Breaking All The Rules Yacht Party : Full FIGURED FASHION WEEK CURVES AT SEA ALL WHITE YACHT PARTY
Yes you heard it right! Hundreds of full figured beauties wearing all white dancing, singing and partying without a care! I must admit although I had a great time, and the food was excellent. I was doing a lot more watching than participating. I can’t help it I’m a people watcher. So, as I watched and admired how great everyone looked, I also realized that everyone was expressing their fashion their way! It was awesome!
Breaking rules and looking fabulous!
Rule #1 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD NOT WEAR WHITE
Rule # 2 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD WEAR LONG SHIRT – NO CROP TOPS
Rule # 3 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM LACE AND SHEER CLOTHING
Rule #4 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM FORM FITTING CLOTHING
Rule # 5 CURVY GIRLS SHOULD CAN NOT BE PAGENT QUEENS
I guess nobody told them about us!
Soooo just because they are my favorite looks of the night!
This is my favorite moment of the night! I got to meet my #haircrush Nakitende Esther!
Finally we are getting some hot days! I love summer fashion! The flowing dresses, bright colors, and light air feel to the clothes just puts a smile in my heart! As with many offices, my job has a business casual office attire. Although there is no clear definition of “ business casual” sometimes people forget the business and add a little too much casual.
In the warmer months we usually get that not so subtle reminder from HR. You know the one informing us of the obvious warmer weather, imploring us to use good judgement when dressing for working, and asking us not to embarrass ourselves, fellow coworkers, or the company. Yet and still some people don’t get the hint.
Navigating the difference between what’s appropriate for business casual and what not may not be easy. In my office we have certain restrictions which are pretty standard.
1. No sheer or see through clothing ( yes it needs to be stated).
2. Shoes must either have a strap on the back, or closed toes.
3. No cutoff shorts
4. No Tshirts with graphics
5. No swim wear ( yes it has happened)
My summer staples are maxi dresses and skirts, light denim, and bright colored everything. I incorporate these items in heavy rotation for work and play. So, I have a few guidelines of my own that I use to keep it stylish and appropriate.
Party On The Bottom
Pair your bold print pants and skirts with a neutral top. Choose a solid white, denim, or a another summer neutral that matches the bold print.
Bright Bold Beauty
Add color, bright colors, bold beautiful, summers tops and or bottoms. The bright color just screams summer. I love yellows, corals, and teals.
This one is my saving grace! I usually keep a light sweater or denim jacket on the back of my chair. You know those pretty sleeves summer dresses and shirts? Guess what you can wear them to the office! Just keep a blazer, jacket or sweater handy to cover your arms and voila! Office appropriate.
So there Girlfriend! Now as it heats up outside, make sure you keep it cool, casual, and be about your business!
I have a confession to make, I have to go out looking for a swimsuit, and I’m so dreading it! I haven’t owned a bathing suit in about 10 years. My poolside wardrobe has been a cute cover up over one of my husbands tanks ( yes I squeeze into his shirts 😂) with some shorts. Lately I’ve been getting a lot of questions about bathing suits so I know that means, time to do a Swimsuit post!
Gabifresh turned the world on its ear a few years ago with the introduction of the “Fatkini”. She continues to release new collections with Swimsuits For All every swim season. Since that time plus sized swimwear has come a long way. But I still can’t say I totally buy into me in a bikini!
Most recently Ashley Graham also released her 007 inspired collection with them. But these big girl panties will run you a pretty penny! The prices rang from $ 109.00 – $ 298.00.
They are beautiful but pricey!
If you’d like a more budget friendly option check out this look book from My Thrifted Closet! Most of these pieces start from $17 and up, from places like Forever 21, and Swimsuits For All. She also gives tips on how to plan early for next year. I am such a fan of her frugal fabulosity!
Next up is Kendall Rae. She has a different body type but she illustrates good choices of suits for plus sized women.
Last but not least is the belle of the ball, A Thick Girls Closet in Monif C! I’ve never had the pleasure of owning any of her pieces yet! Soon Come!
Summertime is on its way! So you know what that means. Beach trips ( or as we say in Jersey going to the Shore), pool parties, and vacations are soon to follow. Where will you be getting your poolside gear?
Where ever you chose we know you’ll be smoking hot! As always for more follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest! You can find us at Mrsphatandnaptural across all platforms. So holla at us!
As plus size fashionistas continue to lead the charge for market share and demand respect, we see more and more brands and designers trying to get a leg up on the competition. I myself am very excited to see all the developments taking place. These are just 3 of my recent favs! Ashley Nell Tipton with JC Penny for the Boutique+ collection!
This is the most epic collaboration. Not only does Ashley have exquisite taste and an eye for style, but she’s a fellow fat girl! So you know without a doubt no one has to tell her, we need a little stretch in our fabric. The tops and Tees seem to run a little large, so you should size down. Now when was the last time you heard that!?
She knows about that meat on the back of our legs that we don’t like to show! So she has bottoms and skirts midi length. How ever there are a few shorts in the collection.
I’m sure she is all too familiar with the mutant second stomach that hangs down below our hip line! So guess what she designs for that body.
I’m very much in love with both graphic tees, the blush pleated skirt, the cold shoulder tops, and the distressed knickers.
Now here is the best part, right now they are 40 % off! With price points this low ( 12.99- 35.99) I can pretty much get all of my favorite pieces.
Thanks to the lovely Kelly Augustine we have a video of the full runway show!!! It’s at the end of the post!!!!
I love that all the clothes are shown on real bodies! Curvy Style With Timothy Snell
The tag line says it all A-list Style for the everyday physique. He’s called the bodyguard of curvy fashion. I first heard Of him as Queen Lateefa’s stylist. He has styled some of thee most famous curvy body’s we know today.
On the show that airs on BET’s Centric channel Saturday at 10, he dresses one celeb client and one everyday woman. In both segments he gives tips for how he dresses certain body types. There has only been 2 episodes and already he’s touched on proper undergarments ( in my opinion the #1 plus size mistake), the importance of taking care of yourself as a mother and wife, and insecurities about issues we may or may not have.
We really need to support this show. It’s the first show where plus sized fashion is center stage!
Christian Siriano for Lane Bryant
This Runway show was a lot more formal. It was held outside at the United Nations in NYC! The setting was beautiful, and the clothes looked divine! It was very much a start studded “Fashion” event. Lots of celebrities and pretty people. Miss Danielle Brooks stole the show in this bright yellow number that flowed like she had wings!
The collection is very light and airy! Lots of bright colors, lots of patterns, all in all a very girly girl look! Now true to Lane Bryant the price points are on the high side ( 29.95-168). However there is a discount code 👇.
Buy 1 get 75% with code LOVELB
I’ll probably just wait for the price to go down. I’d rather wait to have something I really want, instead of buying something else just for the price.
So there you have it! 3 of my favorite “ Curves Are Trending “ stories happening in plus size fashion today! But before you go, click the link below and catch the #soworthit Ashley Nell Tipton collection for JC Penny!
So it’s April, summer is around the corner and I fell off the fitness train! And when I say off I meant all the way off. I got to a place where I wasn’t doing much about my health and believe me before I stepped on the scale my jeans told me! But as I said in my last fitness post👉( Fight Of A Fit Phatty)
“When you fall off don’t stay off!”
I’ve gained 10lbs back and I’ve been eating pretty crappy. I let life get in the way, nope scratch that; I got in my own way.
“Lack of time is actually a lack of priorities”
No excuses, time to get back to health! Knowing is only half the battle, now it time to get back into the fight with this fat!
Here are my chosen weapons of war :
Liquid Gold! A gallon of water a day! Yikes that’s a lot of water! But water is the key to good health! I try to just drink 6 bottles of water so I’m not looking at a gallon all day! If you don’t like plain water add fruit for a good taste and detox!
Hand to Mouth! I mean snacks! Not the fudgy gooey kind, something good and healthy but filling! I love nature valley bars or flavored rice cake minis, fruit, and nuts. Eat something that is filling between meals and make sure it’s not empty calories!
Beat the clock! It’s no secret that most people don’t exercise because of time, but you have to do it. I wish I could go to the gym and rock out for an hour but my life doesn’t work that way! But you can do 20 minute work outs 3 times a day. That will burn the same amount of calories as a continuous hour. I like high intensity workouts that you can do in 20 minutes and burn the same amount of calories or more! Walk at lunch a few days a week, or six 15 minutes bursts if you have to. whatever works for you, do it!
Click fitness! I like to explore Pinterest and YouTube for new exercises. Remember to do the correct forms though! 10 correct moves goes a lot further than 50 incorrect. Last year I could only do ONE push up! I kept trying and now I’m at 10. It’s your heart rate pumping that will be the benefit!
Eyes to see! In every aspect of life we need someone to look to and something to aspire towards. Whether it’s a family member, friend, or favorite social media celebrity, let someone else’s journey inspire you.
Don’t wait until you feel like it! Honestly we will never feel like it most of the time lol! Sometimes I feel like today will be my rest day just like yesterday and I never get anything done.
Reap Wisely! I always say this! Don’t reward yourself with food or punish your self with brutal exercise! Instead reach a goal and purchase something else besides food! If you’ve fallen from fit grace do not over work yourself! Start off slowly and ease your way back in.
I hope you continue to take this journey with me! If you have more tips please leave them in the comments! What are you doing? Share with us on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest!
So, this post started out as a list of some of my favorite places to shop. Then as I was literally writing out a draft of that post, I received two emails that changed my direction. One was from someone who wanted to know where I shop at, and the other was from someone who said they were going on vacation and wanted to know what I think they should take.
That got me reminiscing about the days, when I would go into the store, and look for my size and buy it. No matter if I liked it or not. It was my size ( size 20) and fit reasonably well (actually too big), so it came home with me. How pathetic was I?
I know this is the plight of so many plus size women! I hear it all the time. Especially young plus size women. It’s as if there’s no in between, there’s overly sexual ( a whole other post right here) and then there’s frumpy! Well later for all that!
Fast forward to today, ( size 22-24) I love shopping straight size trends and look for classic pieces to keep my wardrobe ever fresh!
Now, I can do outfit of the day posts all day long, and I still get the same question. Where did I get this or that? I want to make this as easy as possible. Below I’ve highlighted some of my favorite straight size 2016 Spring Trends, and listed the stores where you can pick them up.
Cold Shoulder: This is definitely a more feminine trend that looks great on plus sized women. The bare shoulders draws the eye up to your beauty.
Florals: You’ll see this one in small and large prints, appliques, and even combined with other trends. After all Spring Showers Bring May Flowers!
Ruffles: So, I’ve seen some articles describe this trend as “Spanish” however, be careful where you choose to display the ruffles they could add unwanted volume if the are sitting on the wrong curve!
Lace: Most recently, Beyoncé strutted a white lace number at the White House Easter Egg Roll. Yes just like that, all the lace pencil skirts went up! Lol. You see lace on skirts, dresses, shirts as the main fabric or as accents.
Stripes: Yeah, so that ” Big Girls Can’t Wear Stripes” not today! We are blurring the lines and rocking vertical, horizontal, and even diagonal stripes!
Romance: This one has the potential to be dangerous! It’s uber sexy and sometimes called “Daytime Lingerie”. I think you get the picture. Satin, sheers, laces, nets, but it can all be done in good taste. So let’s keep the raunchy out of romance ok.
Denim: This is one of those ever fresh categories. Like when was jeans ever not a trend?
Tulle: Yup, it’s still in! Yay! I love tulle skirts, you can dress them up with heels and a nice blouse, or down with Jean shirts. They go with sandals, sneakers,t-shirts and they fit great on everybody’s body. You can’t mess the look up!
Where I shop in store or online:
Fashion To Figure- mostly online but there are stores in Jersey. The clothes fit true to size and they always have sales.
Tip: Sign up for the email lists, I shop when they have discounts via email.
Burlington- In store, I have one close to my house and one close to my job. So, I’m always checking the racks.
Tip: If you like it, get it right then, because chances are it’ll be gone quick.
Eloquii- Only online. The clothes are a great quality for the price! These pieces last through washing and wearing and they are very fashion forward.
Tip: Same as above, I shop when they have deals and coupons via email.
Asos Curve- Online Only, again the clothes are great quality the sizes are true to size.
Tip: Make sure you by US sizes they not UK sizes. I know a few people that made this mistake.
Torrid- Both instore and online. They absolutely have the best fitting jeans! They always have sales and they have the loyalty rewards for being an insider.
Tip: Use your insider points, and buy ” staple” pieces, because the prices are not cheap.
Ashley Stewart- For years this was the only place I shopped but as of late ehh! It’s still a great resource, but things have changed.
Rebdolls- Online only, I love them but you have to get the extended sizes fast because they sell out quickly! A lot of these pieces are a little young for me. But they are great for the plus sized millennial woman.
Lane Bryant- In store just because it’s close to my house. Sometimes the prices take me down though! I try not to shop in a rush, but if there is ever a last minute need, I go there.
Full Beauty.com- Online only,You can usually find any and everything on this site! That’s their whole niche. Wide shoes, classic trends and the new in thing ” Swimsuits For All”; you name it they have it!
Do you have a favorite store? Drop it in the comments below!
Have you ever heard the saying, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” ? Well, there’s another side to this coin. Duplication is the surest way to fail. In this era of social media we are constantly bombarded with images, ads, and words that tailor our thinking one way or another. Although we have begun to tout this mantra of self-love and body acceptance, it’s no secret that everyone wants to be like someone. It’s human nature to imitate and implement the things we love about someone or something else in our own life.
In fact as followers of Christ we are charged to live a life that can be imitated by others. We are to be Christlike as Christ imitates The Father to be Godlike. The bible says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew ??chapter and verse
The real danger comes from trying to duplicate others actions, looks and or life.
“Why Be A Copy When You Were Born Original” by Oscar Wilde
Follow me now, this relationship with trying duplicate others is a slippery slope.
For one, it’s not authentic and you will not be able to keep it up.
For two, when you can no longer keep up the charade it will cause feelings of defeat.
For three, people can tell when you are not real.
Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t look to others for inspiration, but we need to apply these thing to our life as it fits us. I believe we need examples of how to be, as well examples of how not to be!
I remember the older women always saying
“ Take It Home and Make It Look Like You”.
In this picture I was inspired by ChiChi from Supple Chic. I could have gone out and had a skirt like hers made or tried to buy one, but instead I went to my closet and found this plaid pencil skirt that I got from Torrid. In fact the cut of that skirt may have been a little easier on my mid section lol.
At 5’3 and well over what is considered an acceptable weight, it’s no question that I have to be creative when dressing my body. My legs and hips are one of those features that I love about my body, so for me pencil skirts give me the curvy longer look that I prefer. I choose to wear my shirt on the outside because, to me it looks and feels better on the area (tummy time) that I don’t care for.
So, do look to others for inspiration. Do not try to duplicate them. While they say “For every one idea you have, three other people have it at the same time” but nobody has your version of it!
Remmber be the best you that you can be! Because everyone else is taken!
Sometimes winter fashion is all about the outerwear or footwear, but this post is about an oldie but goody…the sweater dress! The sweater dress has 50 Shades of style! I’m not a dress wearer but this dress is as comfortable as my favorite jeans, as cozy as a pair of sweats, and cute to boot!
It’s a dress that is comfy enough that I wore it to drive on a 2.5 hour car ride, and when I got there I looked as good as I did when I first put it on. The sweater dress is forgiving to your curves, and did I say it comfortable? Oh yeah I did!
Next to comfort, the variety of style options is the best thing! You can take it all the way up with some pumps, or way down with a ballet flat. If you can make it work, they even look great with a fresh pair of Keds. My favorite way to rock this style is with a high knee boot, and an obi belt placed at empire waist height. By adding the belt it draws the eye up away from my belly! The sweater dress, knee boot look is a classic that can be worn by most body shapes.
As a more curvy girl, I love the way the sweater dress hugs my curves. You can wear them at thigh length or to the floor! They still look great!
Between the snow, the cold, and the ice, the Northeastern Winter can just make you fashion sick! So, make sure you have a cozy, comfy, and cute sweater dress in your fashion first aid kit! What do you have in your Winter Fashion First Aid Kit? What are your winter go to pieces and how do you rock them.
My natural hair is smoothed up into a protective style updo with Cantu Leave in, separated into 3 sections the front section pinned to a pompadour anf the middle and side pulled forward and pinned to the gawds!
As I was writing this, I thought about how it makes me happy that my sons kiss me as soon as they see me. The other day I was trying to make a YouTube video (for the first time) and my middle son walked in and kissed me as I was taping. Before I could get upset, I laughed at myself. Even though I fussed at him, he came right in, kissed me and kept talking on his phone. I told him later that I was trying to tape and that his kiss was in the video and he thought it was so cool. Even now thinking back on that day it brings me Joy.
Now; for the business of “Cultivating Joy”, the term cultivate is usually used in an agricultural since. One definition means to nurture or help grow. So we are growing Joy here!
1. Acknowledge- See the little beauties that are with you every day. Experience the world through the eyes of gratitude. By taking time to be fully present in the thing you are doing, you are allowing yourself to experience the joy..
2. Connect- Surround yourself with the people, places and things that make you happy. If talking to your BFF or even your BF makes you happy, make an intentional effort to connect with them. If you took a vacation that was your favorite, print out the pictures and hang one or two of them up somewhere that will remind you of the fun!
3. Laugh- In today’s world of social media, there are more than enough Vines, Videos, and Snaps, that you can look up just to get a laugh! I know I love when someone shares a funny clip in the morning! That’s a sure way to get me on your page all day!
4. List Your Loves- it’s just what it sounds like. A list of things you love, it’s almost like a play list. I actually have a love list of bloggers that I can always get inspiration from. I also have a love list of quotes, bible scriptures, and of course songs.
5. Put It On- I used to be a holder onto(er) lol. My favorite perfume, clothes, shoes, what ever. For some reason I would hold onto my favorite things and not use them. I still don’t get why, but what I do get is, I don’t do it anymore. Now I wear my favorite perfume everyday! When I’m feeling a little glum, I get glam! That perks my right up.
For some of us joy is a fleeting emotion. Or something that can only be attained by others. Very often we attach our since of joy to certain accomplishments. These events can contribute to the feeling of joy, however to cultivate authentic joy, you have to look within. Only you can make you happy. What are some ways that you cultivate joy? Tell me in the comments below!