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Born Flawless : Embrace Your Normal

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”
‭‭Song of Songs‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

First and foremost God loves you and

“You were born flawless”

Auntie Oprah likes to say babies come into the world trailing the breath of Angels. They know they are born flawless.

As we grow through life and experiences we get imprinted with images, encounters and other people’s  beliefs and  ideas which cause us to question our flawless-ness. These people who imprint their beliefs, and fears on our psyche, sometimes think they are doing us a favor.

I’m not just talking about tramatic or drastic things. Sometimes these are subtle consistant themes or words that we hear or are being told that slowly seep into our being. And before you know it, you and self doubt are old roommates!

Self doubt can hold you hostage. Usually there are two extremes. Either you exhaust your self trying to over compensate for your feelings of inadequacy. Or you become paralyzed with fear of failure and never step out on faith.

You end up standing by, questioning every thought and watching everyone else get what God has for them. Sometimes this can ever make you bitter, or worst yet, you become a hater! You hate on any and everything because you can’t find your joy. But all you have to do is realize that it’s you that holds your own self back!

How to have a totally awesome life 👉 ( old post same thoughts)

You need only to make a decision to seek your own happiness!

“Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” ~Unknown

Here are three steps to embracing your normal:

#1 The first step is to stop comparing yourself to others! Their normal is not your normal. Even identical twins are not completely the same. There is no other human being that has your specific gifts and talents. What God gave you is uniquely created to bring forth your purpose.

#2 Stop questioning yourself!  You are more than enough. Don’t let that imposter syndrome make you believe that,  what you have is not for you. Consider God’s grace. When you feel undeserving, that’s a reminder to be grateful! God’s Grace has shined upon you. Give God The Glory!

#3 Forget trying to be perfect! I’m not saying don’t do your best, but your best is as perfect as it gets. If you start taking the steps towards your dreams, have faith that God will magnify them. I remember as a young parent, I would have a certain vision in mind that I want to create for my children.  I’d  get as much as I could, but not the way I had envisioned. So in my mind,  I would immediately start thinking of apologies for not being good enough. And before I could open my mouth to apologize, they were thanking me and showing me how grateful they were.

So remember short, tall or bald, you are flawless! Big belly, flat booty,skinny legs, big legs, you are still flawless! Walk in your beauty and embrace your normal!

 

Love others as you love yourself, but you must first love yourself!

 

Wear It Wednesday: How To Rock Gingham

Hey ladies! So we are fresh off the Memorial Day weekend, and heading fast into warmer days. As usually we always look to add some new trends with our wardrobe staples to make our closet complete. One of the hottest trends this summer is Gingham. I know what you are thinking, the picnic tablecloth fabric? Yup that’s it. But don’t get it twisted. This is not your grandma’s Gingham. This print is seen on shoes, swim suits, and even shoulder less tops.

The fresh feel of this print just screams easy breezy summer! And yes, the plus sized fashion divas are not left out! Here are some of the styles we’ve found floating through our feed!

1. One Shoulder Top

@stylishcurves has that flawless thing down with this look we sent her way. #ThisBody

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2. Gingham Pants and Shoes

3. Cold Shoulder Top from Fashion To Figure

 

Long weekend vibes. 🍹☀️😎🍊 (Tap the bio link to #GetTheLook)

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4. Romper from Target

 

 

5. Gingham Dress

@mustangsallytwo getting her gingham style on c/o the dress we sent her way.

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and because I loved this look here’s another dress from Shein Official

Can't seem to get over how cute this OTS gingham dress is and under $20, let's talk winning.

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So don’t get caught up on the old vision of this print! It’s really one of the only new trends this summer. You can use it as an accent or as the main event! Remember it’s not your grandmas Gingham.

Plus Sized Street Style : Classic Red Trench Graphic Tshirt & Jeans Type

Trends come and go but classic style lasts forever

Hello March! Well by the calendar Spring is on the way. But by the thermometer, it’s not quit that time yet! I’m not one of those girls who follow all the trends. Instead I like to add a few trends to my classic wardrobe so it lasts and I always look up to date.

This Red trench is about 5 years old. It has a classic cut so it never goes out of style. I love the gold buttons and the red color that give it just the added touch to keep it complimentary.

Black Girls Are Lit 🔥
Black Girls Are Lit 🔥

Ever since I could remember, I’ve been most comfortable in a tight pair of jeans and a snug T-shirt. In my younger years they would most definitely be paired with a pair of hot kicks ( depending on where you are from you probably call them sneakers or tennis shoes). As an over 40 year old woman, I still love my jeans and T-shirt, but today I pair them with a sexy knee boot. These wide calf over the knee boots are from Ashley Stewart. The perforated leather clutch is Thrifted a few years ago. The black Jeggins are also from Asley Stewart.

Black Girls Are Lit! 🔥
Black Girls Are Lit🔥
Black Girls Are Lit 🔥
Black Girls Are Lit 🔥

 

Black Girls Are Lit🔥

Black Girls Are Lit 🔥

This is one of my favorite T-shirts. I am a self proclaimed T-shirts snob. I am very funny about the fit and feel of my T-shirts. Again, they need to feel classic and timeless. For me this graphic tee from Alldemshades.com is the hottest. As you can see I love the saying “Black Girls Are Lit🔥” . I remind my self of that everyday!  Now I’m not saying any other girls aren’t, but I don’t know about them. But what I do know is, even without Michelle in the White House, even without Taraji winning the Oscar, even without Beyoncé winning  the Grammy

Black Girls Are Lit🔥 💋

 

5 Ways To Speak Life Into Your New Year

As we left 2016, I couldn’t help but notice all of the references, posts, and comments on how bad the year was for a lot of people. I even saw some uber talented individuals made an actual horror movie trailer of all the headlines. It was hilarious! However this only further proves my point that so many people are feeling dispaire. To use the words of our current FLOTUS ” We are feeling what not having hope feels like” . But please let me encourage you don’t get “Trumped Up”. There is always hope. As long as we are here among the living, it is our duty to make everyday the best day, and be grateful for the opportunity to do so.

I’m not saying we won’t have bad days. I’m just saying don’t stay in the dark places too long! As for me, I am claiming 2017 the year I live with purpose. I believe in my magic! Are you with me?

Here are five ways you can speak life into your new year!

1. Use Your Words Wisely 

 

You become what you say about yourself. So keep it positive. This is something we’ve all heard all our lives. You know, if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all. Even in scripture ” For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. So fill your heart with good words. Sometimes I print my favorite quotes and hang them in places where I can see them when I need encouragement. I have them in my car, around my house, and oh boy do I have them around my office at work. Lol that’s a whole other story 😁. I also keep my vision board posted by my mirror and  it is my screen saver on my phone. It reminds me to keep the good vibes.

2. Hold Your Thoughts Captive

Be intentional with your thoughts. I’ll be the first one to say, this is hard! But it’s so necessary. You can’t let the negative talk begin. When you feel the negatity taking over, redirect your thoughts. If you like music, this is a perfect time to create a playlist. Play those songs when you know you need a pick me up. If you have a favorite motivational speaker or podcast hit play and get it into your head. Again the quotes, and words of affirmation come in handy here as well. I once had a difficult coworker that I had to deal with everyday. Someone gave me a workplace prayer, which I hung on the wall right behind my monitor, so I read it all day everyday. It helped me to be mindful of my reactions to her aggressive behavior.  Without my reaction she had no fuel. Eventually she stopped her behavior with me and moved on to another coworker which got her fired.

3. Surround Yourself With Good People 

Even if the people around you don’t understand what you are trying to do, as long as the don’t try to project their  fears on you, they are good people. Sometimes people are so use to being negative, and gossiping, and talking bad about people that they don’t see anything wrong with it. Stay away from this! My dad use to say, if you bring a bone you’ll carry a bone. In other words the same person who’s talking negatively with you will do the same about you.

4. Believe You Are Great

Like Beyoncé said,” I’m feeling myself ” sometimes you just have to feel you own self! BT dubs have you seen Insecure AF on HBO,? I love the way Issa raps to herself in the mirror! Lol I’m not saying you have to break out your rhyme book, but you can stand in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, smart, and wonderful you are. I saw an old clip of Jay Z on Hot 97,  saying how his uncle told him he’d never sell a million records, and he didn’t believe him. He knew he’d sell a million records and that’s all that mattered.

5. Do Your Best

This one doesn’t take much explaining.Go the extra mile! Work at your best, and you’ll yeild the best results.

Just be dope!

On that note **drops mic**

5 ways to speak life into your new year

 

Ashley Nell Tipton Capsule Collection For Boutique+ at JCPenney

 


Ok ladies this is it! Finally stylish clothes created for plus sized women by a plus sized women! Ashley Nell Tipton has done it again! The ready to wear plus sized godmother has unveiled her 2016 boutique collection for JC Penney and it’s  hotter than ever! And guess what? She used real plus sized women of every shape, height, and size! Bravo to Miss Ashley! Take a peak below…oh yeah don’t be shocked she used some of our favorite real women! 😍

Flawless Fabulous Fit & Flare Dress

Flawed & Fabulous

Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare

First off I have to say this dress is one of those pieces that gives instant confidence! Nothing makes you feel as good as a great Dress! I picked it up from Fashion To Figure last year &25 buy one get one free at TheCurvycon. I’m not really a dress girl so I don’t wear it often. I tend to wear more dresses in the summer so I pulled this one out this week.

From the time I put it on I realized something that never dawned on me before. Fit & Flare is my perfect silhouette. I’ve said it before,  one of my body flaws that I dress to camouflage is my midsection. This shaped dress ( sometimes called a Skater) makes my flaws fabulous!

The dress shaped my body in just the right places. It hugged the top, and flared out at the waste, creating the affect of a well defined high waistline.

The dress is strapless so to make it office appropriate I threw on a denim Ballero that I thrifted a few months back. A statement necklace that I picked up for $5 at Walmart, and a silver clutch that I got at Ross for less, my summer staple fringe sandals, and some silver hoops complete this look.

Conclusion: Fit & Flare makes my flaws look fabulous!

Flawless Fit & Flare
Fit & Flare Dress : Fashion To Figure (last year) – Denim Ballero: Thrifted- Flawless Clutch: Ross For Less- Necklace : Walmart- Fringe Sandals: JCPenny

 

Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare

 

Breaking All The Rules : FULL FIGURED FASHION WEEK CURVES AT SEA YACHT PARTY

Breaking All The Rules Yacht Party : Full FIGURED FASHION WEEK CURVES AT SEA ALL WHITE YACHT PARTY

Yes you heard it right! Hundreds of full figured beauties wearing all white dancing, singing and partying without a care! I must admit although I had a great time, and the food was excellent. I was doing a lot more watching than participating. I can’t help it I’m a people watcher. So, as I watched and admired how great everyone looked, I also realized that everyone was expressing their fashion their way! It was awesome!

Breaking rules and looking fabulous!

Rule #1 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD NOT WEAR WHITE

Greeting us as we boarded
Gwen Devoe- Greeting us as we boarded

Rule # 2 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD WEAR LONG SHIRT – NO CROP TOPS

Sabrina Rocking A Cropped Top
Sabrina Rocking A Cropped Top

Rule # 3 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM LACE AND SHEER CLOTHING

Tanesha Smart Ms. Plus America
Tanesha Smart Ms. Plus America

Rule #4 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM FORM FITTING CLOTHING

Christina Mendez In A Crop Top Body Con
Christina Mendez In A Crop Top Body Con

Rule # 5 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD CAN NOT BE PAGENT QUEENS

Ms Plus New York- Gwen Devoe- Emeecia Director of Ms Plus New York
Ms Plus New York- Gwen Devoe- Emeecia Director of Ms Plus New York

I guess nobody told them about us!

 

Soooo just because they are my favorite looks of the night!

Lady Hanson
Lady Hanson

 

Breaking Fashion Rules

 

This is my favorite moment of the night! I got to meet my #haircrush Nakitende Esther!

 

Nakitende Esther and I
Nakitende Esther and I

What rules are you breaking this summer?

Hot In The Office: 3 Ways To Keep The Business In Your Business Casual Summer Wardrobe

Finally we are getting some hot days! I love summer fashion! The flowing dresses, bright colors, and light air feel to the clothes just puts a smile in my heart! As with many offices, my job has a business casual office attire. Although there is no clear definition of “ business casual” sometimes people forget the business and add a little too much casual.

In the warmer months we usually get that not so subtle reminder from HR. You know the one informing us of the obvious warmer weather, imploring us to use good judgement when dressing for working, and asking us not to embarrass ourselves, fellow coworkers, or the company. Yet and still some people don’t get the hint.

Casually Speaking

Navigating the difference between what’s appropriate for business casual and what not may not be easy. In my office we have certain restrictions which are pretty standard.
1. No sheer or see through clothing ( yes it needs to be stated).
2. Shoes must either have a strap on the back, or closed toes.
3. No cutoff shorts
4. No Tshirts with graphics
5. No swim wear ( yes it has happened)
My summer staples are maxi dresses and skirts, light denim, and bright colored everything. I incorporate these items in heavy rotation for work and play. So, I have a few guidelines of my own that I use to keep it stylish and appropriate.

Party On The Bottom

Lapecasapreciosa
Lapecasapreciosa

 

 

Pair your bold print pants and skirts with a neutral top. Choose a solid white, denim, or a another summer neutral that matches the bold print.

Whatnickawore
Whatnickawore

Bright Bold Beauty

Inmyjoi
Inmyjoi

Add color, bright colors, bold beautiful, summers tops and or bottoms. The bright color just screams summer. I love yellows, corals, and teals.

Robin Charmage
Robin Charmage

Cover Me

Iamfabellis
Iamfabellis

This one is my saving grace! I usually keep a light sweater or denim jacket on the back of my chair. You know those pretty sleeves summer dresses and shirts? Guess what you can wear them to the office! Just keep a blazer, jacket or sweater handy to cover your arms and voila! Office appropriate.

Jenesaiquoithe
Jenesaiquoithe

So there Girlfriend! Now as it heats up outside, make sure you keep it cool, casual, and be about your business!

As always stay tuned to our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest for more business casual inspiration!

Inspired By – Imitation VS Duplication

Inspired byHave you ever heard the saying, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” ? Well, there’s another side to this coin. Duplication is the surest way to fail. In this era of social media we are constantly bombarded with images, ads, and words that tailor our thinking one way or another. Although we have begun to tout this mantra of self-love and body acceptance, it’s no secret that everyone wants to be like someone. It’s human nature to imitate and implement the things we love about someone or something else in our own life.

In fact as followers of Christ we are charged to live a life that can be imitated by others. We are to be Christlike as Christ imitates The Father to be Godlike. The bible says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew‬ ??chapter and verse

The real danger comes from trying to duplicate others actions, looks and or life.

“Why Be A Copy When You Were Born Original” by Oscar Wilde

Follow me now, this relationship with trying duplicate others is a slippery slope.

For one, it’s not authentic and you will not be able to keep it up.
For two, when you can no longer keep up the charade it will cause feelings of defeat.
For three, people can tell when you are not real.

Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t look to others for inspiration, but we need to apply these thing to our life as it fits us. I believe we need examples of how to be, as well examples of how not to be!

Inspired By

I remember the older women always saying

“ Take It Home and Make It Look Like You”.

In this picture I was inspired by ChiChi from Supple Chic. I could have gone out and had a skirt like hers made or tried to buy one, but instead I went to my closet and found this plaid pencil skirt that I got from Torrid. In fact the cut of that skirt may have been a little easier on my mid section lol.

At 5’3 and well over what is considered an acceptable weight, it’s no question that I have to be creative when dressing my body. My legs and hips are one of those features that I love about my body, so for me pencil skirts give me the curvy longer look that I prefer. I choose to wear my shirt on the outside because, to me it looks and feels better on the area (tummy time) 😉 that I don’t care for.

Inspired By

So, do look to others for inspiration. Do not try to duplicate them. While they say “For every one idea you have, three other people have it at the same time” but nobody has your version of it!

Remmber be the best you that you can be! Because everyone else is taken!

Inspired By

 

Holiday Look Books For Every Curvy Girl

Wow, can you believe the year is almost over? Where did the time go! Are you ready for the onslaught of Holiday Parties, Company Dinners, and End Of The Year Girlfriend Catch Up Chats? I know I’m not!

So what will you be wearing? Need a little help? Here are a few look books from some of my favorite curvy girls.

Each look book has outfit choices for different types of events. Now there are different types of curves, and everything doesn’t work for every body. These are some of my favorites bloggers and they all have different body types. Positive body acceptance is all about knowing you are not like anyone else yet you are good enough as you are.

I know people get all crazy about body types. Personally I think it’s a great way to find the best silhouettes and looks that accentuate the positive as well as camouflage the flaws. Yes we all have flaws! Self perceived or real.

Im not going to label the body types, so I’ve separated them by video length.

Check out these curves:

Looks for dinners, parties, and clubs.

Looks for dinners, semi formal events, and holiday parties.

Looks for dinners, semi formal events, and holiday parties

Looks for informal dinner, holiday parties, semi formal events, and glam brunches.

Don’t they look great! These look books are a guide but by all means make it look like you!

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