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International Natural Hair Meetup Day 2016- Fros Friends and Fun In Montclair NJ

INHMD Montclair NJ 2016

Hey Sis Girl!

I just have to say I am still on a high from the experience of basking in the presence of over 150 women representing NJ Curlfriends. We had a ball! I surly hope everyone got more than they expected because I sure did! It was 4 hours of entertainment, education, shopping, food, and dancing! All while celebrating our fellow sisters and a few brothers lol, in a positive encouraging space. What’s better than that?


Speaking of the space, the place was beautiful! For the third year Cabriella from International Hair Design was the ever gracious New Jersey Host for the Montclair NJ leg of this 40 city, 3 country, 3 continent affair. It was held in the Montclair State University Conference Center! Surrounded on two sides with massive window that seem to reach the sky! If you could imagine it was elegantly casual! Yeah that’s it! Although the space is obviously a beautiful state of the art space, the warm nature and inclusive vibe made it ok to let your guard down and bare and share in the wealth of love, information, and kinship.

Thirty-Five Curlfriends purchased VIP admission which gave them early entry,a VIP reception,  as well as swag bags sponsored by the INHMD 2016 title sponsors with full sized products from Made Beautiful, Eden Bodyworks, and others!INHMD NJ

What’s a movie with out a soundtrack? DJ Twin kept us rocking with his Jersey blend of Club and Soul tunes.

We started the day off with New Jersey based motivation speaker Iamlunic. She set the room a blaze with her energy! Unfortunately, I was so caught up in her speech that I didn’t think to record her!

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Iamlunic

Next up was Quality Healthcare, who spoke about the heart health. As you must have heard Heart Disease is the leading cause of death for African American Women.

There were 2 demos, first was a hair demo by Scarlet of Wondercurl. She demonstrated a wash n go style using her hair products.

Next was local Naturalist and Holistic Hair Healer Ahava Feliciadad. Her presentation was “natural” is a four letter word, F. R. E. E. She spoke about the freedom of being natural.
There were many vendors selling everything from skinny tea, butters, African fashions, and the most beautiful clutches and earrings!


I was honored to be one of two New Jersey based bloggers to be in the Social Media Lounge. It was Spencer ( Curly Empress) and myself. Curlfriends that came over to our corner were gifted mini hair journals or detangling combs. The first visitors were also gifted a full size bottle leave-in sponsored none other than the maker of my favorite scalp and hair oil Janomi hair products. Thanks to Adrienne of Janomi 2 other Curlfriends also received full sized bottles of the oil! We also had a selfie station set up with our Glam light.

The final segment was a question and answer panel where we got to answer direct questions from Curlfriend regarding, working out with natural hair, hair porosity, dryness, and so on. Missed out on the fun? No worries, I got you! Although INHMD is only once a year, if you are following us on social media👉 ( Instagram,Facbook, Twitter ) we will be sure to keep you updated on all the latest happening!

 

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Natural Hair Journey: 2 Truths & 1Lie

Mrsphatandnaptural 2 truths & 1 lieNow this is usually an icebreaker game played at social gatherings. The concept is as self explanatory. The person tells 2 truth,statements and 1 lie, and the participants have to guess which statement is the lie. This is a lot like trying to navigate your natural hair journey today. There is so much misinformation out there that it almost impossible to tell the truths from the lies!

Between the buzz words, band wagons, and straight BS its no wonder that so many women find it hard to get it right.

 

Now to be clear, I’m gonna write all three statements as if they are true. As you’re reading try to guess which statement is the lie. Let me know if you guessed correctly 👇leave it in the comments 👇.

1st Statement- Most Hair Grows At The Same Rate: With the exception of underlying medical conditions, age, or severe damage to your hair or scalp, your hair can grow up to 6 inches per year. Now, your hair may shed faster then someone else’s which will make your hair appear to grow slower. Employing methods to reduce the amount of hair that sheds will help you retain more length. Things like protective styling, a good hair regimen (including night time care), proper detangling, and low manipulation will help to reduce hair shedding.

2nd Statement- Natural Hair Should Be Treated The Same As Relaxed Hair: No need to spending tens of dollars, that lead to hundreds of dollars, trying to find the right hair care products for your hair. More than likely you already have what you need. Hair is hair, it’s made of the same thing. It’s not like being natural has changed hair to some fragile, delicate thing that you have to baby. If you’ve been using certain products for years before you went natural why stop now.

3rd Statement- What You Eat Is Important To Your Hair: Your hair starts growing from inside out. So, what you are putting or not putting in your mouth is affecting your hair. This is why the hair, skin, and nail vitamins have become so popular. Yes they do work, no they are not necessary. If you are eating a good diet and drinking enough water, you will not need the HS&N vitamins. For me adding fruits like frozen strawberries to my water, is a 2 for 1 get the hydration from the water and the nutrients from the strawberries. If you have a diet that consists of mainly processed food, high sugar drinks, and bad fats, more than likely your hair tells the story of your bad dietary decisions.

Mrsphatandnaptural 2 truths & 1 lieI have heard all of these statements passed along as truth in the natural hair community. However one of these statements is actually not true. Can you guess which one?

Statement number 2 is the lie. Natural hair is very fragile, although it may appear to be stronger than relaxed hair it’s actually not. Also because natural hair is in a “raw” state you need to be careful of the products you use that may easily damage your hair and cause breakage. Relaxed hair can with stand more heat, more twisting, and harsher products because it’s chemically treated. Now I’m not saying that bad hair practices won’t damage relaxed hair too. I’m simply says you need to take a little extra care with your natural hair if you want to see good results.

What are some of the “ lies” that led you wrong on the natural hair journey? We’d love to hear from you? If you can relate to this post, and you like what we are doing, please like us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest. Don’t forget to leave your comments below.

Stay tuned for more myth busting maybe the lie that lead you astray will make the next installment of 2 truths 1 lie.

Signing off here’s to more hair!

Fall Forward: Fall Wardrobe Trends & Hair Regimen Tips To Help You Fall Forward

Fall Forward

Ahh the Fall Season is upon us. Fall is my favorite time of year. All things Fall seem warm and comfy. As the leaves start to turn, and the temperature starts to cool down layers are the key to making the best of this transition. Layering your clothes as well as layering product into your hair.

We are loving wool blend Wraps, and sweater Shawls, and Ponchos. This is and easy addition to update your look without breaking the bank.

Wide leg jeans are back! If you are like me and have thighs “thicker than honey” this is a win for you.  imageWith the wider leg, it allows for a better fit on the thigh.

As a Plus Size Fashionista I am very excited that the chunky heel is in! There’s nothing worst the trying to balance an elephant on a tea cup! Lol this is what some heels feel like to me.😂 Cross Body Bags, Long Necklaces, and Tassels will take you full on Boho Fall Fall forwardStyle!

 

 

As for your hair, hopefully you are sealing your hair with the LOC Method, especially  if you have natural hair. This is a layering of products that helps to seal the moisture into your hair. It’s an acronym for (L) Leave in or Liquid (O) Oil or in the fall a Butter works best and (C) is Cream or your styler. As the temps drop be sure to replace your oil with  great hair butter such as Keirenea Honey Dipped Hair and Body Butter ( click here  Keirenea.com ). The butters stand up to the cooler weather better than the oils.

Fall Forward

For this look I just brushed my hair up and smoothed the sides with the Honey Dipped Butter, and tied it up with an old knee high. Yes I used a knee high. The flexibility of being able to tie it at the size I want along with the stretch of the fabric works best for me.

My wide leg jeans came from my closet, but I have found a similar items ( click here for similar) . My accessories are all Plato’s Closet scores for $45 I got these Michael Kors Platform Heels (click here  for similar). The Cross Body Bag ( click here for similar), and the Tassle Necklace ( similar), The wrap is from Ashley Stewart ( click here for similar) . Just for you we have curated a Fall Forward Store where you can get all your items in one place.

( click here for the Fall Forward Store)

Remember to embrace the natural beauty of my most favorite season! If these tips and trends or for you please follow us on social media, we are on Instagram – mrsphatandnaptural, Facebook – mrsphatandnaptural.com and Twitter – mrsphatandnap, and if you like what we do please comment. Be easy and Fall with style.

Don’t Let Your Hair Be A Dirty Diana : Best Drugstore Shampoo For Natural Hair

Our Four Favorite Drugstore Shampoos To Keep Your Natural Hair Clean And Moisturized

We’ve all had that moment when we realize the Mane [Man] In The Mirror makes you want to Beat It. You know that feeling when you scratch your hair and look under your nails and you see Another Part of [ Me] You. Maybe it is the realization that the miracle product that’s suppose to make your hair feel like butter is actually just Bad! It happens to every natural at some point on this natural hair journey. Being able to run out and pick up the right shampoo is a key to getting through wash day like a Smooth Criminal. Lol ok this is my tribute to the King Of Pop! MJ himself. #virgoseason. By the way my all time favorite song from him is you guessed it, Dirty Diana.Dirty Diana
Okay enough about Michael Jackson here are our four favorite shampoos that will have you singing I Just Can’t Stop Loving You to your tresses 😜!

1. Carol’s Daughter Mirabella Plum Sulfate Free Biotin Shampoo- This shampoo is a nice thick consistently. It a thick syrupy liquid, that lathers well and gently cleans your hair. Although the label says its for fine, weak, and very dry hair, it works great for my thick, strong, and very dry hair. It’s full of natural ingredients, and smells great. This is one of my Holly Grail products. If I had to point out a negative it would be the price, it’s not extremely high but it’s also not cheap. This product costs about $11 per bottle, but If you sign up for the email list you’ll get regular emails for discounts from 20-40% off. I usually get more than 1 bottle at a time so it’s well worth the email frequency.Carols Daughter Shampoo

2. Cantu Shea Butter Sulfate Free Cream Shampoo- As said in the title this shampoo is creamy and thick. It’s very moisturizing and can feel it as you apply it to your hair. Froesha just drinks this stuff up. The label states that this product is mild enough for color treated hair. All that said to me is the thing that keeps this product on the top of the list is the price. It sells for $5-9 depending on where you buy it. There may be other products that offer the same result, but I think you’d be hard pressed to find one that could compete with the price point. The only negative I can say about this one is the scent is a little nutty, and I like more fruity scents, it smells perfumed.Cantu Shampoo

3. Mane N Tail Shampoo- This is an old golden staple that I have used on my hair since I was in high school. Although this product is not sulfate free, it has sealers in it that prevent drying. This is an old time shampoo and it performs as such. If you are transitioning to natural, this is the perfect product for your hair. This product is well received on your relaxed as well as natural hair. The only negative I can state is that it’s not sulfate free. The cost for this shampoo is $3-5 depending on the bottle size. The best thing is you can find this shampoo everywhere from local beauty supply, to big box stores, and if you look it’s probably on the shelf at the corner store 😉.Mane n Tail

4. Ogx coconut milk Shampoo- This is what I would call a mild protein enriched shampoo. It’s creamy and moisturizing. This shampoo does have sulfates in it, but it’s not drying. This product has egg whites, coconut oil, and coconut milk, so it’s moisturizing and adding protein to your tresses. The consistency is kind of thick and it smells great. Depending on what I’ve used in my hair, I sometimes need a shampoo that’s a little stronger than the sulfate free, and this is it. I keep my hair heavily oil, and sometimes to heavily oiled, but this shampoo works great when I need a little more something to cut the grease. The biggest negatives are, the bottle is shaped weird and it doesn’t fit in my shampoo caddy and the cost varies greatly from store to store anywhere from $6-12 and to me that’s too much of a wide range.OGX Coconut Milk Shampoo

Now just in case you’ve already stocked up on some less then desirable shampoos no need to fret. Try mixing your so-so shampoo with a great conditioner at a 50/50 ratio. This will help Moisturize your hair, and if you have a half bad conditioner, use it as a pre-poo.

What are some of your favorite shampoos? Or maybe you have some home fixes that work for you? Please comment below. I hope you found this post helpful and a hope my suggestions have your hair looking as beautiful as a Libertarian Girl! 😜

My tribute to #michaeljackson #virgoseason

Why Isn’t My Natural Hair Regimen Working For Me?!!

Why Isn’t My Natural Hair Regimen Working?

imageIf you have asked yourself this question chances are you are probably getting frustrated and about to do something really rash! Let me guess either you are checking the ground for a soft spot and you are about to hop off this “Natural Hair Bandwagon” ! Or you are seeing letters the old “BC” big chop? Maybe just maybe you are a little less extreme than most and you are just going to get braids and wait it out?

Guess what if you get braids they have to come out sometime. The “BC” will soon grow back. And even if you go back to the creamy crack, the thoughts of what could have been will only lead you back down the natural hair highway only now you will be starting from less than zero.

Well, maybe not that bad, but none the less you already made the decision to start on this path so let me see if we can get you on track!

The good news is more than likely the solution to your hair woes is right before you. If you don’t have a regimen this is a great time to start. Below are some of the most common culprits that’s causing you to get frustrated with your natural hair journey. ( Click her to visit our store and get all your haircare needs )

 

  • Hair porosity– this simply means the ability and level at which you hair accepts and holds onto imagemoisture. There are 3 types of hair porosity. Chances are if you are transitioning or if you cannot seem to keep moisture in your hair, your hair has high porosity. The hair cuticles are open so it’s difficult to hold onto moisture. Normal porosity hair accepts most products, doesn’t get overly dry, and keeps a good shine. Low porosity hair is usually very coarse because the hair shaft is so compact , that it’s very difficult for the moisture to penetrate. The upside is when you do find out how to get the moisture in it stays. This type of natural hair is often seen as “ healthy hair” because it seems strong and dense.  The porosity of you hair will directly affect the outcome of your wash, style, and overall hair appearance. I hope this didn’t scare you, lol. Don’t worry it’s all correctable!

click the link here to understand what hair porosity is and how you can correct it.

  • Consistency- There is no magic formula here. Chances are you’ve spent years relaxing, coloring, locing or doing whatever it was you were doing before you got to this point. So it’s going to take some time and regular consistent care and treatment to bring your hair back to its natural state. This is where you will get the most out of your hair regimen, if you stick to a product, style, and/or care routine it will get easier and you will get better at it. Period, find what works for your hair and dedicate yourself to making it yours!
  •  Poor diet – Believe it or not what you eat plays a big role in your overall hair health and appearance. Drinking plenty of water is good all around, and great for your hair hydration. I’m not against the hair vitamins but I think you should get them from your food. I guess this is why a lot of naturalistas eventually become vegetarian 😉
  • Too much too soon – Just as with everything else in life it’s best to be realistic about your hair goals and limitations. For an extreme personality such as myself, it’s natural to want it all right away, but as I said earlier it took years to get to this point and its going to take sometime to get back to center.
  • The Vlogger Myth – Your hair is never going to look like theirs! Lol, No disrespect intended, most of the Vloggers I watched were very skilled and entertaining at taking care of their own hair. They made everything look so easy. The problem was almost none of them had hair like mine. Also most of them had their hair well trained and conditioned prior to starting the style. Factor in the editing, do overs, experience and their hair doesn’t look like that either! No just kidding, but what I’m really trying to say is, you can’t expect your hair to look like anyone else’s but yours. And if you keep trying to do every style, use every product, jump on every promotion you are going to miss your hit. By all means if something doesn’t work change it, but don’t expect for your fifth grade style to look like someone else’s high school. Most Vloggers are what we call expert learners so they’ve learned to perfect that which they do.

imageSo all in all make a commitment to good hair health, not length, trend, or style and you will be on the Road to Hairvana quicker than you know it!

As always we welcome your comments and questions. Please like our Facebook, follow us on Twitter and Instagram, and have a happy healthy headspace!

See Ya Curlfriend

Why Did You Go Natural: My Nappyversary Story

nappyversaryMay 25, 2013, I remember it like it was yesterday. In fact it was today, but 2 years ago. I had been silently suffering from a very common medical condition that was causing me to lose massive amounts of hair. My hair has always been pretty thick, so I was able to camouflage the hair loss for a long time. But as with any thing that goes ignored it was only getting worst. I consulted with my doctors, as well as did my own research on remedies for hair loss concerning my medical condition. All of the medical data showed that the damage was irreversible and the progression to complete baldness was very likely. At the very least I would suffer from Alopecia.

14nappyyellowhair (2)I was losing hair when I combed, when I washed, and massive globs ( no exaggeration) when I permed ( relaxed) my hair. The thought entered my mind to just stop perming it, but as quickly as it came up, that Lye-er in my head would say “ girl you know your hair is nappy you better perm them naps”. So, I continued to struggle with the thought of being bald or having nappy short hair ( which is what I thought would happen to my hair without a perm) for about another year. Only relaxing it every 12 weeks which is 7 weeks longer than the cycle I had been on for 30+ years. The struggle was real, and all the while I was losing more hair literally by the day. The center crown of my head was shorter than the tip of my finger. Hiding it was getting harder because my hair was getting thinner and in very many spots I had nothing to cover.

At a funeral of a beloved family member I ran into an old friend that I had not seen in 20 years. Her hair was bushy and beautiful! I asked her the common black girlfriend question. “What kind of hair is that?” IMG_7507 her reply floored me. It’s mine, I’m natural. Her hair was healthy and curly! And I knew her hair was just as thick and nappy as mine. So I asked what she was using and how she achieved the style. She explained that she used Miss Jessie’s Curly Pudding, and that this style was called a wash n go. She told me how she washed her hair in the shower applied this product and let it air dry. I was in awe, this seemed so easy, this was it the end of my creamy crack, fried dyed and laid to the side love affair. Just that one hit was the last bit of encouragement that I needed to jump off the decades long mindset that even the fear of baldness could not break.

You know that didn’t happen for me right, lol. Her regimen worked 1blazerlookbackfor her but not for me. She was fully natural and had been for years. I was just beginning. It was a struggle but I kept the thought of her full head of thick hair in my mind to encourage me to stay the course.

So now what? I start researching products, styles,and terminology to get the best understanding of what I needed to do. I decided to transition because as I eluded to above, “ I didn’t want to be bald headed with short nappy hair” the fear was still very close to the surface.

I come from a long line of fierce “ Kitchen Beauticians” and I also graduated from cosmetology school, ( although I never took the state board) so styling my hair was no big deal. Yup, that turned out not to be the 5nappyblacktwistcase 🙂 . My hair was not as easy to manage as I though it would be. I would watch the YouTube vloggers and try a style and it just never seemed to work for me. Their hair always seem to be loser, tighter, shinier, something was different.

I started to wonder, what about their hair was so different, and I realized it was the starting product. The condition of their hair was much different than mine so the results were different. So I began to build on the wash day routine. For me this is the basis to any healthy hair journey. Finding the right regimen is paramount to a loving lasting relationship with your hair.

I mentioned before that I transitioned, what I did was a series of about 3-4 mini chops every 8 weeks 13nappyyellowhipuntil I was fully natural. To be successful at transitioning you have to treat all of the hair as if you are fully natural. So this means limit the harsh gels and shampoos, deep condition often, an find a great leave-In or daily moisturizer to combat dryness. If you wear protective styles limit them to 6-8 weeks. Any longer is not protecting its damaging.

During my transition I used the co-washing technique for about 4 months. Only using shampoo once a month, and deep conditioning every other week. This allowed my natural hair as well as my permed hair to stay well conditioned and manageable and not drying either out. If you are transitioning there is a very important point on the shaft called “ the line of demarcation “ this is where the natural hair meets the permed hair. It is the 11nappyversaryfav (2)weakest point of the shaft and it’s where the hair will snap off. Just know the natural hair is stronger than the permed hair, treat all of the hair as if it’s fully natural and you have to protect the line of demarcation, to have a smooth transition.
If you are fully natural and your mane is just not making the moves you desire, consider changing or developing your hair care regimen. I have an epic post on hair care regimens for ever Curly Girl. I cover every thing from my own personal Lazy Girl products an tips, to hair porosity, and even what foods you can eat to optimize your hair journey. Click the link to see the post.

In honor of my 2 year Nappyversary we did our very first official photo shoot! So in a departure from the norm, all of the photos are from the shoot! I hope you like them! on Pinterest there will be a my Nappyversary board as well as on Facebook.  Please tell us your thoughts, and ask your questions. See you around on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest!

Stay Happy & Nappy!

 

see below for more pic and the outfit details.

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Mesh Sleeve Shirt is from Torrid , Window Pane Knickers are from Ross, The sandals are from Lane Bryant.

 

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This is look is head to toe Lane Bryant, with the exception of the Betsy Johnson bag that I got from Marshals for less than $15!

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The pumps are from Lane Bryant, The Blazer is from my closet, and The sheer side leggings are a few months old I don’t remember where I got them. But I’m almost certain they came from Torrid or Asos Curve.

This is my first outfit post so bare with me on the dets…but I’ll get better 😍

Love Ya!

Mother’s Love: 5 Gifts To Make The Caregiver Give Herself Some Care

Mother's Day GuideMore often than not the Mom is the caregiver, nurturer and, problem solver. She often puts her own needs and wants aside for the happiness of the family. Sometimes it’s even this happiness in her family that give her the greatest joy.

We give gifts of flowers, meal, presents, and sometimes  gifts of rest and me time. It’s almost impossible to give her a gift that will even come close to what she deserves, but why not give her the gift of self care?

Check out our Caregivers Gift Guide for the caregiver in your life. As the natural caregiver we very often put ourselves last. This list was created with this in mind. All of these add value to her life while encouraging Mom to care for herself.

Make Mom a Workout Playlist~TheGrove Is In The Heart: yes this was one of my favorite jams!
research has show the following affect of music on the human body:
Mothers Day Gift Guide

Changed the heart rate
Affected blood pressure
Changed the metabolic rate
Reduced physical and mental stress
Reduced fatigue

All of these things aid the flow of energy in the human body.

The sound waves of music enter your ears and turns into pulses or vibrations, which travel to the nerves in the brain. The pulses influence the brain, which then translates to the body’s movement.

Here is my Mothers Day Workout Playlist :

Sugar Scrub~You ever see those people who just look so shiny an soft? More than likely they exfoliate. They Mothers Day Gift Guideuse a mild scrub like sugar or salt and rub away the old skin. This leaves the new younger skin exposed and it is shiny and soft. Why not get Mom a little jar of sugar scrub that she can mix with her favorite body wash, or you can whip up a batch here is a basic recipe!

What Are the Benefits of Sugar Scrubs?. The seasons can wreak havoc on the skin. In summer or winter, skin exposed to the elements can become dry, itchy and flaky. Sugar scrubs can be a perfect solution to keep your skin smooth and radiant throughout the year.

If you want to try your hand at a DIY Sugar Scrub here is an easy 4 ingredient one.
Kick It~  Why not treat mom to a new pair of sneaker as we call them in the Northeast? To everyone else they are either Tennis or Gym shoes. 🙂 Every Mom no matter what her age can use a little me time walk. More often than not we make time for everything and everybody. By getting her a new pair of kicks you will be letting her know, it’s ok to put herself first. Even if it is only for an hour or so.

Mothers Day Gift GuideHow to know if it’s time for a knew pair of kicks:

The typical athletic shoe is only built to last 350 to 500 miles. While walkers are not pounding their shoes as hard as runners, you are unlikely to still get good support and cushioning past 500 miles. Your weight is also a factor — the more you weigh, the faster your shoes will wear out. If you are walking 30 minutes a day, or an average of 3 to 4 hours a week, replace your shoes every six months. If you are walking 60 minutes a day or an average of 7 hours a week, replace your shoes every three months.

Happy Feet Basket~ Almost everybody sells a pedicure kit. From Sephora to Walgreens. To keep it simple buy her a cute pair of open toe sandals, a pedicure kit, and put it in a nice bowl or pail for soaking feet. Make sure the kit includes at least these items: nail clippers, a nail file, a cuticle stick/orange stick, a nail buffer, a pumice stone or scrubbing brush, a clear top and base coat, and a polish color of choice. Optional additional supplies include bath salts for soaking your feet, cuticle trimmers, cuticle oil, and Mothers Day Gift Guidelotion fora massage afterwards.

And just know pedicure are not just for beauty click the here and see other help benefits that are derived from getting regular pedicures.

 

Don’t Read Me Read A Book~ Well we all know a mother’s read can be infamous! 🙂 but why not give her something else to read? Like Valerie Burton’s book Successful Women Think Differently! We love Valerie Burton books! True to form this life coach continues to give words of encouragement all the while dropping jewels on how to think different to be different. She shares the common practices of successful women. So give mom some food for though while encouraging her to take some time and curl up with a good book.

Mothers Day Gift GuideHere are 5 unconventional affects of reading a good book:

1. Most affective way to relieve stress.
2. Keeps your brain sharp
3. Helps you sleep
4. Increase your empathy
5. Has been shown to ease depression

So don’t just get her something that for that one day, give her the gift that we all want but don’t even know it! The gift of time to care for herself! I hope you take care of mom everyday, but Mother’s Day is her official day of honor!

Whether you add these to your gift you already have or you make all or one of these your gift, or even if you gift these to yourself I hope you enjoy your Caregivers Gift Guide! Be sure to let us know what you think. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram, Twitter and like us on Facebook.Mothers day

Happy Mother’s Day!

Frugal Frogal: Natural Hair Regimen Under $10

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Frugal Frogal

Yes ! You read it right ! A natural hair care regimen, for less than the price of my favorite shampoo! Right now my most favorite shampoo is Carol’s Daughter Marabella Shampoo. My Carol’s Daughter shampoo cost $10. Yeah, umm hmmm, ten dollars is my budget. So that’s the first criteria. The second is the products needed to be easily accessible, meaning they can be picked up anywhere. The third criteria is it can’t be too much of a departure from my normal regimen. I always see a lot of post about a shampoo or a conditioner under $10. In fact one of my first post was about shampoos under $12. But this one is a complete regimen under $10, from wash to style.

  • On my quest to “Live Richer”,  I am always looking to “find money”. So I’m taking all of my spending to task, it’s not forever but for now I’m trimming the fat, tossing coins into the piggy bank. By nature I’m a modern day treasure hunter so frugal finds and discount shopping gives me life!

So are you ready to slice your natural hair product budget like a loaf of bread?

Yes everything comes back to food with me! 🙂 ! True to form we at mrsphatandnaptural.com promote healthy hair care above all else! We don’t believe in sacrificing good hair health for any reason. That being said, we want to find quality products that will give the desired result for a fraction of our normal hair product budget.

You should not compromise healthy hair for a style or a dollar. But, If you could get your natural hair regimen under $10 would you do it? Keep reading and let me show you how.

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Prepoo: if you don’t normally prepoo than here’s an inexpensive introduction to one of the process I use. It’s the hot towel method. It cost nothing. All you need is a hand towel, ziplock bag, water and a microwave. Free ninety nine!

Cleanse :Shampoo is a very important part of every Curly’s journey. I found this VO5 Strawberries N Cream at CVS for $1.25.

Conditioner : This is a very necessary process that can not be skipped. This one actually came free with another product, Hollywood Beauty Olive Cholesterol deep conditioning crème. Cost me nothing, it was attached to the styler. Free ninety nine!

Frugal FrogalSeal: I usually use the LOC method I want to make sure the moisture is sealed into my hair. That’s what works to keep my hair managed. Oldie but goodie Blue Magic Coconut Oil. Yes it’s grease, what’s wrong with that yo mama used grease and her mama used grease. So why you can’t use it? Lol no seriously though, I did a little research and found that although this does not add any nutrients to your stands it does work as an excellent sealer to loc in moisture. Cost me $2.99 at CVS.

Styler: I don’t normally use stylers but in this regimen the styler is important to pull together any look. Hollywood Beauty Olive Crème hairless for dry hair. Priced just right at $2.99 at CVS

Including tax this cost me a wapping $7.28! Yup! Way under $10. And I got $. 50 in extra care bucks back to be used on a later purchase! Whoop whoop! (Found money $12.75 added to long term savings)Frugal Frogal

I know getting the products is only part of the equation, the other part is the how-to, so here is how I used them:

  • Pre-poo- I sprayed my hair down with water, put a wet hand towel in a ziplock bag and mic it for 3 minutes, (be careful the towel and water are hot)wring the excess water, (again you may want to use tongs) I then wrapped my head in the towel, and placed a bag on my head for 20 min. I normally se a lot of oils in my hair, so this is a way of using those oils already on my hair one last time. The hot towel will open up the hair shaft allowing the oils to penetrate the shaft.
  • Shampoo- I then finger detangle and section my hair into 4 or 6 sections. I wash my hair section by section. Now, because the VO5 is a sulfate shampoo be careful not to tangle your hair. The shampoo has a very pleasant scent and lathers very well. I could hear my hair squeak! Lol
  • Condition and Seal- I run the conditioner through my hair, keeping in the same section by section process that I used to wash it. Put a bag on my head and let it sit for at least 1 hour or 30 min if you use a bonnet/ hooded dryer. Then rinse out section by section. I dry my hair with a t-shirt, squeezing as much moisture as possible into the t-shirt. Then while the hair is damp, I apply the Blue Magic Coconut Oil Crème to seal the moisture into hair shaft. This is the oil for my LOC method.
  • Crème- While the hair is still in sections I apply the Olive Crème. Section by section. This is the crème for my LOC method.
  • Proceed to style as usual, I blow dry my hair on the coolest setting, section by section. At this time if you need a trim, this is the time to do it.

This process left my hair soft and fluffy! It feels very strong. Although I wouldn’t say the product are the same quality, they are good enough to work in the lean times.

Hair tip: always rinse your hair with cool water, be sure to deep condition often, and seal hair with oil and crème after each shampoo.

I will be using these products for the next month, to see the progress and styles I’m able to create with Frugal Frogalthese products, follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Please leave comments and suggest below. If you have any frugal hair finds please let us know! I also challenge you to find a hair care regimen for $10 or less!

It’s the Frugal Frogal Mrsphatandnaptural signing off! See ya Phatty,

Nailed it!

As we shed our clothing and bring bounce back to our curls, we need to ditch those deep wine and black polishes! So keep reading and see how we “Nailed It”.  When you revamp your closet don’t forget to revamp your polish collection too! This Spring your favorite polishes are back, they’ve been tweaked just for us!image

imageDuring Fashion Week, clear top coats and sheer creams adorned with designs and/or glitter dominated the runway. We also plenty of white nails! Are you bold enough to rock this look with your little white dress? imageAs the temperature rises the classic nudes and bright colors are back so if you aren’t fan of the bare look just stick to what you know.

I really love a good red polish.image Red is a color you can rock every season, so I keep that in heavy rotation throughout the year. Since its Spring be sure to use your brighter reds straying away from the burgundy family. Back in October the Mrsphatandnaptural team attended the circle of sisters expo in NYC, where Erica Campbell (a favorite around these parts) debuted her new collaboration with Color Club Nail Lacquer EC X CC.image Ohhhhhhhh did I love this set! I have the catwalk red and the gingerbread glitter gold. I will still rock them this season !

Glitter’s and Matte’s are very popular in the warmer months, and I would go with Color Club or MAC nail Lacquer. Lacquers are very thick so the glitter and Matte’s coat better. imageI mean did you ever buy a pretty glitter polish and have to coat your nail time and time again? For me it’s annoying because the glitter spreads out and it’s never what I envisioned. But with a nail lacquer being so thick with one or two coats your nails are fully covered and it looks great (especially when you can’t get to your local nail salon!) Plus I love the textured look you get from the Matte and glittered lacquer!image

April and May always brings out our favorite pastel nails hues such as Blues, lilacs, soft pink, etc. but remember pastels are very thin so they require multiple layers. imageAlso this is the time for corals, orange, and all pinks. Neutral tones have outgrown the plain beige. Different tones of browns and grays have joined this family and should almost always be paired with a shimmer. Look for an iridescent imagepolish if glitter isn’t your thing but you still need a pop of glitz! Keep in mind that pastels, shimmers, and iridescent polishes are very thin so these should be your go to imagechoice if you are in a hurry because they will dry quickly!

I really love polish! A good nail color can set an outfit off. I love just looking down and seeing my nails look so pretty. It’s something so feminine and satisfying about it. I know that it’s purely something for me, my man always says no man cares what his girl nails looks like as long her hands aren’t rough lol!image

To be honest this is one of those areas that I have “found money”. I used to spend $110 a month on my bimonthly mani / pedi. But after completing the Live Richer Challenge earlier this year, I decided to add that money to my long-term savings account for one year. So that’s $1300 a year that I have “found”, but I can’t bear to have bare nails!

I know I gave Color Club a big shout out, I’m new to their line thanks to Erica Campbell and I loved it! I washed dishes, did hair, changed diapers (lol) and it took days to chip!image

I haven’t graduated to the whole advanced nail art. By this I mean 3d designs such as pearls, hoops, and chains. I’m still a French manicure or a flower and a few lines kind of girl if I’m feeling fancy. But this daring look is centered around the art, the polish is usually nude.image

imageI don’t want to see any dark nails reminding of this cold winter we endured! Go out and get some polish and #springitonme for a feature. But make sure your stroke game is proper if you don’t have time to get to the salon lol. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Pinterest!

Muah Phatty
Ja’nay of Mrsphatandnaptural

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5 Steps To Spring Your Hair Back From The Coldest Winter Ever

imageIs it just me or has Mother Nature been putting us to the test? The other day I was so excited that it was finally warm, I check the temperature and it read 28 degrees! Is this possible? Yes, we have been so bombarded with these frigid temperatures that 28 degrees actually felt warm! And our poor frozen tresses!image They have been snowed on, tucked, pulled, and in some cases rubbed out. These are the things we do to our hair under our normal winter weather conditions. But what have we done during “The Coldest Winter Ever”? (Yes, I loved the book) In the Northeastern part of the U.S. We have experienced the most occurrences of below zero temperatures for the month of February since the 1800’s! We have had a record settings 21 snow storms!

Oh I am so glad we made it through, but how did your hair hold up? Because of the colder temperatures some of us don’t treat our hair as well as we should in the Winter. We don’t wash it as much, so we aren’t giving it the conditioning it needs and replacing the moisture that’s naturally lost from being exposed to the colder dryer air.

Very many of us employ protective styling during this time, but this can also be damaging to certain parts of the hair, such as the edges and nape area. Also we love to wear very stylish and most of all warm hats and big knit and wool scarves during the Winter, and most of us don’t have the satin lining in them, or wear a satin scarf under the hat. This is what we call a necessary evil, we have to wrap up and keep warm. image

So now what? Spring is coming and the hats are coming off, and those protective styles are coming out. It’s time for the big reveal!

 

Step one:

The Tress Lover Treatment: Give her a full on 5 part love session! Pre-poo, Hydrating Sulfate Free Shampoo, Comb Through Conditioner, Deep Condition, and LOC Method. This may sound like a lot but sometimes it’s just was the hair doctor ordered.

That Blessed Oil– This one is a fav because, in classic Mrsphatandnaptural style, it’s easy! Lol. Hey what can I say, at least I’m consistent: you simply fill your spray bottle with ¼ cup of Olive Oil, and 1 cup of water! Throughly saturate your hair with the mixture. Comb through with a wide-tooth comb, pile loosely on the top of your head, and put on a plastic cap, or wrap your head with plastic film or even a plastic store bag. You can sit under the dryer for 10-15 minutes, let it sit for 20-30 minutes without heat, or I’ve even slept with it overnight. If you sleep with it, be sure to protect your pillows with extra towels, and plastic bags.

Guacamole – Not really, it’s an avocado mask, but when I make this its all I can think about, 🙂 yes I’m fat, don’t judge me! You take a small ripe avocado, mash it good with, olive oil, and or castor oil. You can heat this one up before you apply it. Section your hair imageinto 8-10 sections and apply 1 section at a time. Either finger comb or use a wide tooth comb to pull the mixture through to the ends of your hair. Put on your plastic ( bag, cap, wrap) wrap your head with a hot towel, and let it sit for 20-30 minutes. You can heat the towel in the microwave.

Egg Mask- This is an oldie but goodie for me. My Cosmetology teacher, Mrs. Iozzi was big on this for her long bleached Jersey hair back in the 90’s when I was in school. It worked then and it still does. You mix 1 or 2 eggs depending on the length of your hair, with one to 2 tablespoons of olive oil, and about a cup of water. You can also add mayonnaise which is just eggs and oil. You apply it throughout your hair massaging it into your hair and scalp for about 15-20 minutes. Then rinse out with warm water. Warning !!! If the wateimager is too hot the eggs will cook into your head. Yes, I’ve made this mistake.

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Step Two:

Cleansing is very important to your hair health, there is a lot of debate about whether or not shampoo is necessary. Fimageor the sake of this post, I say find a good Sulfate Free shampoo, and get to cleansing. I did a post on my four favorite shampoos under $12 when I first went natural,( feel free to check them out !) I also love Cantu, Shea Butter cleansing cream shampoo, and the Carol’s Mirabella Plum shampoo. They are both Sulfate-free, have great lather and are both very reasonable price points. As my hair gets longer the easiest way to wash my hair is in sections. I try to do at least 4 sections, and wash it one section at a time.

Step Three:

Rinse out conditioner, again I love the Cantu Shea Butter hydrating cream conditioner, or Shea Moisture Tahitian Monoi. Froesha (my hair) has a personal favorite it’s Jessi Curl Too Shea extra moisturizing conditioner. She responds very well to miss Too Shea! Just run it through you hair for about 3-5 minutes. You can use the wide tooth comb, (I do) or you can just finger detangle, but it’s important to feel the slip of the conditioner on your hair, makeimage sure it’s well coated, then rinse out.I know this seem like a lot, but that’s why it’s called love! You are showering your tresses with the much deserved love she deserves and beside so far we are only 45 minutes into the process! You are so worth this me time!

Step Four:

Deep conditioning, so we did the rinse out to detangle and coat the hair, now we are going to do a deep condition to treat her well.

Banana Smoothie: yes you read that correctly. In your blender mix 1 banana, I can of coconut milk,and ¼ cup of honey. Blend until the mixture is smooth. I always add some olive oil, because, Idk why not. Lol, I personally do it because it loosens it up and makes it easier for me to manage.

For the less adventurous there is a lot of great off the shelf products you can use, this is an area where it’s best not to skimp. Your hair will tell the story. I would recommend any and all of these that can even be found at your local drug store, Target or Walmart. Shea Moisture deep treatment mask, Cantu Shea Butter deep treatment mask, or Organix Macadamia oil hydrateing deep treatment mask. I use Carol’s Daughter Monoi repairing mask. I leave it on for about 4image5 minutes to an hour, or you can sit under the dryer 25 minutes. Then rinse out.

Step Five:

This last step is the LOC Method. If you’ve read the post Top Five Ways To Take The Fuss Out of Fabulousness you know what this is. It does just what it says it LOCs the moisture into your hair. So far I’m sold on the process. It’s a process of layering product on your hair and the last step seimageals it in. Because it’s done on wet hair, the product penetrates the hair shaft. The products vary, but basically the process works. Your style really does not matter with this process. It works with wash n go, braids, twist/braid outs, and even blow drying. The key is to throughly coat the hair with each layer. Layer one is the leave-in conditioner, layer two is the oil, layer three is the cream. Apply each layer and comb the hair. If you’ve never tried it, you are in for a pleasant surprise. Your hair will thank you!

There 1 hour 20 minutes, to spring that hair right out of it’s Winter blues. If you haven’t done a trim lately this is a good time to do a little dusting. Some Curlies do this every month, I usually only trim during the change of the season. For me this works, but you may need more or less, as I always say, you have to listen to your hair. She will tell you what she wants. I don’t know about you but I am so looking forward to shedding all things Winter, clothes, hair, and all.

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imageAs for now get those tresses ready for spring and Fuss-less Fabulousity! See ya Phatty!