Inspired By – Imitation VS Duplication

Inspired byHave you ever heard the saying, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” ? Well, there’s another side to this coin. Duplication is the surest way to fail. In this era of social media we are constantly bombarded with images, ads, and words that tailor our thinking one way or another. Although we have begun to tout this mantra of self-love and body acceptance, it’s no secret that everyone wants to be like someone. It’s human nature to imitate and implement the things we love about someone or something else in our own life.

In fact as followers of Christ we are charged to live a life that can be imitated by others. We are to be Christlike as Christ imitates The Father to be Godlike. The bible says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew‬ ??chapter and verse

The real danger comes from trying to duplicate others actions, looks and or life.

“Why Be A Copy When You Were Born Original” by Oscar Wilde

Follow me now, this relationship with trying duplicate others is a slippery slope.

For one, it’s not authentic and you will not be able to keep it up.
For two, when you can no longer keep up the charade it will cause feelings of defeat.
For three, people can tell when you are not real.

Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t look to others for inspiration, but we need to apply these thing to our life as it fits us. I believe we need examples of how to be, as well examples of how not to be!

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I remember the older women always saying

“ Take It Home and Make It Look Like You”.

In this picture I was inspired by ChiChi from Supple Chic. I could have gone out and had a skirt like hers made or tried to buy one, but instead I went to my closet and found this plaid pencil skirt that I got from Torrid. In fact the cut of that skirt may have been a little easier on my mid section lol.

At 5’3 and well over what is considered an acceptable weight, it’s no question that I have to be creative when dressing my body. My legs and hips are one of those features that I love about my body, so for me pencil skirts give me the curvy longer look that I prefer. I choose to wear my shirt on the outside because, to me it looks and feels better on the area (tummy time) 😉 that I don’t care for.

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So, do look to others for inspiration. Do not try to duplicate them. While they say “For every one idea you have, three other people have it at the same time” but nobody has your version of it!

Remmber be the best you that you can be! Because everyone else is taken!

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15 Steps To A Love Affair … With Your Hair

15 steps to a love affair with your hair

1. Make sure you are speaking the love language of your hair. How, you ask? By knowing your hair’s porosity level.

Trying to love on your hair without speaking its language:

not exactly the ideal love huh?

2. Wine and dine her with tender vittles! Not literally the cat food, but lean proteins  like eggs, Salmon, nuts, also brightly colored fruits and vegetables, and Greek yogurt. Just remember what ever you put in your mouth, will show up in your hair. Some of my favorites are spinach, salmon, and almonds.
3. Pour on the love potion, Water! This is the only way to truly add moisture. Drink it, spray it, look for it in your products.

4. Communication is the key! Learn to listen to your hair. You will be able to feel when it needs a trim, or extra attention.
5.Turn up the heat! Wash your hair with higher temperature water, this helps to open the cuticle.
6. Be cool! Rinse your hair with cooler temperature water. This helps to close the cuticle sealing in the moisture .
7. Be gentle. The best thing to dry your hair with is a t-shirt. Using a towel can pull and tug adding stress to your tresses. As long as you are not dying your hair it will not ruin the shirt, so yes its reusable.
8. Some times you have to go deeper. Deep condition every 4-5 weeks. You don’t need to do it every week, but you should at least do it every month to a month and a half.
9. Be clear! Cleanse your hair every 6-8 weeks with either a clarifying shampoo, or ACV Rinse.
10. Get trim. Now the time line depends on your hair and its condition. At least every 8-12 weeks is a good ruler.
11. Profess and protect! After 6 weeks your protective style has lost its protection.

12.Seal the deal! Coat your ends and your edges with a good oil. Castor Oil, Olive Oil, Coconut Oil, these are the three most commonly used.

13. Loc it down. Employ the LOC Method: Liquid ( Water or water based leave -in) Oil ( Oil or butters in the winter) then last- Cream ( cream based leave-in / styler/ alcohol free gel)

14. Lay it on thick! In cooler temperatures replace your hair oil with a hair butter.

15. Trust the process. Love takes time and so will your hair love affair.

Lol I hope you have enjoyed our 15 steps to a love affair with your hair! Humor aside, we know, discovering how to love your hair is the key to a healthy and happy hair journey. What are some of your love gestures to your hair? Did we leave anything out? Please comment and let us know what you think!

Welp that’s all folks!

 

 

 

Comfy Cozy & Cute Winter Fashion: Sweater Dress

Sometimes winter fashion is all about the outerwear or footwear, but this post is about an oldie but goody…the sweater dress! The sweater dress has 50 Shades of style! I’m not a dress wearer but this dress is as comfortable as my favorite jeans, as cozy as a pair of sweats, and cute to boot!

It’s a dress that is comfy enough that I wore it to drive on a 2.5 hour car ride, and when I got there I looked as good as I did when I first put it on. The sweater dress is forgiving to your curves, and did I say it comfortable? Oh yeah I did!

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter FashionNext to comfort, the variety of style options is the best thing! You can take it all the way up with some pumps, or way down with a ballet flat. If you can make it work, they even look great with a fresh pair of Keds. My favorite way to rock this style is with a high knee boot, and an obi belt placed at empire waist height. By adding the belt it draws the eye up away from my belly! The sweater dress, knee boot look is a classic that can be worn by most body shapes.

As a more curvy girl, I love the way the sweater dress hugs my curves. You can wear them at thigh length or to the floor! They still look great!

Between the snow, the cold, and the ice, the Northeastern Winter can just make you fashion sick! So, make sure you have a cozy, comfy, and cute sweater dress in your fashion first aid kit! What do you have in your Winter Fashion First Aid Kit? What are your winter go to pieces and how do you rock them.

OUTFIT DETAILS:

Simular Dress Asos Curve Obi Belt Lane Bryant   Necklace Torrid Wide Calf Boots Lane Bryant 

My natural hair is smoothed up into a protective style updo with Cantu Leave in, separated into 3 sections the front section pinned to a pompadour anf the middle and side pulled forward and pinned to the gawds!

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

 

 

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

 

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

Lip Service- DIY Lip Scrub For Kissable Soft Lips!

Can you believe the real winter has rolled up on us with the quickness?  Just a few weeks ago we were wearing shorts for Christmas! Now this cold air has my lips tight like I’ve been baptized in lemon juice! And I’m a kisser so this is no bueno! After shoveling out from Snowmagedon this past weekend my lips were super dry! I have been moisturizing them but this is only a temporary fix. I decided to do some lips service and exfoliate my lips. So, I head to the pantry and whip up  DIY Lip Scrub.

Lip Service Diy Lip Scrub

Mix all the ingredients together, it should be thick like a paste. Apply a generous amount to your lips and rub them with your fingers, or you can just rub your lips together.

The best thing is you don’t have to worry about getting it in your mouth because all of these items are edible. Wipe off excess with a wet towel or rag. You can repeat until you feel the dry skin has sloughed off. The balance will keep in the refrigerator in a covered container for about 2 weeks.

Be sure to moisturize your lips right after you complete the process.

The winter tends to dry out my skin and hair to the extreme. What about you? Do you have a specific wintering beauty routine? If so we’d love to hear it. Please tell us what you think. Well until next time keep your lips kissable and soft. Muwah

Cultivating Joy: 5 Ways to Bring More Happiness to Your Day

 

Cultivating Joy

 

As I was writing this, I thought about how it makes me happy that my sons kiss me as soon as they see me. The other day I was trying to make a YouTube video (for the first time) and my middle son walked in and kissed me as I was taping. Before I could get upset, I laughed at myself. Even though I fussed at him, he came right in, kissed me and kept talking on his phone. I told him later that I was trying to tape and that his kiss was in the video and he thought it was so cool. Even now thinking back on that day it brings me Joy.
Now; for the business of “Cultivating Joy”, the term cultivate is usually used in an agricultural since. One definition means to nurture or help grow. So we are growing Joy here!
1. Acknowledge- See the little beauties that are with you every day. Experience the world through the eyes of gratitude. By taking time to be fully present in the thing you are doing, you are allowing yourself to experience the joy..

2. Connect- Surround yourself with the people, places and things that make you happy. If talking to your BFF or even your BF makes you happy, make an intentional effort to connect with them. If you took a vacation that was your favorite, print out the pictures and hang one or two of them up somewhere that will remind you of the fun!

3. Laugh- In today’s world of social media, there are more than enough Vines, Videos, and Snaps, that you can look up just to get a laugh! I know I love when someone shares a funny clip in the morning! That’s a sure way to get me on your page all day!

4. List Your Loves- it’s just what it sounds like. A list of things you love, it’s  almost like a play list. I actually have a love list of bloggers that I can always get inspiration from. I also have a love list of quotes, bible scriptures, and of course songs.

5. Put It On- I used to be a holder onto(er) lol. My favorite perfume, clothes, shoes, what ever. For some reason I would hold onto my favorite things and not use them. I still don’t get why, but what I do get is, I don’t do it anymore. Now I wear my favorite perfume everyday! When I’m feeling a little glum, I get glam! That perks my right up.
For some of us joy is a fleeting emotion. Or something that can only be attained by others. Very often we attach our since of joy to certain accomplishments. These events can contribute to the feeling of joy, however to cultivate authentic joy, you have to look within. Only you can make you happy. What are some ways that you cultivate joy? Tell me in the comments below!

Cultivating Joy

 

Cultivating Joy

Outfit Details:

Boots

Tights

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Similar Dress

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Necklace

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Fur Vest

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She Is Visionary: Vision Board Party 2016

This past Sunday, I had the pleasure of sharing a space with 30 or so inspiring visionary women. I attended a Vision Board Party, hosted by Nate’ Jones of Leaders In Lipstick. It was held in the private room at 710 Bar in Midtown Manhattan. As we arrived we were all greeted by Nate’s bubbly high energy which kept up the mood all night.

It was a B.Y.O.B ( bring your own board) bottles were served at request. She had magazines, glue sticks, and scissors strategically placed throughout the room. This was meant to encourage us to engage with one another. You couldn’t just sit in your corner, because you had to go across the room to ask for scissors, or glue, or maybe to see a magazine next.

Throughout the night Nate’ shared why she does vision boards, and the fact that she does two a year. For her it’s important to do a mid-year evaluation, to refocus or revamp based on new developments or new goals that she has for the next half of the year. We were also blessed with inspirational quotes from the likes of Eleanor Roosevelt, C.S. Lewis, Rumi, and other visionary thinkers from the past and present.

There was something about knowing that every woman there was seeking something new, something more, something greater that made the entire experience a creative whirlwind of inspiration. The company of ladies was a mix of brand owners, bloggers, entertainers, and their supporters. I even won a mug!

I’ve done vision boards before, some on a board, and some digitally. In fact I am much more used to doing the digitally, but I must admit, going through the magazines I was very drawn to the words on the pages. It’s funny, the last week of December, I already planned out my strategy and themes for where I wanted my platform to go. But after this event, I have new visions, and some new directives. Also, this was the first time my husband attended an event with me. I was touched by his gesture of helping me make my vision board. I even expressed to him that I felt this was symbolic of his willingness to help me bring my vision to action.

I believe in the power of visualization! In fact on of my favorite quotes is “ if you can conceive it, you can achieve it”. I am Christian, so I don’t look at this process as some magical spell. However just as many before me, I am reminded of some scriptures that lend themselves in favor of these practices.

“Then the Lord replied: “Write down the revelation and make it plain on tablets so that a herald may run with it.”
‭‭Habakkuk‬ ‭2:2‬ ‭NIV‬‬‬‬‬‬

Likewise, “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭3:20‬ ‭NIV‬‬.

Are the most commonly used in these boards. ‬‬‬‬

So even if you don’t go to a party or gathering, you should do a vision board for you life, your business, and or your career path.
There is no right or wrong way to do it, but for me the key to manifestation is praying and letting God work out the how and the why!

Do you have a vision of your future? How do you keep it in your sight? We’d love to hear your thoughts. Please comment.

As for now I pray that you create a vision of your life that makes you leap with enthusiasm!

Be Blessed

Just Act Natural: How To Stick To Your New Year’s Goals & Resolutions

With the coming of every new year, we make resolutions, declarations, commitments or what ever you want to call them. Very often we don’t even keep them for one week. The biggest reason is because we have these unrealistic unnatural goals, but we are not committing to the process. So Naturally we FAIL!

What if we were to take a more natural approach to these goals? Here’s what I mean. If you have made a goal to exercise every morning, but yet you have trouble getting up in the morning, more than likely you will not accomplish this goal easily. However if you tend to stay up later, or you religiously watch your favorite TV program, why not make a goal to work out during the commercials, or before you go to bed? This is more natural to you.

Likewise if you have a financial goal, but you are an impulse spender, plan your trip to the store, and only take enough cash to buy what’s in the plan. Need I say leave your card at home!

The standard saying is “it takes 21 times to make a habit”

but it also takes 21 times to change a behavior. If you have a particular habit that you want to stop, why not replace that motion with a similar motion just a better one. I remember when my Father was trying to stop smoking after 35 years and up to 2 1/2 packs a day. He found that putting a piece of gum in his mouth was the same motion and filled the urge. Surprisingly after about 15 days the urge to have a cigarette went away. The natural pattern was still the same, he just changed the product.

For me, one of my personal goals is to grind as hard for my own dreams as I do for others. I am naturally a pleaser. This one isn’t as easy, but I’m learning to see my success as an inspiration to please others with the information I give. Thereby serving my cause as well as my natural desire to help others.

So, as the new year comes in and you begin to make plans for living a better life, keep your natural tendencies in perspective. Use them to your advantage.

So as we leave 2015 and you start to evaluate your year and make plans for your future remember to just act natural.
God Bless

Curly Girl’s LITERALLY Last Minute Gift Guide !

 

 

Here we are Christmas is just a few days away! I’m sure you’ve done all your shopping and finished up like a boss, right? But wait you missed your favorite curly girl, what now? It’s  LITERALLY LAST MINUTE! No worries, I gotcha! Here’s my top  LITERALLY LAST MINUTE gifts for the naturals in your life:

-Detangling comb:
I know you’re probably like really, a comb? But as a natural we appreciate the value of a good comb. We also lose and damage them more often then you think so this is an awesome gift. There are even decorative comb sets to make the gift even more special 😉

-Hair Accessories
The beauty of being natural is all about hair acceptance. So help her crown her glory with a new hair accessory. Every kinky curly girl needs a goddess band, you can find these at your local beauty supply place or even Walmart.

-Scarves
A silk scarf can make or break your healthy hair, literally! Every girl absolutely  loves scarves, wraps and bonnets especially big ones.  Printed turbans have been making a huge statement these past few years. I bet she will more than appreciate it!

-Product
Being a kinky girl is very costly. We try very hard to stretch our products! If you’re not a naturalista you probably don’t understand the value of this gift. But any natural girl may just jump up and kiss you if you purchase her favorite product and/or shampoo!

-DIY Products
This is a little more personal then a commercially available product. Your curly will understand the time and energy you put into making her an oil or hair butter! Maybe even some aloe or flax seed gel! Follow us on Pinterest to check out some DIY’s!

Christmas is basically here, but it’s never too late to grab some last minute treasures! The great thing is, all of these are accessible to at your local drug store right down to Christmas Day! Now if you are the curly girl and you want to let your givers know what you want, send them this link lol! Don’t forget to like us on Facebook and follow us on Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest! Leave us a comment if you have even more last minute ideas!!!

 

Merry Christmas y’all!

Curly Girl Literally Last Minute Gift Guide

Holiday Look Books For Every Curvy Girl

Wow, can you believe the year is almost over? Where did the time go! Are you ready for the onslaught of Holiday Parties, Company Dinners, and End Of The Year Girlfriend Catch Up Chats? I know I’m not!

So what will you be wearing? Need a little help? Here are a few look books from some of my favorite curvy girls.

Each look book has outfit choices for different types of events. Now there are different types of curves, and everything doesn’t work for every body. These are some of my favorites bloggers and they all have different body types. Positive body acceptance is all about knowing you are not like anyone else yet you are good enough as you are.

I know people get all crazy about body types. Personally I think it’s a great way to find the best silhouettes and looks that accentuate the positive as well as camouflage the flaws. Yes we all have flaws! Self perceived or real.

Im not going to label the body types, so I’ve separated them by video length.

Check out these curves:

Looks for dinners, parties, and clubs.

Looks for dinners, semi formal events, and holiday parties.

Looks for dinners, semi formal events, and holiday parties

Looks for informal dinner, holiday parties, semi formal events, and glam brunches.

Don’t they look great! These look books are a guide but by all means make it look like you!

You can always find more style inspiration on my Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter be sure to like, comment, and subscribe! Here’s to a fabulous Haute Holiday!

Welcome To Glamrock: Frugal Fashion Plus Sized Look Under $25

I’m sure it’s no secret that being a stylish plus sized woman is not cheap. It seems that paying more just goes with the territory. It’s even worse for me because I shop with my ears. If you can imagine I’m just walking through a particular store and I start hearing things speaking to me. “Psst hey over here” ” take me home with you”. Sometimes trying it on will help me make the decision to buy or not to buy, and other times it’s so right for me that I just have to get it. I usually set a limit per piece of what I will spend. Such as I don’t want to spend $39.00 for a t-shirt! Yeah that’s just crazy-town! WelcomeTo Glamrock

Now, when that piece that’s calling out to me has a markdown price, there’s almost nothing that’s going to keep me from owning it! That’s what happened with this Glam Rock look. The entire look was only $25 at Burlington Coat Factory! The vest and the top are size 2x and the bottoms are 3x. This particular store has a decent plus size section. I shop both Women’s and Junior’s. The fur vest was the most expensive (if I can even use tWelcome To Glamrock hat word) it was $14.99.       I love these faux leather leggings ( yes I wear leggings, and I look great in them) they were a steal at $4.99 and the top was $5.99. That’s like getting a whole outfit for the price of my favorite jeans at 50% off. **tilts head and winks eye**. Well, what can I say, somethings are just worth the price.

Fashion can be frugal, and even plus sized fashion can be affordable and stylish. Now one word of caution when you find these low low prices you have to try them on. Very often there could be some fit issues. I always make sure the bottom of my shirts hits around the middle of my hips. That way it’s probably low enough in the back to cover some booty, and long enough in the front to cover my lower belly. The waist on bottoms is always my concern, sometimes it’s cut small but the legs fit great. That’s what works for me, but if you feel great in it, by all means get your Glam Rock on.
For more on how to look great in your clothes check out this post ( Plus size mistakes) .Welcome To Glamrock

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