Category: Napturals

The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly: The Good Hair Post

Can we talk about good hair and bad hair ? What is good hair anyway? What is bad hair? I know some of you all will read that and answer “no hair is bad”! So, if there is no such thing as bad or ugly hair, why do we say “so and so” has pretty hair? What are we comparing this pretty hair too?

Most people of color refer to thinner hair with loose curls and/or waves to be considered pretty or good hair. Majority of the time, this statement is considered a compliment. But is it really?

All hair texture is different, but when we say that a certain curly has beautiful hair, what are we saying about that the next curly girl with a tighter curl pattern and/or coarser hair? Can she not have pretty hair? Are we underhandedly insulting our sista?

I’ve heard it all, and most women have a love hate relationship with their hair. Its either too kinky, too thin, too thick, too curly, too straight, too flat, too big, etc.
Yet, we always work it out and end up with a hand full of compliments.

Our community tends to segregate hair textures with certain curls being the “best” and other curls feeling isolated. When are we going to realize we are all in this together. The natural hair community is just as segregated as all the rest. We want to accept one form of natural hair, as if you can’t accept it all.

This journey back to loving our natural hair is not an easy one for a lot of us. It starts with self acceptance. It may seem easy on social media or for your favorite blogger, but the hardest battle is fighting yourself. You almost have to go back retrain your thoughts on everything you have learned when it came to hair care. Most of us were never taught to care for our hair. Even worse we don’t know how to love our hair. If your experience was anything like mine, your hair was always someone’s “problem issue”. What are we going to do with her hair? Who’s going to do her hair? Or if you wash it,I’ll do it? ….it was always a struggle so of course I adopted by that same struggle narrative.

I’ve said before, it wasn’t until I was faced with the prospect of loosing my hair, due to a chronic illness, that I began to fall in love with my hair like never before! I learned to listen to her in all her beautiful mane- nificent glory!

I’ll admit it before the world, I love my hair! I love hair period. I’m a hair person! Always have been! I literally see a persons hair before I see them. *don’t judge me* it could be worst. *smiles*

So, when you see that sista girl rocking her fro as you stare with a tinge of hair envy, pay her a compliment because you recognize her struggle. Recognize her efforts!

This natural hair movement is so huge, that it makes everyone uncomfortable, including yourself. You still struggle with taming your hair, for fear that you will stand out in corporate America, or even get kicked out of school for looking “unkept”. You have to learn to roll and twist your hair just good enough so that you can still please the eyes of others. As a natural you are not allowed to have a bad hair day, as if you ever had 100% perfect hair days before returning back to your natural state.

What’s funnier, the people who surround you tend to be more nervous about your natural hair journey than you are. This hair movement is scary, yet exciting, but still surprising, because everyday you never know what you will end up with (lol). Sometimes we set expectations too high and some days it’s overly frustrating. We all need the support of our hair community.

No one thinks of the struggle when you transition or chop your hair off. You amaze yourself when you realize you have no idea, how to take care of your own hair the way it is without any chemicals or heat. I know it isn’t easy for any woman to maintain the perfect hair, so we praise a good protective style, but in the end you still need to know how to maintain healthy hair. Our minds have been so conditioned with pretty hair vs ugly hair, that we fail to see the beauty in all our natural hair. Your natural curls may not match my natural curls, and my curls may not match the straight hair of the model on the latest magazine, but having hair, that we are able to grow without too much struggle is beautiful itself.

I’m sure we all have heard “natural hair isn’t for everyone”, but when you think about it, how is your hair that God gave you not for you, because it isn’t what the world may consider beautiful?

So, again next time you see someone with that “pretty hair”, that hair that she struggled to comb, failed to moisturize the night before, woke up frustrated and hoping she could tame it enough to be accepted, just know she might not see pretty hair, I know it’s beautiful and she should too.

. Let’s do away with this ugly hair stereotype. Let go of these turns like good and bad hair! What ever your hair texture what ever your hair type, what ever your hair style, love it, rock it, and make it your own! And as the old kitchen beauticians you to say after they got finished lacing you with the piff ” more hair” !

What do you consider good hair? Does length, texture, or density come into the equation? Let us know what you consider “Good Hair” ?

Product Review : The Mane Choice Heavenly Halo aka Hair Bae

“Say Halo Hydration” is their slogan and boy do I have to agree! I must admit I have been being very lazy with my hair lately. I have been wearing a wig for about 3 weeks, so my hair was thirsty! I went to the Circle of Sisters a few weeks back, I made sure to make my was over to The Mane Choice booth, they had some great sales going. I don’t remember the exact percentage off but I was able to get 4 products for $38. That’s about $25 off retail price. Well worth the money.

First off, it has an amazing smell. It’s kind of a floral fruity mix if that makes sense. I asked my husband what does he my hair smell like and he said candy :D. I’ll just say it smells very sweet and yummy. I’ll be reviewing the shampoo, the rinse conditioner, and the softening milk. The line has a pre-poo, a mask, and an oil serum, but I didn’t purchase them.

 

Say Halo Hydration

Shampoo-  I started off as usual applying the shampoo to my sectioned and detangled hair. The shampoo is very hydrating, it cleansed all the build up off the hair with out stripping it. I love sudsy bubbles and this lathers great. The test for me was when I was able to run my fingers through my hair with just the shampoo in it. It has so much slip that you can actually comb the shampoo through your hair! Need I say it rinses clean and you can feel the softness immediately!  For more on wash day basics click here. The rinse out conditioner is the perfect mate.

 

Rinse Out Conditioner -By the time I got finished playing in the shampoo, my hair was no longer in the sections I used to wash my hair. Somehow I knew this wouldn’t be a problem. I just split it down the middle and applied the rinse out conditioner to the two sections. The conditioner is very thick and of course it has great slip! I just ran it through my hair and let it sit for about 2-3 minutes per side and rinsed it out. Then I wrapped my hair in  my t shirt rag as usual. If your are still using a towel to dry your hair stop right now and click this link!

 

Softening Milk- After allowing my hair to dry a little in the t shirt, I proceeded with my normal routine using the L.O.C. As I said I didn’t buy the serum, so I just used a mix of some of my favorite oils. The softening milk is a essentially the Leave In. As a self professed Leave In Lover I’m always on the look out for products that make my daily styling easier. This is the only product that I didn’t have a rave over. It was just okay. I wore my hair in a flat twist style. It was soft and hydrated but it was a little too soft. I’m used to taking my flat twists out and having some definition, but I did not have any. It was more like a fluffy fro.

The label reads Herbal Hair Tonic & Soy Milk. My hair responds well to hair milks so I was sure this would work just fine. I’ve only ever used The Mane choice once and that was their straight hair serum. Some of the signature ingredients are Umutanga Oil, (made from a root native to Rwanda) which is know for it’s anti-aging properties. Palmarosa Oil (made from an Indian grass), its benefits are similar to more commonly know Tea Tree Oil, or Lemongrass such as antibacterial, antiviral, but it has a lighter rosy scent.  The Yashtimandhu Root (an Indian Licorice) it has anti inflammatory, and anti allergy uses. Yucca Root which is high in vitamins a, b, and c it’s also frequently used in natural shampoos to help make suds. Burdock Root Oil, ( A Eurasian herb from the Sunflower family) it’s now to promote hair growth and has antioxidant properties.

Now that we’ve gotten all that straight, I must say one of the best things is that it’s available at your local Target! I love when good products are also so accessible. So even though I didn’t get the serum and the pre poo, I will being heading over there and adding them to my stash! Have you tried anything from The Mane Choice? Which one is your favorite? We’d love to hear what your favorites are right now? Who’s your hair bae? For more wash day tips click here.

 

 

Know The Edge- How I Got Over Thining Edges

Girl, I lost my edges! Well not all, but my hair was really thinning out, like most women of color, I pride myself on laid edges and a good ponytail. But if those edges thin out, that ponytail ain’t so laid. I’d come to face these two identical thinning spots on both sides of my head, as a sign of the times. By times, I mean getting older. So, I tried to work around this now problematic area, I wore less ponytails, and when wearing a ponytail, I ensured it was not pulled too tightly or too low. But this wasn’t enough! I was losing strands and it was too noticeable to me!

I do not wear many protective styles, (not that I am against them), so besides a ponytail, my hair is never pulled tightly. I am a very proud LAZY natural, meaning, I typically do the least amount of work to take care of natural hair. My main goal is always healthy hair. I do not venture out and try a lot of different products, I know what works and usually stick with that, and if I try something new it’s usually in the same family. I stick to Leave in’s, oils, and cream. The LOC method guarantees healthy, hydrated hair.

But, recently some hair has begun sprouting in those thin spots! *Praise break*! So, I looked back over the past three years and I noticed a trend, I was STRESSED and it showed in my hair. In my last post, I discussed my bout of mild depression, and how I began to feel better with exercise. But, I had no clue the toll my hair would pay. Never the less, I am glad that the fight isn’t over and I AM NOT LOSING MY HAIR! This transition into new hair on my edges inspired me to help you with struggle edges, if you ever find yourself in my shoes, whether it is from stress, tight protective styles, weight loss surgery, etc. I am here for you:

 

  1. Oil and Stimulation

I live by Olive Oil . It’s good for your hair and to eat! So, it’s a two for one special in my house, I purchase the biggest bottles usually from Costco. I always rub olive oil throughout my hair, but during these crucial times, I rub a good amount on my edges and give my scalp a gentle massage. Stimulation promotes growth by getting the blood circulation going! So, this should be a weekly practice all over your head.

  1. Limit stress

Tune out the noise. Life can be a whirlwind of emotions and sometimes that roller coaster takes us on a drop we never expected. But, we have the power to limit stressers. Avoid bringing your work life into your home space, meditate and pray, pick up yoga , write it out. Whatever works, but we must release that negative energy!

  1. Drink Water

I can not stress it enough how important it is to drink water. It’s great for your hair, skin, and health. God put it here for a reason, so I trust His judgement!

  1. Protect your hair

    71-80 Ten protective style tips

When wearing a protective style, your main concern should always be your hair health. Before styling, properly wash, condition, and LOC it up. If braiding, be sure to tell your stylist to make sure not to pull on your edges, nape or scalp too tightly. Also avoid tight or low ponytails

Of course, you should always take precaution when it comes to hair health, but remember what goes on in the inside will always affect the outside! Don’t let stress claim your edges or time! Keep it cute!

 

-The Fit Fatty

101 Natural Hair Tips: 81-90 Tips For Summertime Hair Care

I remember  facing my first summer with natural hair. The thought of sweaty, nappy, unruly hair was the vision I had! I was so used to having relaxed hair, I had no idea what I was going to do. Little did I know that summer was my hair’s best growth season. All I had to do was follow a few easy tips, and this lazy natural was on her way to an easy growth spurt!

Now over the years I’ve added a few more, but here are my Summertime hair care tips to maximize your growth season!

81-90 Tips For Summertime Hair Care

1. Clean Time In Between Time: Keeping your hair clean, and moisturized. This is my number one hair tip. Even if you don’t wash it every week, do a quick Cowash in between your wash sessions.

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2. Get Down To The Root Of It: Your hair grows directly from your scalp, so it is important to keep your scalp clean and healthy and free from debris. A healthy scalp is probably one of the most underrated necessities for healthy and or long hair.

3. Let Go Of What’s Not Serving You: Get a fresh trim. Even if you only trim once a year, make it a summer trim. While your hair is growing you don’t want it to be stunted by those dead ends. They are useless!

4. Wet Your Whistle: Drink plenty of water! Very often the summer is dry and hot, so you want to make sure you drink plenty of water. By staying hydrated you are also giving your hair hydration.

Wet Your Whistle

5. Aloe There Honey: Use humectants to increase the moisture in your hair. I love natural humectants such as aloe Vera juice, and honey. You can add the aloe vera juice to your spray bottle and spritz your hair at night before bed. Or add some honey to your conditioner.  This will add softness and shine like you wouldn’t believe.

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6. Soak & Seal: By soaking your hair with clear water and sealing with your favorite oil before swimming,  you limit the amount of chlorine or salt water that your hair will absorb. Even though this is a no brainer, I’m just gonna say it anyway wash and condition after swimming alright.

 

Swimming Tips

7. Keep It Moving: Get out and get some sun. Go for a walk, or go to a fair or carnival and walk around. The circulation will increase blood flow and encourage healthy hair growth.

8. Style With Ease: Employ protect styles, and easy pony tails and buns. The less pulling the better. If you’re ever going to try a wash n go, this is the time! Layer that product on and let it ride!

👉 click Here for 5 Easy Goto styles👈

Take It Easy

9. Don’t Be A Hot Head: It’s impossible to keep your hair healthy if you are burning it out. This means the sun too. If you are going to be out in the hot sun for prolonged periods, make sure you cover your head or use a protective product. Just as you have to protect your skin, your hair needs protection as well.

10. Embrace The Ohm! : This is so underrated! Let the easy breezy summer feel sink in! Enjoy the warm weather. Go to the movies, the music festival, hit as many street fairs as you can fit in. Believe you me, you tresses feel the stresses!

Don’t Worry Be Happy

These are our basic Summer time tips to make sure you have happy, healthy, fluffy summer hair! Now go forth and play and slay all day!

101 Natural Hair Tips: 71-80 Tips For Healthy Protective Styling

    71-80 Ten protective style tips

Hey Ladies, I started the 101 Natural Hair Tips series at the beginning of the year. I quickly churned out, Natural Hair Care Basics, Natural Hair Basics and then Wash Day Basics .  It was Winter, which is the harshest season on your tresses, so I gave you  Winter Hair Care Tips .

The Series was going well and the next three installments were reader requests to address specific issues. First we had Transitioning Tips, then How To Avoid Becoming A Product Junkie, and finally Tips For Color Treated Hair . After that I took a little break an did a few fashion posts. Fast Forward to the present, I’m back to finish up the series.

Spring is now upon us, and this is the perfect time to wear protective styles. In most cases your hair grows the best, and you retain more length in the warmer weather. That being said, here are a few tips to maximize your hair growth while wearing protective styles. When I wrote this post, I was thinking of Braids and Weaves, but there are quite a few ways to do protective styles. These tips apply to them all.

1. Make Sure Your Scalp Is Clean & Healthy before Install. – This should kind of be a no brainer. None the less, if you have bumps, redness, soars, are anything like this, wait until your scalp is healed. Likewise always start with clean dry hair (trimmed if needed) to get the best results.

2. Deep Condition & Moisturize Your Natural Hair. – If You are going to keep this style in for a few weeks, you want to make sure you are taking care of your natural hair so it doesn’t break off during this time.

3. Avoid Excessive Pulling And Or Tugging. This is so important! Your hair is not permanently attached to your head. Too much pulling and tugging will cause your hair to rip out right at the root. It could even cause you to lose sections of hair. If it hurts bad, take it out!

Hair tip: avoid excessive pulling

4. Massage Your Scalp Daily- This is to keep circulation going, and promote a healthy scalp. I use my favorite oil, but it works even if you just use your finger tips. This is part of my nighttime routine any way. But I just do it a little longer when I have a protective style.

5. Keep Your Hair & Scalp Moisturized and Free From Build Up. – It’s important to maintain a clean scalp at all times but especially when wearing protective styles. This will help you prolong your style, and avoid itching. There are several ways to keep your scalp build up free, even if you suffer from flaky scalp. The easiest way is to take a wash cloth with warm water,and a little shampoo if you prefer and simply wipe between the twists or braids freeing and removing  debris from your scalp. You could also do this same technique with baby wipes. Or for a deeper clean you can mix some Apple Cider Vinegar with some water, put it in a nozzle bottle and apply it in the parts of your hair. This does require rinsing. I usually put the hair in 2-4 buns so it doesn’t get all wet, and when I rinse I try to only let the water rinse my scalp.  Also there are lots of brands that make products for what they call “under care” it means your hair under your protective style.

Undercare products by Cantu

6. Cover Your Head When Sleeping- Simple and plain. This helps to preserve your style, as well as protect your natural hair while you sleep. After all, that is the point of protective styling right!

Hair Tip Wrap your hair up when you sleep

7. Put Your Hair In A Bun Whenever Possible- this helps to reduce the tress on your natural hair. The more you keep it up, the less weight you have pulling on your tresses. And of course the obvious, it looks so cute!

Bun Life

8. Clean Your Hair & Scalp Regularly- I mean actually wash your hair. I’ve detailed and ACV rinse for your scalp above, that can also be used on your hair about once a month. I usually was mine about every 2 weeks. I take the shampoo ( right now I’m loving Eden Body Works Peppermint Shampoo) and massage it directly on my scalp. Then I put my hair in 2 buns and rinse it out when I get in the shower. You can let it air dry or you can sit under a hooded dryer.

9. After 6-7 Weeks A Protective Style Can Cause Damage. Now I know some people women who leave their weaves and braids in for up to 12 weeks or maybe even longer. However this is a very dangerous practice. After 6-8 weeks the hair begins to week and damage and breakage begins to occur for most people.

10. Carefully Remove & Detangle When Uninstalling- After one week two weeks are even 12 weeks, your hair has been shedding, (about 100 hairs a day) but the hairs have stayed in place because you haven’t manipulated it. Now the dead or shed hair can and will break loose when you remove the protective style. The hair shaft itself is in a weakened state so you want to be careful not to break off any more hair than has to. I normally remove my hair in sections, detangle and apply a prepoo all in one step. This helps me get ready to wash and deep condition shortly after I takedown my protective style.

Any questions? Lol, just remember wearing a protective style is all about maximizing your hair growth periods. In the past women wore them specifically for that reason. Now sometimes it’s about style, sometimes it’s about ease of lifestyle, or just plain laziness. What every your reason, these tips will help you make the most of it.

 

5 Stylish Summer 17 Hairstyles For Natural Hair : Easy Crochet Styles

Well it’s officially the Summer 17 season. As we begin to slow down and get into the easy breezy summer feel, nothing says summer style like a great protective hair style.

I love protective styles, but I hate how long they take to install. Until now, the crochet technique is back on the scene, and I’m oh so happy!

The crochet technique is an old trend that’s become new again. I used to wear crochet braids back in the late 90’s ( Yeah I know some of ya’ll  were just babes).  But today’s styles and techniques are so much more advanced. The whole idea of the crochet braids is it allows you to achieve a great looking protective style in a fraction of the time.  There are so many styles and techniques out there today, but it’s just like us lazy naturals to find a short cut, to the short cut, lol.  We’ve gathered 5 of the most popular styles and found them in a crochet technique which not only slices the installation time, it also makes it easy for any and everybody to be able to do it.

1. Now this one is for the beginner ! It only requires that you can plat your hair.

Easy 6 plat crochet 

2. This one is similar to number one but it takes a little more skill.

No Cornrow Crochet 

 

3. How about box braids? I know, what a time saver!

Box Braid Crochet

4. This one is not so easy, but it’s easier and takes less skill than other techniques that I’ve seen. This is my favorite look of all five.

Goddess LOCs

 

 

5. This is a style that I was shocked to see in a crochet technique, but after I watched the videos I couldn’t wait to try it.

Feed Braids

 

I will be doing some version of number 5 very soon. I love the feed braids because the are easy in and easy out! I’ll more than likely get 3 or 4 at some point during Summer ’17. What is your favorite protective styles? Hit us up on Facebook Facebook.com/mrsphatandnaptural and let us know what you’d like to see next.

101 Natural Hair Tips: 10 Tips For Healthy Color Treated Hair 61-70

To begin with, there is always this debate of is color treated hair still natural? In my book it is, although the color may affect the texture. But still to me, adding color is just part of the variety in the natural hair community.

Now there are many ways to color your natural hair. For the sake of this post, let’s assume you saw your favorite influencer and she posted what color she uses on her hair and you ran to the store and snatched it up! Hey it happens just like that most times. Anyway you colored your hair,  now what?

BTW- One of my favorite Colored Curlys 👇

Don't Stress! Love your Curls! 🎀 #mrshairtoday #protectivestyles

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1. Start With Healthy Trimmed Hair: You want to start with your hair in its best condition possible to limit damage and increase your chances of getting your color the correct shade.

2. Limit Direct Heat: The direct heat from hand dryers and straightening tools increase dryness. Instead opt for over head dryers and no heat styling methods.

3. Use Products For Color Treated Hair: Preferably you want to use products made by the same brand as the hair color you are using. Now that your hair is color treated, you have specific needs to care for your hair in this state and its best to use products made for the state of your hair.

4. Look For Products With Water Soluble silicone : I know, I know, everyone says don’t use silicones! However the color will strip your hair of its natural moisture, so you need the good silicones to help coat and protect the hair. Some good choices are Amo- silicones which help with moisture, and are water soluble so they don’t cause build up on the hair shaft. Look for them in your conditioner and leave-ins.

101 Natural Hair Tips -10 tips for healty color treated natural hair

5. Use A Daily Leave-In Conditioner: So I am a self admitted leave-in lover! If you don’t use a leave-in for daily maintenance  you should! Using a daily leave-in will help maintain moisture, and decrease brittleness that can occur with color treated hair.

6. Use Sulfate Free Shampoos and Conditioners: Now this is a must. The sulfates will dry your hair out. And we know, dry hair breaks! We do not want breakage !

7. Deep Condition Often: Now this is just a healthy hair practice period. But it’s extra important to deep condition when you have color treated hair. You want to add extra moisture and layers of nutrients every chance you get.

Here’s another one of my favorite Colored Curlys👇

#tbt #hothotpink

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8. Do Hot Oil Treatments: The end game here is to protect the hair and avoid dryness. The hot oil treatment, or even the oil in your LOC Method, or just by running oil through your hair as you style will help to seal in the moisture and protect your hair. Not to mention it will add a little shine to your tresses.

9. Limit Manipulation Of Dry Hair: if your hair is not properly cared for it can become extremely dry. You never want to manipulate the hair in this state. It will break off right in the comb, brush or even your hand. To avoid breakage you always want to add some oil or water or both before trying to style, comb, or perform any manipulations on your hair.

10. If You Start To Experience Server Dryness, Breakage, or Brittleness Consult A Professional: This probably doesn’t need to be said, but just in case. If you can not maintain your color treated hair and you begin to see breakage or dryness and brittleness which will lead to breakage, please make a hair appointment with a licensed cosmetologist! Now I’m not going to say that all cosmetologist are great, but chances are you’ll fare better with an experienced professional than you will on your own.

Another Favorite Colored Curly 👇

 

There you have it! Our top 10 tips for healthy color treated hair. Now as the weather gets warm don’t be afraid to add a little flavor.

Will you be the next colored curly?  If so hit us up and let us see your work!

101 Natural Hair Tip: How To Avoid Being A Product Junkie 51-60

I can’t front, I’ve definitely had to put these tips into practice. This is one of those posts that was built from experience. Now this post is a direct follow-up to the 101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning Back To Natural. In case you missed it (click here) .

Trying to find the right product is no easy task. You get so frustrated thinking you’ve tried everything and nothing is working, when really you just need to find the right thing for you and stick to it for a while. So that was the bonus tip now let’s get into the rest.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

1. Read labels: The reason I start with this is because you can all together avoid certain products. Such as if I see something with coconut oil in it, most times I avoid it. I know that coconut oil doesn’t work for my hair so I just avoid products with it in the first couple items on the ingredient label.
2. Get to know your hair: I always say listen to your hair. If you use a product and it agrees with your hair, stick to it. Read that label and use products like it.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

3. Don’t believe the hype: Every few months there is a new buzz word or super ingredient. Many times this item has been on the ingredient list the whole time, but now that it’s the IN thing they put it on the label. Also I’ve learned that they nearly have to put in a few drops of the said miracle ingredient to have its claim on the label.
4.  Read Reviews – Now this is different from number 3, these are actual reviews from people who have legitimately used the product. I know everything isn’t for every body, but if you see a lot of favorable reviews, you may want to give it a try. But on the other hand, if no one has good things to say, maybe you should let that one slide by you.
5. Ask questions – There are so many Curltalk, CurlfriendChats, and Twitter Chats, use them to your advantage. That’s what they are there for. Just about every brand subscription box and a lot of bloggers have some kind of Q&A session in rotation. Or if you belong to a Facebook Group for natural hair, throw your question into the forum.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

6. Try to get  samples: That way you can test it out and see if you like it before buying it. Now when I first found out about the natural hair community, the “natural hair meetup” was the thing to do. There you could meet local Naturalista, brand owners, and emerging socialprenures. Additionally these meetups would be sponsored by brands and they would give out swag bags full of samples and free full size bottles. The meetups aren’t as popular any more but they are still around.

7. If you have it use it: This one is a no brainer, avoid the hoard! Plain and simple, why keep piling up products when you haven’t used what you have.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

8. If it doesn’t work pass it on: Again this one is a no brainer for me. I frequently pass product along to my family members that doesn’t work for me. We all have different hair textures and different products work on their hair that may not work on mine and vice versa.  So I don’t hold on to the products that I know don’t work for me. Thereby making room for other things that will work.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

9. Limit the available space: Unless you’ve been there you can’t imagine how quickly the hair products can and will take up every inch of space possible. I don’t know it’s almost like they reproduce while your sleeping or something **insert mischievous laugh*** . No but really, I have a three draw bin and I’ve committed to only keeping as much as can fit in those three draws.
10. Purge every 3-6 months: This keeps your product fresh, and limits the habit of holding on to that last little bit (I’m talking to myself here). As I said above this makes room for product that you want to try. Besides if the product is organic it may have an expiration date, and you don’t want to use old product or hold onto something that’s useless.

101 Natural Hair Tips: How to avoid being a Product JunkieTips

 

It’s almost inevitable that most naturals have a little product junkie in us. Besides the fact that it’s expensive, it could also lead to self-defeating hair journey. Not to mention as with any guilty pleasure it takes some of the joy from the experience. Don’t let the junkie monkey get you down!

101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning To Natural 41-50

So, unless you have never used chemicals on your hair, there are only two ways to return to natural. Or as we say “Go Natural”. Which way you choose is a personal preference. Either you Transition, which means you allow your hair to begin to grow in and not chemically treat it (relax) anymore. Or you BC or Big Chop, this means just what it sounds like. You chop off your hair down to the un-relaxed portion.  In my opinion one takes a lot more courage and is more drastic than the other, but one takes more skill than the other. I must say, as extreme as my personality is in some cases, I personally chose the less drastic approach of transitioning.  I just didn’t want to be bald! Although I sometimes use to cut my relaxed hair very short, TBH I just wasn’t ready for short and natural at the same time! **sidebar** Oh but I am loving these tapered cuts that I see on the Gram these days these days!

101 Natural Hair Tips: Transitioning To Natural

Anyway, I am going to break this post down into “Do’s and Don’t’s”. As I said, I personally transitioned and did a series of mini chops until I was fully natural. I can tell you this was not as easy as it sounds. There were some hard lessons learn and some habits and behaviors that I had to undo after many years of practice. So let’s get into it:

  1. Do comb the hair from tip to root. Having relaxed hair for so long, I was just use to combing from root to tip. When transitioning and also when fully natural this is a definite no no. Combing from tip to root allows for gentler detangling and  much less pulling. Use a wide tooth comb,and do not comb your hair when it’s dry.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  2. Do coddle the line of demarcation. This is the absolute weakest point of your hair! It is the point where the relaxed hair meets the natural hair. Rough combing, pulling, dryness, or just about anything stress, will cause your hair to snap off right at this point.
  3. Do Learn to treat all of your hair as if it’s all natural. Even when you have more relaxed than natural. In general this is just a good idea to get use to taking care of your natural hair.
  4. Do not use heat to make both textures appear to be the same. This kind of defeats the purpose of having natural hair. I’m just saying, if your are going to burn it out before it even grows, why go natural at all. The idea is to have the most beautiful healthy head of natural hair as possible.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  5. Do use products for natural hair only. Practice reading the labels at this stage, so you know what your hair likes and what it doesn’t. The reason I say this is because in most cases, the products for natural hair are less harsh. They will work just fine on the relaxed hair. They will nurture your natural hair as well as treat the relaxed hair.
  6.  Do not compare your hair to the “experts”. This was a hard lesson learned. I was watching so many YouTubers and expecting to get those results. But honestly, my hair wasn’t like theirs, I didn’t have the edits, lighting and do overs like them either. Although a valuable resource, they are not to be compared to. It’s like going doing Karaoke, just because you know the words, you are not going to sound like Beyonce’!
  7. Do not hold on to damaged or thinning hair. Just cut it. You will thank me later. Holding on the those thin ends it very counter productive. you want to have healthy hair right? So, you have to depart from the idea that longer is better. Even if you don’t have damage, you should still trim it often. Healthy and fuller is better!
  8. Do not depart from your good hair practices. Make sure your wrap your hair at night, and wash it regularly. If you normally go to the hair salon to get your hair done, make sure you find a hair dresser to do the same for your natural hair. For more good hair practices check out tips 1-10.101 Natural Hair Tips : Transitioning To Natural
  9. Do not obsess over your curl pattern. We are all different, and we all have different unique traits and features that make us truly beautiful. In most cases people with thick hair wish it was thinner and people with thinner hair wish it was thicker. When I went natural it was at the height of the hair typing debate. So many people were obsessed with what hair type you had. This was hard for me because I have about 3 different textures in my head. We just have to be happy with what we have and learn to love ourselves the way God made us.
  10. Do not try to find ways to rush the process. Have patience! If you don’t have the skill, or your attention has not caught up to your intention, just find you a protective style and ease into it.Trying to rush the process will only lead to a feeling of defeat or a change of direction and you’ll just get out of the journey and relax again. Believe you me, I know plenty of women who do this over and over. They get 3, 6, or 8 months into the transition and decide, they can’t take it any more and give up on the process only to come back to it months later wishing they had just stuck it out.

Number 10 is one of the most important tips I can give. As with any transition it takes time. Learn to enjoy the process! Have that cake and eat it too!

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101 Natural Hair Tips: Winter Hair Care Tips 31-40

Depending on where you live, the winter season can be a series of bone chilling cold days, mixed with blustering wintery storms, and freezing rain and snow! The harsh cold temps and freezing precipitation alone is enough to cause damage to your hair. The constant temperature changes from going in and out of the cold robs your hair of precious moisture. Add to that, the cold air is dryer and wearing hats to keep warm dries our hair out even more. It’s a wonder we aren’t completely bald by the time it warms up!

That being said keeping your hair healthy in the winter is no easy feat, but it is completely doable. Here are my top 10 Winter Hair Care tips to keep your hair healthy this winter:

31. Avoid Humectants. The nature of the humectants is to draw moisture from the air into the hair. That being said, the cold will freeze the water onto your hair causing it to break. This is the opposite of my normal routine. I love to add honey to my conditioners and I even have a “Honey Be Natural” hair care treatment.

32. Limit Wash and Go’s. Obviously if you live in a more tropical area you don’t have to worry as much, but just as the above, the water can freeze on your hair causing dryness and breakage.

33. Employ protective styling. Low manipulation styles limit the pulling, reducing the amount of hair loss, and decreasing the chances for breakage. For this reason many naturals use protective styling year round. Caution make sure your hair is clean and well moisturized, and don’t leave the style in too long.

 

34.  Keep your hair and scalp clean and free of build up. Now in my research I’ve seen all kinds of advice, limit washes, increase washes, use shampoo, don’t use shampoo, everyone has a different opinion! The bottom line is your hair and scalp need to be clean and free of debris and toxins the can cause dryness and breakage.

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35. Use the LOC or LCO method daily. This will go along way to saving that coveted moisture and decreasing the chance for hair loss.

36. Replace your oils with heavier butters. Now adding butters that seal is the key. And if you add butter you definitely need to use shampoo. Co washing most likely will not cleanse your hair well enough.

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37. Try a Black Tea or Coffee rinse to reduce shedding. I use the method about once a month, it also helps to add shine to the hair.

38. Wear a satin lined hat, or what I do is put a silk or satin scarf under my hat. This limits the friction and pulling from the knit or wool, and protects the hair from loosing moisture to the material of the hat.

39. Deep condition. I might add this to every post. Deep conditioning is an important aspect of every healthy hair regimen.

101 natural hair tips : winter hair care

40. Eat a balanced diet and get exercise.  This is not easy in the winter. Hell it’s never easy but less so in the colder months. Cold weather and comfort food go hand in hand, and it’s just easier to go out and exercise when it’s warm. Make sure to get your water in. In the warmer months we tend to drink more water to cool off. So make sure you get your water in, and eat green veggies to feed are hair the nutrients it needs. Exercise increases your circulation and helps remove toxins in the body which feeds the hair.

if you’ve missed the first 3 post here are the links👇

We have Natural Hair Basics ( here) Natural Hair Care Basics ( here ) and Wash Day tips ( here).

Stay tuned we will be expanding more on some of these topics for future posts. What are some things you add are take away from your normal regimen in the colder months?

For more winter hair care tips check out “Don’t Fall Off”