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Why Isn’t My Natural Hair Regimen Working For Me?!!

Why Isn’t My Natural Hair Regimen Working?

imageIf you have asked yourself this question chances are you are probably getting frustrated and about to do something really rash! Let me guess either you are checking the ground for a soft spot and you are about to hop off this “Natural Hair Bandwagon” ! Or you are seeing letters the old “BC” big chop? Maybe just maybe you are a little less extreme than most and you are just going to get braids and wait it out?

Guess what if you get braids they have to come out sometime. The “BC” will soon grow back. And even if you go back to the creamy crack, the thoughts of what could have been will only lead you back down the natural hair highway only now you will be starting from less than zero.

Well, maybe not that bad, but none the less you already made the decision to start on this path so let me see if we can get you on track!

The good news is more than likely the solution to your hair woes is right before you. If you don’t have a regimen this is a great time to start. Below are some of the most common culprits that’s causing you to get frustrated with your natural hair journey. ( Click her to visit our store and get all your haircare needs )

 

  • Hair porosity– this simply means the ability and level at which you hair accepts and holds onto imagemoisture. There are 3 types of hair porosity. Chances are if you are transitioning or if you cannot seem to keep moisture in your hair, your hair has high porosity. The hair cuticles are open so it’s difficult to hold onto moisture. Normal porosity hair accepts most products, doesn’t get overly dry, and keeps a good shine. Low porosity hair is usually very coarse because the hair shaft is so compact , that it’s very difficult for the moisture to penetrate. The upside is when you do find out how to get the moisture in it stays. This type of natural hair is often seen as “ healthy hair” because it seems strong and dense.  The porosity of you hair will directly affect the outcome of your wash, style, and overall hair appearance. I hope this didn’t scare you, lol. Don’t worry it’s all correctable!

click the link here to understand what hair porosity is and how you can correct it.

  • Consistency- There is no magic formula here. Chances are you’ve spent years relaxing, coloring, locing or doing whatever it was you were doing before you got to this point. So it’s going to take some time and regular consistent care and treatment to bring your hair back to its natural state. This is where you will get the most out of your hair regimen, if you stick to a product, style, and/or care routine it will get easier and you will get better at it. Period, find what works for your hair and dedicate yourself to making it yours!
  •  Poor diet – Believe it or not what you eat plays a big role in your overall hair health and appearance. Drinking plenty of water is good all around, and great for your hair hydration. I’m not against the hair vitamins but I think you should get them from your food. I guess this is why a lot of naturalistas eventually become vegetarian 😉
  • Too much too soon – Just as with everything else in life it’s best to be realistic about your hair goals and limitations. For an extreme personality such as myself, it’s natural to want it all right away, but as I said earlier it took years to get to this point and its going to take sometime to get back to center.
  • The Vlogger Myth – Your hair is never going to look like theirs! Lol, No disrespect intended, most of the Vloggers I watched were very skilled and entertaining at taking care of their own hair. They made everything look so easy. The problem was almost none of them had hair like mine. Also most of them had their hair well trained and conditioned prior to starting the style. Factor in the editing, do overs, experience and their hair doesn’t look like that either! No just kidding, but what I’m really trying to say is, you can’t expect your hair to look like anyone else’s but yours. And if you keep trying to do every style, use every product, jump on every promotion you are going to miss your hit. By all means if something doesn’t work change it, but don’t expect for your fifth grade style to look like someone else’s high school. Most Vloggers are what we call expert learners so they’ve learned to perfect that which they do.

imageSo all in all make a commitment to good hair health, not length, trend, or style and you will be on the Road to Hairvana quicker than you know it!

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See Ya Curlfriend

Why Did You Go Natural: My Nappyversary Story

nappyversaryMay 25, 2013, I remember it like it was yesterday. In fact it was today, but 2 years ago. I had been silently suffering from a very common medical condition that was causing me to lose massive amounts of hair. My hair has always been pretty thick, so I was able to camouflage the hair loss for a long time. But as with any thing that goes ignored it was only getting worst. I consulted with my doctors, as well as did my own research on remedies for hair loss concerning my medical condition. All of the medical data showed that the damage was irreversible and the progression to complete baldness was very likely. At the very least I would suffer from Alopecia.

14nappyyellowhair (2)I was losing hair when I combed, when I washed, and massive globs ( no exaggeration) when I permed ( relaxed) my hair. The thought entered my mind to just stop perming it, but as quickly as it came up, that Lye-er in my head would say “ girl you know your hair is nappy you better perm them naps”. So, I continued to struggle with the thought of being bald or having nappy short hair ( which is what I thought would happen to my hair without a perm) for about another year. Only relaxing it every 12 weeks which is 7 weeks longer than the cycle I had been on for 30+ years. The struggle was real, and all the while I was losing more hair literally by the day. The center crown of my head was shorter than the tip of my finger. Hiding it was getting harder because my hair was getting thinner and in very many spots I had nothing to cover.

At a funeral of a beloved family member I ran into an old friend that I had not seen in 20 years. Her hair was bushy and beautiful! I asked her the common black girlfriend question. “What kind of hair is that?” IMG_7507 her reply floored me. It’s mine, I’m natural. Her hair was healthy and curly! And I knew her hair was just as thick and nappy as mine. So I asked what she was using and how she achieved the style. She explained that she used Miss Jessie’s Curly Pudding, and that this style was called a wash n go. She told me how she washed her hair in the shower applied this product and let it air dry. I was in awe, this seemed so easy, this was it the end of my creamy crack, fried dyed and laid to the side love affair. Just that one hit was the last bit of encouragement that I needed to jump off the decades long mindset that even the fear of baldness could not break.

You know that didn’t happen for me right, lol. Her regimen worked 1blazerlookbackfor her but not for me. She was fully natural and had been for years. I was just beginning. It was a struggle but I kept the thought of her full head of thick hair in my mind to encourage me to stay the course.

So now what? I start researching products, styles,and terminology to get the best understanding of what I needed to do. I decided to transition because as I eluded to above, “ I didn’t want to be bald headed with short nappy hair” the fear was still very close to the surface.

I come from a long line of fierce “ Kitchen Beauticians” and I also graduated from cosmetology school, ( although I never took the state board) so styling my hair was no big deal. Yup, that turned out not to be the 5nappyblacktwistcase 🙂 . My hair was not as easy to manage as I though it would be. I would watch the YouTube vloggers and try a style and it just never seemed to work for me. Their hair always seem to be loser, tighter, shinier, something was different.

I started to wonder, what about their hair was so different, and I realized it was the starting product. The condition of their hair was much different than mine so the results were different. So I began to build on the wash day routine. For me this is the basis to any healthy hair journey. Finding the right regimen is paramount to a loving lasting relationship with your hair.

I mentioned before that I transitioned, what I did was a series of about 3-4 mini chops every 8 weeks 13nappyyellowhipuntil I was fully natural. To be successful at transitioning you have to treat all of the hair as if you are fully natural. So this means limit the harsh gels and shampoos, deep condition often, an find a great leave-In or daily moisturizer to combat dryness. If you wear protective styles limit them to 6-8 weeks. Any longer is not protecting its damaging.

During my transition I used the co-washing technique for about 4 months. Only using shampoo once a month, and deep conditioning every other week. This allowed my natural hair as well as my permed hair to stay well conditioned and manageable and not drying either out. If you are transitioning there is a very important point on the shaft called “ the line of demarcation “ this is where the natural hair meets the permed hair. It is the 11nappyversaryfav (2)weakest point of the shaft and it’s where the hair will snap off. Just know the natural hair is stronger than the permed hair, treat all of the hair as if it’s fully natural and you have to protect the line of demarcation, to have a smooth transition.
If you are fully natural and your mane is just not making the moves you desire, consider changing or developing your hair care regimen. I have an epic post on hair care regimens for ever Curly Girl. I cover every thing from my own personal Lazy Girl products an tips, to hair porosity, and even what foods you can eat to optimize your hair journey. Click the link to see the post.

In honor of my 2 year Nappyversary we did our very first official photo shoot! So in a departure from the norm, all of the photos are from the shoot! I hope you like them! on Pinterest there will be a my Nappyversary board as well as on Facebook.  Please tell us your thoughts, and ask your questions. See you around on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest!

Stay Happy & Nappy!

 

see below for more pic and the outfit details.

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Mesh Sleeve Shirt is from Torrid , Window Pane Knickers are from Ross, The sandals are from Lane Bryant.

 

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This is look is head to toe Lane Bryant, with the exception of the Betsy Johnson bag that I got from Marshals for less than $15!

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The pumps are from Lane Bryant, The Blazer is from my closet, and The sheer side leggings are a few months old I don’t remember where I got them. But I’m almost certain they came from Torrid or Asos Curve.

This is my first outfit post so bare with me on the dets…but I’ll get better 😍

Love Ya!

Frugal Frogal: Natural Hair Regimen Under $10

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Frugal Frogal

Yes ! You read it right ! A natural hair care regimen, for less than the price of my favorite shampoo! Right now my most favorite shampoo is Carol’s Daughter Marabella Shampoo. My Carol’s Daughter shampoo cost $10. Yeah, umm hmmm, ten dollars is my budget. So that’s the first criteria. The second is the products needed to be easily accessible, meaning they can be picked up anywhere. The third criteria is it can’t be too much of a departure from my normal regimen. I always see a lot of post about a shampoo or a conditioner under $10. In fact one of my first post was about shampoos under $12. But this one is a complete regimen under $10, from wash to style.

  • On my quest to “Live Richer”,  I am always looking to “find money”. So I’m taking all of my spending to task, it’s not forever but for now I’m trimming the fat, tossing coins into the piggy bank. By nature I’m a modern day treasure hunter so frugal finds and discount shopping gives me life!

So are you ready to slice your natural hair product budget like a loaf of bread?

Yes everything comes back to food with me! 🙂 ! True to form we at mrsphatandnaptural.com promote healthy hair care above all else! We don’t believe in sacrificing good hair health for any reason. That being said, we want to find quality products that will give the desired result for a fraction of our normal hair product budget.

You should not compromise healthy hair for a style or a dollar. But, If you could get your natural hair regimen under $10 would you do it? Keep reading and let me show you how.

Frugal Frogal

Prepoo: if you don’t normally prepoo than here’s an inexpensive introduction to one of the process I use. It’s the hot towel method. It cost nothing. All you need is a hand towel, ziplock bag, water and a microwave. Free ninety nine!

Cleanse :Shampoo is a very important part of every Curly’s journey. I found this VO5 Strawberries N Cream at CVS for $1.25.

Conditioner : This is a very necessary process that can not be skipped. This one actually came free with another product, Hollywood Beauty Olive Cholesterol deep conditioning crème. Cost me nothing, it was attached to the styler. Free ninety nine!

Frugal FrogalSeal: I usually use the LOC method I want to make sure the moisture is sealed into my hair. That’s what works to keep my hair managed. Oldie but goodie Blue Magic Coconut Oil. Yes it’s grease, what’s wrong with that yo mama used grease and her mama used grease. So why you can’t use it? Lol no seriously though, I did a little research and found that although this does not add any nutrients to your stands it does work as an excellent sealer to loc in moisture. Cost me $2.99 at CVS.

Styler: I don’t normally use stylers but in this regimen the styler is important to pull together any look. Hollywood Beauty Olive Crème hairless for dry hair. Priced just right at $2.99 at CVS

Including tax this cost me a wapping $7.28! Yup! Way under $10. And I got $. 50 in extra care bucks back to be used on a later purchase! Whoop whoop! (Found money $12.75 added to long term savings)Frugal Frogal

I know getting the products is only part of the equation, the other part is the how-to, so here is how I used them:

  • Pre-poo- I sprayed my hair down with water, put a wet hand towel in a ziplock bag and mic it for 3 minutes, (be careful the towel and water are hot)wring the excess water, (again you may want to use tongs) I then wrapped my head in the towel, and placed a bag on my head for 20 min. I normally se a lot of oils in my hair, so this is a way of using those oils already on my hair one last time. The hot towel will open up the hair shaft allowing the oils to penetrate the shaft.
  • Shampoo- I then finger detangle and section my hair into 4 or 6 sections. I wash my hair section by section. Now, because the VO5 is a sulfate shampoo be careful not to tangle your hair. The shampoo has a very pleasant scent and lathers very well. I could hear my hair squeak! Lol
  • Condition and Seal- I run the conditioner through my hair, keeping in the same section by section process that I used to wash it. Put a bag on my head and let it sit for at least 1 hour or 30 min if you use a bonnet/ hooded dryer. Then rinse out section by section. I dry my hair with a t-shirt, squeezing as much moisture as possible into the t-shirt. Then while the hair is damp, I apply the Blue Magic Coconut Oil Crème to seal the moisture into hair shaft. This is the oil for my LOC method.
  • Crème- While the hair is still in sections I apply the Olive Crème. Section by section. This is the crème for my LOC method.
  • Proceed to style as usual, I blow dry my hair on the coolest setting, section by section. At this time if you need a trim, this is the time to do it.

This process left my hair soft and fluffy! It feels very strong. Although I wouldn’t say the product are the same quality, they are good enough to work in the lean times.

Hair tip: always rinse your hair with cool water, be sure to deep condition often, and seal hair with oil and crème after each shampoo.

I will be using these products for the next month, to see the progress and styles I’m able to create with Frugal Frogalthese products, follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Please leave comments and suggest below. If you have any frugal hair finds please let us know! I also challenge you to find a hair care regimen for $10 or less!

It’s the Frugal Frogal Mrsphatandnaptural signing off! See ya Phatty,

5 Steps To Spring Your Hair Back From The Coldest Winter Ever

imageIs it just me or has Mother Nature been putting us to the test? The other day I was so excited that it was finally warm, I check the temperature and it read 28 degrees! Is this possible? Yes, we have been so bombarded with these frigid temperatures that 28 degrees actually felt warm! And our poor frozen tresses!image They have been snowed on, tucked, pulled, and in some cases rubbed out. These are the things we do to our hair under our normal winter weather conditions. But what have we done during “The Coldest Winter Ever”? (Yes, I loved the book) In the Northeastern part of the U.S. We have experienced the most occurrences of below zero temperatures for the month of February since the 1800’s! We have had a record settings 21 snow storms!

Oh I am so glad we made it through, but how did your hair hold up? Because of the colder temperatures some of us don’t treat our hair as well as we should in the Winter. We don’t wash it as much, so we aren’t giving it the conditioning it needs and replacing the moisture that’s naturally lost from being exposed to the colder dryer air.

Very many of us employ protective styling during this time, but this can also be damaging to certain parts of the hair, such as the edges and nape area. Also we love to wear very stylish and most of all warm hats and big knit and wool scarves during the Winter, and most of us don’t have the satin lining in them, or wear a satin scarf under the hat. This is what we call a necessary evil, we have to wrap up and keep warm. image

So now what? Spring is coming and the hats are coming off, and those protective styles are coming out. It’s time for the big reveal!

 

Step one:

The Tress Lover Treatment: Give her a full on 5 part love session! Pre-poo, Hydrating Sulfate Free Shampoo, Comb Through Conditioner, Deep Condition, and LOC Method. This may sound like a lot but sometimes it’s just was the hair doctor ordered.

That Blessed Oil– This one is a fav because, in classic Mrsphatandnaptural style, it’s easy! Lol. Hey what can I say, at least I’m consistent: you simply fill your spray bottle with ¼ cup of Olive Oil, and 1 cup of water! Throughly saturate your hair with the mixture. Comb through with a wide-tooth comb, pile loosely on the top of your head, and put on a plastic cap, or wrap your head with plastic film or even a plastic store bag. You can sit under the dryer for 10-15 minutes, let it sit for 20-30 minutes without heat, or I’ve even slept with it overnight. If you sleep with it, be sure to protect your pillows with extra towels, and plastic bags.

Guacamole – Not really, it’s an avocado mask, but when I make this its all I can think about, 🙂 yes I’m fat, don’t judge me! You take a small ripe avocado, mash it good with, olive oil, and or castor oil. You can heat this one up before you apply it. Section your hair imageinto 8-10 sections and apply 1 section at a time. Either finger comb or use a wide tooth comb to pull the mixture through to the ends of your hair. Put on your plastic ( bag, cap, wrap) wrap your head with a hot towel, and let it sit for 20-30 minutes. You can heat the towel in the microwave.

Egg Mask- This is an oldie but goodie for me. My Cosmetology teacher, Mrs. Iozzi was big on this for her long bleached Jersey hair back in the 90’s when I was in school. It worked then and it still does. You mix 1 or 2 eggs depending on the length of your hair, with one to 2 tablespoons of olive oil, and about a cup of water. You can also add mayonnaise which is just eggs and oil. You apply it throughout your hair massaging it into your hair and scalp for about 15-20 minutes. Then rinse out with warm water. Warning !!! If the wateimager is too hot the eggs will cook into your head. Yes, I’ve made this mistake.

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Step Two:

Cleansing is very important to your hair health, there is a lot of debate about whether or not shampoo is necessary. Fimageor the sake of this post, I say find a good Sulfate Free shampoo, and get to cleansing. I did a post on my four favorite shampoos under $12 when I first went natural,( feel free to check them out !) I also love Cantu, Shea Butter cleansing cream shampoo, and the Carol’s Mirabella Plum shampoo. They are both Sulfate-free, have great lather and are both very reasonable price points. As my hair gets longer the easiest way to wash my hair is in sections. I try to do at least 4 sections, and wash it one section at a time.

Step Three:

Rinse out conditioner, again I love the Cantu Shea Butter hydrating cream conditioner, or Shea Moisture Tahitian Monoi. Froesha (my hair) has a personal favorite it’s Jessi Curl Too Shea extra moisturizing conditioner. She responds very well to miss Too Shea! Just run it through you hair for about 3-5 minutes. You can use the wide tooth comb, (I do) or you can just finger detangle, but it’s important to feel the slip of the conditioner on your hair, makeimage sure it’s well coated, then rinse out.I know this seem like a lot, but that’s why it’s called love! You are showering your tresses with the much deserved love she deserves and beside so far we are only 45 minutes into the process! You are so worth this me time!

Step Four:

Deep conditioning, so we did the rinse out to detangle and coat the hair, now we are going to do a deep condition to treat her well.

Banana Smoothie: yes you read that correctly. In your blender mix 1 banana, I can of coconut milk,and ¼ cup of honey. Blend until the mixture is smooth. I always add some olive oil, because, Idk why not. Lol, I personally do it because it loosens it up and makes it easier for me to manage.

For the less adventurous there is a lot of great off the shelf products you can use, this is an area where it’s best not to skimp. Your hair will tell the story. I would recommend any and all of these that can even be found at your local drug store, Target or Walmart. Shea Moisture deep treatment mask, Cantu Shea Butter deep treatment mask, or Organix Macadamia oil hydrateing deep treatment mask. I use Carol’s Daughter Monoi repairing mask. I leave it on for about 4image5 minutes to an hour, or you can sit under the dryer 25 minutes. Then rinse out.

Step Five:

This last step is the LOC Method. If you’ve read the post Top Five Ways To Take The Fuss Out of Fabulousness you know what this is. It does just what it says it LOCs the moisture into your hair. So far I’m sold on the process. It’s a process of layering product on your hair and the last step seimageals it in. Because it’s done on wet hair, the product penetrates the hair shaft. The products vary, but basically the process works. Your style really does not matter with this process. It works with wash n go, braids, twist/braid outs, and even blow drying. The key is to throughly coat the hair with each layer. Layer one is the leave-in conditioner, layer two is the oil, layer three is the cream. Apply each layer and comb the hair. If you’ve never tried it, you are in for a pleasant surprise. Your hair will thank you!

There 1 hour 20 minutes, to spring that hair right out of it’s Winter blues. If you haven’t done a trim lately this is a good time to do a little dusting. Some Curlies do this every month, I usually only trim during the change of the season. For me this works, but you may need more or less, as I always say, you have to listen to your hair. She will tell you what she wants. I don’t know about you but I am so looking forward to shedding all things Winter, clothes, hair, and all.

I hope you were informed, encouraged, and inspired. Please leave your questions and comments below. For more information like us on Facebook, and check us out on Instagram and Twitter.

imageAs for now get those tresses ready for spring and Fuss-less Fabulousity! See ya Phatty!

Top Five Ways To Take The Fuss Out Of Fabulousness

2014 Top 5 Fuss Free Fab Tools
2014 Top 5 Fuss Free Fab Tools

Hey Sistas, well 2014 is coming to a close and we are knocking on the door of 2015. Last New Year’s Day, I made a promise to my family for the year of 2014; I would enjoy my life more and get back to loving me and sharing my wonderfulness with the world. LOL! Little did I know what God had in store for us. At that time, I didn’t know that I would start a blog to share my natural journey, and my struggle finding fashionable affordable plus sized items that fit my style. By the way my style is, I love the high maintenance look but I’m lazy so it has to be easy! 🙂 Most of the time I have the plan in my head but, I don’t work on it until the last minute.
This brings me to my Top Five favorites of 2014. This was not easy because I am the shortcut queen. So everything that I love involves Taking the Fuss Out of Fabulousness. I truly believe you don’t have to spend all day to look like you do. Now don’t get me wrong you can’t live on a short, sometimes you have to do the work, but my philosophy is if I lay a great foundation I can skate a little. With my hair, I make sure I practice ideal cleansing and conditioning regularly so I don’t have worry about breakage, thinning, and loosing my edges. Same goes for my wardrobe I try to buy staple or capsule pieces that are easy to put together to look fab with out much fuss.

  • image1- My two favorites are a tied for #1, the Ecostyler Olive Oil Gel and Cantu Shea Butter Leave In are absolutely my favorite short cut tools of 2014. You can find them any and everywhere. From Walmart, Sally’s, to your local beauty supply and or drug store. For me there aren’t many drawbacks I can name. They work very well together and keep my hair looking healthy and shinny. I must admit for most of 2014 I really didn’t use much else on my hair.  The only draw back is if you are too heavy handed with the Cantu you can get a white residue on your hair. I use this combo on my Puff which is my goto style, and it keeps my edges slayed and laid. This is also the combo I use on my twist outs. My entire family uses the Cantu, and we all have different hair types. I tend to use them together but they are both equally fierce all by themselves. When ever a Curly asks me to recommend products, first a ask them about there wash routine and the next step is this recommendation. One of the best things is  the price point. For the price you can’t beat the results. I know people who pay a lot of money for expensive products and their hair doesn’t like it! In January I did my final mini chop cutting about 4-5 inches of permed hair off and from then on I used almost nothing but these two items to style my hair, until about August when I was introduced to the Carmacare line. I feel like I can’t name them a fav because I only used them for about 4 months of the year, but they definitely get a more than honorable mention. I love the Seal-n-Shine and the B’leave-in Conditioner. You can get them at www.carmacare.net .image

 

 

 

  • 2- My number two is the Spanx Stockings. Now this breaks one of my rules. They are a little expensive for a disposable item, but I like to call them resposable. They wash well and regain their shape perfectly. Being a big girl that hates shape wear is not good, and I’m imagenot one of those Phattys that have that cute little pooch, nope I got belly! These stockings are the truth, because they hold it down and doesn’t squeeze the life out of me. I usually pick them up when they are on sale. The fit is perfect for Apple Shaped Phattys like me. It’s one of those things that you can wear everyday. Yes, did I mention that I hate shape wear? That being said these are on my favorites list. I am very particular about wearing stockings because the last thing I need is them rolling down and settling under my belly making it look even bigger, but these come all the way up and they stay there.
  • 3- Number three Mac Ruby Woo. This color seems to look great on everybody. After all who doesn’t love a red lippie? When I first saw it my cousin Mekkus was wearing it and I was compelled to tell her how great it looked. She is a brown girl like Kelly Rowland. Then I imagesaw one of my coworkers with this fab red lip and she also said it was Ruby Woo and she’s an olive colored white woman. I have a tan complexion (yes that is Rihanna representing me,lol) and it looks great on me too. That’s why it makes the list. It surely takes the fuss out of Fab. If you are like me and you don’t have time to spend 2 hours contouring and blending or how ever long it takes. Get you some eyeliner, mascara and some Ruby Woo and let it do what it do.
  • 4- Number four is my Strawberry Water. I don’t like to drink water but of course to be healthy it’s very necessary. I know a lot of places sell fruit infused water and special water bottles, but as I mentioned earlier my favs are easy. When first started doing this I would just imagebuy a gallon of water from the store and a bag of frozen strawberries, put the strawberries in the jug with 3-5 pks of Splenda. Let it sit overnight and drink it all day. I started doing this to help me stay full, but little did I gather the affects the strawberry water would have on my life. My skin and hair love it and yes it helps curb my appetite. Eventually I purchased a water bottle with a ice tube to help keep it cold. I happen to like strawberry water but you can try any frozen fruit you like. I know a lot of people do all kinds of other recipes that have a lot of steps but for me this is the best way because it’s so easy and taste great so that makes it easy to stick to.

5- My 2014 number five fav is the LOC Method. This oh, this woah, I love this and so does Froesha ( the name of my hair). If you don’t know what this is, it’s definitely one of the greatest short cuts to imagehealthy hair that I have found thus far. If you don’t have time to deep condition often this is what you should do. Once I started doing this there was no turning back. For me I do this with every wash. So you know it’s easy! 🙂 I use Carmacare B’leave in as my L. Carmacare Seal-n-Shine is my O. My C is Cantu or Carmacare Hair Soufflé Shea Butter. I’ve also had success with (l) Cantu leave in (o) Olive Oil (c) Soultanicals Marula- Muru. The process is so easy, after you wash and condition your hair, you apply the leave in of your choice, it’s best to use a liquid leave in if it’s your 1st time doing this. Next you seal the hair with an oil. Last apply a butter or a cream as the final moisture lock. I finger comb through each step and evenly distribute the layers throughout my tresses. I have air dried, twisted and blow dried after this process it really didn’t make a difference this method keeps my hair moisturized until my next wash. It’s one of those style as usual processes.

Well girls that wraps up my Top Five ways to Take the Fuss Out of Fabulousness for 2014. I pray that we will all move into 2015 with great expectations, plans and goals to keep going higher in our lives. We at Mrsphatandnaptural.com have some challenging and exciting imagethings planned for 2015. We love a fresh start, so here’s to a new year and a new start!
See ya Phatty!

The Journey to Hairvana – (the best haircare regimens for any curly)

Hey Curlys, Have you ever seen another natural and wondered what they used. I am always wondering what they did to achieve that style. Sometimes I even go up to them and ask what they are using. It took me quite a while to find what worked for me. I was watching all kinds of YouTube videos and trying all kinds of product and most of it was not working for me. I think this is what makes some of us give up on the process. Every Curly has to find their own regimen on this journey to reach hairvana. I know this is a process and it takes some effort on your part, but it’s so worth it! I found that a good hair regimen ( click here to purchase your Journey To Hairvana products) is the key to successfully moving on down the road. If I had to break it down, there are basically 3 types of natural regimens . We are going to call them:

imageThe Lazy Girl-
Don’t let the label fool you. Very often The Lazy Girl’s hair looks great. She is consistent and has found the best goto practices and product for her life and style. She sees Hairvana as the KISS girl Keep It Short and Simple.

The Active Seeker-
She is always looking for the next best thing. She tries lots of products and styles because she is actively seeking the newness and excitement of her natural hair journey. She always has another style, product or process that she has been using. Hairvana for her is the versatile nature of being natural.

The Tress Lover
This Curly LOVEs her tresses. She spends as much quality time with her hair as she does with anyone else. She is diligent about her routine and very often there is no other way to Hairvana for her. She gives her hair love and attention as if she is cultivating a garden to cure world hunger.

Hair care means different things to these girls. Although they all seek healthy hair, lifestyles, time and hair goals make the difference in where you may fall in the spectrum.

The Lazy Girl-

I think I’m just past lazy and just behind seeker. Although there are times when I am full on Lazy. In these times my regimen is simple and quick. Usually it consists of a Cowash and rinse out conditioner, the LOC method, then my puff or whatever goto style I’m sporting. I can get by with this for at least 3 weeks before my hair needs some TLC. Being a lazy natural just means you don’t have a lot of steps to your routine and you probably have a signature goto style. You are truly the if it ain’t broke don’t fix it kinda girl. imageThe key to pulling this off is not to get so lazy that you damage your hair, and finding the right products and goto style to always look pulled together. For me my puff is my 5 minute updo and the Green top Ecostyler gel, took me beyond the wall. I didn’t find it until I was natural for a few months. The Cantu leave-in was my mountain top experience. Once I found it I used it everyday. It’s my leave-in after I wash, my gel for my puff, and my cream for my LOC method ( LOC means Leave-in +Oil +Cream) after I cleanse and condition I apply the leave-in next I rub through my oil ( almond, coconut, jojoba ect.) then I rub the cream or sometimes I use butters ( Shea, marula, mango). So just because your a Lazy Natural that doesn’t mean your hair looks like it. Find the right products and go to style and you’ll be in like Flynn. Who ever Flynn is, I don’t know but he was always in, lol. So if the last thing you need is another tasks to squeeze into your day, you might need the Lazy Girl regimen.

Follow these easy steps to keep your hair looking great.

1. Make sure you are realistic in you hair goals. If you are lazy don’t expect to wear a style that requires a lot of maintaining.image
2. Find the right products and remember some do double duty. Your conditioner may work to detangle. Your leave my keep your hair laid like a gel.

3. If you wear protective styles, make sure you moisturize, and don’t keep them longer than 8 weeks.
4. Deep condition at least monthly.
5. Employ the LOC Method it will help keep your hair moisturized.
6. Find your signature style, and rock on!

The Active Seeker-

This is why I say I’m in between, I do change my hair about every week. I usually wash it every week and when I can, I get a new style. Although I go through phases of just the puff, or the 2 French twists, when I can’t get it done. I like to wear braids and twist styles that I change after I wash. I suffer from a dry itchy scalp so I need to wash it every week when I wear cornrows. In true seeker form I recently tried a scalp detox and it definitely worked for me. If you suffer from imagean itchy scalp like me, I would suggest you try it. Its a simple process that I used in place of my monthly pre-poo. It’s pretty simple you mix the ingredients section hair in small parts, gently rub the mixture onto your scalp in small circles. Let it sit for 10-15 minutes then rinse it out, and proceed with your wash/ cleanse routine. Lol, I have my moments! Oh but you know if you are the Seeker. You probably change your hair styles often and you are the one most prone to become a product junkie. Believe it or not most Curlys that fall into this category are the ones that end up with unhealthy hair. Sometimes you can do so much to your hair and never give it time to adjust to the new product or style before you do something else. This is probably in your DNA. It’s not just with your hair, you are this way with almost everything in your life. So if you are a seeker here are some tips to help you out.

1. Try to stick with a product or style for at least 1 week. This will give your hair time to adjust.

2. Stick to cowashing and or sulfate free shampoo, because if you keep using harsh shampoos you can dry your hair out. Add the scalpimage detox to your regimen. This will ensure you are allowing your scalp to get clean of buildup.

3. Be careful of too much pulling and tugging on your hair. This can cause undo breakage. Surly you’ve heard of traction alopecia. This is caused by too much tight tugging and pulling of hair and the shaft weakens and eventually snaps off. Most commonly on the edges but it can happen anywhere on the head.

4. Invest in a hooded dryer you will need to keep you hair well conditioned. This is a no brainier but I’ll say it for good measure.

5. In all your seeking seek healthy hair. Educate yourself as you go. Although you may love that new style if it’s not good for your hair imagedon’t do it. I see this over and over. The sacrifice of healthy hair for a short term style.
The Tress Lover-

And last to mention the The Tress Lover. We could all use you in our life. You love you, it’s not just a hair regimen. Your practices promote self love. lover girl you take pride in your mane! Often you imageconcoct your very own products and develop your own styles to show your hair just how much she is appreciated. Time spent caring for your hair is often scheduled like some women schedule their nail appointment. You never miss a washday! You are usually not as quick to jump on the band wagon for the next latest and greatest thing. But you will invest in those things that make sense to you and or have been proven to be beneficial to your hair. You spend hours stroking and training your hair. You are probably more apt to use a lot of natural products just to be on the safe side. You know that what you eat is just as important to your mane as what you wash it with. There’s almost no advice I can give to you so, instead I’ll share some of your secrets.

1. Get to know your hair. If you listen you’ll hear her talking. She’ll tell you when she likes something and when she does not.

2. Make appointments with yourself to spend time taking care of your hair.

3. Never sacrifice healthy hair for a style. Styles come and go but you want your hair to grow and show.
4. Make sure you are using the right products for your hair porosity. Do a porosity test. Drop a strand of hair into a glass of water. If itimage sinks quickly you have high porosity. Which basically means your hair shaft is open and you loos moisture quickly. If it floats a while then sinks you have lower porosity. This is “normal”. If it doesn’t sink at all you have low or compact porosity. This means the shaft is closed and most likely the moisture doesn’t penetrate the hair shaft. So once you know then what? High porosity -try using steam after you condition. Apple cider vinegar closes the cuticle. Always rinse with cold water. Low/ Compact porosity- try baking soda or glycerin, please test first. Hot water opens the cuticle, this is the key. Stay away from oils, they will only seal the moisture out. You can add ½ c imageof baking soda to 1 c of your favorite conditioner let it it for 15-20 minutes then rinse throughly with cold water.

5. Don’t be afraid to chose yourself first. You deserve it. Make an weekly appointment with yourself for some me-time. Schedule it in just like you schedule everything else. Plan it out and look forward to your beauty time. Invest in the right tools to keep your thing right. At the very least, a satin scarf or bonnet. Your going to need a wide tooth comb for detangling. A shampoo, a conditioner, a leave-in, and some hair/bobby pins, and scunchies are great for starters.

6. Read ingredient labels, the FDA requires that the products are listed in the order that they are added.

If it says it has Shea butter in it and it’s not listed in the 1st five ingredients it probably doesn’t have that much of it in there. The rule is the 1st 5 things are the base for the product.

I must admit there are times for me when I vacillate the different categories depending on what is going on in my life. When I do the research and I see what some of the other Curlys do, I say to myself I must be a Lazy Natural, lol. But I must admit I have been in every phase that I talked about here. The bottom line is if you feel that what you are doing is not working for you, don’t stick to it just because it works for someone else. Don’t get me wrong being imagenatural takes work on every level. But it’s one of the those things that you won’t believe you didn’t do it sooner.

On a personal note, as I was typing this I realized that I had hit an important point in my journey to Hairvana. This week I wore a dry twist out to work and it wasn’t as tame as the cornrows, twist, or my puff. Nor was it as defined as my twist outs and braid outs. Although I got a few compliments, I happened to be in the Cafeteria getting coffee when one of the Spanish guys from the warehouse approached me. He proceeded to say to “what’s up with your hair ?” “It looks like you just woke up”. My first though was obviously you never woke up with a sister because we do not wake up with loose hair! 🙂 but I didn’t say it. I smiled and told him well I’m a natural, which means I don’t chemically straighten my hair, nor do I try to fit into what other people feel comfortable with. I reminded him of when he started 8 years earlier and he had a long bushy ponytail, he sat back and smiled and said “yeah I had to cut it because it was imagegetting thin on the top”. That lead into a lighter conversation about if he had a daughter her hair would probably look like mine. Anyway afterwards I realized I didn’t even get offended. I felt very confident that my hair looked good to me so too bad if he doesn’t like it. As I walked back to my desk I started to feel very proud of myself. I was able to deflect his shade and even if he didn’t mean it he sounded fond of my choice to be natural. So what ever drove you to the decision to go natural, strap on your seat belt because it gets bumpy. All in all I know that my hair won’t please everybody, but as for me and my hair we are happy to be nappy!

Any who wether you are Lazy Girl, or Tress Lover, are even the Seeker, you have to find the best product to work for your approach. With the right products your regimen can be as simple as you need it to be and your hair will still look great! Don’t for get to visit our store for all your hair care needs.

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No matter how many steps you add to your process there are really only 3 basic elements, cleansing, styling and maintaining. How and what you choose to perform them is up to you. Just as anything else in your life if you put in the work, the results will show.image

Throughout the post I’ve dropped some tips and tricks that should ease you right on down the road to Hairvana!

So Curlys I encourage you to find your level and always practice good hair care. Remember make an appointment with your hair and keep it, listen to your hair she’ll tell you what she likes, and when in doubt reach out. You can leave comments here or on Facebook and Instagram, and if you are shy email us at mrsphatandnaptural@gmail.com.
But for now.

See ya Phatty!

Straight Talk

Hey Curlies, We are going to have some straight talk this time around. Straight hair that is, lol probably not what you’re thinking, huh. Now, I know some of the natural knotzi might tell you that if you manipulate the curl pattern it’s no longer natural, o.k we’ll let them think that.taraji To me as long as you are not chemically relaxing or texturizing your hair, it’s natural.

One of the benefits of being natural is having the ability and versatility to go from straighttaraji 2to curly to froed out. Some naturals wear only weave or crochet. That doesn’t make them any less natural than the ones that literally wake up and do nothing to their hair.  It’s all about preference, and I prefer to have plenty of options. Which brings me to my point, what are we doing with our hair for the holidays? We are now days away from the official “Holiday Season” and I like to do a little something different around this time of year. So I’ll be doing my second blowout and straighten since going natural.  I got it done last year for my birthday, which was about 5 months into transitioning and this will be the second time I’m doing it.  That being said, I feel this is a great time for us to have some conversations about straightening our hair. In general the most important thing we can do for our hair is proper protection. This process is no different.  In fact, it is more important that we use the proper protective products and practice good basics when using heat to avoid damage that can lead to hair loss.

One of my main reasons for returning to natural was to have healthier hair. It took some time to perfect what was right for me, and I am still learning new things every day. Although my hair grows fairly quickly I don’t want to do anything that will cause undue hair loss or that will cause me to have to start over.  There are naturals that never wear their hair curly, they strictly wash and straighten their tresses and they have healthy full heads of long hair!blow out2

As naturals we may not see eye to eye about all hair regimens (let’s face it we’re women we don’t see eye to eye about a lot of things lol.) But each preference is to each naturalista. No matter what she’s doing or not doing to her hair, we should not attack or insult her. That was the prelude to my topic, because I know the natural knotzi will not agree with me…but believe it or not straightening your hair is really not all that bad, and YES its best if you use silicone to protect and coat your tresses.  There I said it, sometimes silicone is helpful on this natural journey to hairvina! You just have to take the steps to avoid damage.FullSizeRender (1)

And guess what? The steps are really simple! Protect your hair, use a good tool, and wrap it tight. Yes it is just that simple, I promise you! I know from experience. I do not wear my hair straight often but I try to be knowledgeable on hair care and have researched everything that I share.  Whether we are straightening or not, protecting your hair should always be a main concern. So let’s start with that. And for good measure I have some Sister Science to back me up. Check out her video “fry Eggs not Hair”

  1. Heat no harm no danger

Protecting your hair should always be your number one priority. By applying the right products you can avoid heat damage as much as possible. I definitely swear by hair milk! Naturalistas always ask me what to use when straightening their hair and I always tell them to grab some hair milk. Just like milk, hair milk gives your hair great nutrients! Personally I use hair milk even when my hair is in its naturally curly state, because it’s also a great detangler! I fell in love with hair milk a long time ago when I discovered Biolage by Matrix and it was love at first feel.31XhxNqJjdL._SY300_  As the years continued on I discovered different brands that work just as great (and may be more cost effective for you!) I like to apply the hair milk after I apply a leave-in conditioner. You really only need to use a small amount of leave-in conditioner because you don’t want your hair to be heavy! The leave-in is an important step because you want your hair shaft to be conditioned before applying heat. If you don’t already know, I always swear by leave-in(s) and we have discussed great leave-in conditioners already; B’leave-in by CarmaCare, Cantu’s leave-in conditioning repair cream, Palmer’s leave-in, etc. Any leave-in that works for you is the right choice. I bet you know what is next.  Yes of course you need to seal all of these nutrients and moisture with oil. I did a post recently on God’s oil (olive oil my ride or dry) and the benefits, but there are so many sealants out there you can’t lose! Whether you use olive oil, coconut oil, almond oil, or a mixture of different oils it doesn’t matter. The key is to just a dime size amount before blow drying so your hair has movement. There are also some good products that specifically fall under the label of “heat protectants.”images

 

 

This step is what I should have lead with, but I got so carried away (you know I am a product junkie!) But the number one step to maintaining moisture is using the right shampoo! Shampoo can make or break your hair. Literally how much moisture your hair retains no matter what product you may use starts with your “wash” routine. Certain shampoos will completely strip your hair of everything, product build up and natural oils. Of course we all want our hair to be clean as possible, but we don’t want to dry our hair out! Dry hair breaks! So you definitely want to purchase a shampoo and conditioner that has humectants.humectants-and-moistureHumectants cling to H2o, thus soaking up water and allowing the hair to keep water on the shaft during the cleaning process. As long as you retain water your hair will not dry out and break. Always, always, always deep condition when using heat on your hair, as a curly anyway a deep conditioning regimen is always your best friend!

 

  1. Know How to Use Your tool

Believe it or not the type of blow dryer and flat iron can determine the amount of heat damage. Choose a ceramic tool when straightening your hair. These tools may be more pricey than most, but it is truly an investment worth your coins! A ceramic tool distributes heat evenly throughout the shaft. This guarantees less heat damage because no section of the hair will be more distressed than the other! I personally really like BabyBliss Pro Styler as a flat iron for ethnic hair.babybliss No matter what texture or how dense your hair is, BabyBliss will have your hair straight! BabyBliss also brings out your natural shine, and because it is ceramic you will have less chance of burnt hair, giving you maximum movement. Invest in a good blow dryer also to make sure you are getting maximum heat distribution. Another great key to good movement is to blow your hair out with a good brush using the medium heat setting! Not only does using a good brush guarantee great shine, but brushing stimulates growth cells so your hair will grow! It’s a personal preference if you want to use heat protectant before blow drying or after blow drying and before flat ironing (if using product on your hair before flat ironing and after blow drying apply a light amount to guarantee you will not fry your hair). It’s just very important that you use protection on your hair. You can go with the hair milk, grape seed oil, or even a commercially marketed product, just use a heat protectant.

 

  1. The Wrap Up

This is the step that will determine how long you get to keep this look. Good night time maintenance is the basis for longevity in almost all hairstyles. I shouldn’t have to say it but make sure you are wrapping your hair with a satin or silk scarf or a bonnet. In general I wrap my hair around my head in a circular mold because this helps to add a little body to my hair when I do the comb down in the morning.alicia-keys  Some people put a roller in the middle and wrap the rest of the hair around it. I’ve even seen women who have fairly long hair just pile it on top of their head in a loose pineapple ponytail and wear a bonnet. So there is no wrong technique here, whatever works for you and best preserves the hair is what you should do.

Every naturalista loves to wear her hair differently and we just want to insure your hair is as healthy as possible. Always protect your hair no matter which way you choose to wear your hair, but let’s just remember to take extra good care of our hair any time we apply heat! So again remember these simple rules to achieve an awesome blow out with minimal damage:

  • Shampoo and condition with humectants
  • Deep condition (at least 15 minutes with heat and 45 minutes without heat)
  • Apply the right products; Leave-in conditioner (dime size amount), hair milk (nickel size amount), and oil (dime size amount) *Remember when straightening your hair less is more. Too much product will weigh your hair down leaving you with flat heavy hair!
  • Protect your hair from heat
  • Use the proper tools! (Ceramic! Ceramic! Ceramic!!!)
  • Wrap it up with a silk or satin scarf or bonnet

Using these simple steps should allow you to maintain good moisture and less damage. Dry and brittle hair looks good on NO ONE, and flat heavy blow outs are not flattering! Always wrap your hair every night and try to use the least amount (if none) bobby pins to avoid indentation marks (especially if you have finer hair).2013 American Music Awards - Press Room Ladies we just want you to look good but also keep your hair healthy! So let’s stay on the straight and narrow, or not! LOL

See Ya later Phatty!

Don’t Fall Off – 10 Ways To Stop Your Hair From Falling Off

falloff  When the season changes people tend to get lax with the routines that keep them looking good in the warmer months, just because you get to cover up that doesn’t mean you have to fall off.
In the cooler weather your hair sheds more due to the colder dryer air. Not to mention the heavier garments rubbing on our head as we wear them. Even when you put them on and take them off, believe it or not they are rubbing and snagging your hair causing increased dryness, shedding and unnecessary hair pulling. We all love to wear fashionable hats and scarves to stay warm and look cute, but the real tea here is that these are one of the biggest natural hair dangers that you will face this season. Unless you find some that are lined with satin these are clearly an avoidable danger. But with the right adjustment you can minimize your casualties and keep those tresses in track.

Here are 10 hair care tips and processes to keep your hair from falling off

1. Eat, Drink, Grow– This one definitely requires the least amount of effort. Add Vitamin A to your diet. Leanhairffood proteins, such as Salmon, and Cod Liver oil, green leafy veggies, like kale (recipe for Kale chips), sweet potatoes, blueberries, bananas, broccoli, nuts, and carrots. Also green tea and plenty of water.

2. Do You Pre-poo– This is especially important if you are transitioning. It’s almost as simple as number one. Just coat your hair with oil for at least 30 minutes before you shampoo. This can be done as you detangle or if you do it before it will aide in the detangling and decrease the time and the amount of shed. (Side note remember to use a wide tooth comb or your fingers to detangle!!!) I usually do it the night before and just sleep with a plastic cap and head scarf / bonnet.

3. Feel Butter Soon– So this is a real game changer and may contradict some other claims out there, but for me hairbutterit works wonders. Replace the coconut oil with Mango and/or Shea Butters. There are also a variety of very exotic butters out there but these are the only two that I can personally vouch for. Regardless of whether you choose a raw form or a processed form it’s all up to you. Sometimes the more processed form is safer for me because it’s not as concentrated and they usually add smell goods to them just for you, lol. If you are more adventurous than I, you can try some Ucuubba Butter, this one is known to have some antiseptic properties. If you are looking for shine and strength you can try Muru Muru Butter. The Kokum Butter is said to stimulate the scalp and promote hair growth. You can find these at most health food stores, on Amazon, as well as other online retailers. You can now find Shea and Mango butter anywhere and in just about everything. The most popular Shea for hair is the Jane Carter Nourish and Shine Shea butter. It’s an oldy but goody and it still works great wonders. The process is simple and easy, just apply it to your wet hair after you cleanse to lock in the moisture. You can also use it for styling your damp or wet hair if you are going with a two strand twist or braid out.

4. Aloe There– Apply an Aloe Vera gel mask to your hair. This is done after you cleanse as well. You can use a DYI Aloe gel (DIY Aloe Gel Recipe) or you can purchase the gel right off the shelf. You saturate the hair from rootdryertrick to tip, place a plastic cap on your head and let it sit for 30 – 40 minutes. You can add heat and it will only take about 20 minutes. Then rinse hair with cool water. This will add volume and shine to your hair. If you do not have a hooded dryer you need to allow the conditioner to sit on your head for an hour or longer with the plastic cap on and or a hot towel wrapped around your head. If you are inventive enough you can position your hand dryer somewhere that you can sit under so it will blow low heat on your cap. Sit under it for 20 min. Just be sure not to get close enough for the dryer to burn you.

5. Go Deep– Deep condition your hair at least once a month. It is usually recommended that you do it every other week, conitioners under 10but if that’s too much you should do it at least once a month. Believe me you will be happier with your hair if you deep condition. I actually don’t have a preference for one deep conditioner over another. In fact I use whatever I have on hand. I recently won a bottle of Jessicurl Too Shea extra moisturizing conditioner from the Natural Partners in Crime fall giveaway, and I used it as a deep conditioner.

6. Behind The Mask– There is some similarity with hair masks and the deep conditioners. They are very similar, but the mask is much more concentrated. Masks are designed to hydrate, seal and repair your hair. They use to be labeled with names like re-constructors. The application process is the same, you want to add low heat, and rinse with warm water.

7. Seal of oil sealersApproval– The seal is oil or butters. One of my favorite sealers is Olive oil. I also love the Carma Care seal and shine. This is also the most beneficial use for coconut oil if you have thicker hair. In fact by my estimation the best way to use coconut oil is as a sealant on wet hair. You can use grape seed, argon, almond, or Jojoba oils as well. Personally I mix my oils with water in a spray bottle and use the almost daily. I use Olive, Argon, and Mint Almond oils. This is usually the step after you apply your leave in conditioner. Or just before you style or blow dry. You want to make sure you retain as much moisture as you can in your hair. All you do is apply it from root to tip and rub or comb the hair with a wide tooth comb, no need to rinse.

8. L.O.C It Up– The L O C method is a fairly new process to me, but I can tell you it is a transitioners dream. This is a very simple 3 step process that is done in lieu of deep conditioning. It does just as it says, LOC, you are locking in the moisture from your wet hair in. For me this has been the best way to make sure the line of demarcation is strengthened and moisturized. If you are a transitioner you know this term. It is the line where the process hair meets the natural hair, in other words “the breaking point”! This is very beneficial for all hair types and accents any style you use. The L stands for Leave in or liquid. I use Carma Care B’Leave in locmethodleave in conditioner. The O stands for Oil. You can use any of the oils you like but I use my oil mixture or you can incorporate your butters here. Coat the hair from root to tip with the butter or oil of your choice. The purpose of this step is to seal the leave in and the liquid in. The C is for Cream. I use my Cantu leave in, or my Carma Care Shea Souffle. You can use any curling creams or whipped product you like. If you have finer hair you may want to use the cream first them the oil. Technically that would be the L C S but some prefer that method so the hair is not too slippery. The hair should be a little slippery. NOT slick just slippery. At this point you can blow dry and style if you are doing a dry style. Or you can twist or braid the hair as usual. I saw instant results after the first time I tried this. My hair retained the moister at least 2 to 3 days longer than usual. And my twist out! Was the Bomb! Straight jelly!

9. Protect Ya Neck– it’s very important to employ low manipulation styles. Comb you hair as little as possible. The cooler months are the ideal time to sport braids and twist. The reason they call them protective styles is very evident. You need to protect your hair from damage. For me, the higher you keep your hair off your neck, the less likely it will be rubbed and pulled by our scarves, turtle necks and sweaters. Keep your ends tucked in, protected, conditioned and trimmed.

10. Poo Who You Don’t Have to Cry about It– I have shared before that I only use shampoo about once a month. I Co-wash. As we are trying to build moisture we also need to do as little as possible to take the moisture out. This brings me to my philosophy on shampoo vs no poo. It’s very basic. Shampoo strips moisture from the hair making it dry and dry hair breaks right. So why do we do it again. Oh yeah, because that’s what we’ve always done. O.K. I got it. Any who, Healthy cowashNatural Hair 101 is don’t over use shampoo, (side bar I was sent a sample of a shampoo bar from Lia Naturals- it came in my Natural Partners in Crime fall give a pack I was impressed). I say limit the shampoos to once or twice a month and co-wash and clarify in between. In my post about shampoos under $12, I explain how I co wash and clarify with apple cider vinegar. By the way, if you read the back of the conditioner and the shampoo you will see a lot of the same ingredients. This is because most conditioners have cleansing agents in them. The ACV, further clarifies the hair, restores the ph balance of your hair and closes the hair cuticle.

The most important thing to remember is that your hair will be attacked by moisture robbing elements all season long. Even if you don’t wear any wool, knit, cotton, or polyester, which is quite impossible in fall, the cooler temps alone will do a number on your moisture retention. But have no fear we have some easy options to help you amp up the moisture level in your hair. This is the main objective in the fall. By keeping your hair properly cleansed and conditioned you will be able to combat undue hair loss that often occurs during the fall and winter months. nopooAlso because we recommend practicing low manipulation protective styling you will need to be diligent about taking good care of your hair when you touch it because you will not be touching it as often as you would if you were styling it every day.
Even if you just choose one or two of these fall bases and stay on them, that alone will improve your hair retention and growth. Additionally I will post a Suggest Fall Product Guide and Protective Style Look Book on www.facebook/Mrsphatandnaptural.com . Remember watch out for the moister robbers this season. We don’t want them to get away with any of our hair. Let’s grow together.
See ya Phatty!

That Blessed oil, My ride or dry!

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Hey Phatty, I know we’re always getting flooded with the next “try this” product, and most of our closets or dressers are filled with so many things that we never use. Or even worse, products that we hate! Don’t get me wrong there are truly great products out there, but sometimes we over-look the items that we already have right in our very own kitchens! But why would we automatically think to check our cupboards for hair products? I can remember getting yelled at for over using something that was intended for food. I can’t imagine telling the adults that I needed some olive oil for my hair lol. But little did we know we were so clueless to the benefits of God’s oil! Historical and Biblical texts are proof that this healthy oil has always been intended for great use. All this time we didn’t know one important key to healthy beautiful hair was right in our households or in the grocery store! olive oil

Olive oil is beneficial for the entire body inside and out. The benefits for your hair are endless! All you need is a spray bottle, water, and a few tablespoons of olive oil. All naturals deal with humidity and frizz, and we all know how frustrating frizzy hair can be! Using Olive oil not only eliminates frizz, it also gives your hair great moisture and shine, while making your hair soft. Girl, don’t nobody want no dry and brittle hair lol.

Maybe you’re not a wash and go girl.Or you like to keep your hair in protective styles majority of the time. Don’t worry this post is still for you! You can use olive oil as a hot oil treatment during wash day. Applying olive oil to your scalp and sitting under the dryer for fifteen to twenty minutes after you wash and condition will give you vast improvement!beyonce-in-shower-with-shower-cap You can also use a spray bottle with your olive oil mixture to spray on your hair before you style (especially if you use the blow dryer after washing) to protect your hair.

Olive oil restores your hair strength, while preventing breakage. Also restoring hair bulbs and stimulating cell growth. Olive oil provides nutrients to your hair and guarantees fewer split ends. Using Olive oil on a regular basis can also relieve your dandruff. It is a great exfoliator! Ladies, you can remove dandruff or scaly skin by applying a mixture of olive oil and sea salt to the dry skin or scalp.dandruff-590x442 Wait a minimum five minutes and rinse away the flaky skin or dandruff. Voila you will reveal a healthy scalp and/or skin!! Don’t take this to the bank but I guarantee that you will breathe much easier with a relieved scalp lol.

Every female encounters the time when washing make-up off is a daunting task. I guess you already figured my solution, and your absolutely right! Using Olive oil to remove your make-up is not only fast and efficient but will make your skin glow! If you suffer from dry nails and cuticle issues P1040467 you can drop a few drop droplets of olive oil onto your cuticles and watch your nails transition from dry to healthy. Your cuticles will plump up and your nails will shine. (You can also use this tip for the man in your life, and your toe nails too!)

Olive oil is truly God’s oil. The product is timeless! Remember you can also replace butter and cooking oil with it and watch your health transform! I bet your grandmother used to bless everything with it also, lol! And if she is anything like my grandmother I bet she blessed every door knob and threshold with her olive “holy” oil, and might of made you drink some too! So whether you use all of these tips or just one; our product of the week has a place in your life!!! See yaIMG_9466 Phatty!!!!

Wash Day and Four Shampoos under 12 dollars

WD = Washday #Poo

Every natural needs an effective hair routine that includes a good shampoo for WD (Wash day). It took me several months of hard times and dry hair to figure out what works for me and my mane piece. Coincidentally the most common question I get asked is what type of shampoo do I use…so I gather this is a very common issue for transitioners, and the newly natural. By the way I did not BC (Big Chop)I transitioned. This choice poses a unique set of obstacles depending on what condition your hair was in when you decided to check into CCR (creamy crack rehab). Therefore I decided to share the information that has gotten me to this point.

The frequency of your WD depends on your hair texture, the styling products you use and the condition of your mane. You may poo (shampoo) as often as you want too. Naturals that use heavier products, stylers and
butters may shampoo as often as once a week or prior to every styling session. Clean hair works best or me. So I like a WD just before I get a new style.

If you are the minimalists (one that uses lighter products) you may need to shampoo less frequently. Using the wrong products is a sure way to get to an unscheduled WD. If the product is not working well on your hair or makes it too kinky, greasy, or crunchy for your liking…a quick WD will give you a restart.

I shampoo when my is hair sticky or if I am getting a new style. Usually this is about every other week. Then I co-wash (use conditioner as a shampoo) at least once a week. I saturate my hair with conditioner, then rinse until the water runs clear. Usually I do this twice then spray my hair with vinegar and water then rinse out. I know a lot of people frown about not using shampoo but all I can say is don’t knock it until you try it. I may do a post about co-washing in the future. There has been so much said about it, all I can do is speak from my point of view. It works!

Additionally I will share some information about reasonably priced shampoos that work great for natural hair. Here are four shampoos under 12 dollars that you can get anywhere.
If you have chemically-treated hair, one of the best shampoos without sulfates is by Carol’s Daughter. This moisturizing shampoo not only reduces frizz, but it also gently cleanses and adds moisture to thirsty tresses without weighing hair down. You’ll love the hydrating properties of this gentle shampoo and the addicting vanilla fragrance! You can get it at Target for under 11$Shampoo

Naturals with curly locks will love this sulfate-free shampoo from Shea Moisture. Shea Moisture makes a great line of organic hair care and skin care products for the family. Try this curl and shine shampoo to moisturize, protect hair from heat and chemical damage, and strengthen add shine to thick, curly hair! Find this at most drugstores for about $10.

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Organix is another line of sulfate-free shampoos, conditioners and body care products. Their newest product from their line of hair care is Biotin & Collagen. This shampoo without sulfates also does not contain any parabens and is gentle on color-treated hair. If your hair is thin or feeling lifeless, this shampoo can help add volume and strength to your hair. It is often between 8 and 10$

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I also love Mane ‘n Tail shampoo. It is an expensive shampoo. This one is not free, but it has co-surfactant (sealers that prevent drying. I have been using this since High School, and yes it really is intended or horses. Although there are many claims about this product making you hair grow, I can’t verify that. What I can say is it certainly softens your hair after just 1 or 2 uses. You can find this at most drug stores for under 10$mane

No matter how often you shampoo, moisture retention should be a top priority.

Pre-poo or not to pre poo, deep conditioner treatments, moisturizers, and leave-ins’ these are some of the topics I am researching now. Please stay tuned and feel free to share any questions, suggestions and comments. I look forward to sharing this journey with you.