coat gives the dress just the street cred it needs! If needed I can also style the dress with some tights and pumps for work, or take it all the way to the gutter with some combat boots!

So, I actually wore this same look to church with out the Army coat. I must admit, I love shinny things! I am loving this glitter bomb, daytime sequins trend! Are you feeling it? How are you going to rock it? Or if you are not feeling it, tell us why? Leave a comment and let know! Don’t forget to follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more Phattystyle!

Talk to you later, but until then keep on shining! ✨

Saying Farewell To Summer : My Summer Of Yes To Self

There is something about the hot days and bright colors of Summer that lends itself to endless promises of fun filled days and exhausting excitement! I know, I always think of vacations, easy living, quick meals, cold treats and tons of barbecues, brunches, and outdoor events that are just beaming with happy beautiful people, just enjoying life and living in pure joy! But is that really true? It can be if you say Yes to self!

This Summer I knew I wouldn’t be able to go on an epic vacation, so I made a conscious decision to enjoy my Summer Saturdays to the fullest. Instead of lamenting about what I couldn’t do, I chose to enjoy what I could. Believe me you, it wasn’t easy to watch my friends and family traveling to and from Aruba, Greece, Sol, even China and Dubai! I made the decision to live through them instead of being ungrateful for what I have. Yes, I embarked on epic vacation like experience for myself on my Summer Saturdays!

I spent most of my Summer 17 Saturdays hitting up free music festivals, going sight seeing, and flea market treasure hunting. I treated myself to a Mary J Blige concert. Yes, two days before the show, I looked up the tickets and saw that they still had seats for the MSG show. I texted my girls and they were more than excited to go. Normally I would have talked  myself out of going. Just because it wasn’t planned in advanced, but I’m so glad that I said yes to myself!   We had a ball, all three of us work hard and take great care of our families, but we rarely do something just for ourselves. Yes, Treat Yo Self!

I knew I had already purchased my ticket to TheCurvycon being held during New York Fashion Week, so I knew I had that to look forward to as well. Yes, being in the company of so many confident, beautiful, positive, curvy women and men is intoxicating! Yes, Find Yo Tribe!

I was invited to the New Jersey Hair N Beauty Expo as a special invited guest. The initial yes was to the invite. I was excited to be in the collective of all the New Jersey naturals from my area. Then wouldn’t you know it, I was asked to be on the panel, to answer questions about my natural hair journey, and to encourage and instruct new naturalists! Yes, I said Yes! Yes, To Yo Testimony!

So the calendar says it’s the start of fall, but the temperatures have been hotter this past week, than many of the days in our so called summer. We Say Goodbye to the season, but we don’t have to say the promise. Carry the feeling of seeking joy into to Fall by saying Yes To Self!

How did you spend your Summer? Did you do things that make you happy? Did you say Yes To Self? Let me know in the comments how your plan to say yes to yourself.

Know The Edge- How I Got Over Thining Edges

Girl, I lost my edges! Well not all, but my hair was really thinning out, like most women of color, I pride myself on laid edges and a good ponytail. But if those edges thin out, that ponytail ain’t so laid. I’d come to face these two identical thinning spots on both sides of my head, as a sign of the times. By times, I mean getting older. So, I tried to work around this now problematic area, I wore less ponytails, and when wearing a ponytail, I ensured it was not pulled too tightly or too low. But this wasn’t enough! I was losing strands and it was too noticeable to me!

I do not wear many protective styles, (not that I am against them), so besides a ponytail, my hair is never pulled tightly. I am a very proud LAZY natural, meaning, I typically do the least amount of work to take care of natural hair. My main goal is always healthy hair. I do not venture out and try a lot of different products, I know what works and usually stick with that, and if I try something new it’s usually in the same family. I stick to Leave in’s, oils, and cream. The LOC method guarantees healthy, hydrated hair.

But, recently some hair has begun sprouting in those thin spots! *Praise break*! So, I looked back over the past three years and I noticed a trend, I was STRESSED and it showed in my hair. In my last post, I discussed my bout of mild depression, and how I began to feel better with exercise. But, I had no clue the toll my hair would pay. Never the less, I am glad that the fight isn’t over and I AM NOT LOSING MY HAIR! This transition into new hair on my edges inspired me to help you with struggle edges, if you ever find yourself in my shoes, whether it is from stress, tight protective styles, weight loss surgery, etc. I am here for you:

 

  1. Oil and Stimulation

I live by Olive Oil . It’s good for your hair and to eat! So, it’s a two for one special in my house, I purchase the biggest bottles usually from Costco. I always rub olive oil throughout my hair, but during these crucial times, I rub a good amount on my edges and give my scalp a gentle massage. Stimulation promotes growth by getting the blood circulation going! So, this should be a weekly practice all over your head.

  1. Limit stress

Tune out the noise. Life can be a whirlwind of emotions and sometimes that roller coaster takes us on a drop we never expected. But, we have the power to limit stressers. Avoid bringing your work life into your home space, meditate and pray, pick up yoga , write it out. Whatever works, but we must release that negative energy!

  1. Drink Water

I can not stress it enough how important it is to drink water. It’s great for your hair, skin, and health. God put it here for a reason, so I trust His judgement!

  1. Protect your hair

    71-80 Ten protective style tips

When wearing a protective style, your main concern should always be your hair health. Before styling, properly wash, condition, and LOC it up. If braiding, be sure to tell your stylist to make sure not to pull on your edges, nape or scalp too tightly. Also avoid tight or low ponytails

Of course, you should always take precaution when it comes to hair health, but remember what goes on in the inside will always affect the outside! Don’t let stress claim your edges or time! Keep it cute!

 

-The Fit Fatty