Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

As if being the former First Lady of the free world wasn’t dope enough. Aunty Chelly continues to take us higher dropping body goals, life goals and most recently vacation goals.

As the rest of us are just trying to make it through the day, Uncle Bam and Aunty Chelly have been on a most epic world tour. From golfing in Cali, to yachting it up with Richard Branson, chilling in Tahiti, and the latest traipsing through Tuscany!

Doing her usual and customary Fashion Slayage our forever Flotus set the internet a blaze with her choice of wears for the Italian leg of their Vacay. So far this Club Monico, BCBG ensemble is my most favorite. Although this look is uber casual, and seems effortlessly chic, the BCBG pants alone are $178. That being said, I give you the Wear It Wednesday, Flotus edition for under $135.00.

Shirt– I found at RiverIsland.com for $52. The sizes run from 14-24.

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

Pants – Boohoo.com size 12-20

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

 

 

Sandals– Target.com they go up to a size 11

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

and of course the tiny topper  Shades, necklace, ring.

Even though We haven’t arrived at the point in life where we can go meandering through Montalcino on a Monday, at least we can look First Lady fly!

 

Spaghetti Straps & Ballet Flats: The Weekender

 

 

The Weekender

I don’t know about you but I’m always trying to balance comfort and style on the weekends. Usually you have to sacrifice one or the other. But I think I nailed it this time! My black spaghetti strapped sheath dress is ultra comfortable. However, it might look a little weird throwing it on to run to the grocery store or to do errands. But when you throw it on with the ultimate comfort gear, a  ” white tee” and some ballet flats, it screams ” casual glam”. This day was a little chilly, so I put my cropped denim jacket on top. To free up my hands while shopping, writing checks, or just to have somewhere to keep my keys & wallet, I grabbed this clutch sized fringe purse. Channeling my inner B-girl, I wore my gold hoops with my dookie rope chain.

This is the perfect Saturday style to run errands, or go shopping, but still be able to go meet a friend for lunch. The flats are good and comfy so you don’t have to worry about hurting dogs when you’re done!

Shopping Tip: The tip is, this look costed me nothing! I shopped my closet. The LBD is just a wardrobe staple that I have on deck, and now the I’ve learned how to dress it down its official a AP ( All purpose) LBD ( Little black dress). The denim Jack is the same one that I embellished ( here) . The ballet flats are from Asos in a wide width of course. The fringe bag is from a last year from Fashion To Figure.

The Weekender

The Weekender

The Weekender

The Weekender

Werk Your Work Clothes: Cubicle Cute


5 Ways To Werk Your Work Clothes

Sometimes I see my coworkers push the limits of our dress code in ther desire to get cubicle cute. I’ve seen skirts and dresses too short, heels too high, and inappropriate tops. On one casual Friday,  I’ve even seen a coworker wear sweatpants.

Or the equally as bad other end of the spectrum, when people just dress like a granny, in an effort to look conservative. Just bad! Although I am a grandmother, there’s no granny dressing here!

Here’s how I got cubicle cute. To add some flavor I went with these “everything” pink pants from Ashley Stewart. When I say everything, I mean they are every- thang! They wear like slacks, and are comfortable like leggings! The blush color is great for spring, yet they are warm enough to hold up to the Artic Blast tempeture of my office!  Instead of a regular cami, I went with this white faux leather cut out cami from Lane Bryant. My classic black blazer from Lane Bryant, nude heels from Nine West, and white faux pearls from Walmart anchor the look.

Werk Your Work Clothes

Werk Your Work Clothes

Werk Your Work Clothes

Blazer, simular pants, Top sold out, Wide Nude Heels

This blazer is one on of my favorite items in my wardrobe right now. Its just the right touch to keep my jeans office appropriate on casual Friday, and it still looks great with slacks, or over a skirt or dress. Now keep it cubicle cute, but stay out of HR lol!

 

 

SPRING-SPIRATION – Embelished Denim Jacket & Circle Skirt

Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt


 Here in the Northeast,  the trees have yet to bloom, and the weather is slow to warm. Yet it is Spring! I love to call it the happy season! The colors we wear get bright to match blossoming flowers, and the pure site of the beautiful bright colors and light air clothing adds levity to my mood!

This look is more of a transitional  look, than a full on spring look. So I call it my Spring-spiration. It’s inspired by the idea of spring. The bright color of the skirt and the light denim are just perfect for early Spring. They will keep you warm enough to be comfy through to the evening when the temps get a little cooler. Yet the the colors are bright and fun like Spring.

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

My denim jacket is from Lane Bryant, I picked it up in the fall. Unfortunately you won’t be able to find it as shown because #psimadethat. I just took some of my vintage earring collection and used them to embellish it. I was inspired by those Gucci Denim jackets with the embroidery, and an article I saw on Buzzfeed.  I used the earrings so I could always go back and remove them and I could have a more traditional look.

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

My skirt is from Fashion to Figure from last year. Its made of  scuba fabric, so it lays very nice! I actually think this is one of my favorite articles of clothing! When I wear it, I always feel like I know what the 1950’s divas felt like in the poodle skirt! In fact don’t be surprised if you see her again later in the season walking the dogs 😍.

As an apple shape woman, the circle midi skirt is a perfect fit for my shape. It covers where it needs to cover, and drapes at the right spots.

SPRING-SPIRATION - Denim Jacket Circle Skirt

This look is a casual comfy style. I could have easily have worn this with heels, but instead I kept it casual with my favorite ballerina flat in nude.

As with most of my closet, these pieces are, what I call trendy classics. Even though none of them are recent purchases, I’ve added a little funk to these classic pieces and kept them on trend.

Do you DIY any of your pieces? I promise I will be doing more pieces this season. I have a lot of ideas so stay tuned for more #springspiration.

101 Natural Hair Tips: 10 Tips For Healthy Color Treated Hair 61-70

To begin with, there is always this debate of is color treated hair still natural? In my book it is, although the color may affect the texture. But still to me, adding color is just part of the variety in the natural hair community.

Now there are many ways to color your natural hair. For the sake of this post, let’s assume you saw your favorite influencer and she posted what color she uses on her hair and you ran to the store and snatched it up! Hey it happens just like that most times. Anyway you colored your hair,  now what?

BTW- One of my favorite Colored Curlys 👇

Don't Stress! Love your Curls! 🎀 #mrshairtoday #protectivestyles

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1. Start With Healthy Trimmed Hair: You want to start with your hair in its best condition possible to limit damage and increase your chances of getting your color the correct shade.

2. Limit Direct Heat: The direct heat from hand dryers and straightening tools increase dryness. Instead opt for over head dryers and no heat styling methods.

3. Use Products For Color Treated Hair: Preferably you want to use products made by the same brand as the hair color you are using. Now that your hair is color treated, you have specific needs to care for your hair in this state and its best to use products made for the state of your hair.

4. Look For Products With Water Soluble silicone : I know, I know, everyone says don’t use silicones! However the color will strip your hair of its natural moisture, so you need the good silicones to help coat and protect the hair. Some good choices are Amo- silicones which help with moisture, and are water soluble so they don’t cause build up on the hair shaft. Look for them in your conditioner and leave-ins.

101 Natural Hair Tips -10 tips for healty color treated natural hair

5. Use A Daily Leave-In Conditioner: So I am a self admitted leave-in lover! If you don’t use a leave-in for daily maintenance  you should! Using a daily leave-in will help maintain moisture, and decrease brittleness that can occur with color treated hair.

6. Use Sulfate Free Shampoos and Conditioners: Now this is a must. The sulfates will dry your hair out. And we know, dry hair breaks! We do not want breakage !

7. Deep Condition Often: Now this is just a healthy hair practice period. But it’s extra important to deep condition when you have color treated hair. You want to add extra moisture and layers of nutrients every chance you get.

Here’s another one of my favorite Colored Curlys👇

#tbt #hothotpink

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8. Do Hot Oil Treatments: The end game here is to protect the hair and avoid dryness. The hot oil treatment, or even the oil in your LOC Method, or just by running oil through your hair as you style will help to seal in the moisture and protect your hair. Not to mention it will add a little shine to your tresses.

9. Limit Manipulation Of Dry Hair: if your hair is not properly cared for it can become extremely dry. You never want to manipulate the hair in this state. It will break off right in the comb, brush or even your hand. To avoid breakage you always want to add some oil or water or both before trying to style, comb, or perform any manipulations on your hair.

10. If You Start To Experience Server Dryness, Breakage, or Brittleness Consult A Professional: This probably doesn’t need to be said, but just in case. If you can not maintain your color treated hair and you begin to see breakage or dryness and brittleness which will lead to breakage, please make a hair appointment with a licensed cosmetologist! Now I’m not going to say that all cosmetologist are great, but chances are you’ll fare better with an experienced professional than you will on your own.

Another Favorite Colored Curly 👇

 

There you have it! Our top 10 tips for healthy color treated hair. Now as the weather gets warm don’t be afraid to add a little flavor.

Will you be the next colored curly?  If so hit us up and let us see your work!

101 Natural Hair Tip: How To Avoid Being A Product Junkie 51-60

I can’t front, I’ve definitely had to put these tips into practice. This is one of those posts that was built from experience. Now this post is a direct follow-up to the 101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning Back To Natural. In case you missed it (click here) .

Trying to find the right product is no easy task. You get so frustrated thinking you’ve tried everything and nothing is working, when really you just need to find the right thing for you and stick to it for a while. So that was the bonus tip now let’s get into the rest.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

1. Read labels: The reason I start with this is because you can all together avoid certain products. Such as if I see something with coconut oil in it, most times I avoid it. I know that coconut oil doesn’t work for my hair so I just avoid products with it in the first couple items on the ingredient label.
2. Get to know your hair: I always say listen to your hair. If you use a product and it agrees with your hair, stick to it. Read that label and use products like it.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

3. Don’t believe the hype: Every few months there is a new buzz word or super ingredient. Many times this item has been on the ingredient list the whole time, but now that it’s the IN thing they put it on the label. Also I’ve learned that they nearly have to put in a few drops of the said miracle ingredient to have its claim on the label.
4.  Read Reviews – Now this is different from number 3, these are actual reviews from people who have legitimately used the product. I know everything isn’t for every body, but if you see a lot of favorable reviews, you may want to give it a try. But on the other hand, if no one has good things to say, maybe you should let that one slide by you.
5. Ask questions – There are so many Curltalk, CurlfriendChats, and Twitter Chats, use them to your advantage. That’s what they are there for. Just about every brand subscription box and a lot of bloggers have some kind of Q&A session in rotation. Or if you belong to a Facebook Group for natural hair, throw your question into the forum.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

6. Try to get  samples: That way you can test it out and see if you like it before buying it. Now when I first found out about the natural hair community, the “natural hair meetup” was the thing to do. There you could meet local Naturalista, brand owners, and emerging socialprenures. Additionally these meetups would be sponsored by brands and they would give out swag bags full of samples and free full size bottles. The meetups aren’t as popular any more but they are still around.

7. If you have it use it: This one is a no brainer, avoid the hoard! Plain and simple, why keep piling up products when you haven’t used what you have.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

8. If it doesn’t work pass it on: Again this one is a no brainer for me. I frequently pass product along to my family members that doesn’t work for me. We all have different hair textures and different products work on their hair that may not work on mine and vice versa.  So I don’t hold on to the products that I know don’t work for me. Thereby making room for other things that will work.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

9. Limit the available space: Unless you’ve been there you can’t imagine how quickly the hair products can and will take up every inch of space possible. I don’t know it’s almost like they reproduce while your sleeping or something **insert mischievous laugh*** . No but really, I have a three draw bin and I’ve committed to only keeping as much as can fit in those three draws.
10. Purge every 3-6 months: This keeps your product fresh, and limits the habit of holding on to that last little bit (I’m talking to myself here). As I said above this makes room for product that you want to try. Besides if the product is organic it may have an expiration date, and you don’t want to use old product or hold onto something that’s useless.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

 

It’s almost inevitable that most naturals have a little product junkie in us. Besides the fact that it’s expensive, it could also lead to self-defeating hair journey. Not to mention as with any guilty pleasure it takes some of the joy from the experience. Don’t let the junkie monkey get you down!

Plus Sized Street Style : Classic Red Trench Graphic Tshirt & Jeans Type

Trends come and go but classic style lasts forever

Hello March! Well by the calendar Spring is on the way. But by the thermometer, it’s not quit that time yet! I’m not one of those girls who follow all the trends. Instead I like to add a few trends to my classic wardrobe so it lasts and I always look up to date.

This Red trench is about 5 years old. It has a classic cut so it never goes out of style. I love the gold buttons and the red color that give it just the added touch to keep it complimentary.

Black Girls Are Lit 🔥
Black Girls Are Lit 🔥

Ever since I could remember, I’ve been most comfortable in a tight pair of jeans and a snug T-shirt. In my younger years they would most definitely be paired with a pair of hot kicks ( depending on where you are from you probably call them sneakers or tennis shoes). As an over 40 year old woman, I still love my jeans and T-shirt, but today I pair them with a sexy knee boot. These wide calf over the knee boots are from Ashley Stewart. The perforated leather clutch is Thrifted a few years ago. The black Jeggins are also from Asley Stewart.

Black Girls Are Lit! 🔥
Black Girls Are Lit🔥
Black Girls Are Lit 🔥
Black Girls Are Lit 🔥

 

Black Girls Are Lit🔥

Black Girls Are Lit 🔥

This is one of my favorite T-shirts. I am a self proclaimed T-shirts snob. I am very funny about the fit and feel of my T-shirts. Again, they need to feel classic and timeless. For me this graphic tee from Alldemshades.com is the hottest. As you can see I love the saying “Black Girls Are Lit🔥” . I remind my self of that everyday!  Now I’m not saying any other girls aren’t, but I don’t know about them. But what I do know is, even without Michelle in the White House, even without Taraji winning the Oscar, even without Beyoncé winning  the Grammy

Black Girls Are Lit🔥 💋

 

101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning To Natural 41-50

So, unless you have never used chemicals on your hair, there are only two ways to return to natural. Or as we say “Go Natural”. Which way you choose is a personal preference. Either you Transition, which means you allow your hair to begin to grow in and not chemically treat it (relax) anymore. Or you BC or Big Chop, this means just what it sounds like. You chop off your hair down to the un-relaxed portion.  In my opinion one takes a lot more courage and is more drastic than the other, but one takes more skill than the other. I must say, as extreme as my personality is in some cases, I personally chose the less drastic approach of transitioning.  I just didn’t want to be bald! Although I sometimes use to cut my relaxed hair very short, TBH I just wasn’t ready for short and natural at the same time! **sidebar** Oh but I am loving these tapered cuts that I see on the Gram these days these days!

101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning To Natural

Anyway, I am going to break this post down into “Do’s and Don’t’s”. As I said, I personally transitioned and did a series of mini chops until I was fully natural. I can tell you this was not as easy as it sounds. There were some hard lessons learn and some habits and behaviors that I had to undo after many years of practice. So let’s get into it:

  1. Do comb the hair from tip to root. Having relaxed hair for so long, I was just use to combing from root to tip. When transitioning and also when fully natural this is a definite no no. Combing from tip to root allows for gentler detangling and  much less pulling. Use a wide tooth comb,and do not comb your hair when it’s dry.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  2. Do coddle the line of demarcation. This is the absolute weakest point of your hair! It is the point where the relaxed hair meets the natural hair. Rough combing, pulling, dryness, or just about anything stress, will cause your hair to snap off right at this point.
  3. Do Learn to treat all of your hair as if it’s all natural. Even when you have more relaxed than natural. In general this is just a good idea to get use to taking care of your natural hair.
  4. Do not use heat to make both textures appear to be the same. This kind of defeats the purpose of having natural hair. I’m just saying, if your are going to burn it out before it even grows, why go natural at all. The idea is to have the most beautiful healthy head of natural hair as possible.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  5. Do use products for natural hair only. Practice reading the labels at this stage, so you know what your hair likes and what it doesn’t. The reason I say this is because in most cases, the products for natural hair are less harsh. They will work just fine on the relaxed hair. They will nurture your natural hair as well as treat the relaxed hair.
  6.  Do not compare your hair to the “experts”. This was a hard lesson learned. I was watching so many YouTubers and expecting to get those results. But honestly, my hair wasn’t like theirs, I didn’t have the edits, lighting and do overs like them either. Although a valuable resource, they are not to be compared to. It’s like going doing Karaoke, just because you know the words, you are not going to sound like Beyonce’!
  7. Do not hold on to damaged or thinning hair. Just cut it. You will thank me later. Holding on the those thin ends it very counter productive. you want to have healthy hair right? So, you have to depart from the idea that longer is better. Even if you don’t have damage, you should still trim it often. Healthy and fuller is better!
  8. Do not depart from your good hair practices. Make sure your wrap your hair at night, and wash it regularly. If you normally go to the hair salon to get your hair done, make sure you find a hair dresser to do the same for your natural hair. For more good hair practices check out tips 1-10.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  9. Do not obsess over your curl pattern. We are all different, and we all have different unique traits and features that make us truly beautiful. In most cases people with thick hair wish it was thinner and people with thinner hair wish it was thicker. When I went natural it was at the height of the hair typing debate. So many people were obsessed with what hair type you had. This was hard for me because I have about 3 different textures in my head. We just have to be happy with what we have and learn to love ourselves the way God made us.
  10. Do not try to find ways to rush the process. Have patience! If you don’t have the skill, or your attention has not caught up to your intention, just find you a protective style and ease into it.Trying to rush the process will only lead to a feeling of defeat or a change of direction and you’ll just get out of the journey and relax again. Believe you me, I know plenty of women who do this over and over. They get 3, 6, or 8 months into the transition and decide, they can’t take it any more and give up on the process only to come back to it months later wishing they had just stuck it out.

Number 10 is one of the most important tips I can give. As with any transition it takes time. Learn to enjoy the process! Have that cake and eat it too!

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101 Natural Hair Tips: Winter Hair Care Tips 31-40

Depending on where you live, the winter season can be a series of bone chilling cold days, mixed with blustering wintery storms, and freezing rain and snow! The harsh cold temps and freezing precipitation alone is enough to cause damage to your hair. The constant temperature changes from going in and out of the cold robs your hair of precious moisture. Add to that, the cold air is dryer and wearing hats to keep warm dries our hair out even more. It’s a wonder we aren’t completely bald by the time it warms up!

That being said keeping your hair healthy in the winter is no easy feat, but it is completely doable. Here are my top 10 Winter Hair Care tips to keep your hair healthy this winter:

31. Avoid Humectants. The nature of the humectants is to draw moisture from the air into the hair. That being said, the cold will freeze the water onto your hair causing it to break. This is the opposite of my normal routine. I love to add honey to my conditioners and I even have a “Honey Be Natural” hair care treatment.

32. Limit Wash and Go’s. Obviously if you live in a more tropical area you don’t have to worry as much, but just as the above, the water can freeze on your hair causing dryness and breakage.

33. Employ protective styling. Low manipulation styles limit the pulling, reducing the amount of hair loss, and decreasing the chances for breakage. For this reason many naturals use protective styling year round. Caution make sure your hair is clean and well moisturized, and don’t leave the style in too long.

 

34.  Keep your hair and scalp clean and free of build up. Now in my research I’ve seen all kinds of advice, limit washes, increase washes, use shampoo, don’t use shampoo, everyone has a different opinion! The bottom line is your hair and scalp need to be clean and free of debris and toxins the can cause dryness and breakage.

101 Natural Hair tips: Winter Hair Tips

35. Use the LOC or LCO method daily. This will go along way to saving that coveted moisture and decreasing the chance for hair loss.

36. Replace your oils with heavier butters. Now adding butters that seal is the key. And if you add butter you definitely need to use shampoo. Co washing most likely will not cleanse your hair well enough.

101 Natural Hair Tips: Winter Hair Tips

37. Try a Black Tea or Coffee rinse to reduce shedding. I use the method about once a month, it also helps to add shine to the hair.

38. Wear a satin lined hat, or what I do is put a silk or satin scarf under my hat. This limits the friction and pulling from the knit or wool, and protects the hair from loosing moisture to the material of the hat.

39. Deep condition. I might add this to every post. Deep conditioning is an important aspect of every healthy hair regimen.

101 natural hair tips : winter hair care

40. Eat a balanced diet and get exercise.  This is not easy in the winter. Hell it’s never easy but less so in the colder months. Cold weather and comfort food go hand in hand, and it’s just easier to go out and exercise when it’s warm. Make sure to get your water in. In the warmer months we tend to drink more water to cool off. So make sure you get your water in, and eat green veggies to feed are hair the nutrients it needs. Exercise increases your circulation and helps remove toxins in the body which feeds the hair.

if you’ve missed the first 3 post here are the links👇

We have Natural Hair Basics ( here) Natural Hair Care Basics ( here ) and Wash Day tips ( here).

Stay tuned we will be expanding more on some of these topics for future posts. What are some things you add are take away from your normal regimen in the colder months?

For more winter hair care tips check out “Don’t Fall Off”