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101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning To Natural 41-50

So, unless you have never used chemicals on your hair, there are only two ways to return to natural. Or as we say “Go Natural”. Which way you choose is a personal preference. Either you Transition, which means you allow your hair to begin to grow in and not chemically treat it (relax) anymore. Or you BC or Big Chop, this means just what it sounds like. You chop off your hair down to the un-relaxed portion.  In my opinion one takes a lot more courage and is more drastic than the other, but one takes more skill than the other. I must say, as extreme as my personality is in some cases, I personally chose the less drastic approach of transitioning.  I just didn’t want to be bald! Although I sometimes use to cut my relaxed hair very short, TBH I just wasn’t ready for short and natural at the same time! **sidebar** Oh but I am loving these tapered cuts that I see on the Gram these days these days!

101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning To Natural

Anyway, I am going to break this post down into “Do’s and Don’t’s”. As I said, I personally transitioned and did a series of mini chops until I was fully natural. I can tell you this was not as easy as it sounds. There were some hard lessons learn and some habits and behaviors that I had to undo after many years of practice. So let’s get into it:

  1. Do comb the hair from tip to root. Having relaxed hair for so long, I was just use to combing from root to tip. When transitioning and also when fully natural this is a definite no no. Combing from tip to root allows for gentler detangling and  much less pulling. Use a wide tooth comb,and do not comb your hair when it’s dry.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  2. Do coddle the line of demarcation. This is the absolute weakest point of your hair! It is the point where the relaxed hair meets the natural hair. Rough combing, pulling, dryness, or just about anything stress, will cause your hair to snap off right at this point.
  3. Do Learn to treat all of your hair as if it’s all natural. Even when you have more relaxed than natural. In general this is just a good idea to get use to taking care of your natural hair.
  4. Do not use heat to make both textures appear to be the same. This kind of defeats the purpose of having natural hair. I’m just saying, if your are going to burn it out before it even grows, why go natural at all. The idea is to have the most beautiful healthy head of natural hair as possible.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  5. Do use products for natural hair only. Practice reading the labels at this stage, so you know what your hair likes and what it doesn’t. The reason I say this is because in most cases, the products for natural hair are less harsh. They will work just fine on the relaxed hair. They will nurture your natural hair as well as treat the relaxed hair.
  6.  Do not compare your hair to the “experts”. This was a hard lesson learned. I was watching so many YouTubers and expecting to get those results. But honestly, my hair wasn’t like theirs, I didn’t have the edits, lighting and do overs like them either. Although a valuable resource, they are not to be compared to. It’s like going doing Karaoke, just because you know the words, you are not going to sound like Beyonce’!
  7. Do not hold on to damaged or thinning hair. Just cut it. You will thank me later. Holding on the those thin ends it very counter productive. you want to have healthy hair right? So, you have to depart from the idea that longer is better. Even if you don’t have damage, you should still trim it often. Healthy and fuller is better!
  8. Do not depart from your good hair practices. Make sure your wrap your hair at night, and wash it regularly. If you normally go to the hair salon to get your hair done, make sure you find a hair dresser to do the same for your natural hair. For more good hair practices check out tips 1-10.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  9. Do not obsess over your curl pattern. We are all different, and we all have different unique traits and features that make us truly beautiful. In most cases people with thick hair wish it was thinner and people with thinner hair wish it was thicker. When I went natural it was at the height of the hair typing debate. So many people were obsessed with what hair type you had. This was hard for me because I have about 3 different textures in my head. We just have to be happy with what we have and learn to love ourselves the way God made us.
  10. Do not try to find ways to rush the process. Have patience! If you don’t have the skill, or your attention has not caught up to your intention, just find you a protective style and ease into it.Trying to rush the process will only lead to a feeling of defeat or a change of direction and you’ll just get out of the journey and relax again. Believe you me, I know plenty of women who do this over and over. They get 3, 6, or 8 months into the transition and decide, they can’t take it any more and give up on the process only to come back to it months later wishing they had just stuck it out.

Number 10 is one of the most important tips I can give. As with any transition it takes time. Learn to enjoy the process! Have that cake and eat it too!

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101 Natural Hair Tips: Wash Day Hair Tips 21-30

First things first…confession time. As much as I love my hair, I am not a lover of the wash day tango! I’ve heard the argument.

101 Natural Hair Tips: Wash Day

” If you don’t love your washday, maybe you need to change your regemin”.

 

I think there may be some truth to that statement, but in my case I can’t agree. I’ve never liked washday, even when I was a kid. My hair has always been very thick and adding water is my kryptonite!  Unfortunately for me there is no way around it, to have hhealthy hair, you have to keep it cleansed. Since returning to natural I’ve found a few tips and tricks that help cut down on time and stress to my tresses. BT dubs, this is also post 3 in series of 10 billion on 101 Natural Hair Tips. For now check out our washday tips and I’ll link the other post ( Natural Hair Basics 1 and 2) at then end of the post.

 

21. Detangle Hair before washing.

I’m sure you’ve heard this one before, but it’s the number one tip to reduce hair loss and cut down on wash time. Section the hair into as many sections as needed ( usually 4-6). Depending on how tangled my hair is I sometimes start with as many as eight and combine a few of them in larger chunky twists as I go along. Try added some conditioner and water to aide in the process. Use a clip to pin up the completed section.

 

Freshly washed 🙌🏽 proud of myself for getting wash day out the way this early 🙃

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22.Detangle using a wide tooth comb, detangling brush, or your fingers.

My fingers are my magic tool of choice. When using your fingers, you get to feel the hair as you are detagling. However I also love detangling combs and brushes. The wider the tooth the better. Make sure your comb or bush doesn’t have any missing or broken teeth. They could snag or pull on your hair and cause damage to your strands. I usually end up with 4 sections.

23. Start detangling from ends and work towards the root.

There is one very simple rule in place here. Don’t comb from the root to tip. By starting at the ends and working your way up the shaft it minimizes hair loss. The most effective technique that I have found is to add the conditioner, and finger detangle under running water.

24. Wash your hair in the sections

This simple step will avoid retangling your tresses. Apply the shampoo at the root and work towards the ends. Make sure to cleanse the scalp, by gently massaging the scalp with your finger tips. Then work the later down the twist to the ends. Avoid using a circular motion this can encourage tangles and clumping of the hair.

 

25. Use sulfate free shampoo, cowashs, or ACV rinses to cleanse your hair.

Now I’m not hear to agrue for or against either method. I’ve used all three and they all work. However, if you find that your normal products aren’t working you may need to do a clarifying shampoo. I do one every 2 or 3 months.

26. After shampooing spray hair with olive oil.

After shampooing but before conditioning, run some Olive oil through your hair. I find this helps with manageability and softness,especially between deep conditioning. Rinse all the shampoo out. Run some Olive oil through your hair. Work down the shaft, the rinse.

27. Apply conditioner with praying hands method.

I know it sound weird but just give it a try. It will decrease the opportunity for tangles, as well as coax the cuticle to lay flat. The cleaning process raises the cuticle, and now we need to make sure it starts the process of closing to lock in the moisture.

101 Natural Hair Tips: wash day

28. Deep condition with heat.

Adding heat helps to penetrate the hair shaft increasing the  effectivness of the product. If you don’t have a hooded dryer, use a plastic cap, or plastics bags and use your own body heat.

29. Be careful of protein overload.

Although protein is good for your hair, you don’t want to over do it. I’ve read if the label says “repair” wither its a DC or a leave in, it has protein in it. Too much protein will cause excessive drying and damage. It’s almost as bad as heat damage, which ironically protein prevents…but that’s for a future post.

30. Document The Process !

I can’t stress this enough. I can’t tell you how much impact this will have on increasing the amount of good hair days. It’s like cooking from a recipe verses cooking from memory. By keeping a simple hair journal of what products you used and how you used them, you’ll easily be able to figure out what works and what doesn’t.

Now here’s to an easier washday! For more tips click the links below.

Natural hair basics 1-10

Natural hair basics 11-20

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How To Achieve The Perfect Twist Out On Any Natural Hair Type

How To Achieve The Perfect Twist Out On Any Natural Hair Type
How To Achieve The Perfect Twist Out On Any Natural Hair Type

Today I am tackling the question every curly asks at some point on their natural hair journey “How did she get her hair to look like that” ? Most often its when I see a Naturalistas rocking the coveted Twist out! I’ve been natural for almost 3 years and I can’t say I’m totally satisfied with my results…but I have to say I’ve turned the corner, because now I get Curlys asking me that same question. It’s always followed with what products do you use? As if there some secret sauce that makes all twist out perfect.

This is such a loaded question, because the products and the results depend on the condition of your hair, the technique you use, and most importantly your expectations. I’ve watched countless tutorials and read numerous posts about what works best, and the truth is practice makes perfect.

I love doing twist outs but I haven’t yet conquered the world of video editing. So thanks to some of my favorite vloggers I have compiled a few videos to help any curly achieve a bomb twist out!

First up Jenell B Stewart of KinkyCurlyCoilyMe.Com . I’m starting with this one because she gives very good details and her steps are clear and defined. Also because her natural hair is not curly and the results are very realistic.

Kinky

Second is Yolanda Renee of Etcblogmag.com even though she doesn’t do a full tutorial, she gives great tips!

Kinky Curly

I’m just gonna say, learning that I had to keep each section separated ( no borrowing) was a game changer for my twist out results !

Next Tiffany Arlene of Beautiffulcurls.com, She starts with dry hair, which I also do most times. Also there’s a what to do when your twists aren’t dry tip, HINT you better not take it out yet!

Spongy

Did you see it? I usually do my twists at night and allow them to dry overnight, but there’s always that one twist that didn’t dry! That’s when I use the quick dry method that you saw in Tiffany’s video.

Okay now you’ve seen 3 different methods on three different hair types. Now how do you maintain that bomb masterpiece? I’m so glad you asked.
This next video is from Angela Lauren of Loveisbellaaa with 5 ways to go to bed with natural hair.

5 bed time routines for natural hair

I have used all of these methods. I usually just refresh in the morning with one of my favorite leave ins, and some oil. Achieving a banging twist out isn’t as hard as it seems. With the right information it’s a piece of cake!

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As for now Go Forth and Slay!

Comfy Cozy & Cute Winter Fashion: Sweater Dress

Sometimes winter fashion is all about the outerwear or footwear, but this post is about an oldie but goody…the sweater dress! The sweater dress has 50 Shades of style! I’m not a dress wearer but this dress is as comfortable as my favorite jeans, as cozy as a pair of sweats, and cute to boot!

It’s a dress that is comfy enough that I wore it to drive on a 2.5 hour car ride, and when I got there I looked as good as I did when I first put it on. The sweater dress is forgiving to your curves, and did I say it comfortable? Oh yeah I did!

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter FashionNext to comfort, the variety of style options is the best thing! You can take it all the way up with some pumps, or way down with a ballet flat. If you can make it work, they even look great with a fresh pair of Keds. My favorite way to rock this style is with a high knee boot, and an obi belt placed at empire waist height. By adding the belt it draws the eye up away from my belly! The sweater dress, knee boot look is a classic that can be worn by most body shapes.

As a more curvy girl, I love the way the sweater dress hugs my curves. You can wear them at thigh length or to the floor! They still look great!

Between the snow, the cold, and the ice, the Northeastern Winter can just make you fashion sick! So, make sure you have a cozy, comfy, and cute sweater dress in your fashion first aid kit! What do you have in your Winter Fashion First Aid Kit? What are your winter go to pieces and how do you rock them.

OUTFIT DETAILS:

Simular Dress Asos Curve Obi Belt Lane Bryant   Necklace Torrid Wide Calf Boots Lane Bryant 

My natural hair is smoothed up into a protective style updo with Cantu Leave in, separated into 3 sections the front section pinned to a pompadour anf the middle and side pulled forward and pinned to the gawds!

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

 

 

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

 

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion