Category: Napturals

The One Thing You Are Not Doing That Will Make Your Natural Hair Journey Easier!

If there was one thing you could do that would make your natural hair journey easier would you do it? It’s so simple, yet so many naturalistas miss this valued resource in the natural hair community. Better yet, even more don’t even know it exist! The one thing you can do is attend a natural hair meet up. It’s better than buying all the products in the isle, binge watching your favorite YouTube vlogger, and reading blog posts til your eyes are tired.

How many times have you watched a YouTube tutorial, followed all the steps, and didn’t get the desired result? Or read a blog post, ran out and bought the product, followed all the steps only to fail? If this has ever happened to you, you need to go right now and buy a ticket to the next meet up in your area!

Now I could go through a laundry list of reason why natural hair meet ups are a valued resource, but I’m gonna pick my top three reasons.

Face 2 Face Education 

Yes that’s correct many of the local bloggers and vloggers, attend, host and guest speak at meet ups. So what’s better than a one on one conversation about your issue? Depending on the topic, and focus of the meet up there may be a panel discussion / Q&A or better yet they may just be mingling and you could ask them your questions personally. Not to mention there are usually tons of fellow Natralistas that have had the same problem you have and are more then willing to share their solutions with you. Very often natural hair meetups have:

1. Hair Style Demos
2. Product Demos
3. Expert Panels
4. Brand Representative To Answer Questions

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Usually one or more full sized product will be included in the swag bags! All thought I’ve never been to one like this, but at the very least you will get samples and valuable discounts towards the purchase of products. I’ve always gotten between 1-5 full sized products as well as samples. This is a low cost way to build your product stash. The investment of the ticket purchase is usually a lot lower then the cost of product you will receive. Also, there are usually great give away sponsors, for prizes, raffles, and games.

Curlfriends

And the very last but yet equally as important resource that natural hair meetups provide is access to the your local Curlfriends! There’s no substitute for surrounding yourself with like minded Curlies! They not only provide support and encouragement but also much needed comfort in the journey. I have meet so many wonderful young ladies that I would have never met in any other circumstance. Some are business owners, bloggers, long term naturalists, hair stylist, and so on.

 

There one last thing I feel is important to mention, you have to support your local natural hair community! That’s how brands decide if they are going to sponsor events, and or sell products in your area. If you don’t have a natural hair community in your area why not start one ?

Are you apart of a local natural hair community? If so give them a shout out in the comments! If not and you are looking to join one, drop a comment and we’d be more that happy to get you connected!

Please follow us on Facebook , Instagram and Twitter for more information, and inspiration!

See you Curlfiend!

International Natural Hair Meetup Day 2016- Fros Friends and Fun In Montclair NJ

INHMD Montclair NJ 2016

Hey Sis Girl!

I just have to say I am still on a high from the experience of basking in the presence of over 150 women representing NJ Curlfriends. We had a ball! I surly hope everyone got more than they expected because I sure did! It was 4 hours of entertainment, education, shopping, food, and dancing! All while celebrating our fellow sisters and a few brothers lol, in a positive encouraging space. What’s better than that?


Speaking of the space, the place was beautiful! For the third year Cabriella from International Hair Design was the ever gracious New Jersey Host for the Montclair NJ leg of this 40 city, 3 country, 3 continent affair. It was held in the Montclair State University Conference Center! Surrounded on two sides with massive window that seem to reach the sky! If you could imagine it was elegantly casual! Yeah that’s it! Although the space is obviously a beautiful state of the art space, the warm nature and inclusive vibe made it ok to let your guard down and bare and share in the wealth of love, information, and kinship.

Thirty-Five Curlfriends purchased VIP admission which gave them early entry,a VIP reception,  as well as swag bags sponsored by the INHMD 2016 title sponsors with full sized products from Made Beautiful, Eden Bodyworks, and others!INHMD NJ

What’s a movie with out a soundtrack? DJ Twin kept us rocking with his Jersey blend of Club and Soul tunes.

We started the day off with New Jersey based motivation speaker Iamlunic. She set the room a blaze with her energy! Unfortunately, I was so caught up in her speech that I didn’t think to record her!

Iamlunic
Iamlunic

Next up was Quality Healthcare, who spoke about the heart health. As you must have heard Heart Disease is the leading cause of death for African American Women.

There were 2 demos, first was a hair demo by Scarlet of Wondercurl. She demonstrated a wash n go style using her hair products.

Next was local Naturalist and Holistic Hair Healer Ahava Feliciadad. Her presentation was “natural” is a four letter word, F. R. E. E. She spoke about the freedom of being natural.
There were many vendors selling everything from skinny tea, butters, African fashions, and the most beautiful clutches and earrings!


I was honored to be one of two New Jersey based bloggers to be in the Social Media Lounge. It was Spencer ( Curly Empress) and myself. Curlfriends that came over to our corner were gifted mini hair journals or detangling combs. The first visitors were also gifted a full size bottle leave-in sponsored none other than the maker of my favorite scalp and hair oil Janomi hair products. Thanks to Adrienne of Janomi 2 other Curlfriends also received full sized bottles of the oil! We also had a selfie station set up with our Glam light.

The final segment was a question and answer panel where we got to answer direct questions from Curlfriend regarding, working out with natural hair, hair porosity, dryness, and so on. Missed out on the fun? No worries, I got you! Although INHMD is only once a year, if you are following us on social media👉 ( Instagram,Facbook, Twitter ) we will be sure to keep you updated on all the latest happening!

 

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How To Achieve The Perfect Twist Out On Any Natural Hair Type

How To Achieve The Perfect Twist Out On Any Natural Hair Type
How To Achieve The Perfect Twist Out On Any Natural Hair Type

Today I am tackling the question every curly asks at some point on their natural hair journey “How did she get her hair to look like that” ? Most often its when I see a Naturalistas rocking the coveted Twist out! I’ve been natural for almost 3 years and I can’t say I’m totally satisfied with my results…but I have to say I’ve turned the corner, because now I get Curlys asking me that same question. It’s always followed with what products do you use? As if there some secret sauce that makes all twist out perfect.

This is such a loaded question, because the products and the results depend on the condition of your hair, the technique you use, and most importantly your expectations. I’ve watched countless tutorials and read numerous posts about what works best, and the truth is practice makes perfect.

I love doing twist outs but I haven’t yet conquered the world of video editing. So thanks to some of my favorite vloggers I have compiled a few videos to help any curly achieve a bomb twist out!

First up Jenell B Stewart of KinkyCurlyCoilyMe.Com . I’m starting with this one because she gives very good details and her steps are clear and defined. Also because her natural hair is not curly and the results are very realistic.

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Second is Yolanda Renee of Etcblogmag.com even though she doesn’t do a full tutorial, she gives great tips!

Kinky Curly

I’m just gonna say, learning that I had to keep each section separated ( no borrowing) was a game changer for my twist out results !

Next Tiffany Arlene of Beautiffulcurls.com, She starts with dry hair, which I also do most times. Also there’s a what to do when your twists aren’t dry tip, HINT you better not take it out yet!

Spongy

Did you see it? I usually do my twists at night and allow them to dry overnight, but there’s always that one twist that didn’t dry! That’s when I use the quick dry method that you saw in Tiffany’s video.

Okay now you’ve seen 3 different methods on three different hair types. Now how do you maintain that bomb masterpiece? I’m so glad you asked.
This next video is from Angela Lauren of Loveisbellaaa with 5 ways to go to bed with natural hair.

5 bed time routines for natural hair

I have used all of these methods. I usually just refresh in the morning with one of my favorite leave ins, and some oil. Achieving a banging twist out isn’t as hard as it seems. With the right information it’s a piece of cake!

For more tips and style inspiration follow us on Instagram at Instagram.com/mrsphatandnaptural and Facebook at Facebook.com/mrsphatandnaptural

As for now Go Forth and Slay!

Natural Hair Journey: 2 Truths & 1Lie

Mrsphatandnaptural 2 truths & 1 lieNow this is usually an icebreaker game played at social gatherings. The concept is as self explanatory. The person tells 2 truth,statements and 1 lie, and the participants have to guess which statement is the lie. This is a lot like trying to navigate your natural hair journey today. There is so much misinformation out there that it almost impossible to tell the truths from the lies!

Between the buzz words, band wagons, and straight BS its no wonder that so many women find it hard to get it right.

 

Now to be clear, I’m gonna write all three statements as if they are true. As you’re reading try to guess which statement is the lie. Let me know if you guessed correctly 👇leave it in the comments 👇.

1st Statement- Most Hair Grows At The Same Rate: With the exception of underlying medical conditions, age, or severe damage to your hair or scalp, your hair can grow up to 6 inches per year. Now, your hair may shed faster then someone else’s which will make your hair appear to grow slower. Employing methods to reduce the amount of hair that sheds will help you retain more length. Things like protective styling, a good hair regimen (including night time care), proper detangling, and low manipulation will help to reduce hair shedding.

2nd Statement- Natural Hair Should Be Treated The Same As Relaxed Hair: No need to spending tens of dollars, that lead to hundreds of dollars, trying to find the right hair care products for your hair. More than likely you already have what you need. Hair is hair, it’s made of the same thing. It’s not like being natural has changed hair to some fragile, delicate thing that you have to baby. If you’ve been using certain products for years before you went natural why stop now.

3rd Statement- What You Eat Is Important To Your Hair: Your hair starts growing from inside out. So, what you are putting or not putting in your mouth is affecting your hair. This is why the hair, skin, and nail vitamins have become so popular. Yes they do work, no they are not necessary. If you are eating a good diet and drinking enough water, you will not need the HS&N vitamins. For me adding fruits like frozen strawberries to my water, is a 2 for 1 get the hydration from the water and the nutrients from the strawberries. If you have a diet that consists of mainly processed food, high sugar drinks, and bad fats, more than likely your hair tells the story of your bad dietary decisions.

Mrsphatandnaptural 2 truths & 1 lieI have heard all of these statements passed along as truth in the natural hair community. However one of these statements is actually not true. Can you guess which one?

Statement number 2 is the lie. Natural hair is very fragile, although it may appear to be stronger than relaxed hair it’s actually not. Also because natural hair is in a “raw” state you need to be careful of the products you use that may easily damage your hair and cause breakage. Relaxed hair can with stand more heat, more twisting, and harsher products because it’s chemically treated. Now I’m not saying that bad hair practices won’t damage relaxed hair too. I’m simply says you need to take a little extra care with your natural hair if you want to see good results.

What are some of the “ lies” that led you wrong on the natural hair journey? We’d love to hear from you? If you can relate to this post, and you like what we are doing, please like us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest. Don’t forget to leave your comments below.

Stay tuned for more myth busting maybe the lie that lead you astray will make the next installment of 2 truths 1 lie.

Signing off here’s to more hair!

February Empties -6 Products I’m Loving To Fight Dry Hair This Winter

It’s no secret that hair sheds more in the colder temps of winter, and to top all it off; the cold air will freeze the water on your tresses and snap them right off! One of the biggest factors is dryness,which is caused by inadequate protection from the cold air. This is what I like to call the “winter fall off”. In urban slang, to “fall off” means you are not looking your best. If you are slipping, one would say he or she “fell off”. This term is also literal, your hair will Fall Off your head! This is why so many people do those protective style challenges in the colder months.

👉Click Here For “Don’t Fall Off” Tips on winter hair care. 😜

Here are 6 products that get the Mrsphatandnaptural lazy natural stamp of approval to combat the “Winter Fall Off”.
All of these products can be found at your local beauty supply or drug store hair care isle:

  • 1. Sheamoisture Superfruit Complex 10 n 1 Renewal System- Hair and Scalp Serum. This little baby here is the truth! I was introduced to this item in one of my swag bags from a Kinks n Drinks event given by Tribe Called Curl. As usual I had the bottle for months and never touched it. But as I searched for a proper winter hair regimen I decided to give it a try. Oh was I pleased! I’ll start with the down side, it’s in a little glass bottle with a dropper and I must have spilled it fifty – leven times! Other than that it works wonders, I mostly used it as a pre poo, but I’ve also run a few drops through my hair as moisturizer during daily styling. It smells heavenly, and the scent lasts all day!
  • 2. Sheamoisture Superfruit Complex 10 n 1 Renewal System- Shampoo & Conditioner with Marula Oil & Biotin. I love together. The shampoo lathers well, and cleanses very good with out stripping the hair. Down side, it’s not that thick out of the bottle, so I had to get use to not wasting it as I poured it into my hands. The conditioner is also awesome, it has great slip, and does a good job adding softness to my hair.February Empties
  • 3. NuNaat- Garlic Magic Leave In. Yes garlic, no it does not smell like garlic! I was introduced to this in my Return Of The Curls swag bag. I wrote to them and they sent me the entire Garlic Magic line. Although I didn’t care for the other products, I love the Leave in! It softened my hair and kept it moisturized and manageable. I used it as my first step in my LOC Method (Leave in, Oil, Cream)February Empties
  • 4. Tropic Isle Living- Jamaican Black Castor Oil. This is the second step in my LOC Method. What can I say, it woks! No secrets or tricks here. Just rub it on your edges and ends to seal and protect them. I also massage my edges and nape area with a mixture of 1/3 JBCO, 1/3 Olive Oil, 1/3 grape seed oil as a mid week refresher at night. The only draw back is the smell is strong but not stinky. There are other scented versions but I haven’t tried them.
  • 5. Carols Daughter- Hair Milk Original Leave In Moisturizer. This is my third step for my LOC (Leave in, Oil, Cream) Method. This product is thick enough to be used as a cream although it’s labeled as a Leave In. It has a more creamy consistency then moist leave ins and even works as a heat protectant when I blow dry my hair. I also use this product for daily maintenance. It doesn’t sit on my hair and weight it down. I have no down side to say about this product, but the words rubbed off the bottle.February Empties
  • 6. Shea Moisture Raw Sheabutter Extra-Moisture Detangler- Well technically this is number seven because I counted the shampoo and conditioner as 1 entry, but any way. I got this from my Hairstory Swaportunity that I had in October. As a Detangler I didn’t care for it. The feel is very slippery and I didn’t like it. But one of my friends told my she uses it as a leave in, and her hair always looks bomb. So, I decided to give it a shot on my twists. I loved it! It left my hair shinny and feeling soft and moist for days.  It’s heavy the first night but by morning my twits looked shinny and healthy!

As you can see the way you use the products are just as important as the products you use.

We’d love to hear from you! Drop us a comment below, or if your not following us on social media you should be! What are some of the products you’re using this winter? Have you ever tried any of these products? Let us know what you’re loving or not loving this winter!

As the kitchen beautician would  “Here’s to more hair” toot a loo!

15 Steps To A Love Affair … With Your Hair

15 steps to a love affair with your hair

1. Make sure you are speaking the love language of your hair. How, you ask? By knowing your hair’s porosity level.

Trying to love on your hair without speaking its language:

not exactly the ideal love huh?

2. Wine and dine her with tender vittles! Not literally the cat food, but lean proteins  like eggs, Salmon, nuts, also brightly colored fruits and vegetables, and Greek yogurt. Just remember what ever you put in your mouth, will show up in your hair. Some of my favorites are spinach, salmon, and almonds.
3. Pour on the love potion, Water! This is the only way to truly add moisture. Drink it, spray it, look for it in your products.

4. Communication is the key! Learn to listen to your hair. You will be able to feel when it needs a trim, or extra attention.
5.Turn up the heat! Wash your hair with higher temperature water, this helps to open the cuticle.
6. Be cool! Rinse your hair with cooler temperature water. This helps to close the cuticle sealing in the moisture .
7. Be gentle. The best thing to dry your hair with is a t-shirt. Using a towel can pull and tug adding stress to your tresses. As long as you are not dying your hair it will not ruin the shirt, so yes its reusable.
8. Some times you have to go deeper. Deep condition every 4-5 weeks. You don’t need to do it every week, but you should at least do it every month to a month and a half.
9. Be clear! Cleanse your hair every 6-8 weeks with either a clarifying shampoo, or ACV Rinse.
10. Get trim. Now the time line depends on your hair and its condition. At least every 8-12 weeks is a good ruler.
11. Profess and protect! After 6 weeks your protective style has lost its protection.

12.Seal the deal! Coat your ends and your edges with a good oil. Castor Oil, Olive Oil, Coconut Oil, these are the three most commonly used.

13. Loc it down. Employ the LOC Method: Liquid ( Water or water based leave -in) Oil ( Oil or butters in the winter) then last- Cream ( cream based leave-in / styler/ alcohol free gel)

14. Lay it on thick! In cooler temperatures replace your hair oil with a hair butter.

15. Trust the process. Love takes time and so will your hair love affair.

Lol I hope you have enjoyed our 15 steps to a love affair with your hair! Humor aside, we know, discovering how to love your hair is the key to a healthy and happy hair journey. What are some of your love gestures to your hair? Did we leave anything out? Please comment and let us know what you think!

Welp that’s all folks!

 

 

 

Lip Service- DIY Lip Scrub For Kissable Soft Lips!

Can you believe the real winter has rolled up on us with the quickness?  Just a few weeks ago we were wearing shorts for Christmas! Now this cold air has my lips tight like I’ve been baptized in lemon juice! And I’m a kisser so this is no bueno! After shoveling out from Snowmagedon this past weekend my lips were super dry! I have been moisturizing them but this is only a temporary fix. I decided to do some lips service and exfoliate my lips. So, I head to the pantry and whip up  DIY Lip Scrub.

Lip Service Diy Lip Scrub

Mix all the ingredients together, it should be thick like a paste. Apply a generous amount to your lips and rub them with your fingers, or you can just rub your lips together.

The best thing is you don’t have to worry about getting it in your mouth because all of these items are edible. Wipe off excess with a wet towel or rag. You can repeat until you feel the dry skin has sloughed off. The balance will keep in the refrigerator in a covered container for about 2 weeks.

Be sure to moisturize your lips right after you complete the process.

The winter tends to dry out my skin and hair to the extreme. What about you? Do you have a specific wintering beauty routine? If so we’d love to hear it. Please tell us what you think. Well until next time keep your lips kissable and soft. Muwah

Cultivating Joy: 5 Ways to Bring More Happiness to Your Day

 

Cultivating Joy

 

As I was writing this, I thought about how it makes me happy that my sons kiss me as soon as they see me. The other day I was trying to make a YouTube video (for the first time) and my middle son walked in and kissed me as I was taping. Before I could get upset, I laughed at myself. Even though I fussed at him, he came right in, kissed me and kept talking on his phone. I told him later that I was trying to tape and that his kiss was in the video and he thought it was so cool. Even now thinking back on that day it brings me Joy.
Now; for the business of “Cultivating Joy”, the term cultivate is usually used in an agricultural since. One definition means to nurture or help grow. So we are growing Joy here!
1. Acknowledge- See the little beauties that are with you every day. Experience the world through the eyes of gratitude. By taking time to be fully present in the thing you are doing, you are allowing yourself to experience the joy..

2. Connect- Surround yourself with the people, places and things that make you happy. If talking to your BFF or even your BF makes you happy, make an intentional effort to connect with them. If you took a vacation that was your favorite, print out the pictures and hang one or two of them up somewhere that will remind you of the fun!

3. Laugh- In today’s world of social media, there are more than enough Vines, Videos, and Snaps, that you can look up just to get a laugh! I know I love when someone shares a funny clip in the morning! That’s a sure way to get me on your page all day!

4. List Your Loves- it’s just what it sounds like. A list of things you love, it’s  almost like a play list. I actually have a love list of bloggers that I can always get inspiration from. I also have a love list of quotes, bible scriptures, and of course songs.

5. Put It On- I used to be a holder onto(er) lol. My favorite perfume, clothes, shoes, what ever. For some reason I would hold onto my favorite things and not use them. I still don’t get why, but what I do get is, I don’t do it anymore. Now I wear my favorite perfume everyday! When I’m feeling a little glum, I get glam! That perks my right up.
For some of us joy is a fleeting emotion. Or something that can only be attained by others. Very often we attach our since of joy to certain accomplishments. These events can contribute to the feeling of joy, however to cultivate authentic joy, you have to look within. Only you can make you happy. What are some ways that you cultivate joy? Tell me in the comments below!

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Curly Girl’s LITERALLY Last Minute Gift Guide !

 

 

Here we are Christmas is just a few days away! I’m sure you’ve done all your shopping and finished up like a boss, right? But wait you missed your favorite curly girl, what now? It’s  LITERALLY LAST MINUTE! No worries, I gotcha! Here’s my top  LITERALLY LAST MINUTE gifts for the naturals in your life:

-Detangling comb:
I know you’re probably like really, a comb? But as a natural we appreciate the value of a good comb. We also lose and damage them more often then you think so this is an awesome gift. There are even decorative comb sets to make the gift even more special 😉

-Hair Accessories
The beauty of being natural is all about hair acceptance. So help her crown her glory with a new hair accessory. Every kinky curly girl needs a goddess band, you can find these at your local beauty supply place or even Walmart.

-Scarves
A silk scarf can make or break your healthy hair, literally! Every girl absolutely  loves scarves, wraps and bonnets especially big ones.  Printed turbans have been making a huge statement these past few years. I bet she will more than appreciate it!

-Product
Being a kinky girl is very costly. We try very hard to stretch our products! If you’re not a naturalista you probably don’t understand the value of this gift. But any natural girl may just jump up and kiss you if you purchase her favorite product and/or shampoo!

-DIY Products
This is a little more personal then a commercially available product. Your curly will understand the time and energy you put into making her an oil or hair butter! Maybe even some aloe or flax seed gel! Follow us on Pinterest to check out some DIY’s!

Christmas is basically here, but it’s never too late to grab some last minute treasures! The great thing is, all of these are accessible to at your local drug store right down to Christmas Day! Now if you are the curly girl and you want to let your givers know what you want, send them this link lol! Don’t forget to like us on Facebook and follow us on Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest! Leave us a comment if you have even more last minute ideas!!!

 

Merry Christmas y’all!

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Fall Forward: Fall Wardrobe Trends & Hair Regimen Tips To Help You Fall Forward

Fall Forward

Ahh the Fall Season is upon us. Fall is my favorite time of year. All things Fall seem warm and comfy. As the leaves start to turn, and the temperature starts to cool down layers are the key to making the best of this transition. Layering your clothes as well as layering product into your hair.

We are loving wool blend Wraps, and sweater Shawls, and Ponchos. This is and easy addition to update your look without breaking the bank.

Wide leg jeans are back! If you are like me and have thighs “thicker than honey” this is a win for you.  imageWith the wider leg, it allows for a better fit on the thigh.

As a Plus Size Fashionista I am very excited that the chunky heel is in! There’s nothing worst the trying to balance an elephant on a tea cup! Lol this is what some heels feel like to me.😂 Cross Body Bags, Long Necklaces, and Tassels will take you full on Boho Fall Fall forwardStyle!

 

 

As for your hair, hopefully you are sealing your hair with the LOC Method, especially  if you have natural hair. This is a layering of products that helps to seal the moisture into your hair. It’s an acronym for (L) Leave in or Liquid (O) Oil or in the fall a Butter works best and (C) is Cream or your styler. As the temps drop be sure to replace your oil with  great hair butter such as Keirenea Honey Dipped Hair and Body Butter ( click here  Keirenea.com ). The butters stand up to the cooler weather better than the oils.

Fall Forward

For this look I just brushed my hair up and smoothed the sides with the Honey Dipped Butter, and tied it up with an old knee high. Yes I used a knee high. The flexibility of being able to tie it at the size I want along with the stretch of the fabric works best for me.

My wide leg jeans came from my closet, but I have found a similar items ( click here for similar) . My accessories are all Plato’s Closet scores for $45 I got these Michael Kors Platform Heels (click here  for similar). The Cross Body Bag ( click here for similar), and the Tassle Necklace ( similar), The wrap is from Ashley Stewart ( click here for similar) . Just for you we have curated a Fall Forward Store where you can get all your items in one place.

( click here for the Fall Forward Store)

Remember to embrace the natural beauty of my most favorite season! If these tips and trends or for you please follow us on social media, we are on Instagram – mrsphatandnaptural, Facebook – mrsphatandnaptural.com and Twitter – mrsphatandnap, and if you like what we do please comment. Be easy and Fall with style.