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Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

As if being the former First Lady of the free world wasn’t dope enough. Aunty Chelly continues to take us higher dropping body goals, life goals and most recently vacation goals.

As the rest of us are just trying to make it through the day, Uncle Bam and Aunty Chelly have been on a most epic world tour. From golfing in Cali, to yachting it up with Richard Branson, chilling in Tahiti, and the latest traipsing through Tuscany!

Doing her usual and customary Fashion Slayage our forever Flotus set the internet a blaze with her choice of wears for the Italian leg of their Vacay. So far this Club Monico, BCBG ensemble is my most favorite. Although this look is uber casual, and seems effortlessly chic, the BCBG pants alone are $178. That being said, I give you the Wear It Wednesday, Flotus edition for under $135.00.

Shirt– I found at RiverIsland.com for $52. The sizes run from 14-24.

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

Pants – Boohoo.com size 12-20

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

 

 

Sandals– Target.com they go up to a size 11

Wear It Wednesday: FLOTUS STYLE

and of course the tiny topper  Shades, necklace, ring.

Even though We haven’t arrived at the point in life where we can go meandering through Montalcino on a Monday, at least we can look First Lady fly!

 

Spaghetti Straps & Ballet Flats: The Weekender

 

 

The Weekender

I don’t know about you but I’m always trying to balance comfort and style on the weekends. Usually you have to sacrifice one or the other. But I think I nailed it this time! My black spaghetti strapped sheath dress is ultra comfortable. However, it might look a little weird throwing it on to run to the grocery store or to do errands. But when you throw it on with the ultimate comfort gear, a  ” white tee” and some ballet flats, it screams ” casual glam”. This day was a little chilly, so I put my cropped denim jacket on top. To free up my hands while shopping, writing checks, or just to have somewhere to keep my keys & wallet, I grabbed this clutch sized fringe purse. Channeling my inner B-girl, I wore my gold hoops with my dookie rope chain.

This is the perfect Saturday style to run errands, or go shopping, but still be able to go meet a friend for lunch. The flats are good and comfy so you don’t have to worry about hurting dogs when you’re done!

Shopping Tip: The tip is, this look costed me nothing! I shopped my closet. The LBD is just a wardrobe staple that I have on deck, and now the I’ve learned how to dress it down its official a AP ( All purpose) LBD ( Little black dress). The denim Jack is the same one that I embellished ( here) . The ballet flats are from Asos in a wide width of course. The fringe bag is from a last year from Fashion To Figure.

The Weekender

The Weekender

The Weekender

The Weekender

101 Natural Hair Tips: Wash Day Hair Tips 21-30

First things first…confession time. As much as I love my hair, I am not a lover of the wash day tango! I’ve heard the argument.

101 Natural Hair Tips: Wash Day

” If you don’t love your washday, maybe you need to change your regemin”.

 

I think there may be some truth to that statement, but in my case I can’t agree. I’ve never liked washday, even when I was a kid. My hair has always been very thick and adding water is my kryptonite!  Unfortunately for me there is no way around it, to have hhealthy hair, you have to keep it cleansed. Since returning to natural I’ve found a few tips and tricks that help cut down on time and stress to my tresses. BT dubs, this is also post 3 in series of 10 billion on 101 Natural Hair Tips. For now check out our washday tips and I’ll link the other post ( Natural Hair Basics 1 and 2) at then end of the post.

 

21. Detangle Hair before washing.

I’m sure you’ve heard this one before, but it’s the number one tip to reduce hair loss and cut down on wash time. Section the hair into as many sections as needed ( usually 4-6). Depending on how tangled my hair is I sometimes start with as many as eight and combine a few of them in larger chunky twists as I go along. Try added some conditioner and water to aide in the process. Use a clip to pin up the completed section.

 

Freshly washed 🙌🏽 proud of myself for getting wash day out the way this early 🙃

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22.Detangle using a wide tooth comb, detangling brush, or your fingers.

My fingers are my magic tool of choice. When using your fingers, you get to feel the hair as you are detagling. However I also love detangling combs and brushes. The wider the tooth the better. Make sure your comb or bush doesn’t have any missing or broken teeth. They could snag or pull on your hair and cause damage to your strands. I usually end up with 4 sections.

23. Start detangling from ends and work towards the root.

There is one very simple rule in place here. Don’t comb from the root to tip. By starting at the ends and working your way up the shaft it minimizes hair loss. The most effective technique that I have found is to add the conditioner, and finger detangle under running water.

24. Wash your hair in the sections

This simple step will avoid retangling your tresses. Apply the shampoo at the root and work towards the ends. Make sure to cleanse the scalp, by gently massaging the scalp with your finger tips. Then work the later down the twist to the ends. Avoid using a circular motion this can encourage tangles and clumping of the hair.

 

25. Use sulfate free shampoo, cowashs, or ACV rinses to cleanse your hair.

Now I’m not hear to agrue for or against either method. I’ve used all three and they all work. However, if you find that your normal products aren’t working you may need to do a clarifying shampoo. I do one every 2 or 3 months.

26. After shampooing spray hair with olive oil.

After shampooing but before conditioning, run some Olive oil through your hair. I find this helps with manageability and softness,especially between deep conditioning. Rinse all the shampoo out. Run some Olive oil through your hair. Work down the shaft, the rinse.

27. Apply conditioner with praying hands method.

I know it sound weird but just give it a try. It will decrease the opportunity for tangles, as well as coax the cuticle to lay flat. The cleaning process raises the cuticle, and now we need to make sure it starts the process of closing to lock in the moisture.

101 Natural Hair Tips: wash day

28. Deep condition with heat.

Adding heat helps to penetrate the hair shaft increasing the  effectivness of the product. If you don’t have a hooded dryer, use a plastic cap, or plastics bags and use your own body heat.

29. Be careful of protein overload.

Although protein is good for your hair, you don’t want to over do it. I’ve read if the label says “repair” wither its a DC or a leave in, it has protein in it. Too much protein will cause excessive drying and damage. It’s almost as bad as heat damage, which ironically protein prevents…but that’s for a future post.

30. Document The Process !

I can’t stress this enough. I can’t tell you how much impact this will have on increasing the amount of good hair days. It’s like cooking from a recipe verses cooking from memory. By keeping a simple hair journal of what products you used and how you used them, you’ll easily be able to figure out what works and what doesn’t.

Now here’s to an easier washday! For more tips click the links below.

Natural hair basics 1-10

Natural hair basics 11-20

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5 Ways To Speak Life Into Your New Year

As we left 2016, I couldn’t help but notice all of the references, posts, and comments on how bad the year was for a lot of people. I even saw some uber talented individuals made an actual horror movie trailer of all the headlines. It was hilarious! However this only further proves my point that so many people are feeling dispaire. To use the words of our current FLOTUS ” We are feeling what not having hope feels like” . But please let me encourage you don’t get “Trumped Up”. There is always hope. As long as we are here among the living, it is our duty to make everyday the best day, and be grateful for the opportunity to do so.

I’m not saying we won’t have bad days. I’m just saying don’t stay in the dark places too long! As for me, I am claiming 2017 the year I live with purpose. I believe in my magic! Are you with me?

Here are five ways you can speak life into your new year!

1. Use Your Words Wisely 

 

You become what you say about yourself. So keep it positive. This is something we’ve all heard all our lives. You know, if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all. Even in scripture ” For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. So fill your heart with good words. Sometimes I print my favorite quotes and hang them in places where I can see them when I need encouragement. I have them in my car, around my house, and oh boy do I have them around my office at work. Lol that’s a whole other story 😁. I also keep my vision board posted by my mirror and  it is my screen saver on my phone. It reminds me to keep the good vibes.

2. Hold Your Thoughts Captive

Be intentional with your thoughts. I’ll be the first one to say, this is hard! But it’s so necessary. You can’t let the negative talk begin. When you feel the negatity taking over, redirect your thoughts. If you like music, this is a perfect time to create a playlist. Play those songs when you know you need a pick me up. If you have a favorite motivational speaker or podcast hit play and get it into your head. Again the quotes, and words of affirmation come in handy here as well. I once had a difficult coworker that I had to deal with everyday. Someone gave me a workplace prayer, which I hung on the wall right behind my monitor, so I read it all day everyday. It helped me to be mindful of my reactions to her aggressive behavior.  Without my reaction she had no fuel. Eventually she stopped her behavior with me and moved on to another coworker which got her fired.

3. Surround Yourself With Good People 

Even if the people around you don’t understand what you are trying to do, as long as the don’t try to project their  fears on you, they are good people. Sometimes people are so use to being negative, and gossiping, and talking bad about people that they don’t see anything wrong with it. Stay away from this! My dad use to say, if you bring a bone you’ll carry a bone. In other words the same person who’s talking negatively with you will do the same about you.

4. Believe You Are Great

Like Beyoncé said,” I’m feeling myself ” sometimes you just have to feel you own self! BT dubs have you seen Insecure AF on HBO,? I love the way Issa raps to herself in the mirror! Lol I’m not saying you have to break out your rhyme book, but you can stand in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, smart, and wonderful you are. I saw an old clip of Jay Z on Hot 97,  saying how his uncle told him he’d never sell a million records, and he didn’t believe him. He knew he’d sell a million records and that’s all that mattered.

5. Do Your Best

This one doesn’t take much explaining.Go the extra mile! Work at your best, and you’ll yeild the best results.

Just be dope!

On that note **drops mic**

5 ways to speak life into your new year

 

12 Great Office Christmas Party Looks From Instagram

Tis the season for free food and sparkly dresses ! In other words the office Christmas party! Having trouble figuring out what to wear? No worries I’ve been eyeing my Instagram feed and here are 12 fabulous looks to inspire you. BTW if you aren’t following us on the gram why not?!

Go for the gold!

Cold Shoulder!

Phone full of selfies = a great weekend!! I'm well rested ready to push through the next 5 days!

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Add a little sparkle!

Get laced!

Wear the pants!

Steal your boyfriends tee!

'Tis the season to steal your boyfriend's t-shirts! 💕🎄🌟#boyfriendsclothes

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Be the lady in red!

I'm *CRAZY IN LOVE* with this dress and the lace detail y'all!!! 😱😱😱 This dress features a STUNNING sweetheart neckline with lace over top and a SEXY open back cut out. This dress is a MUST HAVE!!! ❤️❤️❤️ The Red Lace Peplum Dress is only $60 Canadian (about $46 American) and is available RIGHT NOW, in my store *AND* on my website!!! 💸💸💸 3126 Dundas Street West, Toronto, Canada www.yourbigsisterscloset.com The link to my website is in my profile! 😉 You can also see what this dress looks like from all angles in all the sizes on different size models on my website!!! 😘😘😘 Kaity (on the left and is about 5"3) is wearing the 1XL, Tess (in the middle, and is about 5"8) is wearing the 2XL, and Jewelz (on the right, and is about 5"6) is wearing the 3XL! 👑👑👑 This dress JUST came in, along with a BUNCH of NEW arrivals!!! 🙌🙌🙌 Happy shopping ladies!!! 🛍🛍🛍

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Wine to dine! Lol

Put your cape on!

Get your shine on!

Red hot for the holidays!

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Use your tulle!

 

All in all have fun! Don’t drink too much! And if you must dance on the table wear fabulous shoes!

Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself: I’m Not A Blogger, I’m A Resource

What’s good my good people? It’s been a minute since I’ve posted. It’s been 7 weeks, and in blog life that like 2 years lol. Allow my to reintroduce myself.

My name is Uhura. I am the founder of Mrsphatandnaptural, and I’m not a blogger. I’m a resource.

Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself
Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself

My hiatus started with me trying to find my way through mourning the loss of a good friend. I told myself I needed to take some time to deal with what I was feeling. The days rolled into weeks and here we are! During these weeks I had to reevaluate my direction and revisit my motivation for starting this platform.

Here’s my why: Originally the idea started out of my frustration in trying to find a dress for a friend’s wedding.I felt as if there were limited options for me. Most of the dresses weren’t flattering, and even fewer were fashionably up to date. Everything I found made me feel older, bigger, or out of fashion. I was so discouraged by the process that I ended up not going to the wedding. When I began my transition to natural hair, I struggled with finding the right products, routine, and regime to get my hair healthy and fit for public viewing. I knew I had to do something for other women struggling with these issues.

I'm Not A Blogger

I'm Not A Blogger image

I'm A Resource
I’m A Resource

 

It is God’s will I have a blog. My objective is first and foremost to honor my purpose and spread the word of God’s Love. Second is combination showcase and information platform for my Sisters. This has been such a blessing to me, I have virtually and physically meet so many people whom have enriched my life. My prayer is that I have done the same for someone else. I hope you love the ride as much as I do. Thank you for being with me.

Be Blessed

5 Hot Fall Colors And How To Add Them To Your Plus Sized Wardrobe

Well it’s here! The Fall season is upon us. You get to sport the boots, sweaters, and jackets we all love! Although I’ll definitely be pulling out some of last season’s wears,I always added a few pieces from the new trends to freshen up my wardrobe. This year I’m going with some of Pantone’s hottest colors to keep me up to date.

Every year Pantone Institute delivers its report with the names and code numbers of the hottest colors for each season. This Fall the colors were lead by the Blue Color Family. Here’s their official statement:

The desire for tranquility, strength, and optimism have inspired a Fall 2016 color palette that is led by the Blue family.

Other than blue jeans, I’m really not a fan of blue…however there are quite a few colors on the wheel I am loving! Now you know I’m not trying to break the bank, so most of these pieces are well under $100.  Here are my five favorite colors of the Pantone Fall 2016 Colors :

Warm Taupe

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Boots- Wide calf “Circle Over The Knee Boots” are from Ashley Stewart $ 47.70 and the size range is 8-12
  • Hat – ” Tassel Brand” floppy hat Ashley Stewart for $ 29.50
  • Jeans- Fashion To Figure ” Chipmunk Skinnies” $42.90 size 12-24 they are BOGO %50 Or 2 pair for $ 64.35 !
  • Polish- OPI “Over The Taupe” for $9.00
  • Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Forever for $7.99

B T dubs; I have this brand of lippies in another color and I love it. Kinda like a cross between lipgloss and lipstick. It lasts long, feels smooth, and isn’t tight like some matte lippies.

Potter’s Clay

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat – Shark Bite Belted Trench is from Ashley Stewart for $ 79.50 sizes 12-26
  • Jeans – Ultra Soft Jeggins are from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 39.50 sizes 12-26
  • Dress- Asos Curve 70’s Blossom wrap dress for $31.00 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Revlon Colorstay lip stain in ” London Posh” for $ 8.99
  • Polish- Essie called Potter’s Clay for $9

Spicy Mustard

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat- Studio Neck Tie Fit and flare coat from Elouquii $ 199.99 40% off with code  AUTUMN sizes 12-28
  • Skirt – Side Elastic Ponti Skirt is from Ashley Stewart priced at $ 34. 50 sizes 12-26.
  • Shoes- Wide width Mid heel wedge are from Ashley Stewart for $29.70 sized from 8-12.
  • Lip- Poiz the color is “Daisy” priced at $15.99. I haven’t tried this brand yet…but I’m DEF buying a tube soon!
  • Polish- OPI it’s called ” The “IT” Color” it sells for $ 9.00

Aurora Red

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Shoe  – Eloquii wide width Pointed Toe Loafer for $ 79.50 sizes 7-12. Use code AUTUMN for %25 off.
  • Jeans – Fashion To Figure ” Racing Rae” Skinnies $42.90 size 12-24 as above BOGO %50
  • Dress-Asos Curve Club L wrap dress for $24 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Revlon Ultra HD Matte in Passion for $7.99.
  • Polish- Essie called Maki Me Happy  for $9.00

Shark Skin

Fall 2016 Pantone Colrs

How to add it to your Plus Sized Wardrobe:

  • Coat – Asos Curve Wool blend Skater coat for $ 128.98 sizes 12-26
  • Shoe- Torrid wide width Cutout Lace Up flats priced at $ 36.50 sizes 6-11
  • Dress- Asos Curve Club L  Ribbed keyhole dress for $30.00 goes up to size 24.
  • Lip – Nyx Macaron lippie color is Black Sesame $6.00
  • Polish- Essie called Cashmere Bathrobe for $9.00

So there you have it! 5 of my favorite 2016 Fall Colors, complete with how, what, and where to get them straight into your closet! What are your favorite fall colors? Better yet, what trends are you loving this fall? Drop us a line in the comments!

Happy hunting!

 

Ashley Nell Tipton Capsule Collection For Boutique+ at JCPenney

 


Ok ladies this is it! Finally stylish clothes created for plus sized women by a plus sized women! Ashley Nell Tipton has done it again! The ready to wear plus sized godmother has unveiled her 2016 boutique collection for JC Penney and it’s  hotter than ever! And guess what? She used real plus sized women of every shape, height, and size! Bravo to Miss Ashley! Take a peak below…oh yeah don’t be shocked she used some of our favorite real women! 😍

Flawless Fabulous Fit & Flare Dress

Flawed & Fabulous

Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare

First off I have to say this dress is one of those pieces that gives instant confidence! Nothing makes you feel as good as a great Dress! I picked it up from Fashion To Figure last year &25 buy one get one free at TheCurvycon. I’m not really a dress girl so I don’t wear it often. I tend to wear more dresses in the summer so I pulled this one out this week.

From the time I put it on I realized something that never dawned on me before. Fit & Flare is my perfect silhouette. I’ve said it before,  one of my body flaws that I dress to camouflage is my midsection. This shaped dress ( sometimes called a Skater) makes my flaws fabulous!

The dress shaped my body in just the right places. It hugged the top, and flared out at the waste, creating the affect of a well defined high waistline.

The dress is strapless so to make it office appropriate I threw on a denim Ballero that I thrifted a few months back. A statement necklace that I picked up for $5 at Walmart, and a silver clutch that I got at Ross for less, my summer staple fringe sandals, and some silver hoops complete this look.

Conclusion: Fit & Flare makes my flaws look fabulous!

Flawless Fit & Flare
Fit & Flare Dress : Fashion To Figure (last year) – Denim Ballero: Thrifted- Flawless Clutch: Ross For Less- Necklace : Walmart- Fringe Sandals: JCPenny

 

Flawless Fit & Flare
Flawless Fit & Flare

 

Hot In The Office: 3 Ways To Keep The Business In Your Business Casual Summer Wardrobe

Finally we are getting some hot days! I love summer fashion! The flowing dresses, bright colors, and light air feel to the clothes just puts a smile in my heart! As with many offices, my job has a business casual office attire. Although there is no clear definition of “ business casual” sometimes people forget the business and add a little too much casual.

In the warmer months we usually get that not so subtle reminder from HR. You know the one informing us of the obvious warmer weather, imploring us to use good judgement when dressing for working, and asking us not to embarrass ourselves, fellow coworkers, or the company. Yet and still some people don’t get the hint.

Casually Speaking

Navigating the difference between what’s appropriate for business casual and what not may not be easy. In my office we have certain restrictions which are pretty standard.
1. No sheer or see through clothing ( yes it needs to be stated).
2. Shoes must either have a strap on the back, or closed toes.
3. No cutoff shorts
4. No Tshirts with graphics
5. No swim wear ( yes it has happened)
My summer staples are maxi dresses and skirts, light denim, and bright colored everything. I incorporate these items in heavy rotation for work and play. So, I have a few guidelines of my own that I use to keep it stylish and appropriate.

Party On The Bottom

Lapecasapreciosa
Lapecasapreciosa

 

 

Pair your bold print pants and skirts with a neutral top. Choose a solid white, denim, or a another summer neutral that matches the bold print.

Whatnickawore
Whatnickawore

Bright Bold Beauty

Inmyjoi
Inmyjoi

Add color, bright colors, bold beautiful, summers tops and or bottoms. The bright color just screams summer. I love yellows, corals, and teals.

Robin Charmage
Robin Charmage

Cover Me

Iamfabellis
Iamfabellis

This one is my saving grace! I usually keep a light sweater or denim jacket on the back of my chair. You know those pretty sleeves summer dresses and shirts? Guess what you can wear them to the office! Just keep a blazer, jacket or sweater handy to cover your arms and voila! Office appropriate.

Jenesaiquoithe
Jenesaiquoithe

So there Girlfriend! Now as it heats up outside, make sure you keep it cool, casual, and be about your business!

As always stay tuned to our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest for more business casual inspiration!