Lose 20 Pounds In 24 Days

Hey, ladies it’s been so long! I trust that you are all keeping it Fab and Fussless ;-). I know , I know it’s been awhile since we’ve posted but we’ve been working on our waistline! For the month of February we have dedicated ourselves to #mpnnojunk #28daychallenge and 25 days down with 3 more to go we have lost a total of 20 pounds! Whoop whoop! Yes we are proud of that, so we want to acknowledge our hard work lol! Of course 25 days sounds like a walk in the park but it is hard to challenge yourself and deprive your body of all of its favorite deliciously fatty foods. Yes some days we wanted to give up and drown ourselves in chocolate, imagebut we honored our challenge. Once the weight started to come off those carrot sticks definitely proved to be worth it girl. It just a few pounds but it is a start.

Our goal is no :

-Fast Food
-White bread
-White rice
Also we did commit to at least 8-10 glasses of water a day. Although drinking plain water is best, if this is a challenge remember you can always add some frozen fruit to give it a little flavor. Woo and that no rice thing was a killer!  My people eat rice everyday! White rice! I must confess one of us  ate rice this month.

Now everyday wasn’t a perfect day and Valentines Day was a step back honestly, but the important thing was to get back on the wagon as soon as possible, keep trying and accomplishing a weight loss. To keep track of what we ate, we used the My Fitness Pal app on our phone.

You know we are quick to say we love the Curvy girl and we highlight ourselves as a hot piece, so our ultimate goal ain’t to be skinny, but to reward ourselves with great health and a few less rolls on our backs and inches on our tummy’s lol!image (And if giving up was ever an option at least I know my honey loves me as I am  ) lol it’s true though.

When the New Year came we mentioned trying to start a new goal of weekly exercising. http://mrsphatandnaptural.com/yup-its-2015-new-year-new-you/ so we have tried to stick to some kind of daily movement (cleaning the bathroom counts as burning calories too lol). imageIf you do not have the time to hit the gym always start your morning off with a warm up, just to get your blood flowing. As you already know we like to keep everything as simple as possible over here, so we like to find exercises that will get those calories burning in a short amount of time. On Pinterest I always find different workouts to do so my warm up is usually a 100 calorie burn:

-40 jumping jacks
-30 crunches
-20 squats
-10 push ups

The ultimate goal is to accomplish this five times a day, one dimageay lol! But definitely once or twice a day.

Also we have discovered the lazy girl routines. This allows you to watch your tv and burn calories during commercial break! I love two for one ideas! imageLet’s try and get these done 3-4 days a week and twice during each show for the night. Ok so that’s “The Have and the Have Nots” “Empire” and “Scandal” done .

Or you can dedicate a full thirty minutes to exercise and spend ten minutes on each target area.

-10 minutes arm exercise (3 reps each)
-10 minutes tummy exercises (3 reps each)
-10 minute leg exercises (3 reps each)image

So there really is no excuse to get moving, you can find the time! imageLet’s try and get fit! Share your progress with #fitphatty and every Friday we will talk about our progress. Don’t forget to like us on Facebook (www.facebook.com/mrsphatandnaptural.com) and follow us on Instagram @mrsphatandnaptural!

See ya soon Phatty!

By Ja’nay Tiaira of mrsphatandnaptural.com

Let The Snack Battle Begin

It’s Super Bowl Sunday! No one will admit it but to most Americans, this is a holiday. Just as the CME (people who only go to church on Christmas Mother’s Day & Easter) make it to Sunday service, as does all of America become football fans! We all sit around and watch what is kinda like a modern gladiator war. Don’t get me wrong I was raised by a single Father with brothers and mostly male cousins, so football season was like the “ Holy” season in my house. Yes the Super Bowl was the high holiday!

With all the SuperBowl Parties, Football pools, betting, and wagers that will be placed, the real battle Snack Battle 2015occurs in the kitchen. The Super Bowl snacks are just as important as who’s player or where you gonna watch it at. Well, to some of us. 🙂 We will consume more of certain snacks on this one day than the rest of the year combined.

So why is this a battle? Some of us have just committed to fitness challenges, weight loss goals, and healthy lifestyle changes. See my point? But have no fear there is always another way. You could just call it your cheat day, or opt to start over tomorrow. But why? Isn’t that what we always do? As Dr Phil would say “How’s that working out for you?” Honestly it’s not. Why not honor your commitment to yourself and make another choice? To get something different we have to do something different.

Americans will consume 1.25 billion wings this weekend. This is as important to the Super Bowl Party as the ball is to the game. Believe it or not it’s also one of the fattiest snacks on the table. But, you can’t have a Super Bowl Party with out wings. Try this healthy alternative!

Guilt Free Buffalo Wings.

Mrsphatandnaptural snack battlePlace 3 pounds chicken wings in a large pot and fill with water, covering wings by about 2 inches. Bring to a boil, then continue to boil for 10 minutes. Drain. Meanwhile, in a small bowl, combine 1⁄4 cup Hot sauce , 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice, and 3 tablespoons low-sodium chicken broth. I am going to split mine in half and do half in hot sauce and toss half in fat free Ranch Dressing.

Transfer wings to a broiler pan and broil, 5 to 6 inches from the flame, until the skin begins to blister and brown (5–6 minutes). Turn wings over and broil 4 to 5 minutes more. Transfer wings to a baking sheet, drizzle with the reserve sauce or serve on the side.

You won’t even miss the fat! Next up the Potato Skins. Yeah so there’s no way to make this on healthy so, Mrsphatandnaptural snack battlewe just have to change it. Try this

Twice baked sweet potatoes
• 2 medium sweet potatoes (8 to 10 ounces each)
• 3 ounces Turkey bacon, diced
• 2 tablespoons reduced-fat sour cream
• 3 teaspoons chopped fresh chives
• 2 tablespoons shredded reduced-fat cheddar cheese
Pierce potatoes with a fork, and arrange on paper towels. Microwave on high 8 minutes or in the oven for about and hour; turn potatoes over after halfway through. Cut each potato in half lengthwise, and scoop out the pulp, leaving 1/4-inch-thick shells. Mash pulp with 3 ounces Turkey bacon, 2 tablespoons sour cream, and 2 teaspoons chives in a bowl. Spoon mixture into shells. Sprinkle 2 tablespoons cheese over tops of potatoes. Microwave on high 2 minutes, and sprinkle with 1 teaspoon chives.

Mrsphatandnaptural snack battleFor the Main Dish, “Just Have A Salad” in my PhatGirl on the first date voice, lol! Not just any salad my son calls it the “kitchen sink”! Meaning everything in it but the kitchen sink. It’s a 7 Layer Salad that I found in a Weight Watchers cook book years ago. I have one of those families that if you tell them it’s “diet” they won’t try it. So I didn’t tell them for years 🙂 but they love it. My sister in law even makes it when she hosts, which happens to be most if the time these days! Muwah thanks Mama!


1 jar of salsa
1 head iceberg lettuce, shredded
1 red Or sweet onion, sliced
1 tub of low fat sour cream
1 (15 oz) can kidney beans, drained
2 large tomatoes, chopped
8 oz shredded Cheddar cheese
You can layer this salad how ever you see fit. I like to mix the sour cream and salsa together on top in lieu of salad dressing, but some of my friends like it separate and they add more salad dressing of their choice. Too each is own, but the idea is not to add dressing. I never realized how disjointed that sounds ” too each is own” I grew up hearing it, but when you write it, it looks weird. If you don’t know it means, each person has their own choices to live with.

Any-who, This is a great lower calorie low fat alternative to Taco salad. All the different layers of flavors will replace the need for empty calories. I know, I know, calories taste so good though. 🙂

What about the dip? You can go with a Mango Salsa or maybe a jar one, they are a still a lighter Mrsphatandnaptural snack battlealternative to the creamy ones. I’m going to try the Broccomole I know it sounds weird right? But I’m going to give it a shot!
• 3 cups chopped broccoli
• 1 jalapeno, chopped, seeds removed
• 2 tbs green onion
• 1 tsp olive oil
• 2 ounces fat free cream cheese (or silken tofu, goat cheese, sour cream, cashew cream, something creamy)
• 1/4 tsp chili powder
• 1 tbs cilantro
• 1/4 tsp salt
• 1/4 tsp black pepper
• 1/4 tsp garlic powder

Cook the broccoli in lightly salted water until very soft Overcook the broccoli in comparison to the al dente cooking that most recipes recommend.
Drain broccoli very well.
Transfer to a food processor. Add the remaining ingredients and process until smooth, add additional olive oil for smoother texture.

Keep in mind if you have the will power to limit your intake you can always just make mini versions of your favorite dish, like mini Mac & cheese cups, or sliders, but for me I always feel like I eat more because they are so small 🙂 Just know this is a battle worth fighting. One more note if you are not the host, why not call and ask if you can bring a few dishes of your own. Victory is yours you just have to come prepared. So whether you are voting for a team or just going to be apart of the festivities, don’t sabotage your chances at winning. So put your game face on and let’s get cooking!

Good Luck, see ya Phatty!

Forever 21

  We Become What We Repeatedly Do! What Are You Doing?

Forever 21 -21days to good habitsForever 21, ever heard of it? It’s a trendy store brand that makes affordable versions of the most popular fashions. They even make some of the trends in plus size. Well they go up to a 20 that’s what I call regular plus ( size 12-20) true plus are those sizes 22 and up…but I digress that’s not at all what this post is about 🙂 this post is about habits!

Just 3 short weeks ago we all proclaimed “This Year is going to be different”. We made the plan and Forever 21 -21days to good habitsstarted the program, but are we sticking to it? One of my proclamations for 2015 was to take better care of my hair. I have said before I am kinda the lazy natural sometimes. I’ve been creating a habit of twisting my hair every night. I usually wear protective styles so I only have to touch it once a week on wash day, but this year I’ve been wearing it loose, which requires me to have to touch it and moisturize everyday. I have been creating a habit of good hair care practices for 2015.

Forever 21 -21days to good habitsThis idea is to get these habits to become automated, thereby creating a greater chance that this habits will be part of your life forever. If going to the gym, or exercising is a task that you want to make a habit, get ready for the long hall! Research shows that it takes over 200 days for this automatism to occur. Good luck to us! Try using post it flags, as a reminder, number them from 1-21 and everyday you accomplish the said task remove that number.

Forever is such a long time to have a bad habits. So look back over your first 21 days of this year, what have you done most often? These are your 2015 habitual behaviors. If you’ve had a piece of cake every Forever 21 -21days to good habitSnight after dinner, this is not productive to your weight loss goals, you have to stop. What do we do if that thing we’ve been doing is not something we want to keep forever? The brainiacs say we can replace a bad habit with a lesser evil. So let’s say you smoke a cigarette ( not sure who’s rich enough to still smoke) every night after you eat. Instead of smoking a cigarette you now take a walk or drink a couple glasses of water. Once the behavior is automated its with you forever. As you can tell that after dinner time for people like me is a fertile garden for adding good habits.

Sometimes we can get into the habit without even realizing. “We are what we repeatedly do,” Aristotle proclaimed. Therefore we have to be conscious of our behaviors to avoid getting into a rut! As I was doing the research for this post I realize I have quite a few bad habits that I have unintentionally developed. I have made a habit of checking Instagram before I get out of bed, this will stop. I have imagereplaced it with praying and giving thanks as soon as I wake up. THEN I check Instagram 🙂 … just kidding! But this is a case where I hadn’t even realized that I was creating a habit.

So we have some good habits and some bad habits but we want to keep the good ones forever and make a conscious effort to change the bad ones 21 times. Make our habits forever 21.

We can’t truly stay 21 years old forever, but we can change our forevers on a 21 day cycle. Remember we may not look 21 years old, but we can stay forever 21 with good habits. It takes 21 days to create a habit. Forever 21 -21days to good habitSWhy not start today?

See ya Phatty


Watch Out For The Big Girls

Plus Size Women Take Center Stage!

image“Watch Out For The Big Girl”one of my favorite club bangers back in the day. I’m from Jersey so you know we do the Club Music. If you’ve never heard it you got to look it up and get your jam in real quick. Lol! Just imagine if we really had a plus sized daily printed periodical, what would some of the headlines be? This was my inspiration for this post. In fact I’m going to do one of these every few weeks just so we know what’s out there for us, so we can support it.


imageWell let me get this off first, you probably heard but, Full Figure Fashion week is back!!! That’s not the big news though, the big news is they’ll be coming to your city looking for fresh faced, full figured women to strut their stuff! Think you got what it takes? Well check out the tour dates and pack yo bags!
Countdown to 2015 begins as the FFFWeek® Casting Team goes on the road to scout the fiercest catwalk divas across the country. Meet them in these cities:
January 24, 2015 – Atlanta, GA

Time: 9:30 AM – 12:30 PM (line will close at 12:15 PM)

Signature Design Diva Day Glam Studios
4153 Flat Shoals Parkway
*inside the Trinity Park Office
Suites, Bldg C., Suite 300
Decatur, GA 30034
Hosted by Diva Day International

January 31, 2015 – Miami, FL
Time: 11:00 AM – 2:00 PM (line closes at 1:45 PM)

Location: Studio 504
504 NE 190th Street
Miami, FL 33179
Hosted by: Curve Nation, LLC

February 7, 2015 – Houston, TX
Time: 11:00 AM – 2:00 PM (line closes at 1:45 PM)
Location: The Mosaic Lounge
5927 Almeda Road Suite 190K
Houston, TX 77004
Hosted by DM Signature Photography
February 21, 2015 – Los Angeles, CA

Time: 3:30 PM – 6:30 PM (line will close at 6:00 PM)

Location: Hollywood Dance Center
817 Highland Avenue (between Willoughby and Waring)
Hollywood, CA 90038
February 28, 2015 – Toronto, Canada
Time: 1:00 PM – 4:00 PM (Line will close at 3:30 PM)
Location: Your Big Sister’s Closet
3126 Dundas Street West
Toronto, ON M6P2A1
(The closest major intersection is Dundas Street West and High Park Road. Your Big Sister’s Closet is located on the west side of Toronto).

March 7, 2015 – Nashville, TN

March 21, 2015 – New York, NY
imageNow I know what your thinking! Gabby looks really hot in that blonde hair right! I know, I think so too. This is the look she sports in her new role on the hit Fox drama Empire. For now the role is very minimal, but what struck me as I watched the show was, this could be anybody…but Gabby got it. This is one of those silent feats that often go unnoticed. Don’t worry Gabby, “I see you “. They could have given this role to any number of African American actresses in Hollywood, that have a more conventional look. I always hear Black Hollywood talk about how hard it is to get roles, so I think it’s triple hard for a black, plus sized, woman to get them. Yet Gabby keeps stunting on them, time after time. I’m proud of you girlfriend! I am hoping because of the position of her character it will lead to more scenes for her. I want to see more of her, what’s her story? How did she end up working with them and why does she stay and put up with Luscious Lion ( Terrence Howard). I tuned in to watch Gabby, but I’m going to be tuning in more often. I like it. Did I mention I love the Blonde Hair! Yeah !

imageOn the other end of the dial. Well, it’s not really a dial anymore, I guess I’m dating myself. 🙂 Anyway there were two cable premiers this year that have the plus sized woman as the center of the show. ” Big Woman: Big love” on Lifetime. It airs Wednesday at 10 pm. This show chronicles the dating life and search of 5 beautiful plus sized women. I love the idea of it, although it’s not my experience. I’m married and before I was married I’ve never really been single. I’ve always either been in a relationship or purposely single. Who knows, maybe never being single, is another plus size woman’s issue. So I’ve never actually dated as a plus sized woman, but I’m sure these ladies are lending a voice to thousands of single plus sized woman all over the country. I am sure there will be nay saying, but I say we have to start somewhere. I will be supporting this show, I’m happy that Lifetime chose to do a show about “Big Women” there are tons of reality shows out there and I’m proud that this is in the ring. I have not been able to catch “My Fat Fabulous Life” or “Curvy Brides” but we have to support them as well.

imageThe other show is ” It’s A Mann’s World” this is a show about David and Tamela Mann. Best know as Mr Brown and Cora from Madea, and Meet the Browns. I love this show! I love the positive portrayal of this loving family. It’s a blended family which I did not know, and so far it seems real. I’ve only seen one episode but it seems that they are consistent with the loving images of them that we have grown to love. I love that David consciously or unconsciously feels her up from time to time:-) this tickles me, being a married woman whose husband loves her plus plushiness I know the feeling! Sometimes you don’t even realize it’s happening. I see what people say to me, because she doesn’t even move, she keeps her head straight forward, bet when you see his hands disappear you know he’s touching her again, I love it! Unfortunately it comes on at the same time as Empire. So I will be DVRing them both and alternating between which one I’m going to watch live.

imageSo we recently saw a lot of curves on the Golden Globes. I was very proud to see the mainstream ( meaning my insta time line 🙂 ) featuring many Curlys and Curvys. The girls were really taking the curves to the carpet! I think Ava Duvernay was the Belle of the Ball. She was stunning with her natural hair tightly twisted and styled in an elegant undo. Selma was snubbed by the Oscar from what I hear. I’m not surprised but I just wish we were past some of those racial barriers. I loved Danielle E Brooks’s look. Yeah it was kind of a safe color and a little short but I think she looked stunning. She’s a beauty. Miss Jenny from the block! She’s not plus to me, but the world says she is, so I’ll take her. She’s been in the spotlight a long time and she still looks good! Theses were my three favs on the carpet.

imageLastly Ms Tahiry Jose has partnered with Color Club Nail Lacquer and has introduced a new scented line by Tahiry Jose! I can’t wait to try it! I love Color Club! And I’m pretty sure a scented lacquer is the bomb! She has seven scents, 50 Shades of Love has a candy scent, Jitters has a bubbly scent, On Cloud Nine has a white chocolate scent, Red-Handed has a cinnamon scent, Seal It With A Kiss has a strawberry scent, Sweet Getaway has a pink rose scent, Tall, Dark & Handsome has a cologne scent. They retail for $ 8.50 on the Color Club website. http://www.colorclub.com/collections/love-tahiry  I love the idea of a scented polish, so many people don’t like or can’t take the smell of nail polish, its a genius idea! Love it!
I grew up reading the Jet Magazine and I never understood why they noted the TV shows and music on the last few pages, even though I checked them every week,lol. Now I see the importance, we need to be informed so we can support. So go set your DVR’s or your listings and set a reminder to tune in to these show. If you know of any Curvys or Curlys doing things please comment or let me know. Ok Love ya!

See ya Phatty!

Yup, It’s 2015 New Year! New You?

Hey now, we are here 2015! This is your year! New year new you! Your year of abundance, weight loss, healthy living, long hair, and all things great! That’s what we all say right? Name it and claim it, speak it imageinto existence, ask, believe, receive. Yup, it’s like a new year mantra. We’ve all done it, so much so that there is a new trend towards not making any resolutions or declaration for the new year. Me personally, I love a fresh start, so I believe whole heartedly in New Year resolutions.
You remember when you were kids playing a game with your friends and you messed up? We use to yell “do over”! Well that’s the way I look at the new year. It’s your chance to start over.

Over the holiday break I have been bing listening to Myleik Teele podcasts so I am really amped about the possibilities of the new year. One of the podcast was about failing forward. She talked about that special feeling of seeing some pick up the pieces and start again even after numerous stumbled. I truly embrace the P.U.S.H philosophy. Proceed Until Something Happens.

How about this, new year new thinking! You have to PUSH to get progress. Even if 2014 was the worst year imageyou’ve ever had, this is you chance to be renewed and start over. Lord knows we’ve all had some not so stellar years, but that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. We all have a desire to do better. Some want to look better, some want to feel better, some want to act better, some want to just live a better life altogether. In order to do better in any aspect of your life, you have to change your thinking.

You’ve probably heard this before, but Habakkuk chapter 2 tells us to write the vision and make it plain. This brings me to my tools for change in 2015. The board, the plan, and the program.

imageThe Board is the Vision Board. I am a list maker usually, but this year I went out of the norm and did a digital vision board for Mrsphatandnaptural.com. Some call it a Dream Board, what ever you call it, just do it. By creating a Vision Board it allows you to imagine the possibilities of achieving new goals. For me it is also a visual reminder of what habits I need to develop that will help me get to my desired position. When doing your board use pictures, words, phrases that represent your vision for 2015. The benefit of doing it digitally is, I have put it on my computer, tablet and phone as a screen saver and or wallpaper so I can see it often. You can use Pic-monkey, Pinterest , or any picture joiner or collage app. When you create your vision you should use at least one vision of the biggest dream you can imagine for yourself. Why not dream the big dream? Jim Carey wrote him self a 1 million dollar check at one of the lowest points in his career. Back then, it was this impossible vision, but as we know, today he can write quit a few million dollar checks. This time they can be cashed though, lol. Now don’t be fooled. This is not some magic trick, it’s part of the process of changing your thinking! Here is our vision board for 2015.

One of the most common goals among naturals is to grow longer healthier hair. imageIf this is one of your 2015 goals why not join one of those healthy hair challenges to make it fun? So here’s the plan. You can try the Protective Style Challenge, The Castor Oil Challenge, or the No Heat Challenge. I always see them on Instagram and Facebook. They usually last for about 90 days. If you follow the hashtags you can get tips on what others in the challenge are doing and how it’s working for them. Try using #protectivestylechallenge #castoroilchallenge and or #noheatchallenge, to get the rules and parameters to do the challenge. Don’t forget to post your progress and include the hashtag!

Throughout the years I’ve always started a diet/workout routine and eventually (a week or two later lol) I imagewould fall off. Honestly my mind set would be “I might be big, but at least I’m fly.” These days I’ve realized that exercising and eating right is actually treating myself. I’ve come to realize that this is a lifestyle. It’s not a diet or a lose weight routine, it is your everyday life. Good eating and exercising is great for your hair and skin. We find many reasons to not exercise, but we need to find reasons to start! How about good health, weight goals, great skin, etc.

So here’s the program. Even if you’re not looking to lose weight, exercise is good for the heart and maintaining your luscious figure! I know, one big reason we don’t, is trying to fit the gym into our lives. But you can get right in your bedroom. We’ve compiled a list of effective tips you can do right at home for 30-40 minutes of your time. Throughout my time of researching how to change my lifestyle I discovered that you must break your workout down to be more effective, and target an area of concern and incorporate that into each combo. For me, my target area is my stomach. So whether I am doing arm day or leg day I still will do an exercise that is for my stomach. Now you have to find exercises that you are comfortable doing at home and that you can do with little to no equipment. Then break your exercise routine downs.

Arm Day                             Leg Day                   Stomach Day               Combo Day
Prayer Lifts                       Squats                      Squats                             Squats
Half Arm Circles           Sumo Squats        Sumo Squats               Tricep Dips
Tricep Dips                       Lunges                     Tummy Twist              Prayer Lifts
Modified PushUps      Glute Lifts              Side Dips                        Sumo Squats
15 sec Planks                 Side Leg Leg          Lifts Side Reaches    Half Arm Circles
Crunches                         Frog Leg Lifts        Crunches Tummy     Twists
Waist Twist                    Reverse Crunch   Frog Leg Lifts              Side Squats
Superman Pose            Waist Twist            Reverse Crunch        Crunches
‘Y’ Pose                             Side Squats            Waist Twist                  Frog Leg Lifts
‘T’ Pose                             Jump Squats                                                       Banana Lifts
Mountain Climbers

For each exercise pick a number to start off with (example 15 squats), remember the number you pick is not the staple. Repetition is the key! Pick your number for each exercise and run through each set 3-4 times. Do not break for a long time because you want to keep your heart rate going. If you buy hand weights, keep in mind to start off with low weights like 5lbs and do reps with your weights 3-4 times. (* If imageyou are nursing do not lift weights, but you can use them while squatting or maybe twisting, but do not lift because your milk will dry up!)

You can also subscribe to different YouTube channels to get your cardio in. Buffie the Body has a YouTube channel BodyNomics, I like the videos targeted for the stomach and inner thigh area. But you can go for a brisk walk for 40 minutes. Do not stroll because you want to keep your heart rate pumping. If you want to start running, start off slowly.( Even if you are in good shape.) Walk for 5 mins, jog for 1 min, walk for 5 mins. Repeat for five times. Do this for 4-5 days, rest, and then up your jog time.

Remember rest in between each week and always hydrate before and after each run. Do not eat anything heavy beforehand, just a piece of fruit or toast, but always refuel afterwards! Cardio is a quick and efficient way to lose weight quickly. If you are trying to maintain your weight you need to burn 1100-1200 calories, but if you want to lose weight you need to burn 600 more calories.
Phew! I’m tired from just writing this!! Lol!! I know that was a lot to take in, but let’s move on.

A big issue with exercising is how to wear your hair when exercising. I do not like to sweat my hair out, ‘imagecuz ain’t nobody got time for that! So you can always wear your hair in a protective style. Rope twist and braids are always a good go for me. If you are wearing your hair straight one week there are some curlies who wear their hair in a really tight ponytail while exercising. But personally I like to wear my hair wrapped up and tied down tightly. Don’t let your hair hold you back!

Lastly do not compare your journey to another curvy! We all gain and lose weight differently. Start your weight loss goals low. Tell yourself in the next 3 months “I plan to lose 20-25lbs.” Once you see results you will want to keep going! Now none of this means you have to stop enjoying your favorite foods, but we just have to cut back. And don’t try to reward yourself a “cheat” day. There is nothing to cheat on. This is not a diet, but a way of life. If you decide to eat something that made you feel guilty enough to feel as though you are cheating on yourself, then just exercise twice the next day. Reward yourself with  good health! Now, if I could just drink my own Kool-Aid 🙂

Remember even if you fall off one or two days or even a week, don’t beat your self up. Just get back on imagethe wagon as fast as you can.

All right ladies, now let’s go make this year our best year ever! See ya Phatty!

Top Five Ways To Take The Fuss Out Of Fabulousness

2014 Top 5 Fuss Free Fab Tools
2014 Top 5 Fuss Free Fab Tools

Hey Sistas, well 2014 is coming to a close and we are knocking on the door of 2015. Last New Year’s Day, I made a promise to my family for the year of 2014; I would enjoy my life more and get back to loving me and sharing my wonderfulness with the world. LOL! Little did I know what God had in store for us. At that time, I didn’t know that I would start a blog to share my natural journey, and my struggle finding fashionable affordable plus sized items that fit my style. By the way my style is, I love the high maintenance look but I’m lazy so it has to be easy! 🙂 Most of the time I have the plan in my head but, I don’t work on it until the last minute.
This brings me to my Top Five favorites of 2014. This was not easy because I am the shortcut queen. So everything that I love involves Taking the Fuss Out of Fabulousness. I truly believe you don’t have to spend all day to look like you do. Now don’t get me wrong you can’t live on a short, sometimes you have to do the work, but my philosophy is if I lay a great foundation I can skate a little. With my hair, I make sure I practice ideal cleansing and conditioning regularly so I don’t have worry about breakage, thinning, and loosing my edges. Same goes for my wardrobe I try to buy staple or capsule pieces that are easy to put together to look fab with out much fuss.

  • image1- My two favorites are a tied for #1, the Ecostyler Olive Oil Gel and Cantu Shea Butter Leave In are absolutely my favorite short cut tools of 2014. You can find them any and everywhere. From Walmart, Sally’s, to your local beauty supply and or drug store. For me there aren’t many drawbacks I can name. They work very well together and keep my hair looking healthy and shinny. I must admit for most of 2014 I really didn’t use much else on my hair.  The only draw back is if you are too heavy handed with the Cantu you can get a white residue on your hair. I use this combo on my Puff which is my goto style, and it keeps my edges slayed and laid. This is also the combo I use on my twist outs. My entire family uses the Cantu, and we all have different hair types. I tend to use them together but they are both equally fierce all by themselves. When ever a Curly asks me to recommend products, first a ask them about there wash routine and the next step is this recommendation. One of the best things is  the price point. For the price you can’t beat the results. I know people who pay a lot of money for expensive products and their hair doesn’t like it! In January I did my final mini chop cutting about 4-5 inches of permed hair off and from then on I used almost nothing but these two items to style my hair, until about August when I was introduced to the Carmacare line. I feel like I can’t name them a fav because I only used them for about 4 months of the year, but they definitely get a more than honorable mention. I love the Seal-n-Shine and the B’leave-in Conditioner. You can get them at www.carmacare.net .image




  • 2- My number two is the Spanx Stockings. Now this breaks one of my rules. They are a little expensive for a disposable item, but I like to call them resposable. They wash well and regain their shape perfectly. Being a big girl that hates shape wear is not good, and I’m imagenot one of those Phattys that have that cute little pooch, nope I got belly! These stockings are the truth, because they hold it down and doesn’t squeeze the life out of me. I usually pick them up when they are on sale. The fit is perfect for Apple Shaped Phattys like me. It’s one of those things that you can wear everyday. Yes, did I mention that I hate shape wear? That being said these are on my favorites list. I am very particular about wearing stockings because the last thing I need is them rolling down and settling under my belly making it look even bigger, but these come all the way up and they stay there.
  • 3- Number three Mac Ruby Woo. This color seems to look great on everybody. After all who doesn’t love a red lippie? When I first saw it my cousin Mekkus was wearing it and I was compelled to tell her how great it looked. She is a brown girl like Kelly Rowland. Then I imagesaw one of my coworkers with this fab red lip and she also said it was Ruby Woo and she’s an olive colored white woman. I have a tan complexion (yes that is Rihanna representing me,lol) and it looks great on me too. That’s why it makes the list. It surely takes the fuss out of Fab. If you are like me and you don’t have time to spend 2 hours contouring and blending or how ever long it takes. Get you some eyeliner, mascara and some Ruby Woo and let it do what it do.
  • 4- Number four is my Strawberry Water. I don’t like to drink water but of course to be healthy it’s very necessary. I know a lot of places sell fruit infused water and special water bottles, but as I mentioned earlier my favs are easy. When first started doing this I would just imagebuy a gallon of water from the store and a bag of frozen strawberries, put the strawberries in the jug with 3-5 pks of Splenda. Let it sit overnight and drink it all day. I started doing this to help me stay full, but little did I gather the affects the strawberry water would have on my life. My skin and hair love it and yes it helps curb my appetite. Eventually I purchased a water bottle with a ice tube to help keep it cold. I happen to like strawberry water but you can try any frozen fruit you like. I know a lot of people do all kinds of other recipes that have a lot of steps but for me this is the best way because it’s so easy and taste great so that makes it easy to stick to.

5- My 2014 number five fav is the LOC Method. This oh, this woah, I love this and so does Froesha ( the name of my hair). If you don’t know what this is, it’s definitely one of the greatest short cuts to imagehealthy hair that I have found thus far. If you don’t have time to deep condition often this is what you should do. Once I started doing this there was no turning back. For me I do this with every wash. So you know it’s easy! 🙂 I use Carmacare B’leave in as my L. Carmacare Seal-n-Shine is my O. My C is Cantu or Carmacare Hair Soufflé Shea Butter. I’ve also had success with (l) Cantu leave in (o) Olive Oil (c) Soultanicals Marula- Muru. The process is so easy, after you wash and condition your hair, you apply the leave in of your choice, it’s best to use a liquid leave in if it’s your 1st time doing this. Next you seal the hair with an oil. Last apply a butter or a cream as the final moisture lock. I finger comb through each step and evenly distribute the layers throughout my tresses. I have air dried, twisted and blow dried after this process it really didn’t make a difference this method keeps my hair moisturized until my next wash. It’s one of those style as usual processes.

Well girls that wraps up my Top Five ways to Take the Fuss Out of Fabulousness for 2014. I pray that we will all move into 2015 with great expectations, plans and goals to keep going higher in our lives. We at Mrsphatandnaptural.com have some challenging and exciting imagethings planned for 2015. We love a fresh start, so here’s to a new year and a new start!
See ya Phatty!

The Journey to Hairvana – (the best haircare regimens for any curly)

Hey Curlys, Have you ever seen another natural and wondered what they used. I am always wondering what they did to achieve that style. Sometimes I even go up to them and ask what they are using. It took me quite a while to find what worked for me. I was watching all kinds of YouTube videos and trying all kinds of product and most of it was not working for me. I think this is what makes some of us give up on the process. Every Curly has to find their own regimen on this journey to reach hairvana. I know this is a process and it takes some effort on your part, but it’s so worth it! I found that a good hair regimen ( click here to purchase your Journey To Hairvana products) is the key to successfully moving on down the road. If I had to break it down, there are basically 3 types of natural regimens . We are going to call them:

imageThe Lazy Girl-
Don’t let the label fool you. Very often The Lazy Girl’s hair looks great. She is consistent and has found the best goto practices and product for her life and style. She sees Hairvana as the KISS girl Keep It Short and Simple.

The Active Seeker-
She is always looking for the next best thing. She tries lots of products and styles because she is actively seeking the newness and excitement of her natural hair journey. She always has another style, product or process that she has been using. Hairvana for her is the versatile nature of being natural.

The Tress Lover
This Curly LOVEs her tresses. She spends as much quality time with her hair as she does with anyone else. She is diligent about her routine and very often there is no other way to Hairvana for her. She gives her hair love and attention as if she is cultivating a garden to cure world hunger.

Hair care means different things to these girls. Although they all seek healthy hair, lifestyles, time and hair goals make the difference in where you may fall in the spectrum.

The Lazy Girl-

I think I’m just past lazy and just behind seeker. Although there are times when I am full on Lazy. In these times my regimen is simple and quick. Usually it consists of a Cowash and rinse out conditioner, the LOC method, then my puff or whatever goto style I’m sporting. I can get by with this for at least 3 weeks before my hair needs some TLC. Being a lazy natural just means you don’t have a lot of steps to your routine and you probably have a signature goto style. You are truly the if it ain’t broke don’t fix it kinda girl. imageThe key to pulling this off is not to get so lazy that you damage your hair, and finding the right products and goto style to always look pulled together. For me my puff is my 5 minute updo and the Green top Ecostyler gel, took me beyond the wall. I didn’t find it until I was natural for a few months. The Cantu leave-in was my mountain top experience. Once I found it I used it everyday. It’s my leave-in after I wash, my gel for my puff, and my cream for my LOC method ( LOC means Leave-in +Oil +Cream) after I cleanse and condition I apply the leave-in next I rub through my oil ( almond, coconut, jojoba ect.) then I rub the cream or sometimes I use butters ( Shea, marula, mango). So just because your a Lazy Natural that doesn’t mean your hair looks like it. Find the right products and go to style and you’ll be in like Flynn. Who ever Flynn is, I don’t know but he was always in, lol. So if the last thing you need is another tasks to squeeze into your day, you might need the Lazy Girl regimen.

Follow these easy steps to keep your hair looking great.

1. Make sure you are realistic in you hair goals. If you are lazy don’t expect to wear a style that requires a lot of maintaining.image
2. Find the right products and remember some do double duty. Your conditioner may work to detangle. Your leave my keep your hair laid like a gel.

3. If you wear protective styles, make sure you moisturize, and don’t keep them longer than 8 weeks.
4. Deep condition at least monthly.
5. Employ the LOC Method it will help keep your hair moisturized.
6. Find your signature style, and rock on!

The Active Seeker-

This is why I say I’m in between, I do change my hair about every week. I usually wash it every week and when I can, I get a new style. Although I go through phases of just the puff, or the 2 French twists, when I can’t get it done. I like to wear braids and twist styles that I change after I wash. I suffer from a dry itchy scalp so I need to wash it every week when I wear cornrows. In true seeker form I recently tried a scalp detox and it definitely worked for me. If you suffer from imagean itchy scalp like me, I would suggest you try it. Its a simple process that I used in place of my monthly pre-poo. It’s pretty simple you mix the ingredients section hair in small parts, gently rub the mixture onto your scalp in small circles. Let it sit for 10-15 minutes then rinse it out, and proceed with your wash/ cleanse routine. Lol, I have my moments! Oh but you know if you are the Seeker. You probably change your hair styles often and you are the one most prone to become a product junkie. Believe it or not most Curlys that fall into this category are the ones that end up with unhealthy hair. Sometimes you can do so much to your hair and never give it time to adjust to the new product or style before you do something else. This is probably in your DNA. It’s not just with your hair, you are this way with almost everything in your life. So if you are a seeker here are some tips to help you out.

1. Try to stick with a product or style for at least 1 week. This will give your hair time to adjust.

2. Stick to cowashing and or sulfate free shampoo, because if you keep using harsh shampoos you can dry your hair out. Add the scalpimage detox to your regimen. This will ensure you are allowing your scalp to get clean of buildup.

3. Be careful of too much pulling and tugging on your hair. This can cause undo breakage. Surly you’ve heard of traction alopecia. This is caused by too much tight tugging and pulling of hair and the shaft weakens and eventually snaps off. Most commonly on the edges but it can happen anywhere on the head.

4. Invest in a hooded dryer you will need to keep you hair well conditioned. This is a no brainier but I’ll say it for good measure.

5. In all your seeking seek healthy hair. Educate yourself as you go. Although you may love that new style if it’s not good for your hair imagedon’t do it. I see this over and over. The sacrifice of healthy hair for a short term style.
The Tress Lover-

And last to mention the The Tress Lover. We could all use you in our life. You love you, it’s not just a hair regimen. Your practices promote self love. lover girl you take pride in your mane! Often you imageconcoct your very own products and develop your own styles to show your hair just how much she is appreciated. Time spent caring for your hair is often scheduled like some women schedule their nail appointment. You never miss a washday! You are usually not as quick to jump on the band wagon for the next latest and greatest thing. But you will invest in those things that make sense to you and or have been proven to be beneficial to your hair. You spend hours stroking and training your hair. You are probably more apt to use a lot of natural products just to be on the safe side. You know that what you eat is just as important to your mane as what you wash it with. There’s almost no advice I can give to you so, instead I’ll share some of your secrets.

1. Get to know your hair. If you listen you’ll hear her talking. She’ll tell you when she likes something and when she does not.

2. Make appointments with yourself to spend time taking care of your hair.

3. Never sacrifice healthy hair for a style. Styles come and go but you want your hair to grow and show.
4. Make sure you are using the right products for your hair porosity. Do a porosity test. Drop a strand of hair into a glass of water. If itimage sinks quickly you have high porosity. Which basically means your hair shaft is open and you loos moisture quickly. If it floats a while then sinks you have lower porosity. This is “normal”. If it doesn’t sink at all you have low or compact porosity. This means the shaft is closed and most likely the moisture doesn’t penetrate the hair shaft. So once you know then what? High porosity -try using steam after you condition. Apple cider vinegar closes the cuticle. Always rinse with cold water. Low/ Compact porosity- try baking soda or glycerin, please test first. Hot water opens the cuticle, this is the key. Stay away from oils, they will only seal the moisture out. You can add ½ c imageof baking soda to 1 c of your favorite conditioner let it it for 15-20 minutes then rinse throughly with cold water.

5. Don’t be afraid to chose yourself first. You deserve it. Make an weekly appointment with yourself for some me-time. Schedule it in just like you schedule everything else. Plan it out and look forward to your beauty time. Invest in the right tools to keep your thing right. At the very least, a satin scarf or bonnet. Your going to need a wide tooth comb for detangling. A shampoo, a conditioner, a leave-in, and some hair/bobby pins, and scunchies are great for starters.

6. Read ingredient labels, the FDA requires that the products are listed in the order that they are added.

If it says it has Shea butter in it and it’s not listed in the 1st five ingredients it probably doesn’t have that much of it in there. The rule is the 1st 5 things are the base for the product.

I must admit there are times for me when I vacillate the different categories depending on what is going on in my life. When I do the research and I see what some of the other Curlys do, I say to myself I must be a Lazy Natural, lol. But I must admit I have been in every phase that I talked about here. The bottom line is if you feel that what you are doing is not working for you, don’t stick to it just because it works for someone else. Don’t get me wrong being imagenatural takes work on every level. But it’s one of the those things that you won’t believe you didn’t do it sooner.

On a personal note, as I was typing this I realized that I had hit an important point in my journey to Hairvana. This week I wore a dry twist out to work and it wasn’t as tame as the cornrows, twist, or my puff. Nor was it as defined as my twist outs and braid outs. Although I got a few compliments, I happened to be in the Cafeteria getting coffee when one of the Spanish guys from the warehouse approached me. He proceeded to say to “what’s up with your hair ?” “It looks like you just woke up”. My first though was obviously you never woke up with a sister because we do not wake up with loose hair! 🙂 but I didn’t say it. I smiled and told him well I’m a natural, which means I don’t chemically straighten my hair, nor do I try to fit into what other people feel comfortable with. I reminded him of when he started 8 years earlier and he had a long bushy ponytail, he sat back and smiled and said “yeah I had to cut it because it was imagegetting thin on the top”. That lead into a lighter conversation about if he had a daughter her hair would probably look like mine. Anyway afterwards I realized I didn’t even get offended. I felt very confident that my hair looked good to me so too bad if he doesn’t like it. As I walked back to my desk I started to feel very proud of myself. I was able to deflect his shade and even if he didn’t mean it he sounded fond of my choice to be natural. So what ever drove you to the decision to go natural, strap on your seat belt because it gets bumpy. All in all I know that my hair won’t please everybody, but as for me and my hair we are happy to be nappy!

Any who wether you are Lazy Girl, or Tress Lover, are even the Seeker, you have to find the best product to work for your approach. With the right products your regimen can be as simple as you need it to be and your hair will still look great! Don’t for get to visit our store for all your hair care needs.

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No matter how many steps you add to your process there are really only 3 basic elements, cleansing, styling and maintaining. How and what you choose to perform them is up to you. Just as anything else in your life if you put in the work, the results will show.image

Throughout the post I’ve dropped some tips and tricks that should ease you right on down the road to Hairvana!

So Curlys I encourage you to find your level and always practice good hair care. Remember make an appointment with your hair and keep it, listen to your hair she’ll tell you what she likes, and when in doubt reach out. You can leave comments here or on Facebook and Instagram, and if you are shy email us at mrsphatandnaptural@gmail.com.
But for now.

See ya Phatty!

Straight Talk

Hey Curlies, We are going to have some straight talk this time around. Straight hair that is, lol probably not what you’re thinking, huh. Now, I know some of the natural knotzi might tell you that if you manipulate the curl pattern it’s no longer natural, o.k we’ll let them think that.taraji To me as long as you are not chemically relaxing or texturizing your hair, it’s natural.

One of the benefits of being natural is having the ability and versatility to go from straighttaraji 2to curly to froed out. Some naturals wear only weave or crochet. That doesn’t make them any less natural than the ones that literally wake up and do nothing to their hair.  It’s all about preference, and I prefer to have plenty of options. Which brings me to my point, what are we doing with our hair for the holidays? We are now days away from the official “Holiday Season” and I like to do a little something different around this time of year. So I’ll be doing my second blowout and straighten since going natural.  I got it done last year for my birthday, which was about 5 months into transitioning and this will be the second time I’m doing it.  That being said, I feel this is a great time for us to have some conversations about straightening our hair. In general the most important thing we can do for our hair is proper protection. This process is no different.  In fact, it is more important that we use the proper protective products and practice good basics when using heat to avoid damage that can lead to hair loss.

One of my main reasons for returning to natural was to have healthier hair. It took some time to perfect what was right for me, and I am still learning new things every day. Although my hair grows fairly quickly I don’t want to do anything that will cause undue hair loss or that will cause me to have to start over.  There are naturals that never wear their hair curly, they strictly wash and straighten their tresses and they have healthy full heads of long hair!blow out2

As naturals we may not see eye to eye about all hair regimens (let’s face it we’re women we don’t see eye to eye about a lot of things lol.) But each preference is to each naturalista. No matter what she’s doing or not doing to her hair, we should not attack or insult her. That was the prelude to my topic, because I know the natural knotzi will not agree with me…but believe it or not straightening your hair is really not all that bad, and YES its best if you use silicone to protect and coat your tresses.  There I said it, sometimes silicone is helpful on this natural journey to hairvina! You just have to take the steps to avoid damage.FullSizeRender (1)

And guess what? The steps are really simple! Protect your hair, use a good tool, and wrap it tight. Yes it is just that simple, I promise you! I know from experience. I do not wear my hair straight often but I try to be knowledgeable on hair care and have researched everything that I share.  Whether we are straightening or not, protecting your hair should always be a main concern. So let’s start with that. And for good measure I have some Sister Science to back me up. Check out her video “fry Eggs not Hair”

  1. Heat no harm no danger

Protecting your hair should always be your number one priority. By applying the right products you can avoid heat damage as much as possible. I definitely swear by hair milk! Naturalistas always ask me what to use when straightening their hair and I always tell them to grab some hair milk. Just like milk, hair milk gives your hair great nutrients! Personally I use hair milk even when my hair is in its naturally curly state, because it’s also a great detangler! I fell in love with hair milk a long time ago when I discovered Biolage by Matrix and it was love at first feel.31XhxNqJjdL._SY300_  As the years continued on I discovered different brands that work just as great (and may be more cost effective for you!) I like to apply the hair milk after I apply a leave-in conditioner. You really only need to use a small amount of leave-in conditioner because you don’t want your hair to be heavy! The leave-in is an important step because you want your hair shaft to be conditioned before applying heat. If you don’t already know, I always swear by leave-in(s) and we have discussed great leave-in conditioners already; B’leave-in by CarmaCare, Cantu’s leave-in conditioning repair cream, Palmer’s leave-in, etc. Any leave-in that works for you is the right choice. I bet you know what is next.  Yes of course you need to seal all of these nutrients and moisture with oil. I did a post recently on God’s oil (olive oil my ride or dry) and the benefits, but there are so many sealants out there you can’t lose! Whether you use olive oil, coconut oil, almond oil, or a mixture of different oils it doesn’t matter. The key is to just a dime size amount before blow drying so your hair has movement. There are also some good products that specifically fall under the label of “heat protectants.”images



This step is what I should have lead with, but I got so carried away (you know I am a product junkie!) But the number one step to maintaining moisture is using the right shampoo! Shampoo can make or break your hair. Literally how much moisture your hair retains no matter what product you may use starts with your “wash” routine. Certain shampoos will completely strip your hair of everything, product build up and natural oils. Of course we all want our hair to be clean as possible, but we don’t want to dry our hair out! Dry hair breaks! So you definitely want to purchase a shampoo and conditioner that has humectants.humectants-and-moistureHumectants cling to H2o, thus soaking up water and allowing the hair to keep water on the shaft during the cleaning process. As long as you retain water your hair will not dry out and break. Always, always, always deep condition when using heat on your hair, as a curly anyway a deep conditioning regimen is always your best friend!


  1. Know How to Use Your tool

Believe it or not the type of blow dryer and flat iron can determine the amount of heat damage. Choose a ceramic tool when straightening your hair. These tools may be more pricey than most, but it is truly an investment worth your coins! A ceramic tool distributes heat evenly throughout the shaft. This guarantees less heat damage because no section of the hair will be more distressed than the other! I personally really like BabyBliss Pro Styler as a flat iron for ethnic hair.babybliss No matter what texture or how dense your hair is, BabyBliss will have your hair straight! BabyBliss also brings out your natural shine, and because it is ceramic you will have less chance of burnt hair, giving you maximum movement. Invest in a good blow dryer also to make sure you are getting maximum heat distribution. Another great key to good movement is to blow your hair out with a good brush using the medium heat setting! Not only does using a good brush guarantee great shine, but brushing stimulates growth cells so your hair will grow! It’s a personal preference if you want to use heat protectant before blow drying or after blow drying and before flat ironing (if using product on your hair before flat ironing and after blow drying apply a light amount to guarantee you will not fry your hair). It’s just very important that you use protection on your hair. You can go with the hair milk, grape seed oil, or even a commercially marketed product, just use a heat protectant.


  1. The Wrap Up

This is the step that will determine how long you get to keep this look. Good night time maintenance is the basis for longevity in almost all hairstyles. I shouldn’t have to say it but make sure you are wrapping your hair with a satin or silk scarf or a bonnet. In general I wrap my hair around my head in a circular mold because this helps to add a little body to my hair when I do the comb down in the morning.alicia-keys  Some people put a roller in the middle and wrap the rest of the hair around it. I’ve even seen women who have fairly long hair just pile it on top of their head in a loose pineapple ponytail and wear a bonnet. So there is no wrong technique here, whatever works for you and best preserves the hair is what you should do.

Every naturalista loves to wear her hair differently and we just want to insure your hair is as healthy as possible. Always protect your hair no matter which way you choose to wear your hair, but let’s just remember to take extra good care of our hair any time we apply heat! So again remember these simple rules to achieve an awesome blow out with minimal damage:

  • Shampoo and condition with humectants
  • Deep condition (at least 15 minutes with heat and 45 minutes without heat)
  • Apply the right products; Leave-in conditioner (dime size amount), hair milk (nickel size amount), and oil (dime size amount) *Remember when straightening your hair less is more. Too much product will weigh your hair down leaving you with flat heavy hair!
  • Protect your hair from heat
  • Use the proper tools! (Ceramic! Ceramic! Ceramic!!!)
  • Wrap it up with a silk or satin scarf or bonnet

Using these simple steps should allow you to maintain good moisture and less damage. Dry and brittle hair looks good on NO ONE, and flat heavy blow outs are not flattering! Always wrap your hair every night and try to use the least amount (if none) bobby pins to avoid indentation marks (especially if you have finer hair).2013 American Music Awards - Press Room Ladies we just want you to look good but also keep your hair healthy! So let’s stay on the straight and narrow, or not! LOL

See Ya later Phatty!

Don’t Fall Off – 10 Ways To Stop Your Hair From Falling Off

falloff  When the season changes people tend to get lax with the routines that keep them looking good in the warmer months, just because you get to cover up that doesn’t mean you have to fall off.
In the cooler weather your hair sheds more due to the colder dryer air. Not to mention the heavier garments rubbing on our head as we wear them. Even when you put them on and take them off, believe it or not they are rubbing and snagging your hair causing increased dryness, shedding and unnecessary hair pulling. We all love to wear fashionable hats and scarves to stay warm and look cute, but the real tea here is that these are one of the biggest natural hair dangers that you will face this season. Unless you find some that are lined with satin these are clearly an avoidable danger. But with the right adjustment you can minimize your casualties and keep those tresses in track.

Here are 10 hair care tips and processes to keep your hair from falling off

1. Eat, Drink, Grow– This one definitely requires the least amount of effort. Add Vitamin A to your diet. Leanhairffood proteins, such as Salmon, and Cod Liver oil, green leafy veggies, like kale (recipe for Kale chips), sweet potatoes, blueberries, bananas, broccoli, nuts, and carrots. Also green tea and plenty of water.

2. Do You Pre-poo– This is especially important if you are transitioning. It’s almost as simple as number one. Just coat your hair with oil for at least 30 minutes before you shampoo. This can be done as you detangle or if you do it before it will aide in the detangling and decrease the time and the amount of shed. (Side note remember to use a wide tooth comb or your fingers to detangle!!!) I usually do it the night before and just sleep with a plastic cap and head scarf / bonnet.

3. Feel Butter Soon– So this is a real game changer and may contradict some other claims out there, but for me hairbutterit works wonders. Replace the coconut oil with Mango and/or Shea Butters. There are also a variety of very exotic butters out there but these are the only two that I can personally vouch for. Regardless of whether you choose a raw form or a processed form it’s all up to you. Sometimes the more processed form is safer for me because it’s not as concentrated and they usually add smell goods to them just for you, lol. If you are more adventurous than I, you can try some Ucuubba Butter, this one is known to have some antiseptic properties. If you are looking for shine and strength you can try Muru Muru Butter. The Kokum Butter is said to stimulate the scalp and promote hair growth. You can find these at most health food stores, on Amazon, as well as other online retailers. You can now find Shea and Mango butter anywhere and in just about everything. The most popular Shea for hair is the Jane Carter Nourish and Shine Shea butter. It’s an oldy but goody and it still works great wonders. The process is simple and easy, just apply it to your wet hair after you cleanse to lock in the moisture. You can also use it for styling your damp or wet hair if you are going with a two strand twist or braid out.

4. Aloe There– Apply an Aloe Vera gel mask to your hair. This is done after you cleanse as well. You can use a DYI Aloe gel (DIY Aloe Gel Recipe) or you can purchase the gel right off the shelf. You saturate the hair from rootdryertrick to tip, place a plastic cap on your head and let it sit for 30 – 40 minutes. You can add heat and it will only take about 20 minutes. Then rinse hair with cool water. This will add volume and shine to your hair. If you do not have a hooded dryer you need to allow the conditioner to sit on your head for an hour or longer with the plastic cap on and or a hot towel wrapped around your head. If you are inventive enough you can position your hand dryer somewhere that you can sit under so it will blow low heat on your cap. Sit under it for 20 min. Just be sure not to get close enough for the dryer to burn you.

5. Go Deep– Deep condition your hair at least once a month. It is usually recommended that you do it every other week, conitioners under 10but if that’s too much you should do it at least once a month. Believe me you will be happier with your hair if you deep condition. I actually don’t have a preference for one deep conditioner over another. In fact I use whatever I have on hand. I recently won a bottle of Jessicurl Too Shea extra moisturizing conditioner from the Natural Partners in Crime fall giveaway, and I used it as a deep conditioner.

6. Behind The Mask– There is some similarity with hair masks and the deep conditioners. They are very similar, but the mask is much more concentrated. Masks are designed to hydrate, seal and repair your hair. They use to be labeled with names like re-constructors. The application process is the same, you want to add low heat, and rinse with warm water.

7. Seal of oil sealersApproval– The seal is oil or butters. One of my favorite sealers is Olive oil. I also love the Carma Care seal and shine. This is also the most beneficial use for coconut oil if you have thicker hair. In fact by my estimation the best way to use coconut oil is as a sealant on wet hair. You can use grape seed, argon, almond, or Jojoba oils as well. Personally I mix my oils with water in a spray bottle and use the almost daily. I use Olive, Argon, and Mint Almond oils. This is usually the step after you apply your leave in conditioner. Or just before you style or blow dry. You want to make sure you retain as much moisture as you can in your hair. All you do is apply it from root to tip and rub or comb the hair with a wide tooth comb, no need to rinse.

8. L.O.C It Up– The L O C method is a fairly new process to me, but I can tell you it is a transitioners dream. This is a very simple 3 step process that is done in lieu of deep conditioning. It does just as it says, LOC, you are locking in the moisture from your wet hair in. For me this has been the best way to make sure the line of demarcation is strengthened and moisturized. If you are a transitioner you know this term. It is the line where the process hair meets the natural hair, in other words “the breaking point”! This is very beneficial for all hair types and accents any style you use. The L stands for Leave in or liquid. I use Carma Care B’Leave in locmethodleave in conditioner. The O stands for Oil. You can use any of the oils you like but I use my oil mixture or you can incorporate your butters here. Coat the hair from root to tip with the butter or oil of your choice. The purpose of this step is to seal the leave in and the liquid in. The C is for Cream. I use my Cantu leave in, or my Carma Care Shea Souffle. You can use any curling creams or whipped product you like. If you have finer hair you may want to use the cream first them the oil. Technically that would be the L C S but some prefer that method so the hair is not too slippery. The hair should be a little slippery. NOT slick just slippery. At this point you can blow dry and style if you are doing a dry style. Or you can twist or braid the hair as usual. I saw instant results after the first time I tried this. My hair retained the moister at least 2 to 3 days longer than usual. And my twist out! Was the Bomb! Straight jelly!

9. Protect Ya Neck– it’s very important to employ low manipulation styles. Comb you hair as little as possible. The cooler months are the ideal time to sport braids and twist. The reason they call them protective styles is very evident. You need to protect your hair from damage. For me, the higher you keep your hair off your neck, the less likely it will be rubbed and pulled by our scarves, turtle necks and sweaters. Keep your ends tucked in, protected, conditioned and trimmed.

10. Poo Who You Don’t Have to Cry about It– I have shared before that I only use shampoo about once a month. I Co-wash. As we are trying to build moisture we also need to do as little as possible to take the moisture out. This brings me to my philosophy on shampoo vs no poo. It’s very basic. Shampoo strips moisture from the hair making it dry and dry hair breaks right. So why do we do it again. Oh yeah, because that’s what we’ve always done. O.K. I got it. Any who, Healthy cowashNatural Hair 101 is don’t over use shampoo, (side bar I was sent a sample of a shampoo bar from Lia Naturals- it came in my Natural Partners in Crime fall give a pack I was impressed). I say limit the shampoos to once or twice a month and co-wash and clarify in between. In my post about shampoos under $12, I explain how I co wash and clarify with apple cider vinegar. By the way, if you read the back of the conditioner and the shampoo you will see a lot of the same ingredients. This is because most conditioners have cleansing agents in them. The ACV, further clarifies the hair, restores the ph balance of your hair and closes the hair cuticle.

The most important thing to remember is that your hair will be attacked by moisture robbing elements all season long. Even if you don’t wear any wool, knit, cotton, or polyester, which is quite impossible in fall, the cooler temps alone will do a number on your moisture retention. But have no fear we have some easy options to help you amp up the moisture level in your hair. This is the main objective in the fall. By keeping your hair properly cleansed and conditioned you will be able to combat undue hair loss that often occurs during the fall and winter months. nopooAlso because we recommend practicing low manipulation protective styling you will need to be diligent about taking good care of your hair when you touch it because you will not be touching it as often as you would if you were styling it every day.
Even if you just choose one or two of these fall bases and stay on them, that alone will improve your hair retention and growth. Additionally I will post a Suggest Fall Product Guide and Protective Style Look Book on www.facebook/Mrsphatandnaptural.com . Remember watch out for the moister robbers this season. We don’t want them to get away with any of our hair. Let’s grow together.
See ya Phatty!

Fall With Style

Was this not one of the best summers that we’ve had in a long time? I know it has been for me, but atlas, we bid adieu to summer.

So we have officially entered the Fall of 2014. It seems that we have been seeing articles and posts about it for the last 6 weeks. And wouldn’t you know it, here’s another one. As we bring the first week of autumn to a close I thought it fitting to get a look at the fall favs from New York Fashion week.fallwithstyle

Get the most out of your wardrobe by adding a few pieces to update your existing items. If you read my post on Playing Fall Keeps you will see how to transition your summer looks into fall. I noted some wardrobe basics that will help you stretch your looks.


So you got your basics, you have your transition tips, now what?
In this post I’ll give you the newest trends so you can Fall With Style. According to all those in the know, these are the items colors and themes you want to add to your stash.




“Fall Goes Pop” To quote Monif C. Pop of color that is. The colors for this season are as rich and deep as I aspire to be, lol. They have fluid names like merlots, cognac and sangria. Royal and cobalt blues replace the basic navy blue. Don’t be afraid to wear colors on your bottom either. For so long we have conditioned ourselves to wear black or dark bottoms. I say give it a shot of life. Wear the sangria pants or the cobalt capris, heck I know for myself I love a printed bottom.


The Bold and the Beautiful– Be bold wear prints and patterns, they are very much the look. I even have a pair of black and white striped pants in heavy rotation. They feel good and after I got the first 5 compliments, I knew this was a look that was working for me. Whether you wear stripes or abstract prints, small or bold prints that is up to you.

Don’t Be Mad Wear Plaid– I know what you’re thinking Lumber Jack right. That’s cool, but there are so many plaids, such as this Eloquii Tartan plaid coat, or Lane Byant plaid cape coat. DSW has a pair of smallprint plaid Madden Girl Zumba booties that are so cute.




Put Your Cape on Your Back and Be Super Bad- Capes and more capes, cape coats, shawls and all. This look appears very regal to me. There are capes on every level. We see cape coats from Lane Bryant to a vintage cape worn by Dionne Dean.

Knits Together- I’m not talking just your basic chunky sweater, I’m talking full on knitted sweater suits. Head to Toe knits. Sweater leggings, sweater dresses, and sweater skirts. plpno

Shine Bright Like a Diamond– Shinny metallics such as steel and aluminum grey are seen in all aspects of apparel. Of course shinny stones and studs are also accessorizing everything from clutches to jean jackets and pants.


Fur You and Me- Faux fur is seen in capes, shawls, and vests. I love my white faux fur vest from Rachel Zoe. Gabifresh rocked her fur as a faux fur stole, it reminds me of that old Hollywood glam of the 50’s and 60’s.

Let’s get Sporty- Not just your jersey from your favorite sports team, but there are very fashionable tops and pants that are sporty and sexy. The jogger leggings are what you will see a lot of. Tinkas Closet has a “Dreamer” Sweat shirt, I love it, but it doesn’t look like something you want to sweat in. So your getting sporty but it still sexy.sporty

Leather It Up– Leather pants, jackets dress, even leather accessories are in. Some are just leather accents such as a leather collar or fringe on a garment. You are going to see more and more leather dresses, skirts and of course jackets.


Hello Moto- Motorcycle jackets are my favorite trend of this season so far. For the most part they are flattering to all figures, and you can get them in varying styles to fit almost every occasion. I know they can be a bit pricey, but your just have to be on the lookout for good prices. I got an off white one around June from Lane Bryant for less than twenty dollars. It was 80% off! On the other hand I bought a black one from Burlington Coat Factory that cost over one hundred dollars. So in other words you gotta watch and grab. LOL!

It’s all in the Jeans– The jeans that make the cut this season are ripped and they are either skinnies or boyfriend. I myself love the skinnies. I love to be able to feel my jeans on me, and preferably I like them to have a little stretch so they hug the curves. Although the colors vary, they are mostly distressed. I get most of my jeans from Burlington. My plan is to hit the thrift store and find a reasonably inexpensive pair of well-fitting jeans and beat them up. If this works I will definitely be posting about it!plaid

Lastly keep your eyes appeal for satins, velvets, and chunky knit scarves. Purses are clutches or large doctor bags with unique accents. The Jewelry is black, and they shoes are going pointed.


I know it seems like a lot of information, and maybe you can’t figure out how to make it work for your style.Just know Everything is not for everybody, as my Daddy used to say what ever you find take it home and make it look like you!

See Ya Phatty!