Sometimes I see my coworkers push the limits of our dress code in ther desire to get cubicle cute. I’ve seen skirts and dresses too short, heels too high, and inappropriate tops. On one casual Friday, I’ve even seen a coworker wear sweatpants.
Or the equally as bad other end of the spectrum, when people just dress like a granny, in an effort to look conservative. Just bad! Although I am a grandmother, there’s no granny dressing here!
Here’s how I got cubicle cute. To add some flavor I went with these “everything” pink pants from Ashley Stewart. When I say everything, I mean they are every- thang! They wear like slacks, and are comfortable like leggings! The blush color is great for spring, yet they are warm enough to hold up to the Artic Blast tempeture of my office! Instead of a regular cami, I went with this white faux leather cut out cami from Lane Bryant. My classic black blazer from Lane Bryant, nude heels from Nine West, and white faux pearls from Walmart anchor the look.
This blazer is one on of my favorite items in my wardrobe right now. Its just the right touch to keep my jeans office appropriate on casual Friday, and it still looks great with slacks, or over a skirt or dress. Now keep it cubicle cute, but stay out of HR lol!
What’s good my good people? It’s been a minute since I’ve posted. It’s been 7 weeks, and in blog life that like 2 years lol. Allow my to reintroduce myself.
My name is Uhura. I am the founder of Mrsphatandnaptural, and I’m not a blogger. I’m a resource.
My hiatus started with me trying to find my way through mourning the loss of a good friend. I told myself I needed to take some time to deal with what I was feeling. The days rolled into weeks and here we are! During these weeks I had to reevaluate my direction and revisit my motivation for starting this platform.
Here’s my why: Originally the idea started out of my frustration in trying to find a dress for a friend’s wedding.I felt as if there were limited options for me. Most of the dresses weren’t flattering, and even fewer were fashionably up to date. Everything I found made me feel older, bigger, or out of fashion. I was so discouraged by the process that I ended up not going to the wedding. When I began my transition to natural hair, I struggled with finding the right products, routine, and regime to get my hair healthy and fit for public viewing. I knew I had to do something for other women struggling with these issues.
It is God’s will I have a blog. My objective is first and foremost to honor my purpose and spread the word of God’s Love. Second is combination showcase and information platform for my Sisters. This has been such a blessing to me, I have virtually and physically meet so many people whom have enriched my life. My prayer is that I have done the same for someone else. I hope you love the ride as much as I do. Thank you for being with me.
Well it’s here! The Fall season is upon us. You get to sport the boots, sweaters, and jackets we all love! Although I’ll definitely be pulling out some of last season’s wears,I always added a few pieces from the new trends to freshen up my wardrobe. This year I’m going with some of Pantone’s hottest colors to keep me up to date.
Every year Pantone Institute delivers its report with the names and code numbers of the hottest colors for each season. This Fall the colors were lead by the Blue Color Family. Here’s their official statement:
The desire for tranquility, strength, and optimism have inspired a Fall 2016 color palette that is led by the Blue family.
Other than blue jeans, I’m really not a fan of blue…however there are quite a few colors on the wheel I am loving! Now you know I’m not trying to break the bank, so most of these pieces are well under $100. Here are my five favorite colors of the Pantone Fall 2016 Colors :
How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:
Boots- Wide calf “Circle Over The Knee Boots” are from Ashley Stewart $ 47.70 and the size range is 8-12
Hat – ” Tassel Brand” floppy hat Ashley Stewart for $ 29.50
Jeans- Fashion To Figure ” Chipmunk Skinnies” $42.90 size 12-24 they are BOGO %50 Or 2 pair for $ 64.35 !
Polish- OPI “Over The Taupe” for $9.00
Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Forever for $7.99
B T dubs; I have this brand of lippies in another color and I love it. Kinda like a cross between lipgloss and lipstick. It lasts long, feels smooth, and isn’t tight like some matte lippies.
How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:
Coat – Shark Bite Belted Trench is from Ashley Stewart for $ 79.50 sizes 12-26
Jeans – Ultra Soft Jeggins are from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 39.50 sizes 12-26
Dress- Asos Curve 70’s Blossom wrap dress for $31.00 goes up to size 24.
Lip – Revlon Colorstay lip stain in ” London Posh” for $ 8.99
Polish- Essie called Potter’s Clay for $9
How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:
Coat- Studio Neck Tie Fit and flare coat from Elouquii $ 199.99 40% off with code AUTUMN sizes 12-28
Skirt – Side Elastic Ponti Skirt is from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 34. 50 sizes 12-26.
Shoes- Wide width Mid heel wedge are from Ashley Stewart for $29.70 sized from 8-12.
Lip- Poiz the color is “Daisy” priced at $15.99. I haven’t tried this brand yet…but I’m DEF buying a tube soon!
Polish- OPI it’s called ” The “IT” Color” it sells for $ 9.00
How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:
Shoe – Eloquii wide width Pointed Toe Loafer for $ 79.50 sizes 7-12. Use code AUTUMN for %25 off.
Jeans – Fashion To Figure ” Racing Rae” Skinnies $42.90 size 12-24 as above BOGO %50
Dress-Asos Curve Club L wrap dress for $24 goes up to size 24.
Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Passion for $7.99.
Polish- Essie called Maki Me Happy for $9.00
How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:
Coat – Asos Curve Wool blend Skater coat for $ 128.98 sizes 12-26
Shoe- Torrid wide width Cutout Lace Up flats priced at $ 36.50 sizes 6-11
Dress- Asos Curve Club L Ribbed keyhole dress for $30.00 goes up to size 24.
Lip – Nyx Macaron lippie color is Black Sesame $6.00
Polish- Essie called Cashmere Bathrobe for $9.00
So there you have it! 5 of my favorite 2016 Fall Colors, complete with how, what, and where to get them straight into your closet! What are your favorite fall colors? Better yet, what trends are you loving this fall? Drop us a line in the comments!
Ok ladies this is it! Finally stylish clothes created for plus sized women by a plus sized women! Ashley Nell Tipton has done it again! The ready to wear plus sized godmother has unveiled her 2016 boutique collection for JC Penney and it’s hotter than ever! And guess what? She used real plus sized women of every shape, height, and size! Bravo to Miss Ashley! Take a peak below…oh yeah don’t be shocked she used some of our favorite real women! 😍
First off I have to say this dress is one of those pieces that gives instant confidence! Nothing makes you feel as good as a great Dress! I picked it up from Fashion To Figure last year &25 buy one get one free at TheCurvycon. I’m not really a dress girl so I don’t wear it often. I tend to wear more dresses in the summer so I pulled this one out this week.
From the time I put it on I realized something that never dawned on me before. Fit & Flare is my perfect silhouette. I’ve said it before, one of my body flaws that I dress to camouflage is my midsection. This shaped dress ( sometimes called a Skater) makes my flaws fabulous!
The dress shaped my body in just the right places. It hugged the top, and flared out at the waste, creating the affect of a well defined high waistline.
The dress is strapless so to make it office appropriate I threw on a denim Ballero that I thrifted a few months back. A statement necklace that I picked up for $5 at Walmart, and a silver clutch that I got at Ross for less, my summer staple fringe sandals, and some silver hoops complete this look.
Conclusion: Fit & Flare makes my flaws look fabulous!
Breaking All The Rules Yacht Party : Full FIGURED FASHION WEEK CURVES AT SEA ALL WHITE YACHT PARTY
Yes you heard it right! Hundreds of full figured beauties wearing all white dancing, singing and partying without a care! I must admit although I had a great time, and the food was excellent. I was doing a lot more watching than participating. I can’t help it I’m a people watcher. So, as I watched and admired how great everyone looked, I also realized that everyone was expressing their fashion their way! It was awesome!
Breaking rules and looking fabulous!
Rule #1 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD NOT WEAR WHITE
Rule # 2 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD WEAR LONG SHIRT – NO CROP TOPS
Rule # 3 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM LACE AND SHEER CLOTHING
Rule #4 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM FORM FITTING CLOTHING
Rule # 5 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD CAN NOT BE PAGENT QUEENS
I guess nobody told them about us!
Soooo just because they are my favorite looks of the night!
This is my favorite moment of the night! I got to meet my #haircrush Nakitende Esther!
Finally we are getting some hot days! I love summer fashion! The flowing dresses, bright colors, and light air feel to the clothes just puts a smile in my heart! As with many offices, my job has a business casual office attire. Although there is no clear definition of “ business casual” sometimes people forget the business and add a little too much casual.
In the warmer months we usually get that not so subtle reminder from HR. You know the one informing us of the obvious warmer weather, imploring us to use good judgement when dressing for working, and asking us not to embarrass ourselves, fellow coworkers, or the company. Yet and still some people don’t get the hint.
Navigating the difference between what’s appropriate for business casual and what not may not be easy. In my office we have certain restrictions which are pretty standard.
1. No sheer or see through clothing ( yes it needs to be stated).
2. Shoes must either have a strap on the back, or closed toes.
3. No cutoff shorts
4. No Tshirts with graphics
5. No swim wear ( yes it has happened)
My summer staples are maxi dresses and skirts, light denim, and bright colored everything. I incorporate these items in heavy rotation for work and play. So, I have a few guidelines of my own that I use to keep it stylish and appropriate.
Party On The Bottom
Pair your bold print pants and skirts with a neutral top. Choose a solid white, denim, or a another summer neutral that matches the bold print.
Bright Bold Beauty
Add color, bright colors, bold beautiful, summers tops and or bottoms. The bright color just screams summer. I love yellows, corals, and teals.
This one is my saving grace! I usually keep a light sweater or denim jacket on the back of my chair. You know those pretty sleeves summer dresses and shirts? Guess what you can wear them to the office! Just keep a blazer, jacket or sweater handy to cover your arms and voila! Office appropriate.
So there Girlfriend! Now as it heats up outside, make sure you keep it cool, casual, and be about your business!
So it’s April, summer is around the corner and I fell off the fitness train! And when I say off I meant all the way off. I got to a place where I wasn’t doing much about my health and believe me before I stepped on the scale my jeans told me! But as I said in my last fitness post👉( Fight Of A Fit Phatty)
“When you fall off don’t stay off!”
I’ve gained 10lbs back and I’ve been eating pretty crappy. I let life get in the way, nope scratch that; I got in my own way.
“Lack of time is actually a lack of priorities”
No excuses, time to get back to health! Knowing is only half the battle, now it time to get back into the fight with this fat!
Here are my chosen weapons of war :
Liquid Gold! A gallon of water a day! Yikes that’s a lot of water! But water is the key to good health! I try to just drink 6 bottles of water so I’m not looking at a gallon all day! If you don’t like plain water add fruit for a good taste and detox!
Hand to Mouth! I mean snacks! Not the fudgy gooey kind, something good and healthy but filling! I love nature valley bars or flavored rice cake minis, fruit, and nuts. Eat something that is filling between meals and make sure it’s not empty calories!
Beat the clock! It’s no secret that most people don’t exercise because of time, but you have to do it. I wish I could go to the gym and rock out for an hour but my life doesn’t work that way! But you can do 20 minute work outs 3 times a day. That will burn the same amount of calories as a continuous hour. I like high intensity workouts that you can do in 20 minutes and burn the same amount of calories or more! Walk at lunch a few days a week, or six 15 minutes bursts if you have to. whatever works for you, do it!
Click fitness! I like to explore Pinterest and YouTube for new exercises. Remember to do the correct forms though! 10 correct moves goes a lot further than 50 incorrect. Last year I could only do ONE push up! I kept trying and now I’m at 10. It’s your heart rate pumping that will be the benefit!
Eyes to see! In every aspect of life we need someone to look to and something to aspire towards. Whether it’s a family member, friend, or favorite social media celebrity, let someone else’s journey inspire you.
Don’t wait until you feel like it! Honestly we will never feel like it most of the time lol! Sometimes I feel like today will be my rest day just like yesterday and I never get anything done.
Reap Wisely! I always say this! Don’t reward yourself with food or punish your self with brutal exercise! Instead reach a goal and purchase something else besides food! If you’ve fallen from fit grace do not over work yourself! Start off slowly and ease your way back in.
I hope you continue to take this journey with me! If you have more tips please leave them in the comments! What are you doing? Share with us on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest!
So, this post started out as a list of some of my favorite places to shop. Then as I was literally writing out a draft of that post, I received two emails that changed my direction. One was from someone who wanted to know where I shop at, and the other was from someone who said they were going on vacation and wanted to know what I think they should take.
That got me reminiscing about the days, when I would go into the store, and look for my size and buy it. No matter if I liked it or not. It was my size ( size 20) and fit reasonably well (actually too big), so it came home with me. How pathetic was I?
I know this is the plight of so many plus size women! I hear it all the time. Especially young plus size women. It’s as if there’s no in between, there’s overly sexual ( a whole other post right here) and then there’s frumpy! Well later for all that!
Fast forward to today, ( size 22-24) I love shopping straight size trends and look for classic pieces to keep my wardrobe ever fresh!
Now, I can do outfit of the day posts all day long, and I still get the same question. Where did I get this or that? I want to make this as easy as possible. Below I’ve highlighted some of my favorite straight size 2016 Spring Trends, and listed the stores where you can pick them up.
Cold Shoulder: This is definitely a more feminine trend that looks great on plus sized women. The bare shoulders draws the eye up to your beauty.
Florals: You’ll see this one in small and large prints, appliques, and even combined with other trends. After all Spring Showers Bring May Flowers!
Ruffles: So, I’ve seen some articles describe this trend as “Spanish” however, be careful where you choose to display the ruffles they could add unwanted volume if the are sitting on the wrong curve!
Lace: Most recently, Beyoncé strutted a white lace number at the White House Easter Egg Roll. Yes just like that, all the lace pencil skirts went up! Lol. You see lace on skirts, dresses, shirts as the main fabric or as accents.
Stripes: Yeah, so that ” Big Girls Can’t Wear Stripes” not today! We are blurring the lines and rocking vertical, horizontal, and even diagonal stripes!
Romance: This one has the potential to be dangerous! It’s uber sexy and sometimes called “Daytime Lingerie”. I think you get the picture. Satin, sheers, laces, nets, but it can all be done in good taste. So let’s keep the raunchy out of romance ok.
Denim: This is one of those ever fresh categories. Like when was jeans ever not a trend?
Tulle: Yup, it’s still in! Yay! I love tulle skirts, you can dress them up with heels and a nice blouse, or down with Jean shirts. They go with sandals, sneakers,t-shirts and they fit great on everybody’s body. You can’t mess the look up!
Where I shop in store or online:
Fashion To Figure- mostly online but there are stores in Jersey. The clothes fit true to size and they always have sales.
Tip: Sign up for the email lists, I shop when they have discounts via email.
Burlington- In store, I have one close to my house and one close to my job. So, I’m always checking the racks.
Tip: If you like it, get it right then, because chances are it’ll be gone quick.
Eloquii- Only online. The clothes are a great quality for the price! These pieces last through washing and wearing and they are very fashion forward.
Tip: Same as above, I shop when they have deals and coupons via email.
Asos Curve- Online Only, again the clothes are great quality the sizes are true to size.
Tip: Make sure you by US sizes they not UK sizes. I know a few people that made this mistake.
Torrid- Both instore and online. They absolutely have the best fitting jeans! They always have sales and they have the loyalty rewards for being an insider.
Tip: Use your insider points, and buy ” staple” pieces, because the prices are not cheap.
Ashley Stewart- For years this was the only place I shopped but as of late ehh! It’s still a great resource, but things have changed.
Rebdolls- Online only, I love them but you have to get the extended sizes fast because they sell out quickly! A lot of these pieces are a little young for me. But they are great for the plus sized millennial woman.
Lane Bryant- In store just because it’s close to my house. Sometimes the prices take me down though! I try not to shop in a rush, but if there is ever a last minute need, I go there.
Full Beauty.com- Online only,You can usually find any and everything on this site! That’s their whole niche. Wide shoes, classic trends and the new in thing ” Swimsuits For All”; you name it they have it!
Do you have a favorite store? Drop it in the comments below!
Have you ever heard the saying, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” ? Well, there’s another side to this coin. Duplication is the surest way to fail. In this era of social media we are constantly bombarded with images, ads, and words that tailor our thinking one way or another. Although we have begun to tout this mantra of self-love and body acceptance, it’s no secret that everyone wants to be like someone. It’s human nature to imitate and implement the things we love about someone or something else in our own life.
In fact as followers of Christ we are charged to live a life that can be imitated by others. We are to be Christlike as Christ imitates The Father to be Godlike. The bible says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew ??chapter and verse
The real danger comes from trying to duplicate others actions, looks and or life.
“Why Be A Copy When You Were Born Original” by Oscar Wilde
Follow me now, this relationship with trying duplicate others is a slippery slope.
For one, it’s not authentic and you will not be able to keep it up.
For two, when you can no longer keep up the charade it will cause feelings of defeat.
For three, people can tell when you are not real.
Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t look to others for inspiration, but we need to apply these thing to our life as it fits us. I believe we need examples of how to be, as well examples of how not to be!
I remember the older women always saying
“ Take It Home and Make It Look Like You”.
In this picture I was inspired by ChiChi from Supple Chic. I could have gone out and had a skirt like hers made or tried to buy one, but instead I went to my closet and found this plaid pencil skirt that I got from Torrid. In fact the cut of that skirt may have been a little easier on my mid section lol.
At 5’3 and well over what is considered an acceptable weight, it’s no question that I have to be creative when dressing my body. My legs and hips are one of those features that I love about my body, so for me pencil skirts give me the curvy longer look that I prefer. I choose to wear my shirt on the outside because, to me it looks and feels better on the area (tummy time) that I don’t care for.
So, do look to others for inspiration. Do not try to duplicate them. While they say “For every one idea you have, three other people have it at the same time” but nobody has your version of it!
Remmber be the best you that you can be! Because everyone else is taken!