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101 Natural Hair Tips: Wash Day Hair Tips 21-30

First things first…confession time. As much as I love my hair, I am not a lover of the wash day tango! I’ve heard the argument.

101 Natural Hair Tips: Wash Day

” If you don’t love your washday, maybe you need to change your regemin”.

 

I think there may be some truth to that statement, but in my case I can’t agree. I’ve never liked washday, even when I was a kid. My hair has always been very thick and adding water is my kryptonite!  Unfortunately for me there is no way around it, to have hhealthy hair, you have to keep it cleansed. Since returning to natural I’ve found a few tips and tricks that help cut down on time and stress to my tresses. BT dubs, this is also post 3 in series of 10 billion on 101 Natural Hair Tips. For now check out our washday tips and I’ll link the other post ( Natural Hair Basics 1 and 2) at then end of the post.

 

21. Detangle Hair before washing.

I’m sure you’ve heard this one before, but it’s the number one tip to reduce hair loss and cut down on wash time. Section the hair into as many sections as needed ( usually 4-6). Depending on how tangled my hair is I sometimes start with as many as eight and combine a few of them in larger chunky twists as I go along. Try added some conditioner and water to aide in the process. Use a clip to pin up the completed section.

 

Freshly washed 🙌🏽 proud of myself for getting wash day out the way this early 🙃

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22.Detangle using a wide tooth comb, detangling brush, or your fingers.

My fingers are my magic tool of choice. When using your fingers, you get to feel the hair as you are detagling. However I also love detangling combs and brushes. The wider the tooth the better. Make sure your comb or bush doesn’t have any missing or broken teeth. They could snag or pull on your hair and cause damage to your strands. I usually end up with 4 sections.

23. Start detangling from ends and work towards the root.

There is one very simple rule in place here. Don’t comb from the root to tip. By starting at the ends and working your way up the shaft it minimizes hair loss. The most effective technique that I have found is to add the conditioner, and finger detangle under running water.

24. Wash your hair in the sections

This simple step will avoid retangling your tresses. Apply the shampoo at the root and work towards the ends. Make sure to cleanse the scalp, by gently massaging the scalp with your finger tips. Then work the later down the twist to the ends. Avoid using a circular motion this can encourage tangles and clumping of the hair.

 

25. Use sulfate free shampoo, cowashs, or ACV rinses to cleanse your hair.

Now I’m not hear to agrue for or against either method. I’ve used all three and they all work. However, if you find that your normal products aren’t working you may need to do a clarifying shampoo. I do one every 2 or 3 months.

26. After shampooing spray hair with olive oil.

After shampooing but before conditioning, run some Olive oil through your hair. I find this helps with manageability and softness,especially between deep conditioning. Rinse all the shampoo out. Run some Olive oil through your hair. Work down the shaft, the rinse.

27. Apply conditioner with praying hands method.

I know it sound weird but just give it a try. It will decrease the opportunity for tangles, as well as coax the cuticle to lay flat. The cleaning process raises the cuticle, and now we need to make sure it starts the process of closing to lock in the moisture.

101 Natural Hair Tips: wash day

28. Deep condition with heat.

Adding heat helps to penetrate the hair shaft increasing the  effectivness of the product. If you don’t have a hooded dryer, use a plastic cap, or plastics bags and use your own body heat.

29. Be careful of protein overload.

Although protein is good for your hair, you don’t want to over do it. I’ve read if the label says “repair” wither its a DC or a leave in, it has protein in it. Too much protein will cause excessive drying and damage. It’s almost as bad as heat damage, which ironically protein prevents…but that’s for a future post.

30. Document The Process !

I can’t stress this enough. I can’t tell you how much impact this will have on increasing the amount of good hair days. It’s like cooking from a recipe verses cooking from memory. By keeping a simple hair journal of what products you used and how you used them, you’ll easily be able to figure out what works and what doesn’t.

Now here’s to an easier washday! For more tips click the links below.

Natural hair basics 1-10

Natural hair basics 11-20

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5 Ways To Speak Life Into Your New Year

5 ways to speak life into your new year

As we left 2016, I couldn’t help but notice all of the references, posts, and comments on how bad the year was for a lot of people. I even saw some uber talented individuals made an actual horror movie trailer of all the headlines. It was hilarious! However this only further proves my point that so many people are feeling dispaire. To use the words of our current FLOTUS ” We are feeling what not having hope feels like” . But please let me encourage you don’t get “Trumped Up”. There is always hope. As long as we are here among the living, it is our duty to make everyday the best day, and be grateful for the opportunity to do so.

I’m not saying we won’t have bad days. I’m just saying don’t stay in the dark places too long! As for me, I am claiming 2017 the year I live with purpose. I believe in my magic! Are you with me?

Here are five ways you can speak life into your new year!

1. Use Your Words Wisely 

 

You become what you say about yourself. So keep it positive. This is something we’ve all heard all our lives. You know, if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all. Even in scripture ” For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. So fill your heart with good words. Sometimes I print my favorite quotes and hang them in places where I can see them when I need encouragement. I have them in my car, around my house, and oh boy do I have them around my office at work. Lol that’s a whole other story 😁. I also keep my vision board posted by my mirror and  it is my screen saver on my phone. It reminds me to keep the good vibes.

2. Hold Your Thoughts Captive

Be intentional with your thoughts. I’ll be the first one to say, this is hard! But it’s so necessary. You can’t let the negative talk begin. When you feel the negatity taking over, redirect your thoughts. If you like music, this is a perfect time to create a playlist. Play those songs when you know you need a pick me up. If you have a favorite motivational speaker or podcast hit play and get it into your head. Again the quotes, and words of affirmation come in handy here as well. I once had a difficult coworker that I had to deal with everyday. Someone gave me a workplace prayer, which I hung on the wall right behind my monitor, so I read it all day everyday. It helped me to be mindful of my reactions to her aggressive behavior.  Without my reaction she had no fuel. Eventually she stopped her behavior with me and moved on to another coworker which got her fired.

3. Surround Yourself With Good People 

Even if the people around you don’t understand what you are trying to do, as long as the don’t try to project their  fears on you, they are good people. Sometimes people are so use to being negative, and gossiping, and talking bad about people that they don’t see anything wrong with it. Stay away from this! My dad use to say, if you bring a bone you’ll carry a bone. In other words the same person who’s talking negatively with you will do the same about you.

4. Believe You Are Great

Like Beyoncé said,” I’m feeling myself ” sometimes you just have to feel you own self! BT dubs have you seen Insecure AF on HBO,? I love the way Issa raps to herself in the mirror! Lol I’m not saying you have to break out your rhyme book, but you can stand in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, smart, and wonderful you are. I saw an old clip of Jay Z on Hot 97,  saying how his uncle told him he’d never sell a million records, and he didn’t believe him. He knew he’d sell a million records and that’s all that mattered.

5. Do Your Best

This one doesn’t take much explaining.Go the extra mile! Work at your best, and you’ll yeild the best results.

Just be dope!

On that note **drops mic**

5 ways to speak life into your new year

 

5 Quick Holiday Hair Styles for Natural Hair

Holiday Hair Styles For Natural Hair

 

5 Quick Holiday Hair Styles for Natural Hair

 

What if you only  had 25 minutes to get ready for your holiday party, and your hair wasn’t done? Under normal circumstances you would probably panic, but you don’t have to worry about that anymore.  As always I’ve got you covered! Here are 3 styles that will take no more than 10 minutes and 2 more that take about 20 minutes. I even threw in an expert level bonus style!

1- Three Braid Mohawk 10 minute style by Beauty Cutright

2- Two braid 10 minute style By The Chic Natural

3- Side Twist & Curl 10 minutes or less By KaydeeTV

4-Bantu Faux Hawk if you already have a twists out, braid out or wash n go, it will 20 minutes By Quiesha Jay

5- High Hump Faux Hawk by

Bonus – Expert level 3 braid style

Hey Girl! Believe In Your Magic

Black girls are lit

With the hustle and bustle of the holiday season upon us, we have to be careful to make time to keep ourselves spiritual strong.  Sometimes we women loose ourselves trying to meet all the needs of those around us. We serve our husbands, children, bosses, and communities and we forget or are just too tired to serve ourselves. I know for me, doing things for myself makes me feel a little guilty at times. But when the guilt starts to seep in, I just remember who I am.  I remember that I can do anything and everything I decide to do. My grandmother use to say ” you just have to set your mind to it”

You do know you are what dreams are made of right? You are magic! You have that thing that only you have that makes you special! That’s your magic! You can’t let fear, doubt, guilt, are anything else take your magic.

I love words of affirmation, so when I found this poem It reminded  me of the beauty I posses. Everyone should feel this way about themselves.

Black girls are lit

My Pledge of Allegiance to Me
Written by Letitia L. Hodge
There’s more to me than the human eye can see.
I’m a woman of purpose and destiny.
A perfect design, I’m special and unique.
I won’t be identified by the parts that make
up my physique.

Black girls are lit
My beauty is not defined by my skin or my hair
and my soul has more value than
the clothes that I wear.
I’m not a symbol of pleasure or sex appeal;
I have the natural ability to comfort
and the power to heal.
When God made me, He created a gem
because He fashioned me in the likeness of Him.
I refuse to do anything that will put God to shame.
I deserve to be treated with reverence
and called by my name.

Black girls are lit
I can’t be purchased or sold at any price
because I’ve already been bought and paid
for by the precious blood of Christ!
I praise You because I am fearfully and
wonderfully made.
(Psalm 139:14)

Black girls are lit

Ya feel me? Better yet do you feel yourself? Stay in your magic and Be blessed💋

Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself: I’m Not A Blogger, I’m A Resource

What’s good my good people? It’s been a minute since I’ve posted. It’s been 7 weeks, and in blog life that like 2 years lol. Allow my to reintroduce myself.

My name is Uhura. I am the founder of Mrsphatandnaptural, and I’m not a blogger. I’m a resource.

Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself
Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself

My hiatus started with me trying to find my way through mourning the loss of a good friend. I told myself I needed to take some time to deal with what I was feeling. The days rolled into weeks and here we are! During these weeks I had to reevaluate my direction and revisit my motivation for starting this platform.

Here’s my why: Originally the idea started out of my frustration in trying to find a dress for a friend’s wedding.I felt as if there were limited options for me. Most of the dresses weren’t flattering, and even fewer were fashionably up to date. Everything I found made me feel older, bigger, or out of fashion. I was so discouraged by the process that I ended up not going to the wedding. When I began my transition to natural hair, I struggled with finding the right products, routine, and regime to get my hair healthy and fit for public viewing. I knew I had to do something for other women struggling with these issues.

I'm Not A Blogger

I'm Not A Blogger image

I'm A Resource
I’m A Resource

 

It is God’s will I have a blog. My objective is first and foremost to honor my purpose and spread the word of God’s Love. Second is combination showcase and information platform for my Sisters. This has been such a blessing to me, I have virtually and physically meet so many people whom have enriched my life. My prayer is that I have done the same for someone else. I hope you love the ride as much as I do. Thank you for being with me.

Be Blessed

5 Hot Fall Colors And How To Add Them To Your Plus Sized Wardrobe

Well it’s here! The Fall season is upon us. You get to sport the boots, sweaters, and jackets we all love! Although I’ll definitely be pulling out some of last season’s wears,I always added a few pieces from the new trends to freshen up my wardrobe. This year I’m going with some of Pantone’s hottest colors to keep me up to date.

Every year Pantone Institute delivers its report with the names and code numbers of the hottest colors for each season. This Fall the colors were lead by the Blue Color Family. Here’s their official statement:

The desire for tranquility, strength, and optimism have inspired a Fall 2016 color palette that is led by the Blue family.

Other than blue jeans, I’m really not a fan of blue…however there are quite a few colors on the wheel I am loving! Now you know I’m not trying to break the bank, so most of these pieces are well under $100.  Here are my five favorite colors of the Pantone Fall 2016 Colors :

Warm Taupe

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Boots- Wide calf “Circle Over The Knee Boots” are from Ashley Stewart $ 47.70 and the size range is 8-12
  • Hat – ” Tassel Brand” floppy hat Ashley Stewart for $ 29.50
  • Jeans- Fashion To Figure ” Chipmunk Skinnies” $42.90 size 12-24 they are BOGO %50 Or 2 pair for $ 64.35 !
  • Polish- OPI “Over The Taupe” for $9.00
  • Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Forever for $7.99

B T dubs; I have this brand of lippies in another color and I love it. Kinda like a cross between lipgloss and lipstick. It lasts long, feels smooth, and isn’t tight like some matte lippies.

Potter’s Clay

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat – Shark Bite Belted Trench is from Ashley Stewart for $ 79.50 sizes 12-26
  • Jeans – Ultra Soft Jeggins are from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 39.50 sizes 12-26
  • Dress- Asos Curve 70’s Blossom wrap dress for $31.00 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Revlon Colorstay lip stain in ” London Posh” for $ 8.99
  • Polish- Essie called Potter’s Clay for $9

Spicy Mustard

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat- Studio Neck Tie Fit and flare coat from Elouquii $ 199.99 40% off with code  AUTUMN sizes 12-28
  • Skirt – Side Elastic Ponti Skirt is from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 34. 50 sizes 12-26.
  • Shoes- Wide width Mid heel wedge are from Ashley Stewart for $29.70 sized from 8-12.
  • Lip- Poiz the color is “Daisy” priced at $15.99. I haven’t tried this brand yet…but I’m DEF buying a tube soon!
  • Polish- OPI it’s called ” The “IT” Color” it sells for $ 9.00

Aurora Red

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Shoe  – Eloquii wide width Pointed Toe Loafer for $ 79.50 sizes 7-12. Use code AUTUMN for %25 off.
  • Jeans – Fashion To Figure ” Racing Rae” Skinnies $42.90 size 12-24 as above BOGO %50
  • Dress-Asos Curve Club L wrap dress for $24 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Passion for $7.99.
  • Polish- Essie called Maki Me Happy  for $9.00

Shark Skin

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat – Asos Curve Wool blend Skater coat for $ 128.98 sizes 12-26
  • Shoe- Torrid wide width Cutout Lace Up flats priced at $ 36.50 sizes 6-11
  • Dress- Asos Curve Club L  Ribbed keyhole dress for $30.00 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Nyx Macaron lippie color is Black Sesame $6.00
  • Polish- Essie called Cashmere Bathrobe for $9.00

So there you have it! 5 of my favorite 2016 Fall Colors, complete with how, what, and where to get them straight into your closet! What are your favorite fall colors? Better yet, what trends are you loving this fall? Drop us a line in the comments!

Happy hunting!

 

Flawless Fabulous Fit & Flare Dress

Flawed & Fabulous

Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare

First off I have to say this dress is one of those pieces that gives instant confidence! Nothing makes you feel as good as a great Dress! I picked it up from Fashion To Figure last year &25 buy one get one free at TheCurvycon. I’m not really a dress girl so I don’t wear it often. I tend to wear more dresses in the summer so I pulled this one out this week.

From the time I put it on I realized something that never dawned on me before. Fit & Flare is my perfect silhouette. I’ve said it before,  one of my body flaws that I dress to camouflage is my midsection. This shaped dress ( sometimes called a Skater) makes my flaws fabulous!

The dress shaped my body in just the right places. It hugged the top, and flared out at the waste, creating the affect of a well defined high waistline.

The dress is strapless so to make it office appropriate I threw on a denim Ballero that I thrifted a few months back. A statement necklace that I picked up for $5 at Walmart, and a silver clutch that I got at Ross for less, my summer staple fringe sandals, and some silver hoops complete this look.

Conclusion: Fit & Flare makes my flaws look fabulous!

Flawless Fit & Flare
Fit & Flare Dress : Fashion To Figure (last year) – Denim Ballero: Thrifted- Flawless Clutch: Ross For Less- Necklace : Walmart- Fringe Sandals: JCPenny

 

Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare

 

Honey, Olive Oil, Aloe 3 Of Natures Summer Gifts For Healthy Long Natural Hair

Honey, Aloe Gel, Olive Oil! My Favorite Summer Hair Products For Shiny Healthy Natural Hair!Honey, Aloe Gel, Olive Oil! My Favorite Summer Hair Products For Shiny Healthy Natural Hair!
If long healthy natural hair is your goal. Summer is Gods gift to you.

Most people retain more hair in the Summer. Due to the warm weather we naturally do things like drink more water, get more activity, and wear lower manipulation styles. Just doing these 3 things will increase your hair growth potential.

Now add in 3 of natures Summer gems and your on the way to waist length. Maybe not that long but you’ll definitely see added growth.

Honey– You can use raw honey, organic honey, or I just grab the same honey I put in my tea. Honey is a humectant. This means it naturally draws moisture out of the air into your hair. So use it as a pre poo ( recipe below), add it to your shampoo, or you can even use it as a great DIY deep conditioner.

Used to: Prevent or remedy dry hair. Increase manageability, and add shine to the hair.

Tip: if you use too much your hair can get soggy. It will be so soft that it won’t hold braids or twists.

For more information and my deep conditioning recipe click here – Honey Be Natural

Honey, Olive Oil, Aloe Vera My 3 favorite summertime products for healthy long natural Hair

Olive Oil- Again I use the same olive oil that I cook with. Olive oil is high in vitamin E which strengthens the hair shaft. Also the oil is good for the scalp. Most of the time I use it to seal the moisture into my hair after I wash it. Also it can be put in a spray bottle with some water and use it to re-twist at night. Or you can heat it and apply it to your hair as a hot oil treatment.

Used to: Seal in moisture. Add shine and coat the scalp.
Tip: properly moisturized hair reduces the occurrence of single strand knots, a decreases detangling time. If you have a problem with single strand knots, try oil rinsing.

Here are some other ways we use olive oil – That Blessed Oil

Aloe Vera Gel- I use Aloe Vera gel, but you can get the juice or cut open the plant. Aloe has many benefits for hair. The biggest is its packed with amino acids which strengthens the hair shaft. It increases circulation to the scalp which stimulates hair growth. It’s also a natural humectant, so it draws in the moisture from the air. And the super benefit is, it has anti bacterial ingredients which helps to combat dandruff and other bacteria that can form on the scalp.
Used to: balance ph in hair. Add moisture and shine, promote hair growth. Cleanse the scalp.

Tip: if you have an area that is slow to grow try massaging the area 2-3 times per week with some aloe Vera gel. This will stimulate circulation and increase hair growth to that area.

Here is my Summertime Fine prepoo recipe:

4-5 tbsp. aloe Vera gel
3 tbsp. of olive oil
2 tbsp. of honey.

Mix everything well and apply this on your hair from end to edge. The ends of the hair is the oldest part, and furthest away from the natural sebum the comes from your scalp. Leave on for about 20-25 minutes then shampoo and proceed with your normal routine.
This is a hydrating hair mask. If your hair is dull and dry this is just what the hair doctor ordered.

You can use this about once a month or as often as you deep condition which shouldn’t be more than 2 times per month.

now if you are not a DIY’er you can find commercial products with these ingredients in them. Or as I said earlier you can also just add them to your favorite shampoos, conditioners and or leave-in. (don’t add honey to your leave-in, it needs to be washed out).

Do you prefer to buy or are you a mixologist? Either way this is a simple and easy way to increase moisture and shine to your hair this summer! We’d love to hear some of your favorite    DIY beauty recipes! Please drop us a comment.

 

 

The One Thing You Are Not Doing That Will Make Your Natural Hair Journey Easier!

If there was one thing you could do that would make your natural hair journey easier would you do it? It’s so simple, yet so many naturalistas miss this valued resource in the natural hair community. Better yet, even more don’t even know it exist! The one thing you can do is attend a natural hair meet up. It’s better than buying all the products in the isle, binge watching your favorite YouTube vlogger, and reading blog posts til your eyes are tired.

How many times have you watched a YouTube tutorial, followed all the steps, and didn’t get the desired result? Or read a blog post, ran out and bought the product, followed all the steps only to fail? If this has ever happened to you, you need to go right now and buy a ticket to the next meet up in your area!

Now I could go through a laundry list of reason why natural hair meet ups are a valued resource, but I’m gonna pick my top three reasons.

Face 2 Face Education 

Yes that’s correct many of the local bloggers and vloggers, attend, host and guest speak at meet ups. So what’s better than a one on one conversation about your issue? Depending on the topic, and focus of the meet up there may be a panel discussion / Q&A or better yet they may just be mingling and you could ask them your questions personally. Not to mention there are usually tons of fellow Natralistas that have had the same problem you have and are more then willing to share their solutions with you. Very often natural hair meetups have:

1. Hair Style Demos
2. Product Demos
3. Expert Panels
4. Brand Representative To Answer Questions

Product For Free 99

Usually one or more full sized product will be included in the swag bags! All thought I’ve never been to one like this, but at the very least you will get samples and valuable discounts towards the purchase of products. I’ve always gotten between 1-5 full sized products as well as samples. This is a low cost way to build your product stash. The investment of the ticket purchase is usually a lot lower then the cost of product you will receive. Also, there are usually great give away sponsors, for prizes, raffles, and games.

Curlfriends

And the very last but yet equally as important resource that natural hair meetups provide is access to the your local Curlfriends! There’s no substitute for surrounding yourself with like minded Curlies! They not only provide support and encouragement but also much needed comfort in the journey. I have meet so many wonderful young ladies that I would have never met in any other circumstance. Some are business owners, bloggers, long term naturalists, hair stylist, and so on.

 

There one last thing I feel is important to mention, you have to support your local natural hair community! That’s how brands decide if they are going to sponsor events, and or sell products in your area. If you don’t have a natural hair community in your area why not start one ?

Are you apart of a local natural hair community? If so give them a shout out in the comments! If not and you are looking to join one, drop a comment and we’d be more that happy to get you connected!

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See you Curlfiend!