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Picture Me Through The Blush Of Rose Gold

In just a few short hours I’ll be 44 years old. Somehow through God’s grace, I am an independent, confident, productive, wife, mother and grandmother. Yes, this still trips me out, because I know for sure most of it was not intentional on my part. I wish I had the foresight to have planned my life. I give those of you with those 5 and 10 year plans mad props. It took me a long time to have faith in my decision making ability, so I would have never trusted that I knew what I wanted. Even as a little girl, I spent a lot of time alone because I was always on punishment for one thing or another. Being chastised for everything made me fearful of making choices on my own. I actually use to tell myself that I wasn’t capable of making good choices. Not an easy road to be on.

This belief lead to me, just letting life happen to me instead of planning my steps. I was mostly reactive to what ever situations or choices others chose for me. Sometimes I had a good reaction, sometimes it was down right disastrous. I’m a very emotional being by nature, so a lot of my reaction were pure emotion. And if you know like I know, this was not going to turn out well. I had my first son as a teenager, and my second son in my early twenties. I had a decent job, but it just wasn’t going to take care of three of us. By the time I had my second son, I knew I had to make  changes in my life. It started with my deciding that I was know longer going to be held back by the negative Nellys in my head. I started writing down goals and figuring out how to work towards them. A few years ago I ran across an old journal, I had to laugh when I read the goals. All I wanted was to have a car, a job, and my own place. The funny thing is, those goals seem so low, but I don’t remember being excited or even acknowledging when I reached them. Somehow, I made myself believe those goals were nothing. To some they may not be, but for me obviously it was something I needed to focus on attaining. So at that very moment, I allowed myself to be proud. Even though it was 20 years later! I let go of thinking my accomplishments are nothing. I deserve to celebrate me.

I may have said this before, but by growing up without my mom in my life, I was determined to be the mom I didn’t have. Thank God He blessed me with the ability to be a good provider for my boys. I use to wonder if I was doing a good job, then one day I looked up and not only was I taking care of my 2, but I was also taking care of my little sister and brother, and many of my younger cousins from time to time.

In the role as caregiver, I began to put myself last again . Always thinking if I didn’t do it, it wouldn’t get done. After many years of sacrificing myself for the greater good of the rest of the people around me, kind of made me sad. As I look back at my thirties, I realize I spent the entire decade depressed. Mainly because I wasn’t doing anything to feed my soul. Everything was for someone else. Part of my believed that I had to keep holding all the weight or everything would fall apart and I would be the blame. I can remember my husband telling me, that everyone else can afford to be happy because I’m holding all their misery. Lol, thank God for him. He was so right. I let go of being responsible for everyone but me. I deserve to be first. It’s ok to be a little selfish sometimes.

When I turned Forty I promised myself that I was going to take better care of me. I know it might seem a little late in the game, but you know what they say: better late than never. Today I am a mother of three, a wife, and a grandmother. It’s not easy to let old habits go, but everyday I seek God for guidance and direction. As I keep moving forward on this road to self love and acceptance, there are highs and lows. But just like that old saying says, I’m looking at life through ” rose-tinted glasses”. I chose to see the good in my life. I love the institution of love and believe love is the answer. Today I believe I am not only capable of making good decisions, but I’m equipped to teach others how to as well. Today I believe that I am the master of my own destiny. Today I believe that I am worthy to be celebrated. Today I believe that I am too important not to be a priority. Today I am seeking my golden life. As I approach my forty fourth year I believe all things are possible and are working together for my good!

Outfit dets: Satin Bomber ( Charlotte Russe) Blush Denim ( Lane Bryant)

5 Hot Fall Colors And How To Add Them To Your Plus Sized Wardrobe

Well it’s here! The Fall season is upon us. You get to sport the boots, sweaters, and jackets we all love! Although I’ll definitely be pulling out some of last season’s wears,I always added a few pieces from the new trends to freshen up my wardrobe. This year I’m going with some of Pantone’s hottest colors to keep me up to date.

Every year Pantone Institute delivers its report with the names and code numbers of the hottest colors for each season. This Fall the colors were lead by the Blue Color Family. Here’s their official statement:

The desire for tranquility, strength, and optimism have inspired a Fall 2016 color palette that is led by the Blue family.

Other than blue jeans, I’m really not a fan of blue…however there are quite a few colors on the wheel I am loving! Now you know I’m not trying to break the bank, so most of these pieces are well under $100.  Here are my five favorite colors of the Pantone Fall 2016 Colors :

Warm Taupe

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Boots- Wide calf “Circle Over The Knee Boots” are from Ashley Stewart $ 47.70 and the size range is 8-12
  • Hat – ” Tassel Brand” floppy hat Ashley Stewart for $ 29.50
  • Jeans- Fashion To Figure ” Chipmunk Skinnies” $42.90 size 12-24 they are BOGO %50 Or 2 pair for $ 64.35 !
  • Polish- OPI “Over The Taupe” for $9.00
  • Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Forever for $7.99

B T dubs; I have this brand of lippies in another color and I love it. Kinda like a cross between lipgloss and lipstick. It lasts long, feels smooth, and isn’t tight like some matte lippies.

Potter’s Clay

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat – Shark Bite Belted Trench is from Ashley Stewart for $ 79.50 sizes 12-26
  • Jeans – Ultra Soft Jeggins are from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 39.50 sizes 12-26
  • Dress- Asos Curve 70’s Blossom wrap dress for $31.00 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Revlon Colorstay lip stain in ” London Posh” for $ 8.99
  • Polish- Essie called Potter’s Clay for $9

Spicy Mustard

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat- Studio Neck Tie Fit and flare coat from Elouquii $ 199.99 40% off with code  AUTUMN sizes 12-28
  • Skirt – Side Elastic Ponti Skirt is from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 34. 50 sizes 12-26.
  • Shoes- Wide width Mid heel wedge are from Ashley Stewart for $29.70 sized from 8-12.
  • Lip- Poiz the color is “Daisy” priced at $15.99. I haven’t tried this brand yet…but I’m DEF buying a tube soon!
  • Polish- OPI it’s called ” The “IT” Color” it sells for $ 9.00

Aurora Red

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Shoe  – Eloquii wide width Pointed Toe Loafer for $ 79.50 sizes 7-12. Use code AUTUMN for %25 off.
  • Jeans – Fashion To Figure ” Racing Rae” Skinnies $42.90 size 12-24 as above BOGO %50
  • Dress-Asos Curve Club L wrap dress for $24 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Passion for $7.99.
  • Polish- Essie called Maki Me Happy  for $9.00

Shark Skin

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat – Asos Curve Wool blend Skater coat for $ 128.98 sizes 12-26
  • Shoe- Torrid wide width Cutout Lace Up flats priced at $ 36.50 sizes 6-11
  • Dress- Asos Curve Club L  Ribbed keyhole dress for $30.00 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Nyx Macaron lippie color is Black Sesame $6.00
  • Polish- Essie called Cashmere Bathrobe for $9.00

So there you have it! 5 of my favorite 2016 Fall Colors, complete with how, what, and where to get them straight into your closet! What are your favorite fall colors? Better yet, what trends are you loving this fall? Drop us a line in the comments!

Happy hunting!

 

Welcome To Glamrock: Frugal Fashion Plus Sized Look Under $25

I’m sure it’s no secret that being a stylish plus sized woman is not cheap. It seems that paying more just goes with the territory. It’s even worse for me because I shop with my ears. If you can imagine I’m just walking through a particular store and I start hearing things speaking to me. “Psst hey over here” ” take me home with you”. Sometimes trying it on will help me make the decision to buy or not to buy, and other times it’s so right for me that I just have to get it. I usually set a limit per piece of what I will spend. Such as I don’t want to spend $39.00 for a t-shirt! Yeah that’s just crazy-town! WelcomeTo Glamrock

Now, when that piece that’s calling out to me has a markdown price, there’s almost nothing that’s going to keep me from owning it! That’s what happened with this Glam Rock look. The entire look was only $25 at Burlington Coat Factory! The vest and the top are size 2x and the bottoms are 3x. This particular store has a decent plus size section. I shop both Women’s and Junior’s. The fur vest was the most expensive (if I can even use tWelcome To Glamrock hat word) it was $14.99.       I love these faux leather leggings ( yes I wear leggings, and I look great in them) they were a steal at $4.99 and the top was $5.99. That’s like getting a whole outfit for the price of my favorite jeans at 50% off. **tilts head and winks eye**. Well, what can I say, somethings are just worth the price.

Fashion can be frugal, and even plus sized fashion can be affordable and stylish. Now one word of caution when you find these low low prices you have to try them on. Very often there could be some fit issues. I always make sure the bottom of my shirts hits around the middle of my hips. That way it’s probably low enough in the back to cover some booty, and long enough in the front to cover my lower belly. The waist on bottoms is always my concern, sometimes it’s cut small but the legs fit great. That’s what works for me, but if you feel great in it, by all means get your Glam Rock on.
For more on how to look great in your clothes check out this post ( Plus size mistakes) .Welcome To Glamrock

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What I Know For Sure: Five Things Every Woman Needs To Have by The Time She Reaches Her Forties

imageBy this stage in your life, you have probably spent a great deal of energy living up tosomeone else’s idea of you. Your parents, spouses, children, and society’s views and standards all impact how we see ourselves and or how we measure our successes or accomplishments and the lack thereof. I recently celebrated my 42nd birthday, and like most people I always contemplate my position in life as well as my future around my birthday. I am a real number weirdo, meaning I always look up numbers and see what they mean or correspond to. I remember when I turned forty and I looked it up, as I always do, and I was surprised to see all of the biblical references to new beginnings. I found one article that correlated a woman turning forty, to the Israelites making it to the promise land. This was so eye opening to me because I had spent my entire thirties in a mild state of paralysis and depression. Which to me felt like wondering in the wilderness. I had allowed people and events around me to drown out my inner voice.

I was everybody’s something, and my own nothing, but then came my forties. There was something invigorating about believing that turning forty was the beginnings of my new life. I began to pray for God’s presence and direction like never before. It actually took me sometime to remember what it was that I enjoyed. I tasked myself to come up with 10 things that I enjoyed that did not involve serving anyone else. I realized that everything I liked was because of my husband, kids, or father. It took almost an hour but I did it. From that point I began to seek my own happiness first. Not in a selfish way, but in a self-love way. I still have to remind myself that I am too important not to be a priority. Putting myself first is a learned behavior but I’m learning. But what I know for sure is, that I’m worth it!

Here are 5 things every woman needs to have by the time she’s in her forties.

God– A relationship with your creator. I don’t mean just going to church. I mean a constant conversation, prayer, or meditation between you and God. When you are in a relationship, the most powerful tool is communication. Developing your connection with God is very important.

Right look– This is that look you can pull together in an hour, to land your dream job or captivate your dream mate. Know what silhouettes look good on you. Have a “quick face” so What I Know For Sure even if you are just going to get coffee, you can look pulled together.

Affirmation – By definition the word means emotional support and encouragement. Need I say more?

Cause – A principal, idea or belief that you are willing to work towards insuring its success. I am tempted to say what drives you, because I also believe your “cause” will inspire you into action.

Expertise – That one thing that you do, when you are doing you so well. Even if it’s just a certain dish or a way you pack luggage. You should be able to identify your strengths, and be able to turn it into a profit if necessary.

These words are an acronym for G.R.A.C.E. Which reminds me to give myself grace. Existing by the grace of God, with grace & style, living in his grace and mercy.What I Know For Sure

Be blessed.

Fall Of Pretty Tomboy: Cuffed Jeans, Blazers & Booties

This Fall look reminds of my childhood days rolling my pant legs up so I could race and play with the boys in my neighborhood. I would roll those wide leg jeans, (yes I’m a 70’s baby) or cords up in a second to race them on my bike, on foot and occasionally to hand out good ole mind changing “so you think you can beat me because I’m a girl” beating.

Pretty Tomboy Then one day, when I was about ten or eleven years old, all that changed. I came home from school and my cousin who was living with us at the time, brought home a friend from school. He was the cutest thing I’d ever laid eyes on. This was the first time I worried about being pretty. I remember thinking how glad I was that I looked pretty because it was picture day at school. I’m gonna’ leave the rest of that story for another day, but let’s just say thirty years and four sons later, he still makes me glad I look pretty.

Although I have always loved all things frilly, I’ve never been a girly girl. I don’t subscribe to the wear once philosophy, I believe in building a wardrobe that serves many purposes. I am most comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt. So this look is inspired by my favorite wardrobe items. A well fitting pair of jeans is a curvy girls best friend. If they are the right cut and fit it will show off her assets and camouflage her flaws. When paired with these fringe wedge heel booties, (photos cannot capture the fabulosity) and my favorite swing blazer, this look has just enough pretty to soften the tomboy without losing the comfort. I love this swing blazer because it’s comfortable and versatile. This one fits right down to my hip, so it camouflages my mutant

Pretty Tomboy
Pretty Tomboy

characteristics (the second belly) lol. The large cuffs also lends itself to the coulattes trend of this year.

Between the comfort of this look and the fit of my jeans, this look has the right amount of pretty to keep my inner tomboy feeling Pretty yet comfy!

The jeans are flared leg, which I have said before are one of my favorite fits, because it accommodates my thick thighs. (similar).

The blazer is from my closet. (similar)

The shirt is a cami of which I have a lot in every color and length.

The booties are from Ashley Stewart or (similar)

I chose sparkly jewelry because I love the ideas of what I call “pretty hard” it’s like wearing this large pave sparkly necklace with jeans and a tee. Or adding a dress over your jeans.

Bonus: Pretty Hard Look
How about paring your favorite little black dress, old faithful obi belt and the same jeans.Pretty Hard

By wearing them long it adds a little more ‘pretty’ but their still the same comfy jeans.

Whether you are a girly girl or a pretty tomboy, have fun with your look and keep all things pretty.

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Fall Forward: Fall Wardrobe Trends & Hair Regimen Tips To Help You Fall Forward

Fall Forward

Ahh the Fall Season is upon us. Fall is my favorite time of year. All things Fall seem warm and comfy. As the leaves start to turn, and the temperature starts to cool down layers are the key to making the best of this transition. Layering your clothes as well as layering product into your hair.

We are loving wool blend Wraps, and sweater Shawls, and Ponchos. This is and easy addition to update your look without breaking the bank.

Wide leg jeans are back! If you are like me and have thighs “thicker than honey” this is a win for you.  imageWith the wider leg, it allows for a better fit on the thigh.

As a Plus Size Fashionista I am very excited that the chunky heel is in! There’s nothing worst the trying to balance an elephant on a tea cup! Lol this is what some heels feel like to me.😂 Cross Body Bags, Long Necklaces, and Tassels will take you full on Boho Fall Fall forwardStyle!

 

 

As for your hair, hopefully you are sealing your hair with the LOC Method, especially  if you have natural hair. This is a layering of products that helps to seal the moisture into your hair. It’s an acronym for (L) Leave in or Liquid (O) Oil or in the fall a Butter works best and (C) is Cream or your styler. As the temps drop be sure to replace your oil with  great hair butter such as Keirenea Honey Dipped Hair and Body Butter ( click here  Keirenea.com ). The butters stand up to the cooler weather better than the oils.

Fall Forward

For this look I just brushed my hair up and smoothed the sides with the Honey Dipped Butter, and tied it up with an old knee high. Yes I used a knee high. The flexibility of being able to tie it at the size I want along with the stretch of the fabric works best for me.

My wide leg jeans came from my closet, but I have found a similar items ( click here for similar) . My accessories are all Plato’s Closet scores for $45 I got these Michael Kors Platform Heels (click here  for similar). The Cross Body Bag ( click here for similar), and the Tassle Necklace ( similar), The wrap is from Ashley Stewart ( click here for similar) . Just for you we have curated a Fall Forward Store where you can get all your items in one place.

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Remember to embrace the natural beauty of my most favorite season! If these tips and trends or for you please follow us on social media, we are on Instagram – mrsphatandnaptural, Facebook – mrsphatandnaptural.com and Twitter – mrsphatandnap, and if you like what we do please comment. Be easy and Fall with style.

Fall With Style

Was this not one of the best summers that we’ve had in a long time? I know it has been for me, but atlas, we bid adieu to summer.

So we have officially entered the Fall of 2014. It seems that we have been seeing articles and posts about it for the last 6 weeks. And wouldn’t you know it, here’s another one. As we bring the first week of autumn to a close I thought it fitting to get a look at the fall favs from New York Fashion week.fallwithstyle

Get the most out of your wardrobe by adding a few pieces to update your existing items. If you read my post on Playing Fall Keeps you will see how to transition your summer looks into fall. I noted some wardrobe basics that will help you stretch your looks.

www.dionnedean.com
www.dionnedean.com

So you got your basics, you have your transition tips, now what?
In this post I’ll give you the newest trends so you can Fall With Style. According to all those in the know, these are the items colors and themes you want to add to your stash.

 

 

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www.tinkascloset.com

“Fall Goes Pop” To quote Monif C. Pop of color that is. The colors for this season are as rich and deep as I aspire to be, lol. They have fluid names like merlots, cognac and sangria. Royal and cobalt blues replace the basic navy blue. Don’t be afraid to wear colors on your bottom either. For so long we have conditioned ourselves to wear black or dark bottoms. I say give it a shot of life. Wear the sangria pants or the cobalt capris, heck I know for myself I love a printed bottom.

www.monifc.com
www.monifc.com

The Bold and the Beautiful– Be bold wear prints and patterns, they are very much the look. I even have a pair of black and white striped pants in heavy rotation. They feel good and after I got the first 5 compliments, I knew this was a look that was working for me. Whether you wear stripes or abstract prints, small or bold prints that is up to you.

Don’t Be Mad Wear Plaid– I know what you’re thinking Lumber Jack right. That’s cool, but there are so many plaids, such as this Eloquii Tartan plaid coat, or Lane Byant plaid cape coat. DSW has a pair of smallprint plaid Madden Girl Zumba booties that are so cute.

www.elloquii.com
www.elloquii.com

 

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www.ashleystewart.com

Put Your Cape on Your Back and Be Super Bad- Capes and more capes, cape coats, shawls and all. This look appears very regal to me. There are capes on every level. We see cape coats from Lane Bryant to a vintage cape worn by Dionne Dean.

Knits Together- I’m not talking just your basic chunky sweater, I’m talking full on knitted sweater suits. Head to Toe knits. Sweater leggings, sweater dresses, and sweater skirts. plpno

Shine Bright Like a Diamond– Shinny metallics such as steel and aluminum grey are seen in all aspects of apparel. Of course shinny stones and studs are also accessorizing everything from clutches to jean jackets and pants.

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Fur You and Me- Faux fur is seen in capes, shawls, and vests. I love my white faux fur vest from Rachel Zoe. Gabifresh rocked her fur as a faux fur stole, it reminds me of that old Hollywood glam of the 50’s and 60’s.

Let’s get Sporty- Not just your jersey from your favorite sports team, but there are very fashionable tops and pants that are sporty and sexy. The jogger leggings are what you will see a lot of. Tinkas Closet has a “Dreamer” Sweat shirt, I love it, but it doesn’t look like something you want to sweat in. So your getting sporty but it still sexy.sporty

Leather It Up– Leather pants, jackets dress, even leather accessories are in. Some are just leather accents such as a leather collar or fringe on a garment. You are going to see more and more leather dresses, skirts and of course jackets.

www.asos.com
www.asos.com

Hello Moto- Motorcycle jackets are my favorite trend of this season so far. For the most part they are flattering to all figures, and you can get them in varying styles to fit almost every occasion. I know they can be a bit pricey, but your just have to be on the lookout for good prices. I got an off white one around June from Lane Bryant for less than twenty dollars. It was 80% off! On the other hand I bought a black one from Burlington Coat Factory that cost over one hundred dollars. So in other words you gotta watch and grab. LOL!

It’s all in the Jeans– The jeans that make the cut this season are ripped and they are either skinnies or boyfriend. I myself love the skinnies. I love to be able to feel my jeans on me, and preferably I like them to have a little stretch so they hug the curves. Although the colors vary, they are mostly distressed. I get most of my jeans from Burlington. My plan is to hit the thrift store and find a reasonably inexpensive pair of well-fitting jeans and beat them up. If this works I will definitely be posting about it!plaid

Lastly keep your eyes appeal for satins, velvets, and chunky knit scarves. Purses are clutches or large doctor bags with unique accents. The Jewelry is black, and they shoes are going pointed.

www.dsw.com
www.dsw.comtoe.

I know it seems like a lot of information, and maybe you can’t figure out how to make it work for your style.Just know Everything is not for everybody, as my Daddy used to say what ever you find take it home and make it look like you!

 
See Ya Phatty!