Why Did You Go Natural: My Nappyversary Story

nappyversaryMay 25, 2013, I remember it like it was yesterday. In fact it was today, but 2 years ago. I had been silently suffering from a very common medical condition that was causing me to lose massive amounts of hair. My hair has always been pretty thick, so I was able to camouflage the hair loss for a long time. But as with any thing that goes ignored it was only getting worst. I consulted with my doctors, as well as did my own research on remedies for hair loss concerning my medical condition. All of the medical data showed that the damage was irreversible and the progression to complete baldness was very likely. At the very least I would suffer from Alopecia.

14nappyyellowhair (2)I was losing hair when I combed, when I washed, and massive globs ( no exaggeration) when I permed ( relaxed) my hair. The thought entered my mind to just stop perming it, but as quickly as it came up, that Lye-er in my head would say “ girl you know your hair is nappy you better perm them naps”. So, I continued to struggle with the thought of being bald or having nappy short hair ( which is what I thought would happen to my hair without a perm) for about another year. Only relaxing it every 12 weeks which is 7 weeks longer than the cycle I had been on for 30+ years. The struggle was real, and all the while I was losing more hair literally by the day. The center crown of my head was shorter than the tip of my finger. Hiding it was getting harder because my hair was getting thinner and in very many spots I had nothing to cover.

At a funeral of a beloved family member I ran into an old friend that I had not seen in 20 years. Her hair was bushy and beautiful! I asked her the common black girlfriend question. “What kind of hair is that?” IMG_7507 her reply floored me. It’s mine, I’m natural. Her hair was healthy and curly! And I knew her hair was just as thick and nappy as mine. So I asked what she was using and how she achieved the style. She explained that she used Miss Jessie’s Curly Pudding, and that this style was called a wash n go. She told me how she washed her hair in the shower applied this product and let it air dry. I was in awe, this seemed so easy, this was it the end of my creamy crack, fried dyed and laid to the side love affair. Just that one hit was the last bit of encouragement that I needed to jump off the decades long mindset that even the fear of baldness could not break.

You know that didn’t happen for me right, lol. Her regimen worked 1blazerlookbackfor her but not for me. She was fully natural and had been for years. I was just beginning. It was a struggle but I kept the thought of her full head of thick hair in my mind to encourage me to stay the course.

So now what? I start researching products, styles,and terminology to get the best understanding of what I needed to do. I decided to transition because as I eluded to above, “ I didn’t want to be bald headed with short nappy hair” the fear was still very close to the surface.

I come from a long line of fierce “ Kitchen Beauticians” and I also graduated from cosmetology school, ( although I never took the state board) so styling my hair was no big deal. Yup, that turned out not to be the 5nappyblacktwistcase 🙂 . My hair was not as easy to manage as I though it would be. I would watch the YouTube vloggers and try a style and it just never seemed to work for me. Their hair always seem to be loser, tighter, shinier, something was different.

I started to wonder, what about their hair was so different, and I realized it was the starting product. The condition of their hair was much different than mine so the results were different. So I began to build on the wash day routine. For me this is the basis to any healthy hair journey. Finding the right regimen is paramount to a loving lasting relationship with your hair.

I mentioned before that I transitioned, what I did was a series of about 3-4 mini chops every 8 weeks 13nappyyellowhipuntil I was fully natural. To be successful at transitioning you have to treat all of the hair as if you are fully natural. So this means limit the harsh gels and shampoos, deep condition often, an find a great leave-In or daily moisturizer to combat dryness. If you wear protective styles limit them to 6-8 weeks. Any longer is not protecting its damaging.

During my transition I used the co-washing technique for about 4 months. Only using shampoo once a month, and deep conditioning every other week. This allowed my natural hair as well as my permed hair to stay well conditioned and manageable and not drying either out. If you are transitioning there is a very important point on the shaft called “ the line of demarcation “ this is where the natural hair meets the permed hair. It is the 11nappyversaryfav (2)weakest point of the shaft and it’s where the hair will snap off. Just know the natural hair is stronger than the permed hair, treat all of the hair as if it’s fully natural and you have to protect the line of demarcation, to have a smooth transition.
If you are fully natural and your mane is just not making the moves you desire, consider changing or developing your hair care regimen. I have an epic post on hair care regimens for ever Curly Girl. I cover every thing from my own personal Lazy Girl products an tips, to hair porosity, and even what foods you can eat to optimize your hair journey. Click the link to see the post.

In honor of my 2 year Nappyversary we did our very first official photo shoot! So in a departure from the norm, all of the photos are from the shoot! I hope you like them! on Pinterest there will be a my Nappyversary board as well as on Facebook.  Please tell us your thoughts, and ask your questions. See you around on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest!

Stay Happy & Nappy!


see below for more pic and the outfit details.




Mesh Sleeve Shirt is from Torrid , Window Pane Knickers are from Ross, The sandals are from Lane Bryant.




This is look is head to toe Lane Bryant, with the exception of the Betsy Johnson bag that I got from Marshals for less than $15!


The pumps are from Lane Bryant, The Blazer is from my closet, and The sheer side leggings are a few months old I don’t remember where I got them. But I’m almost certain they came from Torrid or Asos Curve.

This is my first outfit post so bare with me on the dets…but I’ll get better 😍

Love Ya!

Girl Don’t Do That : Worst Plus Size Mistakes

I always come across great tips for the modern plus sized woman. I say modern because gone are the shabby mumu’s imageof yesterday, the one look for all over 200 pounds, and the grandma gear. The modern day curvy is fierce, bold, and chic. The modern day “big” girl is usually dipped honey *two finger snaps*. imageGrowing up I was always the chubby one. The chubby sister, chubby cousin, and chubby friend, buuuut I was always fly. My mom was anti frump lol! So I always tried to wear figure flattering clothes, though I see some pictures that make me take deep sighs lol! So let’s talk about the donts of plus size fashion!
#1 Under Garments
Let’s start from the very beginning, because the proper under attire can make or break your look!
The right sized underwear
I know we all would like to think because we are chunky that we have Beyonces booty but heavier, this is not true lol! Having a big butt or a wide butt doesn’t not mean you have an apple bottom. But with the right underwear you might be able to convince people that you are the heavy Bee that you envision lol! Underwear that is too tight looks bad even with your clothes on. It squeezes the butt into an awkward shape and let’s some parts hang out. Panties that are too big bunch up and give you granny booty. So please buy the right size!
-The right bra
I can not stress this enough! The right bra is the way of life! The right sized bra will give you an equal balance of the proper cleavage and a smoother upper back. I know it’s frustrating as a busty girl that you can’t run and get a cheap $3.99 bra that will give you support and last after wash day, but the proper bra is worth the right amount of coins. But here’s a secret that I’ve known for a while but did not realize it was a secret lol, Walmart has good cheap bras for us! A lot of women are surprised at this. Cacique is the ultimate best place for a bra! imageIt is worth every penny! I have literally cried when damage has happened to one of these bras (seriously lol). Also here is a tidbit, if you want the correct size go get measured and stop guessing. A bra that is too tight looks really bulky in the back. Making your upper fat rolls look like they are ready to pop! imageAnd that’s not sexy cleavage, when your bra is too small your breast look angry lol! Don’t believe me? Ask some one. A bra that is too big, fits incorrectly and a lot of slippage occurs throughout they day. No one wants to be readjusting their boobs all day. Remember do not dry your bras (especially the good ones) in the dryer. Always bend forward when putting on your bra to ensure every tidbit is in place. Here’s another secret, the three different rows of hooks are there for a reason. You’re supposed to comfortably fit into your bra using the first hooks and graduate in to the other hooks once the bra gets older.
-Shape wear
If you’re anything like me, you cringe deep down inside when you hear the word shape wear. Suddenly your palms are sweaty, your diaphragm is tight, and it’s hard to breathe lol! But the truth is, some desired looks need shape wear no matter what size you wear. Sometimes we need to smooth our rolls out to rock that hot dress! As we know there are many different shape wear options, and honestly you should own more than one. Chasity from Garnerstyle can be seen rocking different styled shape wear, she has a whole post about shape wear on her blog. If you are anti shape wear try going with a fitted camisole. It just smoothed your tummy and back out, they aren’t as tight because they have less elastic. imageThe proper way to wear shape wear is to first try it on! You want to get the correct size because shape wear that is too big is useless, and too small actually pushes the rolls and curves all over the place. Always step into your shaper, even if it is just a camisole.  Last but not least do not dry your shaper! This wears on the elastic! Follow your care instructions they are there for a reason.
#2 Dress for your shape
The media makes us believe that the only desirable shape is the hourglass, but in reality you should always feel desirable no matter what! There are many different shapes and sizes so what may fit on your shape may not fit on mine.image
#3 It’s not always for you
I know we see these hot trends from the local plus size trend setters, but it’s not always for you. But this takes us back to dress for your shape. Sometimes we have to realize that just because it’s in our size it’s not always flattering. We can’t always be in the “me too” crew!image
#4 Your size doesn’t define you
It’s just a number ladies! And sometimes that number changes. If you are one size and you can squeeze into a smaller size does not mean it looks good. So if you wear a 22 and can squeeze into that 18 but it doesn’t look good, make it a goal to look good in that. But if you’re anti diet and exercise give it away if it doesn’t look good. Wearing clothes are too big to “hide” your weight isn’t flattering to you, just like wearing too small clothes. Embrace it honey! So don’t let the number on the tag define how you feel.image

We are all about self love and feeling good about yourself. So if you feel good just go for it. But we also want you to look as good as you feel. We are not trying to bash our fellow curvy, but just trying to show you the best you! Always remember wear it with confidence!
Muah phatty!
Ja’ nay of mrsphatandnaptural


Mother’s Love: 5 Gifts To Make The Caregiver Give Herself Some Care

Mother's Day GuideMore often than not the Mom is the caregiver, nurturer and, problem solver. She often puts her own needs and wants aside for the happiness of the family. Sometimes it’s even this happiness in her family that give her the greatest joy.

We give gifts of flowers, meal, presents, and sometimes  gifts of rest and me time. It’s almost impossible to give her a gift that will even come close to what she deserves, but why not give her the gift of self care?

Check out our Caregivers Gift Guide for the caregiver in your life. As the natural caregiver we very often put ourselves last. This list was created with this in mind. All of these add value to her life while encouraging Mom to care for herself.

Make Mom a Workout Playlist~TheGrove Is In The Heart: yes this was one of my favorite jams!
research has show the following affect of music on the human body:
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Changed the heart rate
Affected blood pressure
Changed the metabolic rate
Reduced physical and mental stress
Reduced fatigue

All of these things aid the flow of energy in the human body.

The sound waves of music enter your ears and turns into pulses or vibrations, which travel to the nerves in the brain. The pulses influence the brain, which then translates to the body’s movement.

Here is my Mothers Day Workout Playlist :

Sugar Scrub~You ever see those people who just look so shiny an soft? More than likely they exfoliate. They Mothers Day Gift Guideuse a mild scrub like sugar or salt and rub away the old skin. This leaves the new younger skin exposed and it is shiny and soft. Why not get Mom a little jar of sugar scrub that she can mix with her favorite body wash, or you can whip up a batch here is a basic recipe!

What Are the Benefits of Sugar Scrubs?. The seasons can wreak havoc on the skin. In summer or winter, skin exposed to the elements can become dry, itchy and flaky. Sugar scrubs can be a perfect solution to keep your skin smooth and radiant throughout the year.

If you want to try your hand at a DIY Sugar Scrub here is an easy 4 ingredient one.
Kick It~  Why not treat mom to a new pair of sneaker as we call them in the Northeast? To everyone else they are either Tennis or Gym shoes. 🙂 Every Mom no matter what her age can use a little me time walk. More often than not we make time for everything and everybody. By getting her a new pair of kicks you will be letting her know, it’s ok to put herself first. Even if it is only for an hour or so.

Mothers Day Gift GuideHow to know if it’s time for a knew pair of kicks:

The typical athletic shoe is only built to last 350 to 500 miles. While walkers are not pounding their shoes as hard as runners, you are unlikely to still get good support and cushioning past 500 miles. Your weight is also a factor — the more you weigh, the faster your shoes will wear out. If you are walking 30 minutes a day, or an average of 3 to 4 hours a week, replace your shoes every six months. If you are walking 60 minutes a day or an average of 7 hours a week, replace your shoes every three months.

Happy Feet Basket~ Almost everybody sells a pedicure kit. From Sephora to Walgreens. To keep it simple buy her a cute pair of open toe sandals, a pedicure kit, and put it in a nice bowl or pail for soaking feet. Make sure the kit includes at least these items: nail clippers, a nail file, a cuticle stick/orange stick, a nail buffer, a pumice stone or scrubbing brush, a clear top and base coat, and a polish color of choice. Optional additional supplies include bath salts for soaking your feet, cuticle trimmers, cuticle oil, and Mothers Day Gift Guidelotion fora massage afterwards.

And just know pedicure are not just for beauty click the here and see other help benefits that are derived from getting regular pedicures.


Don’t Read Me Read A Book~ Well we all know a mother’s read can be infamous! 🙂 but why not give her something else to read? Like Valerie Burton’s book Successful Women Think Differently! We love Valerie Burton books! True to form this life coach continues to give words of encouragement all the while dropping jewels on how to think different to be different. She shares the common practices of successful women. So give mom some food for though while encouraging her to take some time and curl up with a good book.

Mothers Day Gift GuideHere are 5 unconventional affects of reading a good book:

1. Most affective way to relieve stress.
2. Keeps your brain sharp
3. Helps you sleep
4. Increase your empathy
5. Has been shown to ease depression

So don’t just get her something that for that one day, give her the gift that we all want but don’t even know it! The gift of time to care for herself! I hope you take care of mom everyday, but Mother’s Day is her official day of honor!

Whether you add these to your gift you already have or you make all or one of these your gift, or even if you gift these to yourself I hope you enjoy your Caregivers Gift Guide! Be sure to let us know what you think. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram, Twitter and like us on Facebook.Mothers day

Happy Mother’s Day!

Frugal Frogal: Natural Hair Regimen Under $10

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Yes ! You read it right ! A natural hair care regimen, for less than the price of my favorite shampoo! Right now my most favorite shampoo is Carol’s Daughter Marabella Shampoo. My Carol’s Daughter shampoo cost $10. Yeah, umm hmmm, ten dollars is my budget. So that’s the first criteria. The second is the products needed to be easily accessible, meaning they can be picked up anywhere. The third criteria is it can’t be too much of a departure from my normal regimen. I always see a lot of post about a shampoo or a conditioner under $10. In fact one of my first post was about shampoos under $12. But this one is a complete regimen under $10, from wash to style.

  • On my quest to “Live Richer”,  I am always looking to “find money”. So I’m taking all of my spending to task, it’s not forever but for now I’m trimming the fat, tossing coins into the piggy bank. By nature I’m a modern day treasure hunter so frugal finds and discount shopping gives me life!

So are you ready to slice your natural hair product budget like a loaf of bread?

Yes everything comes back to food with me! 🙂 ! True to form we at mrsphatandnaptural.com promote healthy hair care above all else! We don’t believe in sacrificing good hair health for any reason. That being said, we want to find quality products that will give the desired result for a fraction of our normal hair product budget.

You should not compromise healthy hair for a style or a dollar. But, If you could get your natural hair regimen under $10 would you do it? Keep reading and let me show you how.

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Prepoo: if you don’t normally prepoo than here’s an inexpensive introduction to one of the process I use. It’s the hot towel method. It cost nothing. All you need is a hand towel, ziplock bag, water and a microwave. Free ninety nine!

Cleanse :Shampoo is a very important part of every Curly’s journey. I found this VO5 Strawberries N Cream at CVS for $1.25.

Conditioner : This is a very necessary process that can not be skipped. This one actually came free with another product, Hollywood Beauty Olive Cholesterol deep conditioning crème. Cost me nothing, it was attached to the styler. Free ninety nine!

Frugal FrogalSeal: I usually use the LOC method I want to make sure the moisture is sealed into my hair. That’s what works to keep my hair managed. Oldie but goodie Blue Magic Coconut Oil. Yes it’s grease, what’s wrong with that yo mama used grease and her mama used grease. So why you can’t use it? Lol no seriously though, I did a little research and found that although this does not add any nutrients to your stands it does work as an excellent sealer to loc in moisture. Cost me $2.99 at CVS.

Styler: I don’t normally use stylers but in this regimen the styler is important to pull together any look. Hollywood Beauty Olive Crème hairless for dry hair. Priced just right at $2.99 at CVS

Including tax this cost me a wapping $7.28! Yup! Way under $10. And I got $. 50 in extra care bucks back to be used on a later purchase! Whoop whoop! (Found money $12.75 added to long term savings)Frugal Frogal

I know getting the products is only part of the equation, the other part is the how-to, so here is how I used them:

  • Pre-poo- I sprayed my hair down with water, put a wet hand towel in a ziplock bag and mic it for 3 minutes, (be careful the towel and water are hot)wring the excess water, (again you may want to use tongs) I then wrapped my head in the towel, and placed a bag on my head for 20 min. I normally se a lot of oils in my hair, so this is a way of using those oils already on my hair one last time. The hot towel will open up the hair shaft allowing the oils to penetrate the shaft.
  • Shampoo- I then finger detangle and section my hair into 4 or 6 sections. I wash my hair section by section. Now, because the VO5 is a sulfate shampoo be careful not to tangle your hair. The shampoo has a very pleasant scent and lathers very well. I could hear my hair squeak! Lol
  • Condition and Seal- I run the conditioner through my hair, keeping in the same section by section process that I used to wash it. Put a bag on my head and let it sit for at least 1 hour or 30 min if you use a bonnet/ hooded dryer. Then rinse out section by section. I dry my hair with a t-shirt, squeezing as much moisture as possible into the t-shirt. Then while the hair is damp, I apply the Blue Magic Coconut Oil Crème to seal the moisture into hair shaft. This is the oil for my LOC method.
  • Crème- While the hair is still in sections I apply the Olive Crème. Section by section. This is the crème for my LOC method.
  • Proceed to style as usual, I blow dry my hair on the coolest setting, section by section. At this time if you need a trim, this is the time to do it.

This process left my hair soft and fluffy! It feels very strong. Although I wouldn’t say the product are the same quality, they are good enough to work in the lean times.

Hair tip: always rinse your hair with cool water, be sure to deep condition often, and seal hair with oil and crème after each shampoo.

I will be using these products for the next month, to see the progress and styles I’m able to create with Frugal Frogalthese products, follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Please leave comments and suggest below. If you have any frugal hair finds please let us know! I also challenge you to find a hair care regimen for $10 or less!

It’s the Frugal Frogal Mrsphatandnaptural signing off! See ya Phatty,

Nailed it!

As we shed our clothing and bring bounce back to our curls, we need to ditch those deep wine and black polishes! So keep reading and see how we “Nailed It”.  When you revamp your closet don’t forget to revamp your polish collection too! This Spring your favorite polishes are back, they’ve been tweaked just for us!image

imageDuring Fashion Week, clear top coats and sheer creams adorned with designs and/or glitter dominated the runway. We also plenty of white nails! Are you bold enough to rock this look with your little white dress? imageAs the temperature rises the classic nudes and bright colors are back so if you aren’t fan of the bare look just stick to what you know.

I really love a good red polish.image Red is a color you can rock every season, so I keep that in heavy rotation throughout the year. Since its Spring be sure to use your brighter reds straying away from the burgundy family. Back in October the Mrsphatandnaptural team attended the circle of sisters expo in NYC, where Erica Campbell (a favorite around these parts) debuted her new collaboration with Color Club Nail Lacquer EC X CC.image Ohhhhhhhh did I love this set! I have the catwalk red and the gingerbread glitter gold. I will still rock them this season !

Glitter’s and Matte’s are very popular in the warmer months, and I would go with Color Club or MAC nail Lacquer. Lacquers are very thick so the glitter and Matte’s coat better. imageI mean did you ever buy a pretty glitter polish and have to coat your nail time and time again? For me it’s annoying because the glitter spreads out and it’s never what I envisioned. But with a nail lacquer being so thick with one or two coats your nails are fully covered and it looks great (especially when you can’t get to your local nail salon!) Plus I love the textured look you get from the Matte and glittered lacquer!image

April and May always brings out our favorite pastel nails hues such as Blues, lilacs, soft pink, etc. but remember pastels are very thin so they require multiple layers. imageAlso this is the time for corals, orange, and all pinks. Neutral tones have outgrown the plain beige. Different tones of browns and grays have joined this family and should almost always be paired with a shimmer. Look for an iridescent imagepolish if glitter isn’t your thing but you still need a pop of glitz! Keep in mind that pastels, shimmers, and iridescent polishes are very thin so these should be your go to imagechoice if you are in a hurry because they will dry quickly!

I really love polish! A good nail color can set an outfit off. I love just looking down and seeing my nails look so pretty. It’s something so feminine and satisfying about it. I know that it’s purely something for me, my man always says no man cares what his girl nails looks like as long her hands aren’t rough lol!image

To be honest this is one of those areas that I have “found money”. I used to spend $110 a month on my bimonthly mani / pedi. But after completing the Live Richer Challenge earlier this year, I decided to add that money to my long-term savings account for one year. So that’s $1300 a year that I have “found”, but I can’t bear to have bare nails!

I know I gave Color Club a big shout out, I’m new to their line thanks to Erica Campbell and I loved it! I washed dishes, did hair, changed diapers (lol) and it took days to chip!image

I haven’t graduated to the whole advanced nail art. By this I mean 3d designs such as pearls, hoops, and chains. I’m still a French manicure or a flower and a few lines kind of girl if I’m feeling fancy. But this daring look is centered around the art, the polish is usually nude.image

imageI don’t want to see any dark nails reminding of this cold winter we endured! Go out and get some polish and #springitonme for a feature. But make sure your stroke game is proper if you don’t have time to get to the salon lol. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Pinterest!

Muah Phatty
Ja’nay of Mrsphatandnaptural


Spring It On Me: Phat and Fab trends For Spring 2015

From April showers to May flowers, Spring is upon us! Although it may not feel like it yet, before you know it we will be dawning much less coverings. Shorter skirts, lighter jackets, and much more skin on display. That being said here are some of our favorite Spring 2015 Fashion Trends to make you look Phat and Fab with no fuss! Who has time for the fuss, not us!

This being the month of showers it’s no wonder the Rain Coat is in style, I myself love a double breasted Trench with a great umbrella. Or you may like this Isabelo Taledo Ruffle Hem Trench from Lane Bryant. We will be in and out of the showers no need to look like a rubber ducky.
Speaking of rubber duckys, Yellow will be on trend if you choose to sport a yellow rain coat or trench.
Floral and Gingham are the prints to be seen in! I know what you’re thinking “Grandma Gear”. Well think again these are not your imagegrandmothers patterns here, we are seeing bold floral prints and gingham in skirts, bags dress, coats, and all the like this spring.

imageIn fact I scored a floral clutch from one of the second hand stores in my area for little or nothing. So if you’re a little pattern shy just put it in the bag. Check out this gingham pencil skirt from Torrid. I love it! And it fits like a glove.

imagePrints period will be in! I saw a quote from Steffy Fullstyle on her guest blog post for igigstyle, which said “you should choose the print based on the size of your facial features. If you have big features do big prints, and if you have small features choose a smaller print.” Hmmmm I didn’t know that. So whether you choose floral, check, gingham or polka dots, you’ll be rocking it your way and that’s always the best option!

Boho imageChic will be blasting in from the past, I love this trend! You know why right? Need I say effortless! No fuss just fab! I love the Kimonos, The Pendant Necklaces, and the Fringe. This trend has Saddle shaped bags and yes the platform shoe is back. So get Hipppie to it! See what I did right there, you get it Boho is the modern Hippie . * cracking up*

imageOne trend that I am not so fond of for obvious reasons to those who know me is Head to Toe White. Yeah I might try it, but I doubt I it will make it into rotation unless I buy a lot of white. I admire people who wear white, but it’s just not for me. Oh and yes big girls look delicious in white! Like a big old glass of ice cold milk in the morning! Lol!

Don’t for get to add a little sparkle with your statement earrings, chokers, and very femme handbags. I am not a belt wearer but I may try one of those Obi belts.image

I’m all about adding to what you already have, I’m not one of those girls that buy a whole new wardrobe every season. So add a few pieces and call it peace! If you choose wisely you can bring these pieces out year after year. Or better yet sell them or give them away and make a coin or two for new pieces.
imageThe jeans are still skinny and distressed, as pictured here by Kim of  Naturally Fashionable, so you can still rock last year’s jeans and look great. I love a flat shoe and we saw a lot of flats on the runway, thank God! Sneakers for some have never left but they will be more popular with the continuing sporty trend. Tule skirts and Shirt Dresses are still here!
Remember confidence is always the best accessory, so put on your best you and it will always WERK!

Please leave your questions and comments below. Follow us on Pintrest we have a great board “likes of a Phatty” that pictures our favorite styles. We are always on Facebook and Instagram so please follow us! If you want to be featured please use the hashtag #mrsphatandnaptural. Also please tag your favorite spring looks #springitonme ! So hope to hear from you soon!image
See Ya Phatty!

5 Steps To Spring Your Hair Back From The Coldest Winter Ever

imageIs it just me or has Mother Nature been putting us to the test? The other day I was so excited that it was finally warm, I check the temperature and it read 28 degrees! Is this possible? Yes, we have been so bombarded with these frigid temperatures that 28 degrees actually felt warm! And our poor frozen tresses!image They have been snowed on, tucked, pulled, and in some cases rubbed out. These are the things we do to our hair under our normal winter weather conditions. But what have we done during “The Coldest Winter Ever”? (Yes, I loved the book) In the Northeastern part of the U.S. We have experienced the most occurrences of below zero temperatures for the month of February since the 1800’s! We have had a record settings 21 snow storms!

Oh I am so glad we made it through, but how did your hair hold up? Because of the colder temperatures some of us don’t treat our hair as well as we should in the Winter. We don’t wash it as much, so we aren’t giving it the conditioning it needs and replacing the moisture that’s naturally lost from being exposed to the colder dryer air.

Very many of us employ protective styling during this time, but this can also be damaging to certain parts of the hair, such as the edges and nape area. Also we love to wear very stylish and most of all warm hats and big knit and wool scarves during the Winter, and most of us don’t have the satin lining in them, or wear a satin scarf under the hat. This is what we call a necessary evil, we have to wrap up and keep warm. image

So now what? Spring is coming and the hats are coming off, and those protective styles are coming out. It’s time for the big reveal!


Step one:

The Tress Lover Treatment: Give her a full on 5 part love session! Pre-poo, Hydrating Sulfate Free Shampoo, Comb Through Conditioner, Deep Condition, and LOC Method. This may sound like a lot but sometimes it’s just was the hair doctor ordered.

That Blessed Oil– This one is a fav because, in classic Mrsphatandnaptural style, it’s easy! Lol. Hey what can I say, at least I’m consistent: you simply fill your spray bottle with ¼ cup of Olive Oil, and 1 cup of water! Throughly saturate your hair with the mixture. Comb through with a wide-tooth comb, pile loosely on the top of your head, and put on a plastic cap, or wrap your head with plastic film or even a plastic store bag. You can sit under the dryer for 10-15 minutes, let it sit for 20-30 minutes without heat, or I’ve even slept with it overnight. If you sleep with it, be sure to protect your pillows with extra towels, and plastic bags.

Guacamole – Not really, it’s an avocado mask, but when I make this its all I can think about, 🙂 yes I’m fat, don’t judge me! You take a small ripe avocado, mash it good with, olive oil, and or castor oil. You can heat this one up before you apply it. Section your hair imageinto 8-10 sections and apply 1 section at a time. Either finger comb or use a wide tooth comb to pull the mixture through to the ends of your hair. Put on your plastic ( bag, cap, wrap) wrap your head with a hot towel, and let it sit for 20-30 minutes. You can heat the towel in the microwave.

Egg Mask- This is an oldie but goodie for me. My Cosmetology teacher, Mrs. Iozzi was big on this for her long bleached Jersey hair back in the 90’s when I was in school. It worked then and it still does. You mix 1 or 2 eggs depending on the length of your hair, with one to 2 tablespoons of olive oil, and about a cup of water. You can also add mayonnaise which is just eggs and oil. You apply it throughout your hair massaging it into your hair and scalp for about 15-20 minutes. Then rinse out with warm water. Warning !!! If the wateimager is too hot the eggs will cook into your head. Yes, I’ve made this mistake.


Step Two:

Cleansing is very important to your hair health, there is a lot of debate about whether or not shampoo is necessary. Fimageor the sake of this post, I say find a good Sulfate Free shampoo, and get to cleansing. I did a post on my four favorite shampoos under $12 when I first went natural,( feel free to check them out !) I also love Cantu, Shea Butter cleansing cream shampoo, and the Carol’s Mirabella Plum shampoo. They are both Sulfate-free, have great lather and are both very reasonable price points. As my hair gets longer the easiest way to wash my hair is in sections. I try to do at least 4 sections, and wash it one section at a time.

Step Three:

Rinse out conditioner, again I love the Cantu Shea Butter hydrating cream conditioner, or Shea Moisture Tahitian Monoi. Froesha (my hair) has a personal favorite it’s Jessi Curl Too Shea extra moisturizing conditioner. She responds very well to miss Too Shea! Just run it through you hair for about 3-5 minutes. You can use the wide tooth comb, (I do) or you can just finger detangle, but it’s important to feel the slip of the conditioner on your hair, makeimage sure it’s well coated, then rinse out.I know this seem like a lot, but that’s why it’s called love! You are showering your tresses with the much deserved love she deserves and beside so far we are only 45 minutes into the process! You are so worth this me time!

Step Four:

Deep conditioning, so we did the rinse out to detangle and coat the hair, now we are going to do a deep condition to treat her well.

Banana Smoothie: yes you read that correctly. In your blender mix 1 banana, I can of coconut milk,and ¼ cup of honey. Blend until the mixture is smooth. I always add some olive oil, because, Idk why not. Lol, I personally do it because it loosens it up and makes it easier for me to manage.

For the less adventurous there is a lot of great off the shelf products you can use, this is an area where it’s best not to skimp. Your hair will tell the story. I would recommend any and all of these that can even be found at your local drug store, Target or Walmart. Shea Moisture deep treatment mask, Cantu Shea Butter deep treatment mask, or Organix Macadamia oil hydrateing deep treatment mask. I use Carol’s Daughter Monoi repairing mask. I leave it on for about 4image5 minutes to an hour, or you can sit under the dryer 25 minutes. Then rinse out.

Step Five:

This last step is the LOC Method. If you’ve read the post Top Five Ways To Take The Fuss Out of Fabulousness you know what this is. It does just what it says it LOCs the moisture into your hair. So far I’m sold on the process. It’s a process of layering product on your hair and the last step seimageals it in. Because it’s done on wet hair, the product penetrates the hair shaft. The products vary, but basically the process works. Your style really does not matter with this process. It works with wash n go, braids, twist/braid outs, and even blow drying. The key is to throughly coat the hair with each layer. Layer one is the leave-in conditioner, layer two is the oil, layer three is the cream. Apply each layer and comb the hair. If you’ve never tried it, you are in for a pleasant surprise. Your hair will thank you!

There 1 hour 20 minutes, to spring that hair right out of it’s Winter blues. If you haven’t done a trim lately this is a good time to do a little dusting. Some Curlies do this every month, I usually only trim during the change of the season. For me this works, but you may need more or less, as I always say, you have to listen to your hair. She will tell you what she wants. I don’t know about you but I am so looking forward to shedding all things Winter, clothes, hair, and all.

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imageAs for now get those tresses ready for spring and Fuss-less Fabulousity! See ya Phatty!

Lose 20 Pounds In 24 Days

Hey, ladies it’s been so long! I trust that you are all keeping it Fab and Fussless ;-). I know , I know it’s been awhile since we’ve posted but we’ve been working on our waistline! For the month of February we have dedicated ourselves to #mpnnojunk #28daychallenge and 25 days down with 3 more to go we have lost a total of 20 pounds! Whoop whoop! Yes we are proud of that, so we want to acknowledge our hard work lol! Of course 25 days sounds like a walk in the park but it is hard to challenge yourself and deprive your body of all of its favorite deliciously fatty foods. Yes some days we wanted to give up and drown ourselves in chocolate, imagebut we honored our challenge. Once the weight started to come off those carrot sticks definitely proved to be worth it girl. It just a few pounds but it is a start.

Our goal is no :

-Fast Food
-White bread
-White rice
Also we did commit to at least 8-10 glasses of water a day. Although drinking plain water is best, if this is a challenge remember you can always add some frozen fruit to give it a little flavor. Woo and that no rice thing was a killer!  My people eat rice everyday! White rice! I must confess one of us  ate rice this month.

Now everyday wasn’t a perfect day and Valentines Day was a step back honestly, but the important thing was to get back on the wagon as soon as possible, keep trying and accomplishing a weight loss. To keep track of what we ate, we used the My Fitness Pal app on our phone.

You know we are quick to say we love the Curvy girl and we highlight ourselves as a hot piece, so our ultimate goal ain’t to be skinny, but to reward ourselves with great health and a few less rolls on our backs and inches on our tummy’s lol!image (And if giving up was ever an option at least I know my honey loves me as I am  ) lol it’s true though.

When the New Year came we mentioned trying to start a new goal of weekly exercising. http://mrsphatandnaptural.com/yup-its-2015-new-year-new-you/ so we have tried to stick to some kind of daily movement (cleaning the bathroom counts as burning calories too lol). imageIf you do not have the time to hit the gym always start your morning off with a warm up, just to get your blood flowing. As you already know we like to keep everything as simple as possible over here, so we like to find exercises that will get those calories burning in a short amount of time. On Pinterest I always find different workouts to do so my warm up is usually a 100 calorie burn:

-40 jumping jacks
-30 crunches
-20 squats
-10 push ups

The ultimate goal is to accomplish this five times a day, one dimageay lol! But definitely once or twice a day.

Also we have discovered the lazy girl routines. This allows you to watch your tv and burn calories during commercial break! I love two for one ideas! imageLet’s try and get these done 3-4 days a week and twice during each show for the night. Ok so that’s “The Have and the Have Nots” “Empire” and “Scandal” done .

Or you can dedicate a full thirty minutes to exercise and spend ten minutes on each target area.

-10 minutes arm exercise (3 reps each)
-10 minutes tummy exercises (3 reps each)
-10 minute leg exercises (3 reps each)image

So there really is no excuse to get moving, you can find the time! imageLet’s try and get fit! Share your progress with #fitphatty and every Friday we will talk about our progress. Don’t forget to like us on Facebook (www.facebook.com/mrsphatandnaptural.com) and follow us on Instagram @mrsphatandnaptural!

See ya soon Phatty!

By Ja’nay Tiaira of mrsphatandnaptural.com

Let The Snack Battle Begin

It’s Super Bowl Sunday! No one will admit it but to most Americans, this is a holiday. Just as the CME (people who only go to church on Christmas Mother’s Day & Easter) make it to Sunday service, as does all of America become football fans! We all sit around and watch what is kinda like a modern gladiator war. Don’t get me wrong I was raised by a single Father with brothers and mostly male cousins, so football season was like the “ Holy” season in my house. Yes the Super Bowl was the high holiday!

With all the SuperBowl Parties, Football pools, betting, and wagers that will be placed, the real battle Snack Battle 2015occurs in the kitchen. The Super Bowl snacks are just as important as who’s player or where you gonna watch it at. Well, to some of us. 🙂 We will consume more of certain snacks on this one day than the rest of the year combined.

So why is this a battle? Some of us have just committed to fitness challenges, weight loss goals, and healthy lifestyle changes. See my point? But have no fear there is always another way. You could just call it your cheat day, or opt to start over tomorrow. But why? Isn’t that what we always do? As Dr Phil would say “How’s that working out for you?” Honestly it’s not. Why not honor your commitment to yourself and make another choice? To get something different we have to do something different.

Americans will consume 1.25 billion wings this weekend. This is as important to the Super Bowl Party as the ball is to the game. Believe it or not it’s also one of the fattiest snacks on the table. But, you can’t have a Super Bowl Party with out wings. Try this healthy alternative!

Guilt Free Buffalo Wings.

Mrsphatandnaptural snack battlePlace 3 pounds chicken wings in a large pot and fill with water, covering wings by about 2 inches. Bring to a boil, then continue to boil for 10 minutes. Drain. Meanwhile, in a small bowl, combine 1⁄4 cup Hot sauce , 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice, and 3 tablespoons low-sodium chicken broth. I am going to split mine in half and do half in hot sauce and toss half in fat free Ranch Dressing.

Transfer wings to a broiler pan and broil, 5 to 6 inches from the flame, until the skin begins to blister and brown (5–6 minutes). Turn wings over and broil 4 to 5 minutes more. Transfer wings to a baking sheet, drizzle with the reserve sauce or serve on the side.

You won’t even miss the fat! Next up the Potato Skins. Yeah so there’s no way to make this on healthy so, Mrsphatandnaptural snack battlewe just have to change it. Try this

Twice baked sweet potatoes
• 2 medium sweet potatoes (8 to 10 ounces each)
• 3 ounces Turkey bacon, diced
• 2 tablespoons reduced-fat sour cream
• 3 teaspoons chopped fresh chives
• 2 tablespoons shredded reduced-fat cheddar cheese
Pierce potatoes with a fork, and arrange on paper towels. Microwave on high 8 minutes or in the oven for about and hour; turn potatoes over after halfway through. Cut each potato in half lengthwise, and scoop out the pulp, leaving 1/4-inch-thick shells. Mash pulp with 3 ounces Turkey bacon, 2 tablespoons sour cream, and 2 teaspoons chives in a bowl. Spoon mixture into shells. Sprinkle 2 tablespoons cheese over tops of potatoes. Microwave on high 2 minutes, and sprinkle with 1 teaspoon chives.

Mrsphatandnaptural snack battleFor the Main Dish, “Just Have A Salad” in my PhatGirl on the first date voice, lol! Not just any salad my son calls it the “kitchen sink”! Meaning everything in it but the kitchen sink. It’s a 7 Layer Salad that I found in a Weight Watchers cook book years ago. I have one of those families that if you tell them it’s “diet” they won’t try it. So I didn’t tell them for years 🙂 but they love it. My sister in law even makes it when she hosts, which happens to be most if the time these days! Muwah thanks Mama!


1 jar of salsa
1 head iceberg lettuce, shredded
1 red Or sweet onion, sliced
1 tub of low fat sour cream
1 (15 oz) can kidney beans, drained
2 large tomatoes, chopped
8 oz shredded Cheddar cheese
You can layer this salad how ever you see fit. I like to mix the sour cream and salsa together on top in lieu of salad dressing, but some of my friends like it separate and they add more salad dressing of their choice. Too each is own, but the idea is not to add dressing. I never realized how disjointed that sounds ” too each is own” I grew up hearing it, but when you write it, it looks weird. If you don’t know it means, each person has their own choices to live with.

Any-who, This is a great lower calorie low fat alternative to Taco salad. All the different layers of flavors will replace the need for empty calories. I know, I know, calories taste so good though. 🙂

What about the dip? You can go with a Mango Salsa or maybe a jar one, they are a still a lighter Mrsphatandnaptural snack battlealternative to the creamy ones. I’m going to try the Broccomole I know it sounds weird right? But I’m going to give it a shot!
• 3 cups chopped broccoli
• 1 jalapeno, chopped, seeds removed
• 2 tbs green onion
• 1 tsp olive oil
• 2 ounces fat free cream cheese (or silken tofu, goat cheese, sour cream, cashew cream, something creamy)
• 1/4 tsp chili powder
• 1 tbs cilantro
• 1/4 tsp salt
• 1/4 tsp black pepper
• 1/4 tsp garlic powder

Cook the broccoli in lightly salted water until very soft Overcook the broccoli in comparison to the al dente cooking that most recipes recommend.
Drain broccoli very well.
Transfer to a food processor. Add the remaining ingredients and process until smooth, add additional olive oil for smoother texture.

Keep in mind if you have the will power to limit your intake you can always just make mini versions of your favorite dish, like mini Mac & cheese cups, or sliders, but for me I always feel like I eat more because they are so small 🙂 Just know this is a battle worth fighting. One more note if you are not the host, why not call and ask if you can bring a few dishes of your own. Victory is yours you just have to come prepared. So whether you are voting for a team or just going to be apart of the festivities, don’t sabotage your chances at winning. So put your game face on and let’s get cooking!

Good Luck, see ya Phatty!

Forever 21

  We Become What We Repeatedly Do! What Are You Doing?

Forever 21 -21days to good habitsForever 21, ever heard of it? It’s a trendy store brand that makes affordable versions of the most popular fashions. They even make some of the trends in plus size. Well they go up to a 20 that’s what I call regular plus ( size 12-20) true plus are those sizes 22 and up…but I digress that’s not at all what this post is about 🙂 this post is about habits!

Just 3 short weeks ago we all proclaimed “This Year is going to be different”. We made the plan and Forever 21 -21days to good habitsstarted the program, but are we sticking to it? One of my proclamations for 2015 was to take better care of my hair. I have said before I am kinda the lazy natural sometimes. I’ve been creating a habit of twisting my hair every night. I usually wear protective styles so I only have to touch it once a week on wash day, but this year I’ve been wearing it loose, which requires me to have to touch it and moisturize everyday. I have been creating a habit of good hair care practices for 2015.

Forever 21 -21days to good habitsThis idea is to get these habits to become automated, thereby creating a greater chance that this habits will be part of your life forever. If going to the gym, or exercising is a task that you want to make a habit, get ready for the long hall! Research shows that it takes over 200 days for this automatism to occur. Good luck to us! Try using post it flags, as a reminder, number them from 1-21 and everyday you accomplish the said task remove that number.

Forever is such a long time to have a bad habits. So look back over your first 21 days of this year, what have you done most often? These are your 2015 habitual behaviors. If you’ve had a piece of cake every Forever 21 -21days to good habitSnight after dinner, this is not productive to your weight loss goals, you have to stop. What do we do if that thing we’ve been doing is not something we want to keep forever? The brainiacs say we can replace a bad habit with a lesser evil. So let’s say you smoke a cigarette ( not sure who’s rich enough to still smoke) every night after you eat. Instead of smoking a cigarette you now take a walk or drink a couple glasses of water. Once the behavior is automated its with you forever. As you can tell that after dinner time for people like me is a fertile garden for adding good habits.

Sometimes we can get into the habit without even realizing. “We are what we repeatedly do,” Aristotle proclaimed. Therefore we have to be conscious of our behaviors to avoid getting into a rut! As I was doing the research for this post I realize I have quite a few bad habits that I have unintentionally developed. I have made a habit of checking Instagram before I get out of bed, this will stop. I have imagereplaced it with praying and giving thanks as soon as I wake up. THEN I check Instagram 🙂 … just kidding! But this is a case where I hadn’t even realized that I was creating a habit.

So we have some good habits and some bad habits but we want to keep the good ones forever and make a conscious effort to change the bad ones 21 times. Make our habits forever 21.

We can’t truly stay 21 years old forever, but we can change our forevers on a 21 day cycle. Remember we may not look 21 years old, but we can stay forever 21 with good habits. It takes 21 days to create a habit. Forever 21 -21days to good habitSWhy not start today?

See ya Phatty