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2016 Extended Size Spring Style Guide: Beyond The Size

So, this post started out as a list of some of my favorite places to shop. Then as I was literally writing out a draft of that post, I received two emails that changed my direction. One was from someone who wanted to know where I shop at, and the other was from someone who said they were going on vacation and wanted to know what I think they should take.

That got me reminiscing about the days, when I would go into the store, and look for my size and buy it. No matter if I liked it or not. It was my size ( size 20) and fit reasonably well (actually too big), so it came home with me. How pathetic was I?

I know this is the plight of so many plus size women! I hear it all the time. Especially young plus size women. It’s as if there’s no in between, there’s overly sexual ( a whole other post right here) and then there’s frumpy! Well later for all that!

Fast forward to today, ( size 22-24) I love shopping straight size trends and look for classic pieces to keep my wardrobe ever fresh!

Now, I can do outfit of the day posts all day long, and I still get the same question. Where did I get this or that? I want to make this as easy as possible. Below I’ve highlighted some of my favorite straight size 2016 Spring Trends, and listed the stores where you can pick them up.

Cold Shoulder: This is definitely a more feminine trend that looks great on plus sized women. The bare shoulders draws the eye up to your beauty.

Florals: You’ll see this one in small and large prints, appliques, and even combined with other trends. After all Spring Showers Bring May Flowers!

Ruffles: So, I’ve seen some articles describe this trend as “Spanish”  however, be careful where you choose to display the ruffles they could add unwanted volume if the are sitting on the wrong curve!

Lace: Most recently, Beyoncé strutted a white lace number at the White House Easter Egg Roll. Yes just like that, all the lace pencil skirts went up! Lol. You see lace on skirts, dresses, shirts as the main fabric or as accents.

Stripes: Yeah, so that ” Big Girls Can’t Wear Stripes” not today! We are blurring the lines and rocking vertical, horizontal, and even diagonal stripes!

Romance: This one has the potential to be dangerous! It’s uber sexy and sometimes called “Daytime Lingerie”. I think you get the picture. Satin, sheers, laces, nets, but it can all be done in good taste. So let’s keep the raunchy out of romance ok.

Denim: This is one of those ever fresh categories. Like when was jeans ever not a trend?

Tulle: Yup, it’s still in! Yay! I love tulle skirts, you can dress them up with heels and a nice blouse, or down with Jean shirts. They go with sandals, sneakers,t-shirts and they fit great on everybody’s body. You can’t mess the look up!

Where I shop in store or online:

Fashion To Figure- mostly online but there are stores in Jersey. The clothes fit true to size and they always have sales.

Tip: Sign up for the email lists, I shop when they have discounts via email.

Burlington- In store, I have one close to my house and one close to my job. So, I’m always checking the racks.

Tip: If you like it, get it right then, because chances are it’ll be gone quick.

Eloquii-  Only online. The clothes are a great quality for the price! These pieces last through washing and wearing and they are very fashion forward.

Tip: Same as above, I shop when they have deals and coupons via email.

Asos Curve- Online Only, again the clothes are great quality the sizes are true to size.

Tip: Make sure you by US sizes they not UK sizes. I know a few people that made this mistake.

Torrid- Both instore and online. They absolutely have the best fitting jeans! They always have sales and they have the loyalty rewards for being an insider.

Tip: Use your insider points, and buy ” staple” pieces, because the prices are not cheap.

Ashley Stewart-  For years this was the only place I shopped but as of late ehh! It’s still a great resource, but things have changed.

Rebdolls- Online only, I love them but you have to get the extended sizes fast because they sell out quickly! A lot of these pieces are a little young for me. But they are great for the plus sized millennial woman.

Lane Bryant- In store just because it’s close to my house. Sometimes the prices take me down though! I try not to shop in a rush, but if there is ever a last minute need, I go there.

Full Online only,You can usually find any and everything on this site! That’s their whole niche. Wide shoes, classic trends and the new in thing ” Swimsuits For All”; you name it they have it!

Do you have a favorite store? Drop it in the comments below!

Inspired By – Imitation VS Duplication

Inspired byHave you ever heard the saying, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” ? Well, there’s another side to this coin. Duplication is the surest way to fail. In this era of social media we are constantly bombarded with images, ads, and words that tailor our thinking one way or another. Although we have begun to tout this mantra of self-love and body acceptance, it’s no secret that everyone wants to be like someone. It’s human nature to imitate and implement the things we love about someone or something else in our own life.

In fact as followers of Christ we are charged to live a life that can be imitated by others. We are to be Christlike as Christ imitates The Father to be Godlike. The bible says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew‬ ??chapter and verse

The real danger comes from trying to duplicate others actions, looks and or life.

“Why Be A Copy When You Were Born Original” by Oscar Wilde

Follow me now, this relationship with trying duplicate others is a slippery slope.

For one, it’s not authentic and you will not be able to keep it up.
For two, when you can no longer keep up the charade it will cause feelings of defeat.
For three, people can tell when you are not real.

Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t look to others for inspiration, but we need to apply these thing to our life as it fits us. I believe we need examples of how to be, as well examples of how not to be!

Inspired By

I remember the older women always saying

“ Take It Home and Make It Look Like You”.

In this picture I was inspired by ChiChi from Supple Chic. I could have gone out and had a skirt like hers made or tried to buy one, but instead I went to my closet and found this plaid pencil skirt that I got from Torrid. In fact the cut of that skirt may have been a little easier on my mid section lol.

At 5’3 and well over what is considered an acceptable weight, it’s no question that I have to be creative when dressing my body. My legs and hips are one of those features that I love about my body, so for me pencil skirts give me the curvy longer look that I prefer. I choose to wear my shirt on the outside because, to me it looks and feels better on the area (tummy time) 😉 that I don’t care for.

Inspired By

So, do look to others for inspiration. Do not try to duplicate them. While they say “For every one idea you have, three other people have it at the same time” but nobody has your version of it!

Remmber be the best you that you can be! Because everyone else is taken!

Inspired By


Comfy Cozy & Cute Winter Fashion: Sweater Dress

Sometimes winter fashion is all about the outerwear or footwear, but this post is about an oldie but goody…the sweater dress! The sweater dress has 50 Shades of style! I’m not a dress wearer but this dress is as comfortable as my favorite jeans, as cozy as a pair of sweats, and cute to boot!

It’s a dress that is comfy enough that I wore it to drive on a 2.5 hour car ride, and when I got there I looked as good as I did when I first put it on. The sweater dress is forgiving to your curves, and did I say it comfortable? Oh yeah I did!

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter FashionNext to comfort, the variety of style options is the best thing! You can take it all the way up with some pumps, or way down with a ballet flat. If you can make it work, they even look great with a fresh pair of Keds. My favorite way to rock this style is with a high knee boot, and an obi belt placed at empire waist height. By adding the belt it draws the eye up away from my belly! The sweater dress, knee boot look is a classic that can be worn by most body shapes.

As a more curvy girl, I love the way the sweater dress hugs my curves. You can wear them at thigh length or to the floor! They still look great!

Between the snow, the cold, and the ice, the Northeastern Winter can just make you fashion sick! So, make sure you have a cozy, comfy, and cute sweater dress in your fashion first aid kit! What do you have in your Winter Fashion First Aid Kit? What are your winter go to pieces and how do you rock them.


Simular Dress Asos Curve Obi Belt Lane Bryant   Necklace Torrid Wide Calf Boots Lane Bryant 

My natural hair is smoothed up into a protective style updo with Cantu Leave in, separated into 3 sections the front section pinned to a pompadour anf the middle and side pulled forward and pinned to the gawds!

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion



Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion


Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

Comfy Cute Cozy Winter Fashion

Cultivating Joy: 5 Ways to Bring More Happiness to Your Day


Cultivating Joy


As I was writing this, I thought about how it makes me happy that my sons kiss me as soon as they see me. The other day I was trying to make a YouTube video (for the first time) and my middle son walked in and kissed me as I was taping. Before I could get upset, I laughed at myself. Even though I fussed at him, he came right in, kissed me and kept talking on his phone. I told him later that I was trying to tape and that his kiss was in the video and he thought it was so cool. Even now thinking back on that day it brings me Joy.
Now; for the business of “Cultivating Joy”, the term cultivate is usually used in an agricultural since. One definition means to nurture or help grow. So we are growing Joy here!
1. Acknowledge- See the little beauties that are with you every day. Experience the world through the eyes of gratitude. By taking time to be fully present in the thing you are doing, you are allowing yourself to experience the joy..

2. Connect- Surround yourself with the people, places and things that make you happy. If talking to your BFF or even your BF makes you happy, make an intentional effort to connect with them. If you took a vacation that was your favorite, print out the pictures and hang one or two of them up somewhere that will remind you of the fun!

3. Laugh- In today’s world of social media, there are more than enough Vines, Videos, and Snaps, that you can look up just to get a laugh! I know I love when someone shares a funny clip in the morning! That’s a sure way to get me on your page all day!

4. List Your Loves- it’s just what it sounds like. A list of things you love, it’s  almost like a play list. I actually have a love list of bloggers that I can always get inspiration from. I also have a love list of quotes, bible scriptures, and of course songs.

5. Put It On- I used to be a holder onto(er) lol. My favorite perfume, clothes, shoes, what ever. For some reason I would hold onto my favorite things and not use them. I still don’t get why, but what I do get is, I don’t do it anymore. Now I wear my favorite perfume everyday! When I’m feeling a little glum, I get glam! That perks my right up.
For some of us joy is a fleeting emotion. Or something that can only be attained by others. Very often we attach our since of joy to certain accomplishments. These events can contribute to the feeling of joy, however to cultivate authentic joy, you have to look within. Only you can make you happy. What are some ways that you cultivate joy? Tell me in the comments below!

Cultivating Joy


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Welcome To Glamrock: Frugal Fashion Plus Sized Look Under $25

I’m sure it’s no secret that being a stylish plus sized woman is not cheap. It seems that paying more just goes with the territory. It’s even worse for me because I shop with my ears. If you can imagine I’m just walking through a particular store and I start hearing things speaking to me. “Psst hey over here” ” take me home with you”. Sometimes trying it on will help me make the decision to buy or not to buy, and other times it’s so right for me that I just have to get it. I usually set a limit per piece of what I will spend. Such as I don’t want to spend $39.00 for a t-shirt! Yeah that’s just crazy-town! WelcomeTo Glamrock

Now, when that piece that’s calling out to me has a markdown price, there’s almost nothing that’s going to keep me from owning it! That’s what happened with this Glam Rock look. The entire look was only $25 at Burlington Coat Factory! The vest and the top are size 2x and the bottoms are 3x. This particular store has a decent plus size section. I shop both Women’s and Junior’s. The fur vest was the most expensive (if I can even use tWelcome To Glamrock hat word) it was $14.99.       I love these faux leather leggings ( yes I wear leggings, and I look great in them) they were a steal at $4.99 and the top was $5.99. That’s like getting a whole outfit for the price of my favorite jeans at 50% off. **tilts head and winks eye**. Well, what can I say, somethings are just worth the price.

Fashion can be frugal, and even plus sized fashion can be affordable and stylish. Now one word of caution when you find these low low prices you have to try them on. Very often there could be some fit issues. I always make sure the bottom of my shirts hits around the middle of my hips. That way it’s probably low enough in the back to cover some booty, and long enough in the front to cover my lower belly. The waist on bottoms is always my concern, sometimes it’s cut small but the legs fit great. That’s what works for me, but if you feel great in it, by all means get your Glam Rock on.
For more on how to look great in your clothes check out this post ( Plus size mistakes) .Welcome To Glamrock

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Fall Of Pretty Tomboy: Cuffed Jeans, Blazers & Booties

This Fall look reminds of my childhood days rolling my pant legs up so I could race and play with the boys in my neighborhood. I would roll those wide leg jeans, (yes I’m a 70’s baby) or cords up in a second to race them on my bike, on foot and occasionally to hand out good ole mind changing “so you think you can beat me because I’m a girl” beating.

Pretty Tomboy Then one day, when I was about ten or eleven years old, all that changed. I came home from school and my cousin who was living with us at the time, brought home a friend from school. He was the cutest thing I’d ever laid eyes on. This was the first time I worried about being pretty. I remember thinking how glad I was that I looked pretty because it was picture day at school. I’m gonna’ leave the rest of that story for another day, but let’s just say thirty years and four sons later, he still makes me glad I look pretty.

Although I have always loved all things frilly, I’ve never been a girly girl. I don’t subscribe to the wear once philosophy, I believe in building a wardrobe that serves many purposes. I am most comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt. So this look is inspired by my favorite wardrobe items. A well fitting pair of jeans is a curvy girls best friend. If they are the right cut and fit it will show off her assets and camouflage her flaws. When paired with these fringe wedge heel booties, (photos cannot capture the fabulosity) and my favorite swing blazer, this look has just enough pretty to soften the tomboy without losing the comfort. I love this swing blazer because it’s comfortable and versatile. This one fits right down to my hip, so it camouflages my mutant

Pretty Tomboy
Pretty Tomboy

characteristics (the second belly) lol. The large cuffs also lends itself to the coulattes trend of this year.

Between the comfort of this look and the fit of my jeans, this look has the right amount of pretty to keep my inner tomboy feeling Pretty yet comfy!

The jeans are flared leg, which I have said before are one of my favorite fits, because it accommodates my thick thighs. (similar).

The blazer is from my closet. (similar)

The shirt is a cami of which I have a lot in every color and length.

The booties are from Ashley Stewart or (similar)

I chose sparkly jewelry because I love the ideas of what I call “pretty hard” it’s like wearing this large pave sparkly necklace with jeans and a tee. Or adding a dress over your jeans.

Bonus: Pretty Hard Look
How about paring your favorite little black dress, old faithful obi belt and the same jeans.Pretty Hard

By wearing them long it adds a little more ‘pretty’ but their still the same comfy jeans.

Whether you are a girly girl or a pretty tomboy, have fun with your look and keep all things pretty.

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Fall Forward: Fall Wardrobe Trends & Hair Regimen Tips To Help You Fall Forward

Fall Forward

Ahh the Fall Season is upon us. Fall is my favorite time of year. All things Fall seem warm and comfy. As the leaves start to turn, and the temperature starts to cool down layers are the key to making the best of this transition. Layering your clothes as well as layering product into your hair.

We are loving wool blend Wraps, and sweater Shawls, and Ponchos. This is and easy addition to update your look without breaking the bank.

Wide leg jeans are back! If you are like me and have thighs “thicker than honey” this is a win for you.  imageWith the wider leg, it allows for a better fit on the thigh.

As a Plus Size Fashionista I am very excited that the chunky heel is in! There’s nothing worst the trying to balance an elephant on a tea cup! Lol this is what some heels feel like to me.😂 Cross Body Bags, Long Necklaces, and Tassels will take you full on Boho Fall Fall forwardStyle!



As for your hair, hopefully you are sealing your hair with the LOC Method, especially  if you have natural hair. This is a layering of products that helps to seal the moisture into your hair. It’s an acronym for (L) Leave in or Liquid (O) Oil or in the fall a Butter works best and (C) is Cream or your styler. As the temps drop be sure to replace your oil with  great hair butter such as Keirenea Honey Dipped Hair and Body Butter ( click here ). The butters stand up to the cooler weather better than the oils.

Fall Forward

For this look I just brushed my hair up and smoothed the sides with the Honey Dipped Butter, and tied it up with an old knee high. Yes I used a knee high. The flexibility of being able to tie it at the size I want along with the stretch of the fabric works best for me.

My wide leg jeans came from my closet, but I have found a similar items ( click here for similar) . My accessories are all Plato’s Closet scores for $45 I got these Michael Kors Platform Heels (click here  for similar). The Cross Body Bag ( click here for similar), and the Tassle Necklace ( similar), The wrap is from Ashley Stewart ( click here for similar) . Just for you we have curated a Fall Forward Store where you can get all your items in one place.

( click here for the Fall Forward Store)

Remember to embrace the natural beauty of my most favorite season! If these tips and trends or for you please follow us on social media, we are on Instagram – mrsphatandnaptural, Facebook – and Twitter – mrsphatandnap, and if you like what we do please comment. Be easy and Fall with style.

Maxin & Relaxin : Late Summer Closet Remix

Ok so if you if your not from the 90’s you’ve probably never been “ Maxin & Relaxin”, lol. It’s kicking back, just chilling, and with the last days of the summer coming to a close I’m trying to maximize my Maxin & Relaxin. If you are like me and there are still quite a few dates left on the summer calendar and you don’t want to buy new pieces just for a few weeks, you are really going to appreciate this closet remix.

If you haven’t figured it out this remix, it is a maxi skirt. Three looks 1 skirt:

The first look is full on summer glory, in this look the long maxi is pulled up and belted worn as a halter dress.

Look #1 : Maxin

Paired with long necklaces, a chunky bracelet, and strappy sandals. This is perfect for cooling out!

Look number 2 is for those days when it’s a little chilly or the company is a little more modest. Same belted halter, with a bolero added for a little coverage and a new look.


Look # 2 : Chill Mode

imageJust add a short blazer, light vest, or a bolero as shown above.

So Look number 3 is the traditional look for a maxi skirt, most commonly women wear them long with a shirt.

So this was actually my #fashionforchurch on the day I shot this look.

Look # 3 Relaxin

imageSo for this look I added a multicolored tank and a bracelet that went with the multi theme of the shirt and a simple gold necklace, and black sandals.

When I was planning this, I was imagining, what if you have more than one event to attend and you don’t want to keep going home to change. You can attend all three and look as if you had multiple wardrobe changes when you really just added a little of this and took off a little of that.

Now there all set, three looks, with one piece. No need to stress about what to where to your next kickback, just chill and max out. Lol😂. Stick with me I’ll show you how to dress a Phatty!

Don’t for to shop our Amazon Store for styles like these and much more look under the category “ How To Dress A Phatty”  click here! But for now See Ya Phatty 😘




Full Beauty & Style- Full Figured Fashion Week & The Curvycon


This week I had the pleasure of being in the same space as some of the innovator’s, creators, and leaders of the #Full Beauty / Curve movement. I started my week off with the Official Welcome Party Luau given by Ms. Gwen Devoe creator of Full Figured Fashion Week.image
imageThere I met the likes of Ms. Sharon Quinn of “Model Behavior” she was the coach for #FFFWeek2015 hosted by “#FitforMe” Fruit of the Loom.
I live in central Jersey and I usually drive to NYC, but this week I decided that it would be more economical for me to just take public transportation, and plus it was raining and I hate driving in the rain. I do not do the Subway, but to get to this event in Midtown I had to go underground! I was very proud of myself, I took the New York bus to the Port Authority ( I’m not going to mention that the highway was flooded and the driver kept going as if it was nothing, oh I just mentioned it), I followed the signage to the subway and hopped the E train and in 5 stops I was there!imageimage

“Sometimes Our Destiny Is Closer Than We Think”.image

The party was amazing all of the guests were beautiful and the Food was off the chain! A Fat Girl party with great food great music and lots of dancing! imageHow could this not be the grandest party ever! Although I was a newbie, to say all the models and staff were very welcoming and accommodating would be an understatement. It was a great event!image I also met some of my favorite fashion Bloggers such as #Mariedenee of The Curvy Fashionista, Farah from #Estrellas Fashion Report, I had the pleasure of meeting some of the team ( they were formerly one stop plus) and a host of other inspiring and enlightening people. Although their exposure to me was quick I pray it was lasting !imageimage

If you are going to a Luau this summer or just want to sport the trend here are some inspiring looks:image











Day 2 for me was the #FFFWEEKBUSINESSPANEL meeting. I almost skipped this event because my youngest son was graduating to middle school and my second oldest was graduation from High School on Wednesday and Thursday and I needed to get things together for them, but as I prayed and contemplated my choices, my spirit spoke to me and told me I needed to be in the mist of this and it would be good for me.

This was a rather intimate (about 25 people) setting in a beautiful Midtown space with a panel of some of today’s sharpest and brightest innovators. They gave tips and insight on ways to effectively navigate today’s business climate. We discussed everything from Social Media Marketing and strategy  building, to trademarking and licensing, branding, and even the usefulness of addressing negative comments and how to use it as a tool to promote positive responses to negativity.

Not only was the #businesspanel on point but the attendees were a wealth of invaluable information. Having so many different people from so many different levels of success all with the same goal to advance and help others was so powerful!

Day 3 was the White Party: # CURVESATSEA although I had one of the coveted tickets, I had to forgo this one. imageknow, I know, I was not happy at all. I was watching all the beauties from the comfort of my bed! Thank God for #socialmedia I was able to still feel the energy and live vicariously through my fellow #curvygirls . My little one graduated that day and my bigger son was graduating the next day, so for the better peace in my heart, head and my boys I sat this one out. But there will always be next year!

For some White Party inspiration – Yes Curvy Girls wear white! :image






As my real life called me back to work and family for the next 2 days, again I had to depend on the vision and sharing of my fellow Full Body Beauty Bloggers. I was checking the hashtags and clicking the links to see all that I could.

Here are some of my favorite looks shared by others:

































And as they say “The Icing on the Cake” (yes a food reference) on Saturday I had the pleasure of attending #THECURVYCON! image


imageimageimageThis was the first time I have ever had been to such an event. For my fellow nerds we go to all kinds of conferences. So the whole idea was not foreign, but to actually have a full conference filled with brands, bloggers, vendors, celebrities, and members of the plus sized community all gathered for the purpose of expanding celebrating and uplifting Full Figured Beauty & Style was amazing! imageimageThe topics ranged from looking good at any size, dating, healthy curves, and over all body acceptance. The Key note speaker was none other than the Cute and Curvy Amber Riley.imageShe talked about how she didn’t know she was “fat” until she started acting. She said she would kill the audition and then not get the job. It took her managers to tell her that the powers that be felt she was too heavy for the roll. Now I’m short and she couldn’t be any taller than 5’ and she’s a size 8. So in real life she is very tiny, but in Hollywood not so much. She said something that so touched my heart. She quoted scripture “We are fearfully and wonderfully made” then she added “When you know God nothing can stop you”. I needed that #msamberpriley.
imageBeing fashionable or being fat is not new to me. Being a blogger is, at #thecurvycon I was able to meet some of my peers. I’d say the most impressionable to me were Grown and Curvy , and Ciaa of My Curves and CuI’s. They both took time to talk to me and give me some encouragement and direction. To me that is the sign of a great blogger. image













My intention as a blogger is to encourage and enlighten and I can see they are like me in this pursuit. I’ve  always been comfortable with myself at every size up and down, but I never thought I could share the same space with those who others see as leading authority on fashion and beauty. It was a real joy to experience all of this. I am so grateful to God for all that He has done for me! The seeds He plants in my heart never cease to amaze me. I know this post is about my week at #FFFWEEK experienceing the #Fullbeautystyle of some beautiful ladies, but we can’t leave God out. He makes it all happen!

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With Love See Ya Phatty!

Girl Don’t Do That : Worst Plus Size Mistakes

I always come across great tips for the modern plus sized woman. I say modern because gone are the shabby mumu’s imageof yesterday, the one look for all over 200 pounds, and the grandma gear. The modern day curvy is fierce, bold, and chic. The modern day “big” girl is usually dipped honey *two finger snaps*. imageGrowing up I was always the chubby one. The chubby sister, chubby cousin, and chubby friend, buuuut I was always fly. My mom was anti frump lol! So I always tried to wear figure flattering clothes, though I see some pictures that make me take deep sighs lol! So let’s talk about the donts of plus size fashion!
#1 Under Garments
Let’s start from the very beginning, because the proper under attire can make or break your look!
The right sized underwear
I know we all would like to think because we are chunky that we have Beyonces booty but heavier, this is not true lol! Having a big butt or a wide butt doesn’t not mean you have an apple bottom. But with the right underwear you might be able to convince people that you are the heavy Bee that you envision lol! Underwear that is too tight looks bad even with your clothes on. It squeezes the butt into an awkward shape and let’s some parts hang out. Panties that are too big bunch up and give you granny booty. So please buy the right size!
-The right bra
I can not stress this enough! The right bra is the way of life! The right sized bra will give you an equal balance of the proper cleavage and a smoother upper back. I know it’s frustrating as a busty girl that you can’t run and get a cheap $3.99 bra that will give you support and last after wash day, but the proper bra is worth the right amount of coins. But here’s a secret that I’ve known for a while but did not realize it was a secret lol, Walmart has good cheap bras for us! A lot of women are surprised at this. Cacique is the ultimate best place for a bra! imageIt is worth every penny! I have literally cried when damage has happened to one of these bras (seriously lol). Also here is a tidbit, if you want the correct size go get measured and stop guessing. A bra that is too tight looks really bulky in the back. Making your upper fat rolls look like they are ready to pop! imageAnd that’s not sexy cleavage, when your bra is too small your breast look angry lol! Don’t believe me? Ask some one. A bra that is too big, fits incorrectly and a lot of slippage occurs throughout they day. No one wants to be readjusting their boobs all day. Remember do not dry your bras (especially the good ones) in the dryer. Always bend forward when putting on your bra to ensure every tidbit is in place. Here’s another secret, the three different rows of hooks are there for a reason. You’re supposed to comfortably fit into your bra using the first hooks and graduate in to the other hooks once the bra gets older.
-Shape wear
If you’re anything like me, you cringe deep down inside when you hear the word shape wear. Suddenly your palms are sweaty, your diaphragm is tight, and it’s hard to breathe lol! But the truth is, some desired looks need shape wear no matter what size you wear. Sometimes we need to smooth our rolls out to rock that hot dress! As we know there are many different shape wear options, and honestly you should own more than one. Chasity from Garnerstyle can be seen rocking different styled shape wear, she has a whole post about shape wear on her blog. If you are anti shape wear try going with a fitted camisole. It just smoothed your tummy and back out, they aren’t as tight because they have less elastic. imageThe proper way to wear shape wear is to first try it on! You want to get the correct size because shape wear that is too big is useless, and too small actually pushes the rolls and curves all over the place. Always step into your shaper, even if it is just a camisole.  Last but not least do not dry your shaper! This wears on the elastic! Follow your care instructions they are there for a reason.
#2 Dress for your shape
The media makes us believe that the only desirable shape is the hourglass, but in reality you should always feel desirable no matter what! There are many different shapes and sizes so what may fit on your shape may not fit on mine.image
#3 It’s not always for you
I know we see these hot trends from the local plus size trend setters, but it’s not always for you. But this takes us back to dress for your shape. Sometimes we have to realize that just because it’s in our size it’s not always flattering. We can’t always be in the “me too” crew!image
#4 Your size doesn’t define you
It’s just a number ladies! And sometimes that number changes. If you are one size and you can squeeze into a smaller size does not mean it looks good. So if you wear a 22 and can squeeze into that 18 but it doesn’t look good, make it a goal to look good in that. But if you’re anti diet and exercise give it away if it doesn’t look good. Wearing clothes are too big to “hide” your weight isn’t flattering to you, just like wearing too small clothes. Embrace it honey! So don’t let the number on the tag define how you feel.image

We are all about self love and feeling good about yourself. So if you feel good just go for it. But we also want you to look as good as you feel. We are not trying to bash our fellow curvy, but just trying to show you the best you! Always remember wear it with confidence!
Muah phatty!
Ja’ nay of mrsphatandnaptural